| Whats wrong with me?!
Posted: 8/10/2009 9:34:23 AM | Send plenty of messages out, never get a single reply, and im always polite and make the messages individual and relevant to the persons profile.
I never get any messages from people ive not sent one to either for that matter!
Is there anything glaringly obviously wrong with my profile that stands out as likely to put people off?
Im reluctant to change my pictures and message as I feel they portray how I am as a person, and I think it'd be false to change them and try to be something im not, but im just interested to hear people opinions in any case if theres anything that sets alarm bells ringing!
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| Whats wrong with me?!
Posted: 8/10/2009 10:05:53 AM | I think your main picture is a mistake.
Other than that you come across as a pleasant, literate chap. Get a good head and shoulders picture, not pulling a face or wearing anything odd, just smiling.
And do a thread search to read some of the many many complaints about not getting responses to emails.
Best of luck. | |
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| Whats wrong with me?!
Posted: 8/10/2009 10:08:44 AM |
Is there anything glaringly obviously wrong with my profile that stands out as likely to put people off? Job number one for you is to get a really good primary photo. It should be a good, sharp, close up head shot of you smiling. Your goal is for a woman to see your picture and say to herself "That's someone I'd like to be with".
Delete you MSN contact.
Currently doing a degree in business management - You should be meeting women at school. Just use the Internet as a supplement.
You could be with the best looking person in the World, but if they've nothing to say for themselves, it's not going to last long! - Delete. Obvious. | |
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| Whats wrong with me?!
Posted: 8/10/2009 10:33:18 AM | | Cheers folks, have changed my main profile pic, any better? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 11:52:46 AM | | I am totally shocked that you are not receiving more mail than you can handle. Any secure, ambitious, astute young lady should be tripping over herself to get to you. Good luck, young man. I think you are great! | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 12:27:16 PM | Hmm Well I am not sure how it is in the UK but here in Cali I would say greater than 70% of women (Who come to these sort of sites) would rather date a working man than a student. Not because they are gold diggers (though maybe some are) they probably just feel that having a long term relationship with a man who is already established in his career has greater chances of success than with a man who is still in school. Which kind of sucks for guys like me that just got out of the military and are getting a late start or guys like you that are pursuing a degree which takes more than a couple of years.
Also like I said not sure how it is in the UK but from my understanding girls don't dig the shaved head look. It has a lot of negative connotations due to certain movements which will remain unmentioned.
So I think it is important that if you want to compete with more established men that possibly have nicer pictures you may need a killer profile. You might have to spend a few hours thinking about what really sets you apart and maybe throw some humor in there as well. Your description is rather short and people that can get away with that are usually either gorgeous or have a great job which makes up for their lack of an attractive "About me" | |
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Posted: 8/10/2009 2:53:48 PM | Cheers for your comments, the skinhead look definitely stays though lol
A lot of lasses over here like it, a lot don't, it doesn't really get associated with anything anymore though I don't think | |
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Posted: 8/11/2009 1:57:52 AM | Anymore advice? No offence but im more interested in hearing from women given thats my 'target audience'! lol
Cheers | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:31:12 AM | Please!
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:40:04 AM | I don't see anything wrong with your profile. Your picture's are fine; I wouldn't change them, some of them are funny which is cool, makes you look like you're someone to have fun with. You have plenty of interests, you're going somewhere, and you just seem pretty nice.
Maybe you're just not the girl's type? Maybe you're going for the wrong women? I have no clue. But your profile looks fine to me. :) | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:54:40 AM | | Dont think its just u, just takes a while for some i guess, i think im having the same problem also lol | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 4:38:16 PM | there's nothing wrong with your profile. you look almost like beckham...not bad looking chap. the only thing i can find is there is NO CAR. chicks likes dudes with nice cars or trucks since i'm southern. be yourself and stay in school.
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Posted: 8/12/2009 4:51:43 PM | From my experience, most women on this site overvalue themselves. A lot. I'm not getting into a gender spat, because I'm sure men do it as well. It's just much easier to do that when you can click your way through 1000 profiles in the time it'd take to meet 2 people in real life.
It's just the nature of the beast, but it's still a worthwhile site. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 10:04:32 PM | Nothing! your profile is nice and you are a attractif young guy, you seem to be a honest and simple guy I do not inderstand why you are not receiving any reply just be patient good luck! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 7:01:40 AM | Cheers for the comments people!
I aren't a quitter, but it's difficult to see the point in persisting with this website when you get absolutely no messages from other users! My messages like I said are always polite, relevant to their profiles etc... yet they never reply.
I think if many are honest, this place is a bit of an ego boost for some. When you see some of the women on here, there's no way they'd struggle to find someone in the real world, maybe they just like getting lots of messages as it boosts their confidence, I dunno.
Either way it all seems a bit pointless when people wont even engage in conversation to atleast give you a chance! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 7:10:10 AM |
...it's difficult to see the point in persisting with this website when you get absolutely no messages from other users! My messages like I said are always polite, relevant to their profiles etc... yet they never reply. That's why your primary effort at meeting women should be in the real world. Just use the Internet as a supplement. If you don't get your hopes up too high, you won't get disappointed by the lack of response.. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 9:48:58 AM | I understand it's frustrating not getting responses, some men and women are rude. Some men just can't take no thank you for an answer and write horribly insulting emails back or if you don't write them back right away they send b1tchy desperate notes "why won't you talk to me?" I regularly get "nice t i ts" emails which is why my block list is so big. Bottom line is all of these factors are beyond your control.
