| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 12:21:45 AM | So my bf moved up far north for a year to work in 'isolation' for better pay. I decided as a birthday present to him to surprise him and fly all the way up there just to see him. I was there a day... and I went for a walk to the store down the street by myself and a dog attacked me, pushed me down a ditch, and broke my ankle. I had to be flown into the city for urgent surgery and now I can't walk for 6 months. So I'm at home miserable and in pain and at the very least I had him on the phone telling me how bad he felt it happened and missed me etc... at least it kept my sanity.
Well turns out the same day I flew up to see him, he also talked to his ex wife and said how much he missed her and loved her and wanted to get back together with her.
Had I known this, I wouldn't have flown up to see him. I wouldn't have broken my ankle, and I wouldn't be hoping my EI gets approved because now I can't earn any income for 6 months. So now I've wasted months with him... got hurt, lost the money for a plane ticket... and now am just left alone to heal up and suffer by myself. What a great guy. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 5:14:40 AM | What an A$sh*le!! I'd hobble my ass back up there and kick his a$$!! but that's me..
Hun like Pazoozoo said there isn't much anyone can tell yah..but it's nice to get a chance to vent here in the good old POF forums..always made me feel better..Life will get better..once your foot is healed and life is back you'll realize it happened that way for a reason... Good luck hun! | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:19:59 PM | Forgive me for being so blunt, I do have sympathy for your situation, but your being really dramatic. It's really unfortunate and this guy is clearly an a$$hole but you can't credit him with everything that happened to you. Kind of two seperate events that just went down at the same time.
Your a beautiful girl, and having read your profile, I can see that your a great catch too. You shouldn't waste your energy being bitter over this. These sort of things happen to everybody. It's how you handle them that will define you. When you look back at this experience in 10 years are you going to be proud of the way you handled it, or ashamed?
Sorry if it seems like I'm being a little hard on you. My point is only that this happened and your in this situation now. Nothings going to change that. Realize it's his loss, be grateful you found out now and not a few years from now, and start think'n about what you can accomplish with your new freedom.
I know, I'm kind of an insensitive jerk. I just call it like I see it. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:36:05 PM | .....so miss $$$brittney
how would this guy be responsible for this poor girls broken ankle?
had she told him she was planning on visiting him... he may of said no!
why would it be acceptable for a woman to realize that she is still in love with an ex.....but should i guy do this he is a player/a hole, or other unsavory personality....
oh and one last question....if this person is as you claim an "A$sh*le". and people do not change!also is it not true that a person is judged by the company they keep!... then does that mean she was a f**king A$h*le | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:59:32 PM | So you're blaming your boyfriend for "making" you buy a plane ticket, fly up there to see him, where in turn you got attacked by a dog? I'm sorry you're in this situation, and I know your intentions were honorable, but YOU put yourself there.
That said, the broken heart thing is another matter. At least he cares for you and is being supportive-! | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:32:51 PM | Darlin, everything happens in this life for a reason. Although the reasons are not always clear.
Perhaps this happened to force yourself to slow down and evaluate what is happening in your life?
Now the boy friend is not right for you. You want a man who is true to you regardless of the distance between you, yes? Some who will love you with all their heart, not just a part of it. And someone who would miss you as much as he might miss air when away from you. So..
Let yourself heal, both inside and out.
It's hard, I know. When those you love let you down it's a kick that leaves you sore for a while. But all things heel with time and love. Call the girls. When things get rough, the tough go get their nails done. ( ; | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:14:56 PM | | Although I didnt buy a plane ticket I know almost how you feel. I was dating this guy I just knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, we have a beautiful baby girl together and I thought everything was perfect. I was living in Kentucky with him and my daughter when we got this call that my grandmother had a heat stroke, so I talked it over with him and decided to go stay with my grandma in Alabama for a little while since they have only seen my daughter one time. I get down here and the first 2-3 days he completely ignores me and when i ask him whats going on he says he has just been busy, then later I find out he is talkin to his ex( I found out through email and he swore over and over he was over her) and she was coming to stay with him for 2weeks and he thinks we should break up because he THINKS he wants to get back with her. We have been broken up for some time now and he checks in on our daughter maybe once a week through instant messaging, he hasnt called to see how she is doing the first time, although he has went and bought a prepaid phone so he and his gf could talk every night because he just misses her so much. Its a part of life, wheres the little guy holding the sh!+ happens sign when you need him!! Things like this just make you stronger. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/9/2009 11:35:13 PM | Well you blame it all on him but you chose this guy; why do women just blindly want a pass? you picked him.
Choose wisely; dont go by feelings but by actions and truth.
If he's such a bad guy, it says something about you that you chose him; look at the actions and not the words; good luck and I hope you get well very soon, | |
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| Didn't just break my heart...
