| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:40:06 AM | Greetings -
I posted once before when I FIRST joined POF on June 11th.
I got a LOT of helpful feedback , which I truly appreciated at the time.
Thanks to all the helpful suggestions, I wound up having SPECTACULAR success - especially for a guy in my age group.
That's why I'm back. For [u]MORE[/u] advice.
But first...here's what happened in the 2 ensuing months since discovering this great site.
My profile began getting COUNTLESS new views each & every day - can't say how many for sure since it turns out some girls search anonymously.
After adjusting my profile in light of the suggestions made by contributors on the forum, I started getting a trickle of Women Contacting Me First (WCMF).
I was shocked.
I then decided to go ALL IN & not contact ANYONE first. The rules were that they had to write me before I would write them - no matter how perfect I thought we might be for each other.
It was a risky move to be sure. Because of the disproportionate male:female ratio on POF, many guys have reported they don't get ANY replies.
Even from girls THEY contacted first!
But I decided to take the long shot gamble and simply wait for them to FIRST get ahold of me!
The results were stunning!
[u]In just two months, I received SIXTY ONE first contact emails of introduction from 61 DIFFERENT women. [/u]
It was thrilling to come home each & every day to find my mailbox STUFFED with new letters from new girls...some of whom I wasn't aware had even VIEWED my profile - that's before I realized they could search anonymously.
Girls from 18-50+.
From as far away as Washington DC.
So, how come I decided to GUT this massively effective profile and start from the ground up?
Well, even though I did receive first contact letters from girls as young as 18, MOST of the women who wrote were in their 40's.
And, I generally date girls quite a bit younger than me. I tried getting with the girls from POF, but it just felt like our motors were running @diff speeds.
Don't get me wrong. These were very nice women...almost every single one (BTW, in my count of 61, I EXCLUDED girls who contacted me MULTIPLE times before receiving an answer, profiles I thought were likely fake, and the 1 or 2 girls that knew me in real life and just wrote to say Hi and wish me good fortune.)
Anyway, I decided I needed to rejigger my profile so that it would be geared for YOUNGER women - ages 35 and LESS.
So, voila! My new profile.
What do you think?
As always all comments and suggestions are welcome...
PS I converted my original profile to a Forum Only Profile and will soon be deleting it. I still have MASSIVE amts of unopened email I need to sift through and many friends I've made that I want to be sure can STILL stay in touch. Not sure if this comports with the rules, but I hope any tattletale prone users will just chill & wait for me to wind this down on my own time. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:54:43 AM | Is this a joke? You can't be serious. Your profile is immature and cliché. You committed a major online dating offence by posting a picture of you and your ex. I won't even talk about your other pictures. Maybe if they weren't so fuzzy, I can make a constructive statement about them.
In your profile, you don't even talk about the type of woman you're looking for. No woman in her right mind would contact you first with genuine interest. I'm sure you're getting SPAM-bot contacts.
I'm guessing your post in this forum is of a sarcastic nature. Not funny, dude. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/15/2009 12:49:55 PM | | This is a redundant question. You already have your mail settings not to accept replies from anyone over 36. I have my doubts about your 'success rate.' There's not a single clear picture on your profile. I assume you're a wind up merchant. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 8:57:11 PM | "Is this a JOKE???"
"You committed a MAJOR online dating offence by posting a pic of you & your ex."
"There's not a SINGLE clear picture on your profile. "
"You don't even talk about the type of woman you're looking for!!!"
"I have my DOUBTS about your 'success rate' !!!
" Your profile is immature and cliché."
"Your other pictures....(are) so fuzzy!"
"You're getting SPAM-bot contacts.
"You're a WIND UP merchant!!"
"YOU CAN'T BE SEIRIOUS!!!"
[B]"No woman in her RIGHT MIND would contact you first!!!"[/B]
Thanks for all the feedback!
I've uploaded clearer pics and changed my main profile so it's no longer myself & that ex-gfriend I ran into last weekend.
Any other helpful ideas are appreciated... | |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 9:08:50 PM | | I can't say that the profile itself looks that bad, but perhaps younger women just aren't into you for some reason. I think it all revolves around the tastes and preferences of the women; it's my belief that you are more likely to get responses from women in your general age range anyhow. Heck, I'm pushing thirty years old, and I've had a hard time getting 23 to 25 year-olds to really talk with me. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/17/2009 9:50:18 PM | | Well after I read your post, I thought you were a jerk and a player if I am to be totally honest. You are 45, but make it clear you want much younger women. Hey, that's your right. But because you are so picky about the age difference, you come across as both a jerk and a player, simply because if age is your number one criteria, just how superficial and shallow is that. The problem overall is you are putting down women your own age, which sort of sends the message you really don't respect women at any age. You just want a barbie doll, arm candy and a trophy. That's the message I get from your profile. Hey, but what do I know. I'm just a woman over 40. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:21:57 PM | Seriously, I only kept reading what you've posted to see if you were advertising something like a pof super guide to profiles or something.
Not very helpful but it had to be said. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:36:37 PM | | C'mon ladies, if the guy prefers to date younger women, there is nothing wrong with that. Some people just prefer to date outside of their current age range, and that doesn't make them a shallow person per se. Having such standards for dating and relationships (age wise) is no different than some of the particular things you ladies like or dislike. Dating is supposed to be less about matching outward circumstances than meeting your inner necessity. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:45:17 PM | Is this a joke? You can't be serious. Your profile is immature and cliché. You committed a major online dating offence by posting a picture of you and your ex. I won't even talk about your other pictures. Maybe if they weren't so fuzzy, I can make a constructive statement about them.
