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Posted: 8/13/2009 3:38:39 PM | Plenty of Fish is more like Plenty of Fail
I've been on here for several months and nothing ever happened, ever. After sending out countless emails and getting virtually no responses, I think it's time to cut the bullshit.
Of course, most of the girls on here my age are just attention whores so its no surprise.
I know that I'm a "good guy", not looking for sex or hook ups. Just wanting to have a nice stable relationship, and yet so many people on here claim that they want the same thing, but are obviously too stupid and full of themselves to see the good guy right in front of them.
It really sucks when on one recognizes your qualities and instead they only go after low-lifes and losers. Then again, POF is a very unbalanced with the gender role to begin with, but this isn't unique to POF, this is online dating in general.
To all the girls who claimed they were looking for a good guy, you lost your chance. Good luck with dating the idiot who won't pay for your child support after he knocks you up.
Time to leave Plenty of Fail behind and take my chances with the real world, if anything ever comes my way. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 4:12:13 PM | | its fails because alot of people on here arnt really honest about themselves and the woman are bad for not communicating and thats why it failes on so many level and theres to much divorced woman and single mums on the site and alot of woman are players as well they guys it goes both ways | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 1:27:49 PM | Good point OP although I think it does apply to women AND men.All it seems that most women want are the "good looking, wide boy, full of themselves,****" types, who like you say will more than likely be gone out the door if the women got pregnant or asked for commitment.Us genuine guys, DON'T get a look in cos we are "not good lucking and we are honest, caring reliable etc, but maybe a little boring!"....I've been in here (on and off) for about 3 years in total now and have had ONE first date in 3 years!!I know I'm not good looking but I know that I am a good, genuine person and would be a good catch for someone if only there were prepared to look further than my pic.
Anyway, after all that, its 3 years and out, cos I've had enough of endless "read deletes" and only ever getting messages from ladies 10 years or more older than me and living miles away.
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Posted: 9/13/2009 11:54:44 AM | Yes, I have to agree, this site really should change its name to "Plenty of Failures", since that is what the majority of those on here seem to be. Failures at communicating; failures at relationships; failures at achieving a level of maturity beyond that of a fourteen-year-old.
After a couple of years of futility trying to communicate with people who are, essentially, emotional sponges, I've had enough. (Of course, it helps that I've met an amazing woman. NOT through this pathetic site, as if that could ever happen!!!) Even with the annoyance of dealing with emotional retards, I still found this site entertaining for the forums, but now they've pretty well ruined even that, since they've removed all the really good topics and only allow discussions on the most inane subject matter. It's like tuning into "The Lawrence Welk Show" when you really want to hear some heavy metal!
So, goodbye to all the ego-junkies and assorted losers on here. Have fun in your little fantasy world, pretending that all those guys who put you on their "Favorites" lists really do want a REAL relationship. I'm sure they're just as sincere as you are.  Good luck with THAT!
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Posted: 9/14/2009 10:06:56 AM | Most of the women on this site are not looking for "a good guy" but they are looking for the perfect guy "handsome, young, rich"(well you know the story...), they don't give a shit about your personality and if you are nice or not...
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Posted: 9/16/2009 12:33:14 PM | Most of the women on this site are not looking for "a good guy" but they are looking for the perfect guy "handsome, young, rich"(well you know the story...), they don't give a shit about your personality and if you are nice or not...
I agree with this 100%, I was thinking the same thing.. The women on here are full of sh****t.... | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 4:40:32 PM |
Of course, most of the girls on here my age are just attention whores so its no surprise.
OP... sorry to see you leave but to call other women on here all whores is not a fair statement to make....remember, you get this type of treatment in the outside world too, it's not restricted to dating sites.
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Posted: 9/24/2009 1:17:21 AM | The problem stems from the website being free for everyone. Women aren't communicating because they made no initial commitment to join. Most came on here bored to browse around and read all the self-esteem boosting messages they get on POF.
If you want websites that work you have to go to paid dating websites . People are much more serious there which makes it much easier to meet genuine people. I still stick around POF for the heck of it but I've had much better luck on paid websites. There's a lot of third party reviewer sites out there to help you choose. Let me know if any of you need help... | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 1:26:43 PM | Much of the original O.P's comments i can agree with. Been here over a year myself and always took care to message women with things in common nd to write in a nice friendly manner. The result is mostly read/deleted or even unread/deleted. The local ones are the worst, (far too close i guess for comfort, it likely gives em the creeps)
I feel the majority are looking for that perfect pin up to come along when in reality it aint going to happen. Also most are window shoppers, they say who they are looking for in a profile when really they are not and have little intention of taking up with anyone. Maybe they get off on seeing how much attention they can attract.
