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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:22:00 PM | | I've been dating someone for two months when he suddenly told me he was moving 2000 miles away. Does he really want to keep "seeing" me or does he just want to keep me in his good graces for when he's back in town? Is it possible to have a long-distance relationship after only two months? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:24:44 PM | | Put your grown-up panties on and end it. It's honestly not going anywhere | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:29:47 PM | | How long is he moving away for? If it is a permanent move, and he didn't even so much as hint for you to go with him, then he is trying to keep you as a warm bed for when he's back in town. Two months isn't a long time to get to know somebody, and the longer he's away, the less he'll think about you. I think your best bet is to break it off... at least until he moves back, then go from there. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:32:33 PM | | Suddenly huh? My guess would be he doesn't want to see you anymore and instead of breaking up he told you that he has to move. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:35:28 PM | Let me just ask you this, “Do you think your relationship is ready to go through a long-distance relationship?
If you take close look at what a long-distance relationship implies, then you will know if you are ready to go through that. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:38:29 PM | | He got a job offer. But it was very sudden. And trust me, I already contemplated the idea that this was his way of ending it. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:47:43 PM | Lol - totally reminds me of the Friends episode where Chandler tells whatshername that he's moving to Yemen....or was it Oman....either way....sounds kinda fishy.
If it's a legit job offer, he's likely to be gone permanently - do you really want to wait for him to come back to town every once in a while? I'd move on if I were you. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 1:49:23 PM | | what you got to do is ask yourself is it worth the strain of a long distance relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 7:41:10 PM |
Does he really want to keep "seeing" me or does he just want to keep me in his good graces for when he's back in town?
I would say no, and yes, but he would be able to give you more of an answer than I could. I don't know if I would trust it though.
Is it possible to have a long-distance relationship after only two months?
Of course! It just might not be the relationship you want. Could simply be a phone buddy relationship that slowly drifts apart except during stressful times. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 9:59:41 PM | It's possible to have a long-distance relationship, but only for a limited time. Otherwise you're in a relationship with a dream.
Ask him if you should try to look for jobs near his new destination. That should give you a very clear answer. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:03:40 PM | RE: First post.
Short answer? For women... yes. For men... unlikely but possible. Most men don't get emotionally invested that quickly. Or maybe he just wants a webcam buddy...
The question is... why would you WANT a long distance relationship with someone you hardly know? Plenty of fish (couldn't resist) in the sea and all that. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 10:53:14 PM | | you're a student. you baby-sit. long distance relationships tend to rack up bills (phone, airfare, etc.). can you afford it? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2009 11:17:04 PM | | Lose it! I was in a long distance relationship for two years, and I was even coming back every weekend from So-cal to N. AZ! two months is nothing. move on hun. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 2:10:43 AM | Finally - a voice of reason
Ask him if you should try to look for jobs near his new destination. That should give you a very clear answer.
Only real problem with long distance is that someone eventually has to move. Otherwise it's just a long distance FWB relationship!
Two questions you really have to ask yourself. Are you willing to move? And, do you have enough feeling for him to put your life on hold while waiting to be together? If the answer is yes - ask him the question posed in the quote. If any of the answers aren't an emphatic YES, move on - it will fall apart anyway.
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Posted: 8/8/2009 2:35:44 AM | I up and moved on two women in Vegas so it does happen. My profile is now in Phoenix.
See if his profile changes to the city he is supposedly moving to.
Another problem with a new job offer is . Sure he may make more but with this crapy economy it usually isn't wise to loose your senority. My brother moved for a better job offer and after he was laid off from 3 different companies for being the low man on the totem pole, he now makes less than he did in Phoenix. Big problem... He just bought a house in Vegas and has been unemployed for 8 months. He just got rehired at another company for less money. Hopefully he isn't laid off again. Not a good time to be an engineer. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 2:47:39 AM | | Ask him if he wants to end the relationship. It's better than asking strangers to help you guess. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 8:51:28 AM | I know when i want to convey "long term" to a girl i like, i try to move to another country if at all possible. The further away the better. 
Sorry, but i refuse to believe this is a serious question by anyone over the age of 18. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 9:51:49 AM | We have no clue, one visit home without being allowed in your pants will give you one heck of a fast answer tho  | |
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