| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/12/2009 11:41:43 PM | | I've been going to the university for the past year now and I know you all have college stories that just blow our minds. Not me, I haven't met a single girl I clicked with on a campus sprawling with a 5:1 female-male ratio among 15,000 students. My major is full of girls and I'm usually 1 of 4 guys in the entire classroom. But I try talking to a girl and I'm already in the red because they're all thinking "Why's there a dude in OUR major?" I guess I should've taken Social Sciences instead. My question is, did you date more guys/girls while in college than before or after college? I feel like I'm missing out on a big part of the college experience, but if there's better days after college then I'm gonna slide on through and go for post-college romances instead. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 12:24:58 AM | Its all about mindset, By thinking that your allready in the red you set yourself up for failure.
I am curious what your major is, I have yet to hear of the Faculty of Emasculation.
Its just like any other social gathering You have to make friends interact with the ladies and be bold in your search for a relationship. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 6:27:34 AM | Dating in post secondary is probably like anything else--it depends on the circles you are in. You can have a completely different experience depending on what groups you hang out with. Have you tried dating outside of your class? Might be a good idea. :)
I didn't date much--I was more in to long relationships and never dated any from either post secondary school I went to. Probably because I didn't invest the time in to it. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 6:35:39 AM | OP.
Meeting girls in classes is not the way to go. It's a very standoffish atmosphere, and a lot of people are either focussed or not in a good mood while in class.
What I suggest you do is join an extracurricular or two, or even look at going Greek.
Honestly, parties are where it's at. Most people are pretty spineless with meeting people - even if they're the ones in the passive role. Alchohol is a great social lubricant.
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 7:22:10 AM | Don't feel like you HAVE to be having all of your dating experiences in college. You should be focusing on COLLEGE, not girls! If a girl comes along in college, fine. If not, fine too!! We all date at our own rates. You know, there is a lot more to college experiences than the opposite sex. You've got friends, get-togethers, being on your own, more freedom, etc. JUST ENJOY IT WHILE IT LASTS.
And to answer your question, I would have to say that I DID date more in college. But it wasn't like I was actually searching for someone. Stop looking, and your girl will come. It's as simple as that. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 8:00:37 AM | I'm in school now and I understand the whole low dates issue, seems like allot of women aren't into the conventional type thing which I can't blame them for. I haven't had too many dates myself but you know I have found the more you care about you class or major and pay little to no attention to dating and ish; the sooner you find someone that might be smitten and taken back by your non abrasive attitude. Granted you must still be a bit flirtty at times but all and all do you and women will come just enjoy this part of your life and look back in glee  | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 8:08:18 AM | | Yes, college is dating central. Enjoy it while you can, because once you leave, you meet about 1/100 the amount of people in a year. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:15:21 AM | Three words = live in residence
I didn't date at all in college. For me it was about partying, doing things I shouldn't do and oh yeah, getting that pesky diploma 
Don't stress so much about it and don't be so focused on meeting someone to date. Let it happen if it's going to happen. Just enjoy your college/university experience. There is plenty of time afterwards to get serious. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 3:46:35 PM | Think of college as an all you can eat buffet. Sample it all.
My social life in my 30's is great. But I still don't have half naked coeds getting drunk and jumping in bed with me just because "it's Tuesday".
Seriously, you will meet more ladies at college than you will in post grad life. It's just a numbers game. Take advantage of your education. All facets of that education. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 4:51:16 PM | I'm going back to school this fall, and my courses are going to be 7 : 1, guys to girls. Ask me that question at Christmas time  | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 5:07:00 PM | No, no... no. There aren't better days after college. This is the time to meet someone. Just keep being social, and get out there. Don't have any expectations, that's when things happen. When you put pressure on people or appear desperate they run for the hills. Just be cool and have fun.
Oh and don't judge others... that makes you bitter.
You do not want to be on this site 15 years from now..... trust me on this one. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 5:16:50 PM | what a better way to meet people. :)
Don't have any expectations, that's when things happen. When you put pressure on people or appear desperate they run for the hills. Just be cool and have fun. quite true! | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 6:09:28 PM | there's a date central? I always thought there were a couple individual date stations, but I never thought there could be a central hub.
anyways, it all depends on who you are and whether or not the girls at your college are interested. unfortunately, I can reasonably affirm that I'm not that attractive of a man, and that most of the girls on my college campus are either taken or too busy trying not to fail their classes (and with another tuition hike, I can understand why).
as for the dating scene on other college campuses, I can't say, but I highly doubt it. really, anywhere can be a date central if enough people can hook up there. gay bars, klan rallies, the infamous Larry Craig stall at the Minneapolis-St. Paul International airport, and so on. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 7:25:23 PM | I took college as seriously as I took high school. Until my senior year in college. I was still taking 22 units (my counselor and I fought over ths every year, but I had two double majors, and one minor that I wanted all finished within 4 years, and I did it!), but I met a guy who made me decide to try the whole dating scene. Funny thing,was I never had the courage to date him, just everyone else!   | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 9:05:52 PM | in my experience, dating in college is easier than any other period of time you date; you have a huge number of available women in one area, an since it's a educational/ social environment the women pretty much expect to be approached.
its good if you just commute and better if you live on campus; why do you think so many dudes who DON'T attend said college hang around all the time, cus it's a buffet of diff kinds of women and endless opp to introduce yourself to them.
most people i know find dating out of college harder than dating in college | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/13/2009 9:11:24 PM | | Well its the most ladies you'll ever meet in one place, but "dating" in the traditional sense doesn't really happen a lot at most colleges | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/14/2009 9:39:48 AM | My university had a 9:1 girl:guy ratio.... same situation as yours OP, there were about 4 guys in my program, mixed in with all us girls. Whether they ever were interested in any of us, we'll never know but by the time we finished our degrees, those boys were just as much "one of the girls" as any of the girls were! Hell, we even invited them out to ladies night.
The same might be true of your situation. College can be a haven for dating, but look outside your program :)
-L | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/14/2009 11:45:47 AM | Is college really date central?
Yes. Get out there. Join clubs. Attend sporting events. Get involved.
unless you attend an all male college. Then....well....can't help ya. | |
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| Is college really date central?
Posted: 8/14/2009 12:04:39 PM | | College was hook up central...NO ONE dated. Everyone just got wasted and made bad drunken decisions | |
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