| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:07:45 PM | | I agree with Brent....the meet & greets are a GREAT way to meet people. I, myself, have had a really good time at all I have ever gone to. I started out in the Memphis area and have also attended them in Springfield, St Louis, Kansas City and Joplin. The people at all I have attended are really good people. As Brent said, if there isn't one close to you, start one. Start out with something as simple as a pizza party, and grow from there. | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:40:59 PM | | agreed with Brent!! Duh, I've been dubbed the POF Social Butterfly in the STL area so, you know me, I always say 'the more the merrier'!!! What fun and you meet folks from all over and you can decide from afar if you think that guy or that gal would be nice to meet/go out with, etc etc..and you make some awesome friends like I have!! | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/20/2009 1:04:48 PM | I hate to say it, Brent, and I of course don't agree....but....
I have had 2 different guys I know, who have been to a very few events and no longer go, tell me that they don't go because it is always the same people that attend.
I told them I was going to be nice and NOT take that as an insult, and told them that isn't completely true as we always have a few new folks. I also pointed out that attitudes like theirs were keeping them & others from attending, so that really wouldn't help get a more diverse & 'new' crowd - now would it? 
I also pointed out that yes, there is a core group of people who attend a lot of the events, but that is great because I've made wonderful friends, who know people I don't know yet, and can introduce me to those people, and so on, and so on....
It's all about networking & having fun! I now have female and male friends that I can go almost anywhere with, and I can comfortably go to a club or bar knowing that my guy friends will take care of me if I need!
It's a win-win as far as I'm concerned! | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:55:54 PM | | You got it girl! I always look forward to seeing some familiar faces and meeting new ones. Many of the ones I have hosted usually have a smaller group that don't go to the bigger events, I have tried to get off the beaten path and have met many new people and have had a blast! Who knows, maybe the one you are most compatible with might be s0meone not at the party but is connected somehow to one of the friends you see a few times at events.... | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/21/2009 6:01:45 AM | funny thing about us same folks going to the events all the time is all the awesome friends we've made as Estro mentioned above..when I go out on my own now a days, I don't really care to, would rather have a gal pal from here or even a guy pal to hang out with if I'm not on a date with my guy..I feel a bit of ' why go out if you don't have anyone to hang with',...it's nice to know even in my neighborhood that when I do go out on my own, I go to places I'm comfortable at. I don't have to do anything but sit back, take in the surroundings and maybe do a little chair dancing (no not on the chair!!)
If you don't go to the events, you won't know if you'll have fun or not. | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/21/2009 12:41:59 PM |
I have never felt that way! I go out alone alot....my choice. I'm sure it's different for girls
I feel the same way. If I want to go somewhere I am going to go. Maybe it is different for some women, but doesn't bother me. I go traveling all the time by myself...went to CA and back a few yrs ago and I am always going to PA & NM by myself. Might be nicer to go with someone else, but when it's just me, myself & I in the household...I just go with the flow.
The Meet & Greet parties are always being held somewhere it seems...sometimes even 2 on the same date...Go to one...once you go and meet people you will be hooked | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/24/2009 12:08:21 PM |
There are a lot of people on POF that don't go to any of the the POF meet & greet events. I was wondering....why not?
I'll venture a theory.
I've read some threads on here where people have made personal attacks on each other, called people out, get pissed off over a situation or circumstance they were in and sound vengeful, etc. I can't speak for anyone else but as for myself I'm one of those people who likes to keep my private life private. Whenever I've had bad relationships, situations, etc. I pretty much keep it to myself and learn from it so as not to end up in the same situations again. I certainly wouldn't want to air it out in public. I think when some people read these threads they probably decide to forgo the events and stick to site correspondence. They probably think to themselves, "What if I meet someone, things don't work out and they start making accusations about me in the threads or at events to get even with me? No thanx."
I know that if I ended up in a situation like that I'd avoid events, too. There's enough stress and negativity in the world the way it is. I try to avoid it or reduce it. I'm certainly not going to go out of my way to add to it if I can help it....... | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/24/2009 1:18:38 PM | My sole purpose is NOT to make someone look bad BUT to expose liars and players to other woman on here , same goes for woman who do this CRAP !