In your age range there are way more men on here than women so you need to take your profile to the next level. What you have isn't bad but it's average. You have already been told you need a better pic which is not blurry, has better lighting and you smiling.
What you wrote was not proof read and it had some fantasy stuff in it that could be interpreted as vain and weird. Spacing will make it easier to read. This is what I think would be a good start for you to add to. Grammar, spelling and punctuation count. I am not an English major but I find reading what I wrote aloud helps. After all you don't want to give off the impression you are dumb.
I am down to earth, loyal, generous and caring and always put those closest to me first.
Currently, I'm working on a degree in business management, so hopefully I will be doing well in a few years time.
I love to travel and see the sights and plan to tick off as much of the worlds sights as possible in my time here.
Staying active and in shape is important to me. I love pretty much all sports, both playing and watching them.
I would delete this in the date section and put a creative positive first date idea here. You could if you want, put some of this (only the positive stuff) in the body of your profile.
Why I signed up for this madhouse...!
Because i'm single! Might aswell be honest!
Looking for someone who knows what she wants in life and is motivated enough to go out and get it! Someone who knows how to have a laugh and not take life too seriously when it doesn't need to be, but can also hold their own in a conversation!
Like I said, I love to travel and be on the go as much as possible, so someone with a similar mindset would be a bonus!
You may have more of an advantage because you are looking for a long term relationship as opposed trying to be a player and unable to commit to a relationship. Adding something to your profile talking about how you value an appreciate having a woman in your life, may help. Think about what women want in a man; responsibility, romance, thoughtfulness, integrity etc. and give examples of how you have those types of characteristics. Like saying I love to cook and prepare romantic candlelit pasta dinners or I am good at fixing things and like surprising the woman I love by repairing broken items. Or show your ability to compromise by saying something to the effect; I believe in give and take in a relationship, a great day would be going to a "name of a football team" game and then going home and watching a romantic movie my girlfriend wanted to see.
Adding a funny and or romantic quote would be good too. You can post what you are sending to women if you want. You don't want these email messages to give off the wrong impression either.
That's my 2 cent, good luck with your search. | |
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| Whats wrong with me?!
Posted: 8/14/2009 10:14:57 AM | | Changed my pic to something a bit clearer, dont know if its a good pic or not, but its me lol | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 10:19:31 AM | | You need a picture without the goofy hat. Have you got a friend who is a good photographer who can help you get some good pictures? | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 8:45:37 AM | | I feel your pain man, it seems like this dating site is a joke, and what the other guy said about women over valueing themselves is right. I send countless messages to women who seem like they have a friendly personality but you can't even get a single hello out of them. Who are they looking for prince charming? | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 9:22:12 AM | Couldnt agree more! Ultimately, if we're all honest, someone could have the greatest personality in the world, but it all boils down to how they look. If you don't find someone attractive physically then it's not happening, end of story!
Basically, profiles are largely irrelevant. People click on your profile because of how you look, they'll then either leave if they don't like the look of you, or read your profile to find out more, so in my opinion personality etc... is always secondary.
I guess the cold hard truth is that those of us not getting replies, messages, even views, are just not all that attractive to the POF women folk! | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 10:03:03 AM | | Honestly I dont agree with women are solely out for looks. Looks do help, but Ive seen some of the ugliest guys with the hottest women. It all boils down to confidence, which I think is very hard to portray on a friggen computer screen. Like the other day I went out to eat with my friend, and I was feeling good about myself and my confidence was up, but I was dressed like shit and didnt care. But anyway I noticed this really hot girl starring at me out of the corner of my eye and when I turned to loook at her she looked away so fast she got whiplash. Bottom line is women want a confident man, and all these dating sights do is diminish your confidence because your trying to hard, at least thats the case with me. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 10:54:21 AM | Both you guys, Corey and Yorkchap09, have put very little effort into your profiles and I think it is you guys who are over valuing yourselves! You write a couple sentences and women are suppose to take you seriously? You realize there are guys on here who read and follow the profile writing tips http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts1262627.aspx
YES Women are going to look at your pictures BUT WE READ TOO! There is a lot of truth to the old saying "Men fall in love with their eyes and women fall in love with their ears." You guys are projecting the way you look at profiles which is NOT the same way women look at profiles! Go ahead continue making excuses for your lazy half a$$ profiles and continue to be alone if that's what you want or step it up! The choice is yours.
Your head shot should be SMILING (like in your second pic) not this confused open mouth look you have now. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2009 11:15:31 AM | | Damn that was harsh Aegle, but you tell it like it is and I respect that. And for your information I just did update my profile and read some advise by others. You just have no Idea how frusterating it can be for us guys, so we are just venting some steam. But anyway I put a lot of thought behind what I had to say this time around and spoke from the heart. If that doesnt work than theirs nothing more I can do. I know I need more pics that include me in activities and such. That I do understand. When I take pictures of myself they usually dont turn out to well. | |
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