| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:21:02 PM | | Hey guys I would really like your insight and opinion. Not sure if other woman have posted this before. What initially attracts you to a woman online...her pictures or what she says in her profile, or both? Then if you are attracted by her pics but then don't message her, what about her profile turned you off? DO guys even read what women write on their profiles?? | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:25:37 PM | | The profile is a turn on mentally the pics are turn ons physically.It's a package deal. The more substance a profile has the less of a chance it will only be a booty call. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:28:23 PM | | Obviously it's pics first, anyone who says otherwise is just kidding themselves. If they like your pics but don't message you in could be anything - maybe you have a deal breaker (age, location, kids, smoking, etc.) or maybe it's poorly written (bad grammar/punctuation). | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:34:39 PM | | For most guys who are not blind pics attract first. But sadly usually the better the pics are the worse the profile is and it goes downhill from there. Lack of interests and intelligence in the profile plus just not caring can really bring things down. I mean I seriously wonder how some women can expect me to write an amazing letter to them when they put 5 mins into the profile and wrote two sentences( usually something along the lines of "um, yeah I like the color pink, collect beanie babies and now I wrote enough in here so i'm done" all spelled with the precision of a 6 year old . They really do deserve the one liners they get from players. That aside both are important and many guys are willing to not be so harsh with the physical if you put some effort into the profile and seem like an interesting person who they may have something in common with. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:36:59 PM | Yeah, The pics are first because as you are searching, You are looking through those little thumbnails and you see someone and yell out "ohhhhh!"
If I don't write it's because we don't have some of the same interests or if they are to serious. I like women with a sense of humor. Of course some of the times I don't write is the ever popular "she is out of my league" | |
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SJS37
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Joined: 7/21/2009
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:39:54 PM | | you have to pass my selection process one step at a time. If I look at your picture and I like it. I look at your location. Then look at if you want children. Then if you smoke. If at this point I like everything,I will read your profile. As I have said before you already got me at this point unless I find out you are a freak or worship the devil or something. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:40:08 PM | Turn ons.... Tiggle bitties, nice smiles, being funny, interesting profiles, playful candor.
Turn offs... myspace poses,**** bicthes, lack of writing, women who turn out to have penises..oh wait.. probably shouldn't mention that one. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:41:44 PM | When PlentyofFish displays people, in the "My Matches" or "Who Viewed Me", they show them as thumbnails of their pics. There's no profile information. Given that most users don't click on every single thumbnail, it's reasonable to assume that people filter out matches on the basis of what's in those pictures.
It's fair to say that people are initially attracted to the thumbnail picture. If I like her pics but don't message her, it could be because:
1. I feel like I don't have a chance.
2. Something in her profile turned me off (has kids.)
3. Didn't have time.
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:45:17 PM |
What initially attracts you to a woman online...her pictures or what she says in her profile, or both?
Both.
If she has a lot of pictures, then I can sometimes tell who she is by what activities are being photographed. I can then determine how attracted I am to the lifestyle that activity represents. And then go to the profile.
If she has just one face, or full body, picture then I need to go down to the profile and see her interests, about me section, and whom she is looking for to determine if any further action is desired.
Then if you are attracted by her pics but then don't message her, what about her profile turned you off?
Depends on the girl.
[QUOTE] DO guys even read what women write on their profiles?? [/QUOTE]
Yes. I would imagine not every guy. But I believe a large percentage do. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:47:35 PM | | picssssssssss is the first, then we see what she is looking for, but then again they all claim to want a nice guy, their are the few who complain about meeting jerks on their profile, I Skip them automaticaly regardless of how they look, after all its her who passed a 1000 nice guys to find that jerk. why would i want to meet a women who manages to find every jerk? all that says its her not the jerk? so I would recomend you not use the jerk line. that just means your full of yourself and you are a lousy picker of men. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:01:13 PM | | I look at some profiles simply because the thumbnail pictures are so small it's hard to really tell what a woman looks like. Then if I like what I see and read I'll contact her, but if it's only one of the two, I prefer that her profile seems like a match with what I'm looking for. Looks don't do any good if there is nothing in common. Ideally I want both, looks and a personality match. Plus she has to feel the same way about me. And we both need to be looking for the same thing, LTR, dating, friends or whatever. That's what makes it's so hard to find a match online, or in real life. IMO | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:18:32 PM | Didn't you just reword this from a few days ago? I just looked at your history and your thread got closed.
To answer your question, pics come first. How many people without a pic are YOU contacting. You can't really know anything until you view the profile.
Your main pic is a bad pic because you used the new uploader. It makes you look heavier than you are. Don't use the "new" pic uploader on this site. It widens your pics which is bad. It's why half the people now have just an eye or mouth for an avatar. Stick to the original one and I bet you get more contacts. Good luck. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:25:07 PM | | I agree with Lambro. The thumbnail pics are way too small to initially go on. I have to click on the profile to really see the pics (maybe I have bad eyes). And since I'm there anyway I will usually read their profile...unless it's a 4 page novel. :) | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:43:46 PM | I first look to see if the woman is a smoker because I smoke, then the pics and then I read the profile. The profile holds more importance to me because looks alone will not grab this fish.
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:10:06 PM | First thing are the eyes, and the face: If you look like a man most of us will turn to stone.
Second thing is the body, oftentimes more often than not starting with your cup size.
Third thing is your height:
With these things we make geometric projections. Is she a spinner? Is she gonna throw off the alignment on the Chevy? How padded are her knee pads gonna have to be?