I like to keep my private life private also BUT when someone on here is deceitful and LIES on purpose and smooth talks someone and then fabricates a story about being in a accident , YOU have gone way too far and are out of line !
I don't want other friends of mine on here or other woman on POF to get mixed up with him at all !!!!!!!!!! He went way too far and is out of line ! He has deleted his profile, guess he is scared , and is running ! The sad thing is this did NOT have to be , he made it BAD for himself !
I LOVE the parties and I go to meet and greet and mingle , that is all!
But when I meet someone who says he is interested and wants to get ton know me , I take him for his good word , and this one is a total liar !!!!!!!
Amazing to me !!!!
How do YOU people do it, YOU have to get up and look at yourself in the morning in the mirror and know that YOU lied and on purpose , you know who you are !!!!!!
Be truthful at all times !
Parties or no parties , BE honest and be truthful !
If you change your mind in getting to know someone, just say so !
Don't lie , that is unacceptable on all levels fishies !!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/24/2009 2:12:53 PM | BlueSkys, I think we all get that you are cheesed at someone in particular.
Why was it necessary to bring this up in every updated thread today? Please, not a critique, but this does not clarify anything; it stirs and muddies the waters.
Those that avoid the meets because of the fear of drama like this aren't encouraged to attend by the continued dialog all over the board.
We hear you, can we please talk about the subjects at hand?
Thanks. | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/24/2009 2:17:33 PM | I did , stick to the subject at hand !
The reason for alerting on multiple thread because some might NOT read all !
and I will EXPRESS myself on here !
I do NOT want anyone else to run into this SNAKE !!!!!!
That is my right ! | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/24/2009 3:00:26 PM | | trekker013...believe me there is drama going on at every one of the events that I have attended. Memphis, Springfield, St Louis, Kansas City and Joplin. I was drug into the drama in the Memphis area because a fish owes me money and he has started a bunch of lies about me and people don't want me around....that's ok, I know who my true friends are and I don't have to be around the people that aren't. But at the same time, I am not going to let a few keep me from going anywhere that I want to go...So that's how I feel about the M&G...if you want to go, go...don't let anything or anyone stop you if that's what you want to do. I have made A LOT of friends and I have had a blast at them...it sure as heck beats sitting home by myself on a Wed, Fri or Sat night. Oh and just for the record...Memphis is about 160 miles from me, Springfield is about 140 miles, St Louis and Kansas City is close to 300 miles and Joplin is about 200 miles. | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 8/28/2009 2:37:09 PM | | Because they seem to schedule them when I have my son, or at the very end of the month when I am broke, or right after my surgery, or after my car accident with my car in the shop for three months lol. I will make one by the end of the year lol. | |
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| Attending POF events - some do/some don't
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:05:36 PM | Meet-ups can be fun. The ones I've gone to started on online where the common theme was black hair, black pagans, a pagan festival, and couchsurfing.com also has some meet-ups that I'm interested in but haven't taken up yet.
I am usually on the main unversal forums and didn't know (or think about) the state-specific forums until someone message me and mentioned the Missouri forum.
So would I be interested in attending a POF event? Sure, why not. I've read a few threads in this forum and I can see there has been a little bit of drama - something about a chick pocketing cover charges, and expectations people places on looks and pictures (don't show body or teeth? They must be fat and toothless), are two of the things that would make me a little reluctant to attend a POF meeting. Well that and the fact that I don't like being a the only speck of pepper in a sea of salt and there doesn't seem to a lotta of blacks representing from The Lou so far as I can see. But St. Louis itself is kinda diverse.
But those aren't pressing issues. The most pressing issue for a POF meet-up is transportation and I can't attend anything that isn't in the immediate St. Louis area and accessable by public transit. I am on the list to get messages about Missour meet-ups and when one catches my eye - I'll see about attending one.
Thanks. | |
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