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Posted: 8/9/2009 5:53:15 PM | Ok here's the thing ... I have no clue why I am not getting many replies to the messages that I send out. First off I already went to the profile review forum and they said that my profile is now okay. I also asked about my pictures which will be fixed soon, but I still got a few positive reviews. The only thing left I can think of is the messages themselves that I send. So please answer this post and tell me what kind of message would you reply to?
Should I start of with the subject being "hi there I'm -blank-"
or maybe "Nice to meet you"
or should I try something catchier? What would make you want to answer a message from me?
Any and all help would be greatly appreciated so PLEASE answer this post and feel free to be mean if you want. | |
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| HEY GUYS I NEED HELP!!!! NEED REPLIES!!!
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:01:19 PM | If people are not replying to you, they either don't think you're attractive, or they don't like something in your profile.
There's no magical first email. Sorry OP.
I get about an 80% return rate on my emails. The reason? I email girls who I know would be mutually interested.
Soooo.... I wish I could give you a magical formate to follow, but there isn't one.
I usually just email something like, "Hi. Email me back if you want. -Josh"
Really profound, huh?
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| HEY GUYS I NEED HELP!!!! NEED REPLIES!!!
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:05:40 PM | | ^^^^ What he said. I see nothing wrong with your profile and ur not unattractive IMO so nothing out of the ordinary. Honestly most women who wrote me gave me pretty much one sentence on average so there is no magic line. If there was one a guy would have discovered it by now with the ridiculous trail and error we do. The only problem is see you having is with your age group. Older guys 20+ will not want to date you or take you seriously because of your age and guys your age are just immature. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 6:09:15 PM | Welcome to world of on-line dating! Happens to all of us. Check your body type. "Prefer not to say" is no right. You look good (from what I can see). Here's my breakdown as to why folks don't answer;
1. rude (it is possible)
2. found another person to contact and are currently dating
3. Analyzed you and your profile and decided to pass - you were not what they THINK they are looking for.
4. a million and one other reasons.
BLUF - some people pan the profiles. Some analyze them. SOme do nothing more than look at pics to glean clevage shots (yes, people are shallow)
You seem nice and attractive. Give it a chance. This could be fun if you look on it as a game and not a job;-) You never know, you may find the right person whilst having fun!
take care
Greg | |
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| HEY GUYS I NEED HELP!!!! NEED REPLIES!!!
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:09:59 PM | | What you say is your initial email is largely irrelevant, you have to face the fact that they are simply not attracted to you. I'd reconsider the type of guys you are emailing. In any case, if you overly-sensitive about rejection you shouldn't be participating in online dating to begin with. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 6:13:25 PM | first off, gotta say you have an excellent narrative. the thing that jumps out at me is you're very bright. which leads me to ask: are you messaging guys who are also really bright? because if you're not, your sharpness may be turning off the ones who don't want to be shown up. but that's completely not about you - it's their problem, so don't change anything except the guys you message, assuming this is the case.
also, bravo to you for being willing to send the first emails. you're bold, and the right guy will recognize that and like it.
on the subject of writing approach emails, i'd say never put a routine pleasantry in the subject. 'hi there i'm so-and-so' works great live because the freshness of the new person is what makes it nonroutine. but that's not there online, so it makes your email look like a thousand others. so pick out something from their profile and write off that. if he likes scions, something like 'my 525 can beat your XB.' if he has nine brothers and sisters, something like 'how'd you ever get into the bathroom?'
basically, don't waste any time getting the conversation started. start it in the subject line. you're more than bright enough to make things lively right out of the gate. good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 6:28:58 PM | | You have lofty aspirations that no 18 year old guy can pay for and you are too intelligent for most 18 year old guys who are just concerned with " hittin dat " so don't worry so much and try finding a chess club geek who wants to travel the world and doesn't own a car. | |
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| HEY GUYS I NEED HELP!!!! NEED REPLIES!!!
