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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:13:48 AM | I'm a guy who thinks Women have it way easier, or just not as hard as Men do when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, Boyfriend/Girlfriend, etc. Does anyone else have to agree with that?
The reason why is because it's easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend. Because all the time it is the Guy's Initiative to get himself a girlfriend, like the guy has to be the one to make the first move, start a conversation, and ask the girl out, pretty much the Guy has to initiate everything, all the Girl has to do is approve of the date and relationship, she just has to accept or decline. Girls get a boyfriend or a date just standing still, doing nothing. I know it's tradition, thats the way it has always been, the guy initiating the date and relationship, and unfortuneately for the shy guys, thats the way it is always going to be. I hate it when women complain by saying they have dating and relationships harder than men, or just as hard, those women have got it so wrong. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:22:56 AM | I think it depends on what type of guy someone is looking for and where you happen to live. If you live in a place where what you are looking for is literally like looking for a needle in a haystack, then it doesn't really matter what gender you are.
Besides that, I think either gender can easily "get someone". It's a matter of getting someone that you would actually want to have a relationship with that's the trick. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 3:07:11 AM | drrrruuuuu! Stop saying never....that is just not true. Girls, women, females do take the initiative and more so in todays world but a lot of times guys...don't like it and consider her too aggressive.
It is not because society has declared men be the aggressors...that is the personal makeup of men in general.
And sorry dear but many females are without boyfriends or dates without having that choice. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 3:34:56 AM |
girls never approach unspectacular guys
fixed.
Mate women approach hot men just like men flock at hot women, go to a few nightclubs, open your eyes and you can watch it happen.
The trick is regular Joes often have to do the chasing, and regular Janes often don't receive the dreamy eyes supermodel cheerleaders tend to get, which is a little like saying, Yeah you'll do (and I don't think they really like it).
It takes time, maturity, confidence and comfortability to get over our superficial selves, some never need to, some never do.
Also keep in mind average lookers one day may be hot lookers in a few years. A lot of people also find out to their dismay that hot looks can fade conversely with years, too. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 3:48:33 AM | Girls have it easier???? Another guy with a vivid imagination! 
I pursue guys if I'm interested and initiate. From my experiences, it's very difficult to meet decent guys...ones who aren't liars, cheaters, or players. Whew, taking a break from all that at the moment. Women get told "oh I'm different, I'm a great guy". LOL yeah ok! When I'm told that I just smile to myself. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 4:15:36 AM | Funny isn't it how we all have different perspectives of dating.
I used to think that GUYS had it so much easier than Women when it came to Love, Dating and Relationships. Women used to wait for guys to initiate conversation and make the first move and ask women out ..... and we had to wait and wait and wait till he finally decided to initiate ANYTHING...... Women had it so Hard , How do we get Those gorgeous shy guys to come and talk to us.
Then.......... I realized I didn't have to wait and wait and wait and could make the first move  and start a conversation it changed everything LOL
I hate it when men complain! and get it so wrong!  | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 5:09:53 AM | Women can easily find a man to have SEX with, that is true, with one phone call about any woman on this site can find a man to hop in his vehicle for a one-nighter. But women aren't about all that. We want a man who is more about what we offer physically and is interested in who we really are. Men always complain that women are complex, complicated creatures, but honestly do you want a blow-up doll? Wouldn't you rather find a well-rounded woman who can stimulate your mind as well as your body?
As for the above poster who made the comment about all the extremely hot chicks getting picked up first, I had to laugh at that. I am by no means a 10, but I know I am attractive. I used to hang out with this woman who by all standards WAS a 10. Blonde hair, icy blue eyes, figure to die for, tall, size 4. We would go out to clubs together all the time, and she got the looks alright, she dressed like a stripper to be honest. I dressed well, accentuated my best features of course, and really never felt like we were in competition. But invariably, I got asked to dance more often, got more drinks bought and sent to me, and was generally approached more often than she was. Why? Most guys were intimidated by her. I asked quite a few guys, who would comment that their buddies thought she was hot, why they didn't ask her to dance, and the answers ranged from "She looks out of their league", to "She may be a bit too wild for them".
How do you explain this to a woman you're friends with? That maybe if she'd tone it down a bit, she'd attract men easier. She dated men from time to time, but even though she was truly beautiful on the outside, she was really insecure and had low self-esteem. In her mind, all she had to offer was her looks. And she worried that when they faded, she would be nothing.
Sad, really. She was a sweet person, with a good heart, who deserved someone who would appreciate her for more than just her face and body.
