| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 6:54:51 AM | Did anyone else see the piece in yesterday's Daily Mail about research showing that single women prefer married or attached men? Apparently "The fact that they already have someone's seal of approval adds to their desirability"...!
I have never doubted that this is the case, whenever I've had a partner women have seemed more interested in me!
So do you agree with this, and can the ladies give some idea why this could be the case? Any other thoughts welcome.
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1206462/The-Angelina-Jolie-effect-single-women-chase-married-men.html#ixzz0OG9r0T7X | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:03:48 AM | | Well I can only speak for myself and if I knew a man was married I wouldnt go there even if I found him attractive but I dont think Ive ever found a man attractive just because he's married. Maybe for some women its a case of wanting what you think you cant have, grass being greener etc. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:07:01 AM | Oh thats a simple one to answer ..
You get all the fun without the dirty socks in the morning!!
On a more serious note though .. women will tend to go for attached men (some of the time) especially if they just want a no strings and no hassle relationship .. doesn't mean that its any less meaningful its just different needs being fulfilled from each other. Some single people value their own independance and have no wish to be in a 24/7 kind of relationship .. but at the end of the day each of us has the need for some personal interaction regardless of where (or how) it is accomodated. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:10:57 AM | I agree with msg 3.
Those that hanker after married men arent doing it because they admire the fact they are attatched,they are doing it because they dont have to be attatched to them!. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:25:34 AM | I think there's definitely something in this in that women who don't want full commitment prefer someone who's not completely available - I don't think this is a deliberate thing however (would probably come out after a short time in therapy am sure!!)
I'd not get involved with anyone who was married or with a partner. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:27:02 AM | My ex found a single woman was attracted to him, I found it highly amusing that she no longer found him an attractive proposition when he was no longer attached 
We don't always know that someone is married (or spoken for) when we find them attractive though, do we? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:34:10 AM | Woman and Men may find an attached person more desirable beacause they give off a different vibe than a lot of single people. Ususally they are not trying at all to pick someone up, they are comfortable to be around you typically don't have to worry if your going to get hit on they are just themselves.
Single people if they are looking for someone to spend time can get nervous being around you, they seem uncomfortable being your company, they can try too hard etc.... | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:36:34 AM | | The thing is with married men they have 'calmed down' a bit from their single days. Those married men with children also have more of a nurturing side to their personality, and they give off a kindness that is easier to spot than in single men. Having said that, of course I would not go there. Those that say they are staying with their wife until the kids grow up etc., or their wife would fall apart if they left etc., it's all a load of bull. There seem to be more men on POF lately who admit to being married, and at least they are not tricking women on here. It's some of the separated and single men that are. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:41:19 AM | | Married or attached men don't appeal to me anymore, but they did in the past. I think it might have been the thrill of the chase or something. When I meet men around my age who've never been married or had kids, it does seem a bit suspect. I tend to file them under "emotionally cold commitment-phobes". I prefer men who've committed to someone at least at some point in their lives, even if the relationship failed. After all, you can't learn if you haven't made mistakes or taken chances in life. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:12:44 AM | It's not so much the fact that the bloke is married, it's more to do with the fact he has the company of a woman. Let me explain:
If you are in a social setting the women will always be drawn to the bloke that's surrounded by other women.
Guys I can actually prove this to be true. Go out with 2 female friends to a pub, have a laugh and a joke. Now, without getting clocked observe the other women in the room.
Another thing I noticed about women aswell is if you arrive at a party alone and you're seen to be mingling with large numbers of people, women will want to talk you. The common mistake I see men make is they arrive at a party, stand in the corner for half an hour amoungst their comfort zone friends and don't mingle, the women pick up on this and view them as unconfident, shy and insecure and thus they get rejected.
I'm not a psychologist but I'm guessing it's something along the lines of women prefer a confident man who's admired and / or respected by others. Whereas us men don't care about social status, we just look at the ones with the best clevage. (well, obviously not me, but a lot of guys )
Being married or already with another women social proofs the bloke, the woman already has an idea that he's a good catch because he's not single. Also, like others have said, some women just enjoy the excitement of love affairs etc. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:30:05 AM | I could be letting the side down but I agree with most of what knob-head said.
It also depends on what his group/partner are like IMO. If he was hanging about a bunch of dead-beats then that wouldn't be attractive. If his partner was a nutter that wouldn't be attractive.
On that note, I will categorically tell you although I would consider them a good catch, I most definately would not have any kind of relationship with a married/attached man. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:42:04 AM | | I also think that knob-head has a lot of psychology sussed. However there's another 'side' to this. I got hit on the most in my life when I used to take my son out on his own. He was blond haired, blue eyed, talkative, charming and amusing and I think a lot of women saw me as a route to a kid like that. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:42:18 AM |
Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Not to me its not its a no no, I cant think of anything worse than having to share, I want 100 % mind body and soul. I don't need anyone else's approval I am all grown up, I am sure I can pick for myself.........................
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:50:50 AM |
However there's another 'side' to this. I got hit on the most in my life when I used to take my son out on his own. He was blond haired, blue eyed, talkative, charming and amusing and I think a lot of women saw me as a route to a kid like that.
Thanks dad !! xx
OT I think theres also the element of the 'something they can't have' or the element of danger which Imo is a sickness in those who serially persue that type I would imagine .
I can understand women falling for men without initially knowing they are married but for women who intentionally and knowingly set out to bag a married man they are nothing but marriage wreckers who must be so unhappy in their own lives that they wish to extend their unhappiness onto others !! | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:54:07 AM |
Thanks dad !! xx
LOL! - My haven't you changed.
