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I have a question. Let's say that as an adult person, you find someone interesting and perhaps also attractive and you email them expressing an interest in casual sex instead of a relationship.
How does the system know to flag you as someone who has initiated an intimate encounter? That would mean that someone is reading your emails!
???? You have a field on your profile indicating what your searching for.
"long term", "dating", etc...
ONE of the choices is Intimate Encounter. Is this clearing up now? IUf you contact people who have their "searching for" field set to Intimate Encounter you get flagged. No one reads your emails.
How does the system know to flag you as someone who has initiated an intimate encounter?
It's probably best described as a "deceit filter".
A profile listed as seeking "Intimate Encounter" (IE) can be blocked from a user's inbox by using the "Must not be seeking IE" filter. Some users who want to avoid being picked up by this filter will identify them self as (for example) "seeking "Long Term Relationship", while at the same time messaging IE profiles. The filter is set up to identify and flag this pattern so that users can block profiles that, "Message others for IE", even if they are not being up front about it in their profile.
That would mean that someone is reading your emails!
No it wouldn't, this feature was requested by users years ago, it's set up so that it isn't triggered by the occasional message sent by mistake, but by a habitual pattern of those wishing to find a loop-hole through the IE filter.
it's as late says...but, i wouldn't be surprised if there aren't certain word filters set up (say, that recognize words like "lick", "fvck", "69", etc.) that recognize terms in a sexual come-on. and those are perceived as "seeking sex".
I think this is a great feature to have if you don't want to be approached by someone who is contacting others for sex. Every dating site should have it!
So 'one time' you contact someone that that has their profie set to 'intimate encounter' and you are barred for LIFE from contacting someone that 'does not want an intiamte encounter'. WOW .. is this true?
So 'one time' you contact someone that that has their profie set to 'intimate encounter' and you are barred for LIFE from contacting someone that 'does not want an intiamte encounter'. WOW .. is this true?
Exerpt from message #3 in this very thread....
No... it's set up so that it isn't triggered by the occasional message sent by mistake, but by a habitual pattern...
flag is waved after more than one and or a behaviour pattern....but no-one sure how many, apart from admin or those in the know...poss the three strike rule , i dunno
there is no member remedy to resolve apart from deleting your account and being a little more wary to whom you send a message.....even if its just a complimentary message.
So 'one time' you contact someone that that has their profie set to 'intimate encounter' and you are barred for LIFE from contacting someone that 'does not want an intiamte encounter'. WOW .. is this true?
Top of this forum is a FAQ thread - utilize it for most Q/A's
Excerpt from the relevant section to follow:
There are two Intimate Encounter contact restriction settings. Both can be turned on in your Mail Settings
Block users from making first contact that have messaged others for sex or intimate encounters. Set by the system based on your contact patterns AND enabled by the User
Your profile will be flagged, if you REPEATEDLY send FIRST CONTACT emails to members who are SEEKING AN INTIMATE ENCOUNTER in their profile. The key is "repeatedly", not once or twice, but a definite pattern of contacting members first, who are looking for an Intimate Encounter. See also POF MAIL: Probably No Difference Between Seeking IE or Other Relationship
If someone checks the box beside the following, at the Top of their Mail Settings, that says:
Block users from making first contact that have messaged others for sex or intimate encounters.
... and you have sent repeated first contact emails to users who are seeking an IE, you will then be blocked from sending them emails.
If you claim that you don't think or don't know of any users that you have contacted first that are seeking an IE, Click HERE, to refresh your memory. Be aware, that members may not register on your contact history if they have left the site or are hidden, so it's not proof positive if they don't exist ( in the link provided) or that you haven't contacted an IE seeker in the past. Members come and go on a daily basis.
Will you get flagged if someone who is seeking an Intimate Encounter, CONTACTS YOU FIRST, and you reply? - NO
Can you get this flag reset? - NO
Will you be notified that the email has not been sent? - NO
Must Not Be Seeking an Intimate Encounter Based Upon what you State in your profile AND enabled by the User
Simply disallows a user, who in their profile is seeking an Intimate Encounter, from contacting another user who has chosen to not accept emails from people looking for such an encounter via the Relationship restriction settings at the bottom of their Mail Settings
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