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:57:39 PM | | something cute and catchy is fine but over all just be yourself. after all would you like a guy who is being fake? it takes time. but keep in mind this is online a girl your age should not just be relying on this site or any other site | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 6:59:11 PM | | Awww thanks guys you're really sweet. Good to know it's not the messages. I'll keep trying. Thanks for the help! Anyone else have anything to add that I should know? | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 7:07:17 PM | | You're beautiful and very smart. Just be patient and also get out into the "real world" and meet guys, there are so many places to meet people. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 7:31:21 PM | I would be willing to bet there are hundreds and hundreds of fake profiles on this site. I mean, how many "I just moved here... I like to stay active... I want to meet a fun girl... ect" do you have to read to get that?
Don't take it personally. The fact is, online... people are generally more narrow minded in what they are attracted to than they would be saying hello to you in a bar or at the bus stop. Personals ALWAYS leave something out.
My recommendation... don't spend alot of time sending well thought out, articulate emails. Keep it simple. Like a smile from accross the room. Maybe ask a question. :)
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 7:38:49 PM | ummm....something seems off here.
It would 'seem' that you would be getting plenty of mail.
and, we'd love to help, but take the advice of the poster (soldierfalcon) that said, there is no 'magic email'...no magic bullet.
Somebody has really got to want to get to know a bit about you
As far as...Hi There...and Nice to Meet you......I bet you can be catchier than that.
that's a bit bland........or, perhaps you are just very polite.
Hey, waitaminit, I'll betcha you'll be gettin' a lot of emails now, darlin'.
cries of help from a young woman rarely go unanswered!
Don't sweat the small stuff.....
Just write whatever you feel.
If someone feels you through the words, you'll get replies
hang tite
Kimbo | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 8:17:31 PM | Men are intimidated by intelligent women who know what they want in life.
I wouldn't change a thing in your profile.... not a thing.
Keep in mind that you aren't ( I'm assuming) looking for quantity but rather quality... you want someone who isn't looking for a bagger at walmart (not that some baggers aren't wonderful people :)
You need to put out there who you are , what your aspirations are , your hopes... dreams... what is important to you.... I think your profile does a splendid job doing just that.
Change nothing... your pics are super .... if the profile doesn't attract the right person .... be happy that you didn't waste a great deal of time with the wrong people !!
Keep your spirits high .... and have a wonderful summer
D | |
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| HEY GUYS I NEED HELP!!!! NEED REPLIES!!!
Posted: 8/9/2009 10:58:27 PM |
Ok here's the thing ... I have no clue why I am not getting many replies to the messages that I send out. First off I already went to the profile review forum and they said that my profile is now okay. I also asked about my pictures which will be fixed soon, but I still got a few positive reviews. The only thing left I can think of is the messages themselves that I send. So please answer this post and tell me what kind of message would you reply to?
Your profile is quite good, I think. Also, you're obviously intelligent, as you're using a process of elimination. Very good.
I think it would help if you were to post here something similar to what you are sending out now.
The most impressive initial email I received was by a woman who noticed something I wrote about the axiom of choice and wrote me about it. (She didn't really understand what it was, but she went and Googled it, and I was impressed by the effort.) Anyway, the chances are vanishingly small that we'll ever get together, but that amount of effort merits at least a date. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 1:22:02 AM | I agree with the folks who say your profile is good, and you are very pretty.
However, your photos are terrible. I had to squint to make you out in all three of them, and even once I was able to locate you, I couldn't get a good look at you. From a slouched-in-my-chair distance your avatar photo looks like a jumble of patterns that doesn't even contain a person.
Get some clearer pictures and smile. It'll be a lot more eye-catching. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 7:52:03 AM | You have a great barometer for whether or not you really want the one's you've emailed thus far to respond.
Without commenting on the photographic qualities of your pics, it's easy to see what you look like and your profile is fantastic. I do think the majority of men you'll encounter on here may not be intimidated but feel they don't have what it takes to be with you. If they think they don't, then they don't so not responding to your messages saves you from some unfulfilling meetings.
Just keep on doing your thing and eventually you're going to come across some that match your own impressive qualities and can possibly provide you with some pleasant dating experiences based on compatibility. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 10:36:34 AM | | I don't get why you are worrying so much.... you're 18 who cares wether they reply or not, you should be out having fun... don't worry about what you should write.. I mean some of my first e-mails have started out with nice hat... nice and green and grassy.... Have fun life to short to worry about whether you have put the right thing in a e-mail...... just chill and take it as it comes.... | |
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