| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:06:12 PM | Ok, so I started seeing this guy. He's a fire fighter and looks hot. Probably my first blunder. Anyways, we start going out and at the end of the night we end up back at his place. Every time we go out..
We've only gone out a couple of times before he started asking for pics, boobs, me in uniform yadayada...
He works one day on and two days off and the only day I really get to see him is the day after he works. It feels like he is keeping me at a distance and the whole point of being together is for sex.
I need some advice, like really bad.  | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:09:34 PM | If you read your own post, you will find the answer written all over it to a point that I am not sure what you're asking.
Did he promise you anything?
It is all about sex... this is how it looks from here. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:23:37 PM |
He's a fire fighter and looks hot.
Just the way you wrote that sounds so shallow. "Looks hot". Not even "I'm seeing a hot guy." It sounds like you just like him because of his looks. So maybe he is looking at you in the same way. It's no wonder you feel like he just wants you for sex.
Stay away from hosers any way. You'd be better off dating a cop. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:35:37 PM | I recommend saving sex for the 3rd or 4 date. Show some physical affection, like at least a hug so he knows you are interested. Looks like you got a hot one though at least.
Yep. If he is having sex with you, but he keeps you away on his 3rd day, that speaks volumes. If you really want a relationship, look for one, and keep this guy for now since he is hot and seems to like the sex. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:41:08 PM |
Anyways, we start going out and at the end of the night we end up back at his place. Every time we go out..
Takes two to tango. If you do not want to go back to his place then don't.
It feels like he is keeping me at a distance and the whole point of being together is for sex.
If that is the way it feels then that is probably exactly what it is.
I need some advice, like really bad.
If you do not like the direction the relationship is going then you can either end it or talk to the guy and explain to him how you are feeling.
We've only gone out a couple of times before he started asking for pics ... me in uniform yadayada...
Well yeah, women in BDUs are hot.  | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:43:47 PM | Here's the truth: Men who can be players, will be players.
He's a good looking fire fighter. Guess what, he can be a player all day and all night. And guess what, he is.
Shocking isn't it. But very true. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:53:03 PM | | You don't really need advice, read what you wrote, you have it figured out just fine..... all you have to do is decide if sex with a hot fireman was what you were after and where your boob pics might end up? oh, and does his "place" look anything like a home movie studio? those new Hi def color nightvision nanny cams can be difficult to spot if you're preoccupied | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:58:09 PM | Ummmmm He's hot.... Ummmm U go back to HIS place EVERY time you go out.....
You're an adult that can actually make choices in life.
1- Keep your legs together
2- Don't go back to his house
Then you won't feel like you're being used! I've never gone out with someone and had them ask for pics of my BOOBS!!!!! He probably has a nice collection of pics! | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:04:54 PM |
I've never gone out with someone and had them ask for pics of my BOOBS!!!!! He probably has a nice collection of pics!
He probably "hoses" down the pics after he puts his "fire" out!  | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:10:17 PM | Dont beat yourself up about it just learn from your mistakes. We are all suckers for the "hot ones" man or woman.
First thing is first, stop falling for the trap and going back to his place. Classic move!.. Guys also know who they can and cant pull stuff on. The first time he asked to go back to his place youshould have said no and that would have set the tone for every time after that.
I also think that yor chances of a "relationship" progressing after this is slim to none. So it will be best to throw that out now, but if you want to continue on a casual sex basis then hes your guy. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:24:56 PM | If that is how you feel then WHY continue to see him? If you want to continue to see him just to have a friendship with benifits then enjoy....if you want 'more' keep  | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:44:06 PM | Wach out for the cameras!
He is asking you for pics after 2 dates which you guys got intimate on both in his apartment. He might be a collector of sexual photography. Im not saying he is, but he might. If that is the case he might even have cameras set up in the apartment. Who knows! | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:49:52 PM | even if you dated him for 6 months I would caution you against giving in to anyone asking for photos over the net.
You break up...they are all over the place.
Not worth it.
But dealing with men you have just met....I have men ask me all the time to see more skin on the web or in pics....that is the quickest way to delete aside from coming right out and asking me to suck their cck.
This guy has absolutely no respect for you. Think about it OP. Would a man who is looking for his future mate want to know that she was willing to share her body on-line to someone she just met? NO!..So he has NO respect for you and is not looking for anything more than a quick thrill.
Men like that disgust me.