Posted: 8/10/2009 12:10:03 AM | | You'll be singing another tune when you fall madly in love with the handsome and charming physiotherapist/personal trainer who will be helping you return to fighting trim in a couple of months. By the time you're walking without a limp again, NorthBoy won't even know where you live. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart...
Posted: 8/10/2009 6:23:30 AM | What a douchebag..... so had this guy shown no signs whats so ever in the recent months leading upto the seperation?.
Hey i kinda get why your blaming him for your ankle, he's hurt you and naturally people seek out a way to hate someone even if they love them deeply.. its a means to move on.
Long distance is hard, trying to keep the romance alive while being hundreds/thousands of miles away isn't an easy task. Trust me i know, still getting over it too but its getting better and it will for you too.
Its unfortunate about what happened to your ankle but least you now know the truth and you've saved your self a life time of pain. Your free to move on and be happy now and one day when you least expect it that special someone will stumble into your life ( hopefully not breaking his ankle ) and you and he will have a love like no other. You will look back at this other guy and smile to your self and say " Thank you"
Sounds crazy but you will :)
Best of luck huni, hope everything works out for you | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/10/2009 6:33:08 AM |
So you're blaming your boyfriend for "making" you buy a plane ticket, fly up there to see him, where in turn you got attacked by a dog? I'm sorry you're in this situation, and I know your intentions were honorable, but YOU put yourself there.
I was thinking the same thing kpooks. HE did NOT make you buy the plane ticket. HE did NOT make you go for that walk. HE is NOT responsible for the dog attacking you.
YOU made a choice and now because things did not work out the way you had hoped they would you are blaming him for things that are not his fault.
Life sucks sometimes but we have to roll with the punches. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, start doing things to improve your mental state. 1. Dump boyfriend. 2. Get on the phone with EI every day to fight your case. 3. See what other aid/help is out there for you to receive.
We are only victims if we ALLOW ourselves to be victims. Time to grow up and deal with life instead of living the pity party and trying to blame others for things that are NOT their fault. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/10/2009 7:24:22 AM | His ex must be one hot piece of a$$ because you are really cute. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Take your lumps and move on. There is a guy for you who will, when divorced from you later, will leave his girlfriend to be back with you someday.  | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/10/2009 5:19:44 PM | Sorry to hear this happen to you. It's such a tough situation. It's hes loss but
I can see why your hurt.
But like most said, pick yourself up and move on and don't look back. Your very young and have lots to experiance. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/10/2009 8:43:49 PM | With all due respect, I'm sorry for your tragedy, but it is not his fault, and playing victim is not going to help you grow and learn from this experience.
I would suggest you read the book or watch the movie - He's Just Not That Into You, because I don't know a man who would voluntarily choose to pack up and go away for a year and leave a woman behind he was in love with.
Maybe you missed his cue when he left and he didn't know how to tell you.
Men are truly terrible at dumping a woman and have never learned how to do it. It's always a losing situation with no good result.
Believe it or not, men really do not enjoy hurting women, and breaking up is a hard thing for them to do and it does make them feel like a piece of crap. They don't want to hurt you, but when you keep pushing and don't take the hint, well it ends up ugly and painful, when it never had to be. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 8/10/2009 10:17:31 PM | | Why on earth would he do that to a beautiful girl like you. It's bullSH*T how guys take advantage on their luck and screw it up like that intentionally. I would certainly do anything for a woman who would go a long ways just to visit me.. it would be flattering and joyful to know someone has such strong feelings for you. But that wont ever exist so I dont worry about it anyways. I hope things go better for you in the future, and I hope someone finds you and treats you like you deserve and respects and loves you. Take care. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 10/4/2009 10:29:06 AM | This story made my day. See it's raining here and quite gloomy. Even though it's an old post I read it like it was NEW. I laughed so hard that I fell out of my swivel chair onto the floor. 
Out of one person's misery (YOU) another person (ME) has benefited from the healing power of laughter. I can now go out into the world today and not feel frumpy because of the weather. | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 10/4/2009 11:46:53 AM | No one is destroying your life but yourself! No one forced you in this relationship. I chose not to get involved romantically after a lifelong of failed attempts and heartbreaks. This is self inflicted wound. It’s normal that you must lick them yourself. You better get used to it. It will only get worse as you get older.
You’re 22 and a Phlebotomist. Here’s my suggestion; forget about this dating crap, go back to school and become a Lab Technologist. BCIT offer the program. You can get a leave of absence from your current job and a guaranteed 60,000 job in less than 2 years. At your age, this is a good place to invest your time and energy. Not dating and relationship bullshit..... | |
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| Didn't just break my heart.... actually destroyed my life!
Posted: 10/4/2009 2:32:15 PM | It's rather quite sad how women like you will come on here just to b*tch and whine about how some poor slapnut hurted you in the past. If your looking for a little sympathy, then don't bother.
You live, you get shitted on, you heal, then you move on. It is what it is. | |
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