In your profile, you don't even talk about the type of woman you're looking for. No woman in her right mind would contact you first with genuine interest. I'm sure you're getting SPAM-bot contacts.
I'm guessing your post in this forum is of a sarcastic nature. Not funny, dude.
Totally agree!
*ChilledFilled* - no offence but your profile is laughable! It's so lazy as well. It exudes arrogance - it's got a real "I don't even need to try - women will just love me!" feel about it!
Your mail settings are ridiculous - "Younger than 36". You are having a laugh with that one surely?
Then there's your picture captions - "Bringing people happiness - it's what I do" and "Bringing more happiness".
Enough said!
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 1:41:13 AM | Yes, when you gut the fish you must then fill it back up with something delicious.
I love the picture of the book with pictures of you in it, not new pictures of course, it's amazing!
Power to the trolls. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:06:43 AM | "I only kept reading to see if you were ADVERTISING something!!
"Power to the TROLLS!!!"
"Enough Said!@!@"
"I thought you were a JERK!!!"
"SUPERFICAL and SHALLOW!!!"
"It had to be said."
"It's so LAZY!!!"
"It exudes arrogance -!"
"Your mail settings are RIDICULOUS!!!!"
"You just want a barbie doll, arm candy AND A TROPHY!!"
"Younger women just aren't into you!!!"
"You are putting down women your own age"
"You really don't respect women AT ANY AGE!!!!"
"Totally agree!"
"Your profile is LAUGHABLE!
"WEIRDEST profile I've EVER seen!!!"
PS "NO offence!"
Er......None taken?
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:31:28 AM | | Have just looked through your profile and have to say that your head is obviously so far up your own arse that I'm suprised you could see the keys on the computer. In my opinion your pictures are not of a good quality and you look older than your profile states which is maybe why you are not attracting the age range that you specify. You seem to think you are gods gift to women which you are not - confidence is attractive - complete arrogance is not. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:56:03 AM | I read your profile after I noticed you had check me out and I had read this thread. I was going to write you a private critique, but you block women in my age range from contacting you.
1) I would never consider contacting a person with their arms around a member of the opposite sex in their primary photo, especially the type of photo (two photo both images in one .jpg) you posted. We all know how poor the image quality is on here, a simple face shot would have been a better lead photo. Friend or not, this is not the photo to lead with.
2) Your profile is too busy. Not enough content with substance, too many bolded items, too terse and cliche. There is a difference between confident and****.
3) Too cliche and insincere. Is it really necessary to post a picture of your new car? That strikes me as very insecure.
A picture may tell 1,000 words, your pictures and profile copy don't support you original post IMHO.
I don't mean to flame you, but something doesn't add up here. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 10:20:09 AM | ditch they group pics, just pics of you would be good enough, and maybe a few more complete sentances, or semi paragraphs? It was different though.............. not so much in a good way, it was different wierd. You probably have great personality at a bar, spill it over to your profile ;D.
~GL | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 10:33:36 AM | All I can say is GAG!
This is what your profile looked like to me (NOT that it matters since I am older than the teeny boobers you think you can attract)
BLAH BLAH I AM MAZING BLAH BLAH I AM AMAZING BLAH BLAH WANNA MAKE OUT I"M SO AMAZING BLAH BLAH BLAH (sounds like Charlie Brown's Parents talking)
So good luck with that.
To you twenty something young women out there - DO NOT DATE THIS GUY, you won't fit in his car with him and his ego! | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 11:14:27 AM | Well I am 20, and to be honest I wouldn't touch you with a barge pole.
Why don't you look for women your own age rather than try to hook up with someone for the sole reason of them being younger? I don't get it. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:08:04 PM | | I've read through the profile multiple times and I don't see what the uproar is all about. I'm starting to think that some are just expressing anger at what they perceive to be the social awkwardness of dating outside of one's own age range. | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:43:11 PM | | Obviously, he's edited the profile since he first posted this thread, dizzle...come on now. I will say though that the original one was hilarious and I'm sad it's gone. Shoulda gotten a screenshot.... | |
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/21/2009 1:59:51 PM | "I don't mean to flame you, but ...
....Your head is SO FAR UP YOUR OWN ARSE I'm suprised you could see the keys on the computer!!!!"
"You look OLDER than your profile states!!!!!"
"Why are you all giving this guy any attention???"
"You are not attracting!"
"BLAH BLAH I AM AMAZING BLAH BLAH!!!
"You seem to think you are Gods gift to women .....YOU ARE NOT!!!!!!!"
"Complete ARROGANCE!!!"
"Your pictures are NOT of a good quality."
"Your profile is too busy"
"Not enough substance"
"Too terse and cliche!"
"INSINCERE!"
"Is it REALLY necessary to post a picture of your new CAR???"
'VERY Insecure!!"
"Something doesn't add up here!!!"
"Shoulda gotten a screenshot."
" I don't get it!"
"It was WEIRD!!!
"This is a JOKE!!"
"GO AWAY!!!"
"I would NEVER consider contacting...you!!!!!"
"All I can say is...GAG!!!!!"
"I wouldn't touch you with a BARGE POLE!!!!"
***" DO NOT DATE THIS GUY!!!!!"***
ED Note: Pic of Barge Pole --> http://bit.ly/lZNis
Hmmm....
More...er...Helpful Suggestions!
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| So Much Success - I Completely GUTTED it!
Posted: 8/22/2009 1:23:59 PM | I am believing this is more of a joke to get some entertainment than for real effort for a profile, I mean come on,,,, the pictures of pictures are creative, to say the least.
Turn the camera around man and snap a shot of yer head instead. | |
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