| | rules of dating multiple girlsPage 1 of 1 | | What are the rules when dating more than one person. I have expressed to all parties involved that I do not want to be involved in a relationship with anyone, at what point and time does it become wrong to continue. I can tell that they want to develop this into something else but I am not in a place right now to take anything further. Do you tell the other women about each other? Do you keep it like a dirty secret? What are the rules? Should you sleep with all of them? Or should you stop their advances? I am not the type of person who normally doesn't have a girlfriend so this is new to me. Please explain how to best handle this. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 11:39:12 AM | Honesty is the key. IMO you can't just say you don't want to be involved in a relationship, you really should let them know you are actively dating/sexually involved with more than just them.
There's a difference... a lot of people don't want "a relationship" but they're not necessarily sleeping with more than one person, ya know? And if you don't make that distinction, you're gonna have some seriously pissed off women in your life.
And if you can tell that (A) they want it to develop into something else, then (B) you do indeed need to stop it, because they aren't going to... see note (A).
If you're honest and they know you're sleeping with other women and still choose to casually date you and/or have sex with you, then I guess they don't mind.
But if they're looking for more, knowing that you're sleeping with other women would most likely make them back off (so you won't have to).
And no, never ever ever tell them who the other women are. Shudder. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 11:40:40 AM | | Be honest that you're seeing other people. And avoid sleeping with any of them. Unless you're completely honest about sleeping with them all and get tested each time you have sex with them before bouncing to the other. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 12:17:32 PM | With all the STD's out there, the rules have changed....hmmm...were there ever any rules??.... Oh well regardless it's more or less common sense...you have to be honest with these women and give them the option of whether or not they want to be an active participant in russian roulette....and yes I am very aware of the protections used to prevent this, but I am also aware (as should you be) that there none 100%proof positive...aside from abstinence!!  | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 1:23:10 PM | | I think it's a better idea to talk to the women you're dating than ask here. Leave it up to them if they want to sleep with you fully knowing you're seeing, and possibly sleeping with, another woman or women. First of all, it seems like it'll create quite a bit of drama if one were to find out about the other(s), secondly, it's not very nice to be dishonest to someone you're dating, especially if it means you could be giving them some sort of STD or STI, and thirdly, it's an a-hole move. | |
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mkc40
| | Joined: 8/3/2009
Msg: 7 | |
| rules of dating multiple girls
Posted: 8/14/2009 1:27:09 PM | OP,
If you haven't agreed to exclusivety with any of these women, then don't worry about it. I prefer to date someone who isn't sleeping around, but I can ask questions. If you are asked, don't lie about it. Have fun dating!
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Posted: 8/14/2009 1:30:08 PM | Oh gosh, If you put that shovel in to many ditches it will get very dirty or get broken.
Better be upfront and keep it clean, I would break any guys shovel that was spreading his and other peoples weeds in my garden.
That is my rule.
You can have any you want, but find out what theirs are or you will be all alone with no ditch to dig.
That's just not smart or fair.
How to handle it? If you are into casual sex, just see if they are willing to have another woman and all her ex lovers in bed with her and yours. Simple.
Talk about it.
Get tested often as said before. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 1:44:34 PM | Have you any morals at all?
Do what the hell you like. I'm not even going to put the effort into explaining why considering sleeping with all of them is wrong, and what you should do.
You shouldn't be going on dates if you're not ready for a relationship. | |
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roseyn
| | Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 11 | |
| rules of dating multiple girls
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:14:24 PM | | If you're dating to get to know someone and possibly pursue something serious, then you shouldn't sleep with any of them. Once you decide you want to take things a step farther with one, then you need to back off from the others. | |
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PeggyI
| | Joined: 5/24/2009
Msg: 13 | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 4:22:42 PM | Honesty is always the best policy. That will probably take at least part of the decision out of your hands.
Dating more than one at a time? Why not, if everyone is cool with it.
Sleeping with and/or dating multiple people? Not around here. No double parking. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 7:36:07 PM | Honesty and communication are neccessary.
But if you can't do the honest, open communication- you need to be extremely disciplined, organized, and regimented.
Sleeping w/ all, some, or none of them is your choice, you have to look yourself in the mirror every day. If you do decide to throw sex into the dating soup, be safe EVERY time.
The best way to handle this is to decide what type of person you want to be in any kind of adult relationship, and be that person. Multi-dating dynamo or player w/ an edge or decent non-committed person, it won't matter if you hate yourself for your actions. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 7:54:50 PM | | Would you feel like you were doing wrong if you had sex with them all and didn't say anything? Just because they didn't ask you if you're sleeping with other men doesn't mean you shouldn't tell them if you are. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 10:18:56 PM | | Op....I don't mean to be rude but you're the type of person that gives all men a bad name....why not just tell the truth....this way nobody gets hurt, nobody gets a potential std and you don't get some nasty karma your way. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 10:33:06 PM | | How about honesty from the start. Not every girl who meets you is going to want a relationship with you. Even though she may eventually want a long-term relationship, she may not necessarily feel it for you. Simply state that you are interested in having fun, i.e. FWB or a one night stand and if she is game then it's cool. You don't need to disclose your private conquests. If you absolutely cannot state this because you feel it will hinder your ability to get laid, then just act natural, show no real interest in her and try to get in her pants ASAP and it will be obvious to anyone over the age of 21 or who has an I.Q. over 85. But to get lucky make sure she is liquored up between the point of buzzed and vomit, anything past that becomes serious legal issues for you. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 10:35:33 PM | | Your question shows that what you've written in your profile is total B***$HIT. Glad your question shows up on your profile, it'll help women on this site weed out another AZZH@LE. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 12:45:41 AM | Those of you who actually read my questions and had the intelligence to respond with good advice thank you. Those of you who could not see past your own small minded thinking thank you for commenting as well. At no point did I say I was sleeping with any of them yet. I was really confused on how the situation was supposed to be handled and some of you gave some really sound advice. Again thank you. Let me buy you all a beer. cheers
And thank you to those who responded by email. Sorry your not able to express your opinions openly without fear of the unintelligent making unbelievably small minded remarks. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 4:08:24 AM | Simple....you tell them that you're not ready for a relationship as already mentionned. Tell them that you're just looking to hang out or casually dating. Most people with common sense will know this translates into just having fun or sleeping with different people in most cases. You don't need to say more.
If you have been honest and have told them upfront what you are looking for, its really the other woman's problem for wanting more when you have stated you're not looking for anything serious. Men are pretty simple...yet, alot of women will still continue to push for a relationship while the man reaps the benefits. Is the guy a pig for having sex but not pursuing a relationship? In my opinion no.....as long as you're upfront and don't lead them on to think there will be a relationship after sex. But if you will sleep with all of them...which is gross but its your life...you atleast need to tell each women that. Its up to her to continue sleeping with you despite the fact that there will never be a relationship. As for me, if a guy told me he wasn't looking for a relationship....I would probably respect that but I would move onto someone who does want a relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2009 4:44:31 AM | | By all means tell each one of them about all the others and sleep with all of them. Did you hear the story about the guy who got his penis Crazy Glued by four women? Come on, use some common sense. A little discretion goes a long way. | |
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