Yeah, call us posterior orifices if you must. We are visual creatures. But civilization compels most of us to look deeper, beneath your packaging. See if...for instance...if you'd be able to...
"put another log on the fire...boil me up some bacon and some beans... sew the whole in my old blue jeans." | |
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jbogie
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Joined: 9/30/2008
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:25:14 PM | Hey guys I would really like your insight and opinion. Not sure if other woman have posted this before. What initially attracts you to a woman online...her pictures or what she says in her profile, or both? Then if you are attracted by her pics but then don't message her, what about her profile turned you off? DO guys even read what women write on their profiles??
what? you don't believe us when we say we subscribe to penthouse because of the interesting articles??? | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:54:29 PM |
What initially attracts you to a woman online...her pictures or what she says in her profile, or both?
Well, since I have to see their picture THEN click, THEN I get the opportunity to read her profile... the answer is "pictures first".
Then if you are attracted by her pics but then don't message her, what about her profile turned you off?
When I was looking on here... there's a great laundry list of things. They generally include one or more of the following:
* She has kids
* She put very little effort into her "about me" section (tells me she's not taking POF seriously)
* Spelling / punctuation errors, "texting speak", or anything remotely ghetto
* Dis-similar interests
* Irrationality
* "Red flags" like: men hating speak, or other obvious baggage
* She seems high maintainience in any way what-so-ever
DO guys even read what women write on their profiles?
No, not a single one has ever read a profile in the history of POF - nor will they ever. /end sarcasm. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 8:59:22 PM | What initially attracts you to a woman online...her pictures or what she says in her profile, or both? Then if you are attracted by her pics but then don't message her, what about her profile turned you off? DO guys even read what women write on their profiles??
I hope this helps. I think it is subjective. I am looking for someone who is kind, loving, smart, funny, and beautiful in their own way, with a laugh that lights up a room and a smile that could melt diamonds. So does the ladies profile do this? The profile needs to answer the question is this “someone who I want to be with”? How are they trying to present themselves?
If I am looking at profiles on POF, I generally read their profiles and find a mutual interest. If I can’t find a mutual interest or the feeling of the profile is not for me then I move on. If I cannot correspond to the person why bother? Does the profile intrigue me?
These types of questions seem to be a universal question to both sexes, since there are a number of forums “Ask a guy” as well as “Ask a girl”. Or some type of form of this question. Have you looked at other forum’s threads?
If they are on the forums, I actually read their past forums. Are they a troll? Have they have forums that are closed. Why? Do they actually give informative data to the thread? If they start a thread do they seem to have researched their topic?
Physical attraction is important so yes pictures are important as well as interests. I don’t get hung up on these because I have multiple interests. Knowing a little bit of photography I think pictures can say something. I have people who are professionals. Yet the one I have is not a professional picture. What are you trying to present? Are all your pictures in a bar? Yet you state you are a homebody and never go to a bar. If someone states they don’t smoke and their picture show them smoking?
Picture rating: I think everyone is a “10” in their own way. It just people might prove me wrong. I am thinking about starting to put “10” on the oldest people first on the rate my image. I am going to have fun with it too. If an elderly woman is on a dating site who wants to have her picture rated. She got my vote. I might even e-mail her asking why she is not on the top 500 list. Yet, I might be afraid of those hot cougars though. Since you are a twenty-four old, it might take awhile for your rating.
I actually go and see their POF chemistry testing too. This information is interesting to me.
To me, it is not about how many favorites one has or how many posts one has or one is on some type of list. It is how a person acts on here. If one cannot act well here, why would I think they would act any differently in the real world?
The start date on POF does not always tell you something. People come and go.
Generally I have a little creative writing in me. Are you worth taking to that exotic paradise that you have always dreamed about? Ok, take me with you if we are a match.
I think you got some good responses. Good luck.
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 9:05:01 PM | I look at both honestly and don't write a woman unless I'm at least a little satisfied with both. Half these people are lying though, some just look at the pics. Women will look at pics and profession to try and guess how much money he has.
You can prove some men only look at the pics by finding womens profiles where they have 6 great pics and a 5 word profile with 185 favorites. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 11:04:39 PM | Well I'll give you the run down of exactly what I do.
First... I browse profiles based on my age range/proximity
I browse A LOT of profiles, even ones I don't necessarily find attractive. I'll scroll the the pictures first, and if I like what I see I'll read further. If I don't like the pictures I'll typically skim over the contents of the profile out of boredom, but likely won't send a message. If I find someone very attractive but they talk like a hoodrat, have horrible spelling/grammar it's a deal breaker... no message from me. Oh, and I pay attention to stats/interests/kids/drugs/smoking/drinking. It aint all about the pic! But the picture is a huge part.
So basically, it's the pictures that grab the attention/interest and the content that makes the connection. The problem with online dating is it's too easy... it's too easy to blow off the last person with a click of the mouse because there's potentially "better" out there, not putting the effort in getting to know someone you'd normally pay more attention to in person.
just my 2 cents. | |
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| Attraction on here...pics first or profile?
Posted: 8/9/2009 11:21:51 PM | There is always signs that are turn ons and turn offs
Negatives
Myspace poses = I am uncomfortable with my body
Pics in the same room = never leaves home
"ALL MEN ARE DOGS" = drama
Profiles that complain about the guys approaching them = Attention whore
my job takes most of my time = my job comes first
bad grammar, text speak = low attention span, low IQ
Positives
Pics of person being active = outgoing person, likes to do new stuff
Pics of full body or animated gestures = comfortable with their body
Profiles that make me laugh = Big time personality
Profiles with no negativity = Approachable | |
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