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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:16:15 PM | | Need the male opinion, and this is just out of curiousity on my part. Do a guy really enjoy the thrill of the chase and appreciate a woman that much more if he has to work harder to win her over (provided he knows she's interested in him)? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:22:21 PM | | Depends on how hard she makes me work for it. I don't mind pursueing, but there needs to be some reciprocation. If I always have to be the one to call, if she's constantly "busy" and doesn't offer an alternative, if she has a lot of rules about when she does certain things, well I lose interest pretty quick. If I wanted to play games, I'd buy an Xbox | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:24:17 PM | Some more then other
Playing games like that is dangerous though... a couple of my friends were strung along like that and became resentful... they kept chasing, and when the girls finally relented the got their revenge by quickly dumping them out of spite.
Of course the other extreme is her being all over the guy, and for a lot of guys thats a turnoff too.
So, it depends on the guy, but in general you'd probably be best off finding a happy medium and avoiding the games as much as possible | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:24:58 PM | | No I don't care for the chase. It has always seemed to me that gals like the chase enough to make a guy really work at it get a thrill out of it and get bored with the guy to easily if he does manage to catch her. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:25:16 PM | Yes and No.
It depends on how hard you are making him work and whether you are really convincing him that you are interested. Remember, guys don't pick up on subtle clues.
If he is not sure you are interested he will leave.
Communication as always is the solution.
Tell him you really like him but want to take things slow.
I personally find it very exciting to take things one small step further each date.
But it only works if I know that at some point we will be spending the night together. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:41:46 PM | Not if she's playing at it. I respect a woman who IS hard to get, but a woman who is PLAYING hard to get is just annoying. For me.
There certainly are guys out there who DO like the thrill of the chase more than the success of it. I've known some who therefore chase woman after woman, never staying with one (at least not loyally). I've known others who find a woman who play-acts putting them through the chase over and over, and they both have fun with it. There are probably also guys who DON'T mind a woman PLAYING hard to get at first, then pretend to be caught for good.
So the total answer to your question as posted is:
SOME YES, SOME NO!
By the by, best practice grammar would be to ask "DOES a guy..." , though these days, best practice grammar is decidedly in the minority. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:44:27 PM | | Ok, so if you are letting the guy know you are interested in obvious ways, say passionate kissing when going out, sending a text or email here and there with something like "I like this about you", flirting w/him, and he knows that you are a passionate, sexual person who will definitely want to keep taking it to the next level, although slowly, then it's pretty likely that if he's interested, too, he'll stick around to see where this is going? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:46:39 PM | | My grammar is usually pretty good, but I didn't re-read my message before posting it. Just human error, not poor grammar. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:52:11 PM | No chasing period. getting to know someone should come easy. It shouldn't be a job.
First hint of game playing or chasing I move right along. relationships should not be about wining, it should be about caring and enjoying the other persons company and learning more about them. Now take your skooter and skoot. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 12:57:09 PM | No kidding! we suffer bullshit at work, why continue on your own time.
busy appears to be code for, 'not interested'...untill further notice. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:00:57 PM | | Nope...it annoys me when girls want to be chased.... | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:13:45 PM |
Ok, so if you are letting the guy know you are interested in obvious ways, say passionate kissing when going out, sending a text or email here and there with something like "I like this about you", flirting w/him, and he knows that you are a passionate, sexual person who will definitely want to keep taking it to the next level, although slowly, then it's pretty likely that if he's interested, too, he'll stick around to see where this is going?
Only if he's a doormat with no better choices. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:17:44 PM | | The thrill of the chase is often fun (what can I say, it’s part of DNA somewhere)! What keeps it fun and interesting is to know that the work we are doing is actually working well otherwise, why are not going to have fun it the chase. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:53:50 PM | I only like the chase if I'm faster and can catch up. If she's got too much of a head start, or a faster runner, or looks like she might scream if I catch her, well, I might as well just save some knee pain and not even bother....
EDIT - just realized you were speaking metaphorically....my bad. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 2:00:21 PM | | It's fine if there is some mutual interest. But if a woman is just playing to see how far he'll go, with no intentions of accepting his advances, that is playing games. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 8:03:49 PM | Chasing is pure playing games. Sometimes guy play back and burn the women later on.
It should come natural. If not then not worth even putting in the time for the most part. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 8:40:12 PM | | yeh, but it sux as well. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 9:05:00 PM | | Mutual chasing is the only way to go! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 9:06:49 PM |
Do a guy really enjoy the thrill of the chase and appreciate a woman that much more if he has to work harder to win her over (provided he knows she's interested in him)?
A person that likes to use people, sees them as an object or prize (even though self convinced they don't), or means to some sort of personal extension gratification really enjoys the chase.
It makes them look better for the sense of accomplishment. The harder the chase, the more they're worth chasing, thereby showing the chaser as worth more if able to "catch" the other. The easier the chase, the less the "prey" is worth, the easier the chaser is bored and moves on to something more difficult and "worth" their effort as easy is less personally satisfying (and they are focused on themselves in case I haven't made clear the whole "chase = using people" concept).
People that don't use other people, see them as objects, or as extensions of themselves, do not like the chase because it's annoying and ultimately pointless to be in a hurdle race when there really isn't a finish line. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:16:45 PM | | No, absolutely not. I'm not one for roundabout BS. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:21:10 PM | | Nope. No chasing for me. I'm not basing the enjoyment of getting to know someone by how hard it is, but how easy it is. If she's not as interested in me as I am in her, it's not going to happen. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:23:03 PM | It really depends how hard you make him work for it. lol
if you give him mixed signals all the damn time. like making yourself look not interested and at other times you do. it's confusing a lot of women do that and not realize it. if he wants a kiss then kiss him because you like him. don't play tooo hard to get or take too long or he'll simply take it as a rejection and he'll go look somewhere else and move on. | |
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