| General Question for the Guys..
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:40:46 PM | | Just wondering when you contact a woman what is it you want to hear?? My thing is I seem to attract the fakes n liars... but being serious in the first few emails I'm wondering if I'm going to turn off who I don't want to... know what I mean... I enjoy being funny and flirtatious but I also want to know the "real" person behind the computer screen... | |
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| General Question for the Guys..
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:47:59 PM | | You're going to get fakes and liars no matter what approach you use. If being funny and flirtatious is natural for you, then it's best if you do that. If the man is right for you, it'll be natural for him, too. You don't want to change yourself to win someone over. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 11:52:53 PM | I like what he said...
It's always good to try and give the other a chance/reason to answer something from your message. Open remarks and/or questions; something that will keep the conversation going. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 11:55:39 PM | | If I contact a girl first, I would very much enjoy a response that not only continues/provokes a good conversation, but also shows that she enjoyed what I had to say. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 11:55:56 PM | | I'm wondering if I'm giving guys the wrong impression I mean I know how to have fun but being serious doesn't quite do it for you guys, but being flirtatious right away gives way to liars n fakes to think they can play a game... I'm real and not into games.. so just wondering what your thoughts are as a guy..... I keep reading threads where guys say it's our fault for attracting this type of person but no answers as to "how not to" attract this type of person.... I want a man who is for real one who knows the meaning of RESPECT, HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION.... I had enough games I know what I want and what I can do.. ahhh.. No, but for real.. Do guys want to know the real us or is this all just a game? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 11:56:53 PM | | Do what you do - I don't get turned off by funny and flirtatious, and I'm not a faker/liar. If you're turning off the guys you think might be right for you....well, they're not right for you.... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:00:14 AM | EVERY girl claims hey know how to have fun. EVERY girl claims to "be real." They're nothing but empty words usually spat out but equally empty people, and most guys on here have long since caught on to it.
Pro tip: Instead of sitting there claiming to "be real," why don't you actually "be real"? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:02:06 AM | | I don't want to end up with that attitude... I know I'm real... just trying to weed out the B.S.. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:11:19 AM | | I'm not saying all guys do this and hopefully you all realize that not all women do this either.. Some of us are for "real" and I know that... I guess I was a little unsure... thinkin maybe it's me, but maybe it's them ahh well it was a question and I asked... Don't mind the feedback if you don't mind the reply... LAH/LOL... I'm gonna keep answering the way I do and well if their really interested they will keep talking to me I suppose... Thanks for the feedback!! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:11:56 AM | I have gotten emails were the lady wants to use it like a chat room, you know one line questions. Kind of a turn off. The last one I played along, I was asked all these questions that aI felt a little early for the first return email. I gave a little information about me, and tossed the ball back, next email, wants more aboat me, nothing about her. My next message was this needs to be a give and take with a LOL. Haven't heard back.
I think in a email you should at least be able to communicate with more than bullet list questions. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:13:03 AM | | OK JustMySay, look at my profile, send 'me' one of your 'intro' Emails and I'll let yah know what I think...be somewhat flirtatious ...well, you get the idea ;-) | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:14:34 AM | | LAH/LOL I totally get that... No, I don't respond like that... Too Funny, that would make me wonder... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:14:55 AM | I don't know if you will be so lucky to always catch on if people are real or not. You can pretend to be everything online, behind the screen, in the hidden safety of your home.
Sooner or later the "unreal" people fail with their game, when it comes down to phonecalls, webcam or even the first date. As long as it's only written words... I can be your Hemingway.
Just be yourself and trust your luck, be who you are, how you are ...
But honestly, why do I come here. At least because I wanna find friends and not to BS everybody. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:17:24 AM | " come over and keep me warm until morning "
that's what men want to hear. doesn't mean they will respond to it, but they want to hear it, nonetheless | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:23:42 AM | that reply wasn't for you 776877... LAH/LOL
I guess I passed that test... I got a response..... ayyy.... LAH/LOL... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:33:42 AM | | I would like to hear ( or read lol) a real conversation. One liners are what we did in school when we would fold up paper with little notes on them. If your interested ask a few questions, and write something that will want them to write back about. Throw some excitement into it. | |
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SJS37
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Joined: 7/21/2009
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| General Question for the Guys..
Posted: 8/7/2009 12:37:26 AM | What I would look for in a response is some indication that you are interested in me. Every time I reach out and you don't take my hand, so to speak, I hesitate more and more in extending it. All it takes is something simple like, "I really enjoyed talking to you".
If you respond like, "well I got to go". I think, "Ok she is not into me". If I msg her / call her again. I am just annoying her and wasting both our time.
How bout some old fashion honesty. No games. I am 37. I am single. I have no intrest in silly kids games. There is a girl I am talking to right now, that I would like to have an exclusive relationship with. But until she lets me know she is truly interested, I am still looking. I have heard them say they are interested before, but I end up in the friend zone with a lot of wasted time. I don't have time to be every womans friend on here. The amount of "friends" I have is getting unmanagable. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:42:40 AM | SJS37.... ahhh I think that might be what I'm needing to know.. I find that I don't put myself out there like that... but "many" not all but MANY women figure a guy knows we are kinda "into" them if we respond.... But I also see what your saying about the guys I talk to they don't put themselves "out" there either.... If I keep answering I'm kinda into you, but I want to know more... Well, Thanks!!
Oh, I can answer the want to be friends thing (in my eyes) It takes friendship first to become more... we want our guys to be a friend as in be there for us, protect us, talk to us as a friend would be... we want to know that you are more than just a toy... I mean a lover... LOL... I'm kidding abt the toy.... We want to know you'll be more.. (especially when we want to give you more) | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 2:38:00 AM | | The answer to your question is right in this thread. As I read the responses and your comments to many posts I noticed that those who posted some serious suggestions for you got no response. Those who were witty (perhaps) without any real substance got a response form you. The exception being the last poster but the pattern was pretty obvious. I suggest you read the thread over will all the reponses and then write down the suggestions you have been given. You may want to ask yourself why you found it easy to joke but hard to manage so much as a thank you to many who offered some pretty good ideas. It takes substance to get substance so if you want something different from us then maybe we need to see something different from you. | |
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