One last note: I liked a guy, as a FRIEND ONLY mind you, have seen him out a few times...a guy whose profile is very strong on honesty and sincerity...... recently he asked me for my IM. Not a problem we are friends right? A few lines after Hello....he asked to see pics with more skin. I actually thought he had mistaken me for someone else and asked him if he knew who I was...oh yea, he was sure of who he was talking to....fuquing filthy PIG!
DELETE
But I guess it is all a personal thought process. He makes me sick for disrespecting me...you may like the idea. It is all a matter of perspective. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 3:52:07 PM | So if you're enjoying the sex, keep seeing him for that, and if you want a relationship, keep looking elsewhere. The two aren't mutually exclusive 'til you meet someone you really like as a real boyfriend; then you should stop sleeping with the hot firefighter. Or if you're just uncomfortable with it anyway, stop now.
Do not do not DO NOT give him any provocative photos. Never do that for anyone. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:14:26 PM | | What is wrong with you women? Relationships aren't all about talking and having fun together and having your emotional needs met. That's all you care about. What is wrong with you? | |
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| Amanda423 you are hot yourself!!
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:31:34 PM | Don't get bogged down with this horrible guy, you are young and great looking, plenty of guys would be proud to have you as a girlfriend. The boob pictures are probably trophies, there's plenty of porn on the net to get him off.
Still have fun with him if you want  | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 4:46:58 PM | The fact that you are still looking on here means you aren't taking him seriously.
If you think he is only seeing you for sex, don't have it next time you go out. I can hear you now, but he won't go out with me again... | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 5:10:20 PM | I was just reading my last post on here...and started laughing at my "fuquing filthy pig "comment...I am not normally so judgemental and GAWD was that harsh!...Guess that guy really pissed me off, but it just happened so, new emotions about it were still reeling in my head . I can only assume it was because I honestly thought I had found a friend off of POF....and he turned out to be....just like them.
OP, just go with your gut. If your heart is not in it then don't do it. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/19/2009 5:26:19 PM | Haven't you ever watched Star Wars?
It feels like he is keeping me at a distance and the whole point of being together is for sex.
Trust your feelings Luke. You have them for a reason.
When you don't trust your feelings, due to things such as
He's a fire fighter and looks hot.
then you are being led to the dark side due to desire, fear, anger, and manipulation.
Of course maybe all you want from him is sex, but you want more control over the situation. You want him to be your booty call, rather than you being his.
Who knows. Probably Yoda.
May the force be with you. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/20/2009 2:58:58 AM | Next time build something. Even if it takes * gasp * a couple of weeks before his penis enters your vagina.
heheh that's funny | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/20/2009 4:05:22 AM | Advice...
Close your legs, stop screwing the hot guy, and read what you wrote.
You're a booty call and you KNOW it. You just don't want to admit it.
Feels like you're being kept at a distance? How bout you are being kept at a distance until it's time to do the monkey.
Instead of him hosing you down, have him put it away and you toss water onto your fire your own self.
You don't want to be this woman? STOP being this woman. It ain't all that hard. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/20/2009 4:10:32 AM | come on you are a grown woman...keep your options open...be a friend with benefits, date him...so you do not put all your eggs in one baket,be his friend (platonic) or have expectetations and set standards...he will know you mean business...and will take you seriously...may be he has problems sexually...take care...Remember Warrren Beatty..player...then met anette Benning...it was not her looks or fame...it was her power over him...now he is a husband a dad to four children.it can be done.  | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:22:10 AM | Playing you how? Is he leading you on? Is he promising you a future?
Have you had the talk that determines if you are a couple or just having fun?
Are you going along for the ride to see where it goes and hoping for a relationship by offering sex on demand?
You haven't really said what it is you want from him.
Do you want a serious relationship? Do you want a commitment? Do you want.. Well, what do you want?
Firemen are lots and lots and lots of fun but really, really bad bets for LTR potential.
If you are having fun and enjoy what you have then keep on keeping on.
If you want more, odds are you need to look elsewhere. You can still have fun while your looking. Rest assured that he is.
Now, about the pics. You do realize that every pic you send him is likely being seen by every one of his brothers at the firehouse, yes? It's a game a lot of these guys in the house play among many others. | |
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| How to tell when he's playing you...
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:31:34 AM |
I need some advice, like really bad
Bad advice comin' up:
Enjoy the sex. Ask for nekid pics of him, and once you have them, send him nekid pics of yourself.
Sex is always "the point of being together" in the beginning.
If you prove to have other great qualities, maybe over the long haul, you'll get to slide down his pole in a firehall built for two. Man that was bad... | |
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