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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:13:13 PM | How do you define yours?
When are you at your happiest?
Who or what makes you happy and why?
Do you think as a nation we are happier now or less happy than our parents were?
Depression in teens is on the increase why do you think that is?
i thread searched for both Happiness and Personal Happiness and couldnt find anything that is asking what I am in the uk forums. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:25:29 PM | | my daughter (when i see her) going to Tottenham matches & wrestling events make me happy.
ppl suffering from depression can be plenty of reasons for teenagers. gotta get the latest fashion, bullys, harder to get work, encouraged to try new things like drugs, theres many reasons | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:42:51 PM | It's no surprise that teen depression is on the rise. Our values are out of whack. They've been conditioned to believe self-worth comes from fame, bodily perfection and material wealth, but these things are beyond the reach of the average teenager so they always feel like failures.
Hard work, academic success and good deeds, however, are achievable for young people, but these ethics carry little value in our shallow society. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:51:52 PM | Im happiest when Im with my granddaughter taking her out and treating her. I like my work too so I get satisfaction from that.
The teenage years are full of anxieties for lots of people. I remember how insecure I was as a youngster and the pressures are greater these days. I wouldnt like to be a teenager today. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:53:57 PM | Excellent thread and a very good question. People in our country have mobiles, cars, houses stuffed full of consumer goods, holidays and they're still not happy. So why?
<div class="quote">It's no surprise that teen depression is on the rise. Our values are out of whack. They've been conditioned to believe self-worth comes from fame, bodily perfection and material wealth, but these things are beyond the reach of the average teenager so they always feel like failures.Spot on. People saying have dreams is good but i disagree i think you should have achievable goals. When I was 19 my goal was to have a fiat uno and I achieved it, making me happy. Other friends were dreaming of a ferrari or merc and still haven't achieved it. So they will not be happy maybe until they retire and by then they'll realise their lifetime dream wasn't really as great as they imagined, thus making them depressed again. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 1:58:07 PM | I define my own happiness as being pleased with the things in mylife that are going well, and feeling I'm doing something about the rest. Happiness seems to be something many people expect to happen to them, for me it is something you achieve for yourself.
There isn't an individual thing that I can say can bring me happiness, it relies on a number of things, though I'd say my children's happiness and prospects are key... boring an answer as that may be!
Not onlyis that true because I care for their happiness so much, but also because feeling I am doing my best by the responsibilities I have is important to my self respect and therefore my happiness.
Human nature and I suppose that 'suvival of the fittest' competitive instinct means that we all feel there is always something that would add to our happiness, I don't think we're more or less happy than our parents, though in general we expect a higher standard of living which on the face of things seems to mean we are more materialistic in how we measure our happiness. Having said that, I was ridiculously hard up when my children were small, but they still made me very happy.
I think that the higher standard of living, the idolisation of glamour does perhaps raise teenager's expectations of things coming easy. Teenager peer pressure is all about being seen to be living the best of an adult lifestyle as they perceive it. They don't necessarily have the emotional maturity to cope with that, and it can mean they opt to miss out on a part of their childhood in which valuable life lessons and coping mechanisms are learned.
It seems harder to get them to take pride in really earning what they want, and having the faith in themselves to take a risk and push themselves even though it will be hard and they might lose face. With self esteem being important to my happiness, and teenagers in general not earning so much of what they get, I do wonder how much of that is to blame. There are so many factors, and none of them will be true in every case. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:11:09 PM | I am happy when I have just been paid, my roots are done, both my girls are at home, I have vodka, clean sheets on my bed, my till adds up, the cat has not killed anything, my neighbours are out, Desperate Housewives is on, my eyes focus properly so I dont think I need specs and I have a fridge full of milk. Who says I need a man?  | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:14:58 PM | | have to agree with sjxx - when the roots are done I am very happy indeed, happy at work, happier at home with my boy, G&T optional but always good though cup of tea often enough just to make me think life is very good indeed | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:30:19 PM | no-one is happy all the time my philosophy in life is never regret anything that makes you smile  kids today are under so much pressure with the way they look, peer pressure, in citys its survival of the fittest gangs fighting each other not that its any worse than decades ago its just more t.v. coverage that makes people think we are living in hell holes | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:34:50 PM | I'm probably older than your parents and I do think we were happier. We lived under happier conditions because, economic survival was easier, the world was more open and easier to get around.
