| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 4:48:43 AM | I appologise if this has been done before I did do a search first.
Without being too specific I recently watched a young couple having an argument in the street I have no idea what it was about or who was to blame...the guy obvioulsy wanted to calm the situation by talking quietly and softly to the girl but she was having non of it and was pushing him away actually quite violently, flayling her arms about wildly while he stood arms outstretched and open. I could'nt help but wonder if left could this esculate into something more than a little shoving.
I have heard of women being abusive physically to men before and wondered how one would handle it? Have any of the ladies resorted to laying her hand to a man? Have the men experienced a fighting women? | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 4:52:27 AM | I have a close friend who is involved in an abusive relationship. She will however be the first to admit that she blatantly provokes the situation and has on many occasions hit her partner first.
To me, there should be no justification for violence in a relationship either from a man or a woman. I know that most people would always get up in arms about poor women who are hit but then almost find men who receive abuse as a kind of joke.........having seen the results of many domestic violence situations, I can assure you that at times, I would rather face a violent man than a woman............ | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 4:54:03 AM | If anyone loses their self control and hits anyone else they should expect to get hit back or to suffer some consequences of their actions.
I've seen it happen before where a woman was smacking her partner on the top of his head with a stilleto shoe in the car park of a pub, she was wild and out of control and there was blood everywhere, nobody did a thing. (Evidently this attack was the result of a woman passing some flattering comment to him as she passed him bent over the pool table)
As soon as he managed to grab her by the throat and shove her against a wall, an army of peole intervened and dragged the guy away from her. Personally I was hoping he'd give the crazy bitch a slap.
If it had been the other way round would the story have been different? Perhaps.
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 4:57:01 AM | | Ive only hit a man once and that was self defense ,actually i didnt hit him i knead him in the ribs and broke two of them ,but he was strangling me at the time so i dont regret it ,in a perfect world nobody hits ,but the worlds not perfect is it ,you dont know what you might do till you do it. | |
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csi8
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 5:00:18 AM | the hidden statistic of domestic abuse is the 1:5 [ thats 20%] of those reporting abuse are men
if thats 1:5 reporting, how many go unreported through the 'shame' of being a male victim?
Male victims of abuse often report with far more serious 'minor' injuries than women, or, will have been victimised through physical torture, as their abusers tend to go further, quicker.
i hasten to add not all abusers of men are women, some will be same sex partners, siblings or a parent
whilst not wishing to trivialise the 80% of reported DA victims who are not male, this hidden 20% need to be recognised | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 5:03:10 AM | I was looking over my balcony last year and saw in the street about 1130pm a summers evening a young couple the girl was a slip of a thing and he was a big strapping bloke but all of a sudden she punched him in the face and then kicked him in the balls and as he sank to his knees she started repeatedly slapping him not gently i mean really laying into him and he was covering up his head with his hands, i shouted out "oi enough pack that in" and she asked me if i wanted some, being the rational clear headed non confrontational person i am i shouted back "sure thing" and ran down the stairs and out into the street but she took off lol, but seriously i helped him up and he was almost crying, i said what was that about?? apparently she has a severe jealousy problem and that was because she thought he was staring at the barmaid... he wondered off like a broken man.
I dont agree with domestic violence if it be the man doing the hitting or the woman put your hands on someone expect to get it back really.. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 5:10:14 AM | | There are some women who will hit a man simply because they know he wont hit her back. It's low - abusing someone because he recognises he's bigger, stronger and capable of inflicting more damage and will therefore refrain from responding. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 5:16:50 AM | I cant understand why either partner would hit each other and usually over nothing. In fact I cant understand why people physically fight at all. I witnessed a guy throw his girlfriend from one side of the street to the other. I went to assist her up and she told me to f**k off as he was her boyfriend ????????? YEAH AND THAT MAKE IT ALRIGHT - stupid girl
With regards to females hitting males - I sometimes work in a hospital directing people to where they need to go according to their injury and i have noticed an increase in the amount of girls who attend because they punched a wall or something. This was always something the lads would do to take their aggression out on a wall instead of there other half. I sometimes wonder if they feel cool about it because they always come in with their mates and smiling. IDIOTS if you ask me | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:06:20 AM | | I don't tolerate any kind of abuse be it physical, mental or verbal from anyone so i can't see it happening to me, she'd be dumped on the spot at the first sign of the verbal long before it had the chance to develop into physical abuse. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:06:38 AM | I think it's not just directed at men, i think women have become more aggressive in general. There was a story about a year ago in The Guardian, and the police apparently are becoming more weary of dealing with drunken women than men nowadays, because some women think that they can get away with being physically aggressive, purely because they are women.
Personally, i don't agree with women being physically violent towards men, because men (assuming they are gentlemen), can't really defend themselves against the attack without being branded the wifebeater (even if it just involves physical restraining the other person). | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:53:26 AM | I'm almost blind in my right eye because of a violent and abusive ex. Ironically I could easily have decked her in one punch. She simply knew my upbringing and olde worlde manners prevented me retaliating.
On top of that, as msg10 points out, attempts to push away/restrain an aggressive female are often interpreted as evidence of attack rather than defence (and on the few occasions I contacted the Police, my ex was able to capitalise on her Oscar-calibre acting abilities, and gain their sympathy).