I agree with you on the unattainable 'thing' too - a man that's available for some things, but not the full Monty, gives an insecure woman the knowledge that she cannot end up in a full blown relationship. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:56:31 AM |
women who intentionally and knowingly set out to bag a married man they are nothing but marriage wreckers who must be so unhappy in their own lives that they wish to extend their unhappiness onto others !!
...On the other hand, the married man can just say "no" to her. There's a novel idea, eh? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 8:59:18 AM | Any hint that a man has a woman/wife would make me run for the hills, though I do know women who prefer relationships with married men because of the no strings thing mentioned earlier.
However, I also think there are some women who do it due to their own lack of self esteem and get off on "stealing" someone else's man, thereby proving to themself they are better! Of course, the problem with this is that, when they have them all to themselves, they don't have that thrill anymore and these relationships rarely work out.
Shame, considering they've managed to play a part in wrecking a family in the process. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:02:27 AM |
...On the other hand, the married man can just say "no" to her. There's a novel idea, eh? .
I did - on many occasions - every occasion. Most of the time it was accepted graciously but once I got ranted and raved at and on another a big 'sales pitch' about what was on offer and then a sulk. A man saying 'no' doesn't make the act of hitting on a married man who's wearing a wedding ring etc. any more condonable does it? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:02:35 AM |
...On the other hand, the married man can just say "no" to her. There's a novel idea, eh?
Obviously it takes two to tango but we are talking about single women who prey on married men in this instance.
However, I also think there are some women who do it due to their own lack of self esteem and get off on "stealing" someone else's man, thereby proving to themself they are better! Of course, the problem with this is that, when they have them all to themselves, they don't have that thrill anymore and these relationships rarely work out.
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:15:56 AM | there are some women who do it due to their own lack of self esteem and get off on "stealing" someone else's man, thereby proving to themself they are better! Of course, the problem with this is that, when they have them all to themselves, they don't have that thrill anymore and these relationships rarely work out. Shame, considering they've managed to play a part in wrecking a family in the process.
The only individual who's guilty of wrecking a home or a family is the cheating husband. Presuming she's single, the other woman isn't cheating on anyone. She isn't breaking any vows to the injured wife. She owes wifey nothing.
not the part of the married man
Well, we wouldn't want to hold a man accountable for his lack of sexual control, would we? That would fly in the face of our age-old tradition of blaming women for being 'evil demon temptresses.'
A man saying 'no' doesn't make the act of hitting on a married man who's wearing a wedding ring etc. any more condonable does it?
Once again, we're blaming the woman instead of the cheater. All the man has to say is 'no'. Game over.
Scenario: There's a wife, a husband and the husband's mistress. Only one of these individuals is cheating on someone. Guess who it is.
Blame where it lies.
vvvvv No, Macforty... In the scenario, the evil demon temptress isn't "deceiving" anyone, any more than Sainsbury's "deceives" you with the smell of fresh baked bread when you walk in the store. You may be invited - tempted even - but no one forces you to buy. I'm afraid men have to accept the sole blame for their infidelities.
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So you are saying that you used to intentionally set out to go for married/attached men and you played no part in deceit and exonerate yourself from any blame whatsover?
Yes.
Btw The bread in Sainsbury's is an extremely poor analogy ..........I'm unsure how you can compare the smell of bread to someones feelings??
What feelings? Whose feelings? And what do feelings have to do with 'a bit on the side' anyway? He's hurting his wife and using the other woman. The only feelings a cheating husband has are in his trousers. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 9:20:22 AM |
The only individual who's guilty of wrecking a home or a family is the cheating husband. Presuming she's single, the other woman isn't cheating on anyone. She isn't breaking any vows to the injured wife. She owes wifey nothing.
The moral aspect maybe?
Both are party to deceit are they not (especially the instigator) ?
vvvvv No, Macforty... In the scenario, the evil demon temptress isn't "deceiving" anyone, any more than Sainsbury's "deceives" you with the smell of fresh baked bread when you walk in the store. You may be invited - tempted even - but no one forces you to buy. I'm afraid men have to accept the sole blame for their infidelities.
So you are saying that you used to intentionally set out to go for married/attached men and you played no part in deceit and exonerate yourself from any blame whatsover?
Btw The bread in Sainsbury's is an extremely poor analogy ..........I'm unsure how you can compare the smell of bread to someones feelings/deceit ??
Imo If you don't put the bike up for sale in the shop window in the first place , no ones gonna buy it !!
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:03:29 AM |
A man saying 'no' doesn't make the act of hitting on a married man who's wearing a wedding ring etc. any more condonable does it? Once again, we're blaming the woman instead of the cheater. All the man has to say is 'no'. Game over.
In the scenario I quoted I was entirely innocent. I never lead anyone on, made it clear that I was married and said 'no'. So the man wasn't a cheater and yes the woman (women) were deserving of blame - and all of it- for trying to entice me to cheat. Selfish inadequate biatches who put their own shallow wants before the happiness of my then wife and two little kids springs to mind. | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:06:33 AM | | If I know a man is married, has a permanent "partner" or lover, then he's just a no-go area so far as I'm concerned - life is too complicated already, and who would want to be responsible for someone else getting hurt? | |
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| Single women prefer married men! (It's true)
Posted: 8/15/2009 10:20:42 AM |
The only individual who's guilty of wrecking a home or a family is the cheating husband. Presuming she's single, the other woman isn't cheating on anyone. She isn't breaking any vows to the injured wife. She owes wifey nothing.
No, they're both to blame, assuming the other woman knows there's a wife of course.
As far as "she owes wifey nothing", shouldn't we all have consideration for others' feelings or doesn't that apply here? I'm pretty sure some attitudes here would be different if you were "wifey".
Of course we could also say, if we're going to be pedantic, that the man wouldn't be able to cheat on his wife if there weren't any women out there prepared to sleep with married men! | |
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