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Posted: 8/9/2009 10:32:23 PM | Ok I have gone out with this guy a couple times. We were really hitting it off. I thought things were going great. Than I made the cardinal sin and slept with him. He still responds to me but never initiates the conversation. Than we had a date to meet at the park and go for a bike ride. Well needless to say he never showed even after he was the one that asked if I wanted to go meet him at this time. Still have not heard from him and it has been 2 days.
Do you think that I Am worried for nothing or do you think that it is over and I should just say good bye. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 10:39:27 PM | Maybe he's in the hospital?
....but chances are he isn't. If he slept with you, then arranged for another date, blew you off without so much as a word....are you really needing to ask this question? Drop him and move on.
EDIT VVVV Buck - if you're going to stand someone up for a good reason - you'd at least have the decency to call/text/email/whatever ASAP to explain (preferably beforehand) - 2 days w/o an explanation seems like a total blow off.
And I agree with other posters - it's not necessarily that you slept with him that's he's blowing you off, but more that he's not interested. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 10:40:13 PM | | Sounds like it's over, say goodbye. If he's not offering extremely good reasons/excuses for the change in behavior, it seems like it should be pretty obvious what to do. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 10:44:18 PM | | Yes, obviously it's most likely over, however, it is NOT a cardinal sin to sleep with someone quickly. If you think waiting a month or 2 would have suddenly made him like you more, you are sorely mistaken. You are associating sleeping with him as the reason he is no longer interested and the truth is he was probably never THAT interested in you from the beginning. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 10:50:41 PM |
Than I made the cardinal sin and slept with him
Sleep has nothing to do with the cardinal sins.
Do you think that I Am worried for nothing or do you think that it is over and I should just say good bye.
I think question marks belong at the end of sentences. I also think you're worrying for something. I have no idea if it's over, but it will be if you say good bye.
Well needless to say he never showed even after he was the one that asked if I wanted to go meet him at this time.
Is this how you want to be treated? If so - continue on. If it's not, then move on. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 10:52:13 PM | | It's not a cardinal sin to sleep with someone after a few dates, especially if that's what you wanted to do. Haven't heard from him in 2 days? I'd be worried if it were a week or three, but not two days. No matter how interested in someone we (guys) are, we still have things to do and get busy with life. On the other hand, not showing up for a date is not cool. I'd give him a call asking wtf. No reasonable explanation for standing you up should= move on. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2009 11:51:06 PM |
Than I made the cardinal sin and slept with him.
Sleeping with him wasn't the cardinal sin. Going out with him in the first place was the cardinal sin. If you would want to date someone who wouldn't want to date you for sleeping with him, you have a self-esteem problem. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 12:06:32 AM | | well two days is not much time. Wait a few more and if it goes past a week say bye and move on | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 12:08:56 AM | Sounds like the type of guy who is trying to get as many notches under his belt as possible. If so you are nothing but one of several dozen notches on his belt. Nothing more. If he was interested in dating you then sex would have only made him more interested. I don't think he wanted to date you but get lucky right from the start.
I could be totally wrong here but if you were my sister or mom, I would seriously want to beat that douche bag's A$$.... | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 1:10:15 AM | ok I looked at your profile - you may want to reconsider taking off the looking for love in all the wrong places - it puts out a stigma. You are wasting your time when another human blows off/doesnt show up for the date they asked for and it drives you crazy wondering why - its really them trying to give you the ultimate hint they arent interested - hes just shown you hes a poor excuse for a guy.  Go, date and have lots of fun - youll find that one special guy while your having fun. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 4:50:49 AM | You did it to yourself... as I've seen on here 1000 times before.
You open your legs, he took advantage.... that's all she wrote. He's on to the next one UNLESS you keep calling him and then he may bang you again for the sport of it.
NEVER have sex with a guy too early... he'll bolt 95/100... take it to the bank.
DATE him for a WHILE before sleeping with him so you can see if he's digging you, or in it for the pu$$y. A guy in it for a$$ will not put time/effort/money into it if he didn't actually LIKE YOU. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 8:10:50 AM | | You went out with him a couple of times? and you slept with him? means you are easy, a easy piece? and desperate. men dont keep easy desperate women around. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 9:37:02 AM | mmm..
Maybe you need a better screening process to determine who you give the panties to. This guy obviously wasn't worth it. I guess the key becomes how to pick the ones that ARE worth it. Forget this guy. Pass.
If you think, before the acts take place, that you would be OK if the relationship ends right there, then go ahead. But if you think that you won't be ok, then it's better to wait. Generally it's better to wait with someone you really like anyway. At least for me it is. Nothing like getting to know someone before you get to know them. Intimacy is much improved. My comfort level is higher, my involvement with the person is deeper so there's less chance of running off... Just generally better.
But dammit.. I guess sometimes you just need some. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 10:42:38 AM |
Maybe he's in the hospital?
....but chances are he isn't. If he slept with you, then arranged for another date, blew you off without so much as a word....are you really needing to ask this question? Drop him and move on
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We are with him...... | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 12:05:26 PM | ummm yeaaahhh think its pretty much over and u were unfortunately a victim
of apparently a player.
got what he wanted and noowwwww doesnt wanna talk anymore
sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but my name says it all, lol
so you move now and get urself some more "fun" ;) | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 1:10:47 PM | | He didnt show. There is ALL you need to know. Move on to the next guy, and if you meet a guy you WANT to pursue something serious with, hold off on the sex until he demonstrates he wants the same things you do. Men wont pursue something that isnt a challenge. It's in our genes | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 11:46:12 AM | P.S. The whole Cardinal sin thing. Can you say joking. Why is everyone so damn serious.
And I am very secure in myself it's you guys i seem to not understand in the least. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 4:32:23 PM | 2 days??? Are you for real? If I am 10 minutes late I am on the phone letting her know how far away I am.
Sorry, but sounds like you got played. Move on and make the next guy wait at least till the third date.
Baby steps.
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:25:31 AM | | Seems you think that sex is the lure and if men get it fast enough you won't catch us. Playing this game only puts off finding out if he's just in it for a sex conquest. It's definitely over but I'm just responding to the way you talk about the big sex mistake. Also to the guys actually giving credit to your strategy to use sex as a lure... TRAITORS! | |
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