Here in the UK the bean counters have taken over to the detriment of healthcare, education, social services, the environment which our leaders are now interested in, if it's a vote winner. The government are proven liars and cheats so faith in the political system has almost completely disappeared. They are nearly all career politicians, that is looking to help themselves not the country.
As Bob Dylan said "It ain't dark but it's getting there."
Now it wasn't all love and peace when I was young but it generally seemed easier and when I was your age there was a brief period when it seemed the world could change for the better. Maybe it's not too late, lets hope not as I have grandchildren. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 2:34:51 PM | How do you define yours?
Its a feeling. Over indulgence destroys its possibilities, under indulgence likewise. Balance in seeking it, holds it well. Having learned to appreciate that even some of the things I think of as not liking, when I come to look back at I may feel differently about after, or even once I start, and others are simply apart of the things I do. In short I suppose I define it by the experience of it. Which I either will or I wont.
When are you at your happiest?
Who or what makes you happy and why?
Are these two questions not the same, seen from a different point? :)
When I am doing a spot of sparring and things have to that point where thinking is too slow and I for want of a better wording, feel connected to something, aware somehow. But not of anything inparticular other than everything about me. Its far to much and yet too simple a thing to explain. Its not about conflict its about peace.
A particular view, a sunset perhaps.
When Im just being daft and flirting.
When Im solving some problem that isnt straight forward.
When I let my imagination run wild and concoct all kinds of wonderous things and inventions - probably to learn its already done or completely daft.
When I get one of those wonderful conversations about ... well all kinds of things - often spiritual, metaphysical. Sometimes becoming something of a debate and othertimes the same thing being said from a different point of perspective too lol.
When Im lost in and enjoying a good book.
When I get into some work and I can see the results of what I have done and often feel quite exhausted after.
When things are working well in my life overall.
And when I take a moment to appreciate the hows the whys it came to be.
The usual sorts of things really, and by no means exhaustive.
Some I seek more than others. Others were greater pleasures at some point but not as great now.
Do you think as a nation we are happier now or less happy than our parents were?
I dont know, how can I answer this if really its beyond me to know. Our parents? whose?
Mine? Well at some moments yes others, perhaps not. I know it wasnt always plain sailing for them, but I know it was never deviod of the full spectrum of feelings.
Depression in teens is on the increase why do you think that is?
Is this true, or this just how it has come to appear? With out a lot of looking at both elements its impossible to say. Do we simply pay more attention to such things now? Do we meddle with it more now than before? Have we set out to make it so, more now? Has it become more lucrative for people to make it seem, or to share their beliefs as to how it is this way? A few questions ... I'll bet there are more. You ask a question beyond a reasonable scope, and worthy of a forum of research in and of its self. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 9:53:47 PM | some thought provoking things thanks im going to reply properly later as ive been up half the night with my little girl being sick shes sleeping now so ive got the wash on and a coffee , i think Lily makes me happiest seeing her smiley face when she jumps on my bed first thing in the morning sets my day off to a great start
apart from that a nice ride out in the country on a bike some good times with friends or a decent holiday make me happy | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 11:06:31 PM | Life makes me happy , at this stage of my life i have food,enough money to pay all the bills evey month,good friends, the kids are grown they have never brought trouble to my door.May be i am just one of lifes happy people ....... | |
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Posted: 8/12/2009 11:44:15 PM | | Blue Skies, laughter (regardless of who's doin it), and personal achievement make me happy. As does my cat | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 12:57:35 AM | i don't know any depressed teenagers ... the people i know are as happy now as they have always been ... the world has changed a lot in my lifetime but i'm not sure that people have ...
the things that have always been important are still important now .. spending time with family and friends ...