I haven't heard from her in years, due to me moving and losing touch with her. I wish her well.
Beth | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 5:18:52 AM | | I'm betting a slew of date-less women are wondering what the hell you are talking about. Some people are askers and some people are waiting around to be asked but gender doesn't have much to do with it. Why is it when someone can't get a date with the men/women they want to date, they then decide that all people of that gender are the same and have it better, etc.??? | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 5:33:59 AM | | I am a bit old fashioned. I was always taught that the guy should make the first move. It is not easier for us. We don't know what you are thinking either. I am very honest with anyone that I date. I would appreciate the same. I always wonder if you are really interested or just want to take me to bed. Not that there is anything wrong with sex. I am very healthy that way but I do not want a one night stand. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:37:51 AM | Dude! You are so right here's an example.....
It's early in the night and there are two groups a set of guys and a set of girls....here's how it happens...
Group of Girls (let's say 3)
2 of 3 KNOW they are going out and are going to meet a guy and hook up, whether it be good, bad, or otherwise.....they have made the decision
Group of Guys (let's say 3)
3 of 3 HOPE they are going to meet a girl a hook up....
in this situation women hold all the power....they have it, we want it... | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:55:36 AM |
Seriously, girls have it so much easier, it's like they can get a boyfriend or a date whenever they want to.
Seriously, no it is not easier for them you just think it is easier.
you don't get the point, girls never approach guys and never ask guys out, girls never initiate conversations with guys, that is my point, it's always the guy that does the pursuing and chasing, thats the way it is and the way it is always going to be, unfortuneately.
Wrong again. I have women approach me. I am 100% positive I am not the only male this happens to.
Well it seems like all the time where I live, it is the guy that chases and pursues the girl, and initiates the date and relationship.
Welcome to Mutual of Omaha's Wild Kingdom for this is the way the world works. Grab your helmet and get in the game.
Well I personally like aggressive women, I wonder why other men don't.
How do you know other men do not like aggressive women? I like them. I like them a lot. | |
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| I think Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
Posted: 8/14/2009 9:04:10 AM |
Does anyone else have to agree with that?
No.
The reason why is because it's easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend.
Not really. It's easier to pay a guy with sex to try and get him to stick around. But I would imagine it's really hard to keep a guy around and know that he see's her more than as simply a sex object.
the guy has to be the one to make the first move, start a conversation, and ask the girl out, pretty much the Guy has to initiate everything, all the Girl has to do is approve of the date and relationship
I'd agree with that. But it's not an always thing. A lot of women approach first.
But really I think everyone wants the other to initiate first. Less responsibility and/or commitment that way. More control in the relationship. Less risk involved.
Girls get a boyfriend or a date just standing still, doing nothing.
Depends on how attractive they are.
And think about how harsh on women THAT is. When guys DON'T approach you.
If the prevalent thought is "I don't have to do anything, guys will approach me, look, guys are approaching those girls all the time.." then after a few months and no one approaches...how do you think that feels? You think that is "easier" to deal with?
I hate it when women complain by saying they have dating and relationships harder than men, or just as hard, those women have got it so wrong.
There is where I think you are wrong. I think it is just as difficult for women in dating and relationships, just in some different ways then men.
For example. (traditionally speaking, accepting the process the OP puts forth)
Guys have to deal with constant rejection of approaching so many. They have to show an initial interest, and then after proving their interest they have to reexamine to see if they are still interested, or if they were only interested in what simply drew them there in the first place. If the latter, they have to say "sorry, I thought there was more to you that I'd like or would feel was compatible, I was wrong. Thanks for all the sex." And then has to get over feeling like an Ahole.
Women have to deal with men approaching other women all the time, and them not so much.
Some then have to deal with tons of men approaching. But then they have to be really careful and observant to determine if the guy is genuine, or just really good at faking wanting to bond with her. Because if it's the latter, then "ooops, I'm pregnant and alone..." That's not "easy."
Some have to figure out what is it about them that isn't getting as many approaches as that other girl or as many as they think they should. Blame others, or blame themselves. It can be traumatic with long term consequences trying to rectify the arbitrage.
So
Girls have it a lot easier than Guys when it comes to Love, Dating, Relationships, etc.
is IMO complete BS. Because meaningful healthy Love, Dating, Relationships, etc. aren't "easy" for anyone. There are simply different traumas involved based on socialized different approaches. Which, are changing. Seemingly because people have the opportunity to get away from the trauma's in their genders approach and try the others. | |
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