At the moment the system is (understandably) heavily weighted in favour of the woman in any given DV scenario. So even if you do succeed in getting the Police or other authorities involved, they always err on the woman's side and assume the woman is the person in danger.
I used to work on the basis that I'd NEVER hit a woman. These days, as a product of my experiences, I would respond with appropriate force, knowing that I would be damned either way. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:54:22 AM |
i think women have become more aggressive in general. [...] the police apparently are becoming more weary of dealing with drunken women than men nowadays, because some women think that they can get away with being physically aggressive, purely because they are women.
That's a trend that has been apparent for at least 20 years. When I was working in clubs, we always threw both parties to a 'domestic' out because of the general reaction of women to a perceived attack on their men. As for girl on girl violence, the days of that just being a bit of hairpulling and ineffectual slapping are long gone. They're much quicker to reach for a glass nowadays. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:57:45 AM | | If youre prepared to throw a punch, be prepared to take one back. Regardless of gender. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:30:54 AM |
the police apparently are becoming more weary of dealing with drunken women than men nowadays, because some women think that they can get away with being physically aggressive, purely because they are women.
One of the reasons i was recruited by rank and capes and cullington when doing door work was to go to trouble spots for girls fighting round the country and work the doors there, staying for roughly a month at a time and recuriting and training a woman to work in my place so I could move onto the next, this didnt work in Portsmouth where I ended up staying forever, but the general feeling was definately that the women would abuse the men knowing they could get them into trouble if they responded, kicking punching biting, but seeing the size of me 6ft in heels and i used to do body building they would think twice and walk calmly once i was called, of course you got the exceptions to the rule, so drunk they would still try it with me, difference being a woman i could use a lot more force to restrain them without fear of harassment charges.
A drunk woman hitting out and spitting at you is no fun back in the day (oh er mrs) i just used to headlock them and drag them out that way, cant do that anymore apparently its not "minimum/reasonable" force, glad ive retired as its def got worse. | |
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Joined: 4/9/2009
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:34:11 AM | | Having been on the receiving end of a mans fists myself while pregnant I absolutely loathe violence. It makes no difference whatsoever who is dishing out the aggression, it is totally unacceptable and unforgivable. I would never put my hands on a man and not just because I dont want a punch back but because its a horrible thing to do to someone you are supposed to love and cherish. For some reason a woman hitting a man seems to be taken less seriously. . | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:35:52 AM | Sjxx. I find it very hard to believe that you've never given a fella two black eyes.
And possibly a swollen penis.
<div class='quote'> Whatyoutalkinaboutwillis~ funny. Not heard that one before.
Really? Shall i tell it again?
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:40:25 AM | | I have only hit a man once in my life. yes it was wrong of me but hey he needed it..... | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:08:12 AM |
I have only hit a man once in my life. yes it was wrong of me but hey he needed it.....
Every person who hits someone justifies it with they 'needed' or even 'deserved' it! | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:09:52 AM |
For some reason a woman hitting a man seems to be taken less seriously. .
Agree and it's totally wrong, male abuse can and does happen and it's very easy to say that the male should just hit back, but abuse often comes with emotional abuse and that can happen male to female and female to male. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:10:18 AM | | simple thing is.. love dosent punch you :) my mum taught me that and ive passed it on to my daughter, | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:16:08 AM | I dont think its right for anyone to lay their hands on anyone else...
saying that i think its a cop out the amount of women who will push and push a situation with their partners or out in town with a random etc simply because " they are girls and boys cant hit them"
In my opinion if you big enough and bad enough to hit anyone then you should be big enough and bad enough to expect a right hook in the chops back!
Physical situations can be avoided if you are smart enough to do so. saying that everyone makes mistakes........ | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:25:06 AM | | I have no need to justifies it , it was my choice and i do it again if needed . Thinking about this id kill to protect my children......But i come form a very close family . | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:29:46 AM | | The incidence of domestic violence against men is low compared against women although it's pobably more common than we think, but men don't often report it as they don't think people will believe them or that people will just take the piss and make them feel ashamed they allowed it to happen. The counselling and psychological community have responded to domestic abuse and violence against women but don't seem to recognise that men can be victims too. I think the sooner some sort of remedial action is taken the better. When my ex went for me and tried to strangle me after coming back from a drunken spree lasting 2 days, I managed to lock myself in the bedroom and call the Police who arrested him and they locked him up for the night. He was shameful about the incident although he might have gone for a repeat performance had I not taken action. Usually, when he was drunk he wasn't violent so this was out of character. Unfortunately, in a lot of domestic violence cases, alcohol leads to violence as does personality disorders if they remain undiagnosed. Sometimes, it's hard for the recipient of the violence not to feel undermined to the extent they feel they are to blame which is another reason why it often goes un-reported. | |
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| women hitting men
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:39:51 AM | The other issue is that fact that often, when police are called to DV incidents, they find themselves on the receiving end of some grief when they try to arrest the offender...'don't take my Darren away, he didn't mean it'...................and if you get over that hurdle, many times the victim changed their minds the next day etc etc and just went back to the relationship cos 'he didn't mean it. he won't do it again'
I have total sympathy for anyone who is a victim of domestic violence as I've already stated but you have to want to help yourself. If you allow the other person to keep getting away with it, they will keep doing it. There is help for those who want it whether you are male or female | |
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