| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/12/2009 6:24:18 PM | just curious how many of the single parents here are done having kids, an has it impacted your ability to date; i.e. do some men or women pass on you because you dont want anymore children.
alot of my male and female friends have come to the conclusion they are done having kids and have told me its hard to find potential long term dates because of the fact they have no interest in having more children | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/12/2009 6:46:49 PM | | I have one child and would love to have one more. In my experience, I have had to pass up on men that were definitely dead set against having more children and have had a struggle seeing myself seriously dating anyone that was apathatic when the discussion of having children came up. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/12/2009 6:48:27 PM | From the moment I saw my daughter I knew I wanted another child.
It never affected my ability to date and shortly after my daughter turned 2 I was married. (April 2009) we are trying to conceive and have been for the past 6 months.  | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:09:08 PM | Perhaps I shouldn't even be responding, because obviously my days of baby making have long passed...
HOWEVER when I was single at 36, I considered it an open option, at least one I would consider... If a guy was done with the baby making thing, that was ok as well, since I had three kids, with the two older ones late in their teens...
One thing that DID annoy me was men asking what happened with my youngest who was 5 at the time... I would ask what exactly they meant, and they would say, was he an OOPS baby??? WTFRICK????
NO, he was not an oops, and how rude...LOL...
My SO, fiance' had his plumbing whacked after his son was born... He was in his later 20's when he did that, and I think for him he didn't look back as to wanting to bring any other babies into the world... I don't know if that affected his dating life in his 30's, but sometimes some people don't feel they got the right kind of training to be a good parent... | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:21:54 PM | | I am not done. I have two but have always wanted at least 3, possibly 4. Actually it affects me dating because a lot of men that are my age or older are done. Or if they have kids that are a bit older they dont want to revisit the diaper and no sleep stage. Mine are older, 9 and 13, and I still cant wait for that stage again!!! | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:41:12 PM | | I want more but I also don't want to have kids later in life. I think by the time I meet someone and settle down and get married I'll be past the age I want to stop at. I'm very happy with the one I have so I don't think i'll be missing out on much. I always wanted a little boy and thats what I got. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/13/2009 2:32:30 AM | I'm open minded to the prospect.
But, geez, it's not a conversation that comes up often while dating. Usually I'm more consumed by 'Are there going to be more dates?' -- not 'Are there going to be more kids?' :) | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/13/2009 4:23:15 AM | At 45? Yep I'm done making babies... But I only had one and always wished I'd had 2. Then my 16 year old's b/f moved in with us... be careful what you wish for!! 
They are no longer a couple but he is still here, finishing off his last year of school. Sadly,he calls my house home, not his parents place.... | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/13/2009 2:46:46 PM | I am sooooo done! And I MEAN it this time.
In one relationship I compromised and agreed to have one more child. I ended up with TWO more kids... and divorced again.
My last marriage was to someone I had known and dated off and on for many years. When he said me not being able to have more children (tied my tubes) was an issue for him, I pointed out he could have had lots of kids with me if he had been willing to settle down back when I was of prime child-bearing age.
So, yeah, it can pose a problem but it can be overcome. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/13/2009 5:22:06 PM | | I don't think so. Maybe if I got married I'd think about it. But right now if I had to stay single I wouldn't do it again. I just feel like when I get done with school and start my career I would want to devote all my extra time and money to just my son..If I had two incomes (like being married) it may be a little different.. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/13/2009 6:01:10 PM | | Yep I am done....I have 2 and there is absolutely no wish to birth anymore. I have only met one guy that wouldn't date me because I can't have anymore. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 7:56:51 AM | | Have the one surprise, and inspite of him claiming he wants a 'family', I've told him mommy's not having any more babies. I feel that's my duty as a single parent partially on welfare... to not burden the system any further. And even when I complete my degree and am earning big bucks... I'm sure I still won't want any more. {will more than likely be too old for it anyhows} | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:00:07 AM | | I was fortunate to have a girl and then a boy. I am done. I am almost 29 years old, I have a hard enough time with their father helping me with them, I don't want to do it again with someone else. I have just recently come to this conclusion, and have an appointment to ensure I don't have any more children, just in case I have a wavering thought to have more. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:06:39 AM | | What sucks is around here most doctors will not perform the surgery to get your tubes tied unless you have a boy and a girl, or there's a medical reason for it. Some doctors won't do it based on the mom's age too. My friend was 22, had a boy and a girl, and the doctor she went to wouldn't do it because he was afraid she'd regret it and want more kids. She ended up having one more before the doctor agreed to do it. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:09:02 AM | | ^^^^^ My doctor refused to perform the surgery from the time I was 21 until 26. I finally told him that if he didn't do it then I'm sure I could find a doctor that would gladly take my money. i had NO children. I was a week late though. lol. Got a positive on my pre-op blood work and had my little girl 9 months later. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 9:26:35 AM | | Of course getting your tubes tied doesn't always work. My sister had that done and still had 2 kids afterwards. One was because they just became untied, the other was planned. Of course she had the surgery probably about 13 years ago, so maybe they do it better nowadays or something, LOL | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 10:43:00 AM | | I want another one. Actually, I wanted four until I had my daughter, then I decided two was enough. I would be open to three, but I honestly don't know if I can handle four. I would hope that if I decided to date again, that wouldn't be a problem, but everyone I've talked to that had an interest in more children, or children of their own. Who knows. I do think that could be a big issue, though, between single parents that want one thing, and their significant other wants completely the opposite. Well, duh, I guess that's restating the obvious. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:13:18 PM | | I dont want anymore kids .I have 4 wonderful girls and they are my life.they come first before me. And the sad thing is i cant find anyone who will date me cause of my kids or for the fact i cant and wont have anymore.I dont care if he has any kids ,why should i its not right to dump someone or tell them once u meet that ur sorry its because of the kids. Iunderstand its alot for someone to take on,but at least tell the truth .Dont just say nothing.Its so hard for me to find someone .Once i tell them i have kids or they meet them they quite talking to me or never come back. Or the big one ask me when i will have sex with them and when i tell them not in to i feel like im ready for that step in our relationship they are going . Nada [ nothing] I would like to know why tell someone u want to be with them and because of kids leave . why? | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:22:51 PM |
Of course getting your tubes tied doesn't always work. My sister had that done and still had 2 kids afterwards. One was because they just became untied, the other was planned. Of course she had the surgery probably about 13 years ago, so maybe they do it better nowadays or something, LOL
Or she never really had the surgery. Just saying. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:23:15 PM | I once thought of having more for my new relationship sence my tubes are just tied ,but i dont want to take the chance of being a single mom again. And me and my girls arent alone bye choice theyre dad got deported 2 and half years ago and my 3yr old doesnt know him .only for the phone. Idont want to see my girls hurt and crying again and so depressed for not having theyre daddy .They still would like to have one.My girls are ages 13,8,7 and 3. Im 30 yrs old all my friend s say give it time,well ive been waiting to find someone on here and else where. I dont believe it will happen for the fact i get told i have to many kids by almost every guy i talk to here.
for the rest of u Good luck ,i hope its better for u then me.I mean it , itruely wish everyone the best of luck. | |
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| do you want more kids or are you done
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:26:40 PM | | I guess it does . I havent had any problem yet. thank god. But my doctor told me when i was ready for more just let her know. | |
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