The wise owls on these forums will tell you to change this and change that in your profile but in reality you can change it around six times over a year and the results will be much the same. I'm not a bitter moaner, disappointed yes, and simply telling it how it is. Of course there will be exceptions, some will be lucky aren't there always. I have seen many comments that the pay sites are very similar, and some have fake profiles and messages to get folk to pay up.
You can be out and about in town and from time to time someone will walk past and give you the eye or a passing smile and yet on here, nothing, no interest. I guess that's the difference between the real world and the online one. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2009 7:57:04 PM | It seems like the latest thing to do here is an ego boost...some people need lives not attention in a site where a geniune person is like hitting the state lottery.
But then again that is a good thing because while these characters here are deleting countless messages while drinking their chocolate milk, the real people are out there having a good time and you can too. You can't let this site get the best of you because it's just a site. I'm pretty sure you posters who are geniune people have a life out there and it's time to embrace that. I always have a golden rule at my job to keep it professional but I started 'bending' that rule and sure enough I been going out on dates with clients either casual or intimate. I say use your sources (laundry Mat, work, grocery store, school etc).
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Posted: 10/3/2009 1:30:29 PM | I can't believe most of the coments I am reading on here. Com'on boys, it sounds almost as though you want to crucify all women. Put us up on a cross or something and nail us all with a spear why don't you. It is always hard to see the other side of the coin isn't it?
Boys I will not try to deny that there are some evil-seeming self absorbed women out there. One of my good friends was torn apart by one. He has never been the same since. But being men, I doubt you all go out on a date with other men to see how things can appear from the other side. There are some really mean men out there too. People in general.
How many men come on here and ask me right away, how big are your boobs? Of course I am not going to carry on a conversation with you. I remember talking to a man on here over a year ago. We spoke online for about a month and then agreed to meet. When he saw me he actually ran away. It is quite embaressing and not something I like to talk about.
All I am trying to say is that women are not the only people who want something perfect. If you are not beautiful like a swimsuit model you are often overlooked because there are many women who ARE around. Besides boys. With pesimistic attitudes like I am hearing, if that is how you think of all women, I am sorry to say, I am not suprised you have a hard time finding somebody.
I am a good woman. I know I am. So I like to think that if I am here, there must be a good man out there somewhere too. I am not selfish enough to think I am the only good person left in the world. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2009 2:33:48 PM | If i have a pessimistic attitude on here then it is the women on here who have made me that way. I have heard many comments to the tune of (only on here for the forums), then why bother posting a profile saying who you are looking for, you can do the forums without a full profile.
I stand by my previous comments which are indeed accurate. I never message anyone asking for a date and am happy to have friendship to start but no one wants even friendship and that is after over 12 months on here with various changed profiles. As i said before women on the whole seek mr perfect and he is very unlikely to come along. The photo is lord and master on here but for any succesful relationship you must go beyond that and find a good un as they say and if he is a good looker then that is a bonus.
As for the unsavoury men on here i know they exist and i make no defense of them. There are also plenty of women who treat a nice friendly and pleasant message with utter contempt, read/deleted or often unread/deleted. It won't be sheer weight of messages either as many are still here daily after a long time, so whats that all about then? | |
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Posted: 10/4/2009 8:04:16 PM |
Put us up on a cross or something and nail us all with a spear why don't you
Wow...where is this party going to be at? haha nah I'm messing...
You make some good points "E.F." and that's what is also giving people a hard time looking for someone because of the 'stereotypes' carried on both side. Now I'm not saying all women are like that but at times a geniune person comes around and gets shot down. It's more of the reason in some of these incidents are our defense mechanism going up because we're afraid to get hurt again both in and out of the site. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 11:24:39 PM | Inevitably, when I see a complaint from a guy, I already know what it will say. "I am a good guy" is GUARANTEED! to be in the post.
This site is no different than life. Being a "good guy" won't get you anywhere unless you back it up with more important things. Yes, there ARE more important things. Ideally, no, but realistically, yes. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2009 3:00:40 PM | Ouch, sorry to hear you are so down Lateral 87...
