| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:05:17 PM | | Okay, so I have a group of guy friends that I hang out with on a sort of a regular basis, and we usually have lots of fun, until I start talking to another guy, or some guy calls me. Then they get all freaked out and pissed at me, and if they guy is there is person, they make him feel really uncomfortable. I have never dated any of these guys, so it's not like an old ex boyfriend thing or anything like that. But, it is okay for them to invite girls to the parties I'm at and I have not right to get mad at them, which I don't, I could care less if they bring girls or not, I'm just wondering if that is a normal thing that you guys do, or if my friends are just super crazy, and if it is normal, why would guys do that?? | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:09:11 PM | | I wouldn't say it's normal. I'd wager though that at least one of these guys wants more than just friendship from you. It could be just one that *really* wants more, and the others all know it, or maybe a number of them do (and no, it doesn't change anything just because they're seeing or sleeping with someone other than you). Either that or they're all the jealous boys still working on being men, and it's more of a knee-jerk reaction than anything. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:12:49 PM | | I am not possesive. So does not apply to this guy, so you generalizing didn't work. I am overly trusting if anything, but only because i do not choose to be any humans owner. I only want to be wanted if the wanter wants me. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:20:56 PM | | Because that's how 19 year old males act. If it really bothered you that much, you wouldn't hang out with them. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:21:21 PM |
I'm just wondering if that is a normal thing that you guys do, or if my friends are just super crazy, and if it is normal, why would guys do that??
Let's see. Your "friends" are possessive. Denoting ownership. And what do people own? That's right...objects.
So your "friends" are objectifying you. You are their pet or backburner girl. You serve a specific purpose, and they keep you around fulfilling it by paying you in friendship.
That is one of the many dangers to having friends of the opposite sex.
The whole "we're friendly towards you as payment to keep you around, you've accepted friendship as payment so you have to live up to our rules." And as time goes on you don't really know if they are your friend or not, and it takes more and more rationalizing to believe it.
So
Why are guys so possesive??
The "good" ones generally aren't. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:23:52 PM | Sweetie I am going to explain this using very simple words. Because the answer should be so obvious you could see it from space!
THEY ALL WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!! AND EVERY NON GAY MALE FRIEND YOU HAVE EVER HAD AND EVER WILL IS GOING TO BE THE SAME WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you don't believe me then think about their behavior. All these guys are acting like a jealous EX. We aren't in grade school anymore, there is no such thing as platonic friendship with a guy unless he is already with another girl hotter than you. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:45:12 PM |
THEY ALL WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU!!!!!!!!!! AND EVERY NON GAY MALE FRIEND YOU HAVE EVER HAD AND EVER WILL IS GOING TO BE THE SAME WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
First thing that came to my mind. They're trying to****block your new fella. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:45:41 PM | I'm amazed a WOMAN asked this question.
Why do women demand guys be COMMITTED? Isn't that possessive? So ask your girl friends "why?". | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:11:59 PM | | And yet you still hang out with the same guys lapping up all the attention they give you though right?__________________________ | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:41:37 PM | | Because as guys we have that protective nature about the people we care about and that we find attractive. Whether or not we are in a relationship with them matters zero. We take care of our friends, male or female, when we think they are in any kind of bad situation. It's purely a primal thing. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:44:48 PM | I'm just wondering if that is a normal thing that you guys do, or if my friends are just super crazy,
couple things, not its not normal, if yes they are crazy, but the most important of all?
these men are NOT your friends, you are just another girl they have not had sex with yet...
A guy cant be friends with a girl that he is attracted to, not possible, and its obvious they are...
it doesnt bother you that much, or you wouldnt be "friends" with them, plain and simple.
you like the attention from all your male "friends"...
good luck to you | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:53:39 PM | | Well to say the least, they all probably want something more from you, but every one of them knows they wont get it! I am protective of my lady friends, but damn I wont stand in their way of a bf or a date, thats **** blocking to the extreme. Tell your friends your an adult and you can handle yourself. I was your age two years ago, so I know all about it. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/13/2009 11:58:14 PM | | Male or Female, noone is categorically the same. Its your friends who have a problem with you hanging out with other guys. Possibly they are all competing against you. There are a number of possible reasons, but if this makes you uncomfortable then you should confront them about it. If they can't respect this, then find another group of guy friends. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/14/2009 1:17:41 AM | i have to agree with several of the replys here...if its an issue...why the heck are you bringing guys whom you might want to develope something with into a group of male "friends" who make that guy feel uneasy
...theres no way a new guy is going to be able to get to know you if everytime he asks a personal question he looks around at several other guys glaring at him...if you really want something more from someone besides your pack of man friends...ditch them...or let them know in no uncertain terms that you wont tolerate thier dissing your new guy
...its pretty simple really...you need to make that call since your friends cant or wont let you find someone who might mean more to you than they do...true friends would want you to be happy...maybe you need to re-evaluate your frinds
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/14/2009 1:28:36 AM | Hi Brandi.
They're just being protective. They're concerned about you, you're probably super nice, very cool and maybe a little too trusting perhaps? They just want to see you with a good feller who'll look after you.
A good guy isn't really phased by your male friends unless they're either jerks, or he is.
Maybe talk to them about this. Get some of their input, after all they're friends and it's on your mind. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/14/2009 4:22:52 AM | | Considering your age, 50% of the guys want to sleep with you, the other 50% fantasise about it but probably wouldnt do it. They hang around with you as a friend as they enjoy being near you and any guy moving in to take your time away from them is competition. Guys your age generally follow the "this is my territory" instincts, hell i still do, and dont like other guys moving in on girls they feel strongly for weather thats in a friendship way or something more. Deal with it or get more mature friends as these guys wont stop this behaviour for a few more years yet. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:13:52 AM | This sounds like an episode of the series My Boys.
There is no way in hell you can bring a boyfriend into your group of existing male friends and expect them to turn into instant buddies and experience instant male bonding, unless you start dating professional athletes maybe. If a woman insisted I meet up with a bunch of her Male friends I would prolly end things right there. | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/14/2009 7:10:48 AM | I don't know if I would end things, I might be interested in meeting her male friends.
But yeah, as others have said, if you don't want to be around guys like this, hang out with older ones. They will welcome you warmly  | |
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| Why are guys so possesive??
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:05:12 AM | Okay, so I have a group of guy friends that I hang out with on a sort of a regular basis, and we usually have lots of fun, until I start talking to another guy, or some guy calls me. Then they get all freaked out and pissed at me, and if they guy is there is person, they make him feel really uncomfortable.
Because these guys are not your friends, they're just guys who haven't gotten in your pants YET! but they want to be....
They all want a chance with you, and see outside guys as potentially getting in the way... They will hang on pretending to be your friend but waiting for an opportunity to take it further....
I have never dated any of these guys, so it's not like an old ex boyfriend thing or anything like that. But, it is okay for them to invite girls to the parties I'm at and I have not right to get mad at them, which I don't, I could care less if they bring girls or not, I'm just wondering if that is a normal thing that you guys do, or if my friends are just super crazy, and if it is normal, why would guys do that??
Unusually, you at least noticed it. Often women are oblivious to their male friends trying to make it difficult for any guy who is interested in them. I'd bet 'male friends' ruin many potential relationships...
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