things that personally make me happy .... my children (obviously) ... a good movie, dr pepper chilled in the fridge, chocolate and snogging .... | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 1:20:04 AM | | It's the tranny of comparison again. Some people suffer from it, others don't. I don't think you can teach people not to compare themselves against others; rather, it's something you learn over time as the key to enjoying what you've got. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 1:48:24 AM | | Black Bank account, Clean house, Clean sheets, Good film Ice Cold Cider, a text from out of the blue. Thats enough for me! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 2:06:01 AM | | Agreed, it was a great question. Think for me being happy is being content with whats happening in my world at that time, all the plates are spinning nicely. But you make a good point about your child, it doesnt matter how bad a day you have, the second you see your kid smile or look at her all the worlds worries go out the window for that second. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 7:32:00 AM | I don’t think as a nation we are happier. I think past generations were more grateful for what they had because there was so little you could have in comparison to now.
I have a saying for it, it’s called a “McLife”. Everybody wants everything now, not yesterday and they are not prepared to wait or earn it, they just want it, and when they get it they want something else. When was the last time you saw someone get something that they valued and kept. Its only the greatest thing ever until the new iPhone comes out, and then they got to have that instead. So depression in kids, he has the new iphone and I don’t.
Being truly happy has to be about having people in life who love you, not kiss on both cheeks stuff. Having people around you who value you, respect you and you them.
So when am i at my happiest…when he puts his arms around me and tells me he loves me. My greatest achievement in life and always will be. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 7:52:32 AM | I'm happy when I'm miserable.
...And happiest when I see some other so and so suffer. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 8:01:12 AM | | Whenever my kids are around me i'm at my happiest, nothing else seems to matter. Other than that it would have to be driving to the airport to get out of this dump for a week or two. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 8:22:29 AM | There are many sorts of personal happiness, for each of us different...
Hobbies - Flying in a glider upside down whooping for sheer joy! How lucky am I? Moments in my life which are sheer adrenaline, moments of bliss like swimming in a clear blue ocean, diving under the ocean, swimming with the fish and living in the moment, knowing that moment is so golden you must try to capture it in your memory for ever!
Normal life - savouring the taste of a white chocolate milky bar dessert, eating each mouthful with a tiny spoon, really slowly to make it last. ... the sensual delight of really lovely food, especially when you are hungry and eating in lovely surroundings.
Professionally - the look on someone's face when the penny drops and they know how to do something you've taught them, maybe it saves them time, maybe it makes their job less stressful, maybe it shows them a different way to do something, this is rewarding and makes me happy.
Personal - A first kiss with someone delicious, full of promise - no matter what happens later that moment can be laced with with happiness when you feel so fluffy and optomistic.
Fulfillment and Contentment - A long time ago, holding my first baby in my arms and feeding him, feeling absolutely full to the brim with happiness, amazed at the life I'd created. Fulfilled, happy. Seeing him now, grown up and handsome, brings back that pride and love and sense of a job well done.
I think we're no more or less happy as a nation than we ever were - my parents were happy and they passed that ability to recognise and seek out happiness on to me. But as a previous poster has said, life's about highs and lows, you have to survive the lows and enjoy the highs!
My teenage daughter isn't so happy though, seems to be anxious and highly strung so I hope that IS just because she's a teenager and that she'll settle down as she gets older. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 9:26:19 AM |
How do you define yours?
My happiness is defined by my attitude and outlook I have on life.
Do you think as a nation we are happier now or less happy than our parents were?
Imo It's non comparable to other generations but rather individuals.
You can have two people both with the same problem but with different attitudes and a different outlook on the problem yet one will be more unhappier than the other.
Depression in teens is on the increase why do you think that is?
It's probably always been there but described in less severe terms such as 'moody teens' ............we live in a society now where parents and professionals alike all too readily diagnose kids and want to pigeon hole them , I.e a naughty child is written off as having ADHD etc. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 10:04:33 AM | I seem to loose weight when i stress and cry alot, say when i am unhappy with my romantic situation. I almost want something to worry about, but i also want to feel happy..
damn crux | |
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