I personally love it here, I get to chat to loads of different people, but it is not always free sailing.... When I first came on PoF I was so excited I found it hard to breath... I did... Now I can chill out a lot more...
But I am getting a bit board with it... Same old same old....
Anyway good luck with whatever it is you are looking for...
Cherie xx
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Posted: 10/7/2009 9:08:18 AM | Interesting thread. I have been here for awhile. I met a few women. Around 5. 1 of them was incredible and actually made me re-think what I thought I was attracted to and enjoyed. The other 4 were definitely not who they pretended to be on the site.
I do find that there are plenty of women on here who probably will only give a chance to someone who is rich, good-looking, and perfect. The flipside of that is that most guys who are presenting themselves that way are lying. But they know what to put in a profile/e-mail to get women to chase them.
I go into times on this site when I am on it daily, then there are times I won't be on here for weeks at a time. My advice is to not really take it too seriously or personal. It is easy to read a profile and think, "This is the one!" When in reality, that person is nothing like she says on her profile so in turn she is not interested in you. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2009 10:29:33 AM | A reply to Erotic Fever. At the age of 21 you seem to have an abundance of knowledge
regarding life. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2009 3:28:24 AM | | I agree. I think people come on here looking for hook ups or something. And people pass up people like me because we're out of the mainstream. As much as people complain, I think those who do come with good intentions don't have an open mind. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2009 11:33:45 AM | Cherie has it right. POF is a E-ticket ride at first, but after awhile it gets boring. I'm still waiting for the guy who is intelligent, open-minded, well-mannered, and has more to talk about than his money and car. There are some guys on this site who fit that description, but I can't be sure because they don't answer when I message. Can't point fingers though; I'm terrible at calling people back, especiallly when I have to tell them I'm not interested.
Hmm... I'll stop complaining before I get flagged for trolling
This is a good place to learn what, exactly, you want in a mate. Once that is determined, perhaps it will be easier to find a partner in the RW? | |
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Posted: 10/17/2009 11:27:42 PM |
I can't be sure because they don't answer when I message
Welcome to my world.
I get the same thing with the ladies here on POF.
After seeing someone who falls into the category, no response what so ever.
I believe that 60% or more of the accounts here are either fake or idle. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2009 1:32:53 AM |
I believe that 60% or more of the accounts here are either fake
Ah, yes..that is correct, and the other 40%...well I can sure answer to this:
I can't be sure because they don't answer when I message
Put up a model photo and say you are a professional , who enjoys cruises. women forget that these type of men don't join free dating sites. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2009 11:35:06 AM | | Paid websites are not the best solution... They are full of spammers and scammers, at least since I joined this site I never had any weird replies from women asking me for money or to look at sexy photos on their personal link... | |
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Posted: 10/23/2009 6:39:36 PM | | who's more more full of themselves, a bunch of people that just happen to refuse do date you, or you for believing all of them should? | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 8:50:45 AM | I don't think anyone here is so arrogant as to believe that they are entitiled to a positive response from anyone they desire. Rather, I think most people are looking for just one or two responses from someone with whom they are compatible. At least I am, anyway.
I have recieved responses from men I thought were right for me, but quickly found they had 4 kids and 4 baby mommas, lack interest in education, show up 30 min for dates, or simply become unreachable. This is very tiring to deal with for sure. I just went ahead and hid my profile. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2009 2:20:09 PM |
Plenty of Fish is more like Plenty of Fail
I've been on here for several months and nothing ever happened, ever. After sending out countless emails and getting virtually no responses, I think it's time to cut the bullshit.
Of course, most of the girls on here my age are just attention whores so its no surprise.
I know that I'm a "good guy", not looking for sex or hook ups. Just wanting to have a nice stable relationship, and yet so many people on here claim that they want the same thing, but are obviously too stupid and full of themselves to see the good guy right in front of them.
It really sucks when on one recognizes your qualities and instead they only go after low-lifes and losers. Then again, POF is a very unbalanced with the gender role to begin with, but this isn't unique to POF, this is online dating in general.
To all the girls who claimed they were looking for a good guy, you lost your chance. Good luck with dating the idiot who won't pay for your child support after he knocks you up.
Time to leave Plenty of Fail behind and take my chances with the real world, if anything ever comes my way.
*done in my best Ali G voice*
Or maybe its cos you is ugly?
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