| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:26:52 PM | I believe that I've really got to rely on God to lead me to the one I'm meant to be with but so far I'm not getting anywhere. I'm 31 now and the few friends I have are all getting married and I've never even been close to getting married or anything but I keep praying that God has someone for me that he will reveil to me soon cause I'm getting old and I'm lonely (lol).
What are the chances do you think of me finding someone with good christian values on an online dating site such as this one or any other?
I always look at the "Religion" of the profiles I view on here and alot of them say "other religion" or "not religious" etc. Not a lot of them say "Christian".
Do you think I am putting too much emphasis on religion even though it's important to me or am I just in the wrong place altogether (online dating)? | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:39:01 PM | If you could date any girl, you could date alot.
The more deal breakers you have (religion,looks, age,ect)
The less action you get.
Patience is key.
Are you sure you cannot find a Christian Girl?
Or you just can't find one you're attracted to in your area?
There are Christian websites and singles groups.
Probably do better than here with mostly heathens and sinners.
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:01:59 PM | Trying to be positive is tuff here but .. adding complaints, repeating info that's in your interests or personal info or rambling on about deal breakers or "I won't accept this" to your profile only complicates the life of the person who is trying to meet you. Don't put anything restrictive on your profile. Don't complain. State who you are without in any way hinting at who you'd not accept or any misgivings you might have.
The negatives are exhausting the patience of the girl who is hoping to meet you - who cares if you get a few notes from wickan tattoo artists - you can delete those.
And get rid of the shirt that looks like a nun's habit. don't mention anything about religion accept as an 'interest'. No matter how large a part of life it is to you and a future partner it won't in the long run be 'the' integral facet to a relationship.
You're pics are decent and you seem a positive person in a lot of ways. It would probably be wise to take some outside and just smile. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:55:50 PM | | I think you put too much emphasis on "not religious" or "other religion". Get to know them anyway, despite what the online profile is. You might be surprised. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:01:10 PM |
I believe that I've really got to rely on God to lead me to the one I'm meant to be with but so far I'm not getting anywhere. I'm 31 now and the few friends I have are all getting married and I've never even been close to getting married or anything but I keep praying that God has someone for me that he will reveil to me soon cause I'm getting old and I'm lonely (lol).
What are the chances do you think of me finding someone with good christian values on an online dating site such as this one or any other?
I always look at the "Religion" of the profiles I view on here and alot of them say "other religion" or "not religious" etc. Not a lot of them say "Christian".
Do you think I am putting too much emphasis on religion even though it's important to me or am I just in the wrong place altogether (online dating)?
First - be ready. The atheists will be here attacking you for your preferences - just give it a few more moments. They'll be swooping in here to attack you for being close minded in that you're not willing to date someone who isn't a Christian - so when you break down and date one of them - they can mock and make fun of you for going to church.
Secondly - this really isn't the place to find a long term serious relationship. You CAN do it, but most people here aren't looking for it - they're looking to either date around or "hook up" - regardless of what they claim in their profiles.
I would suggest finding a church with a good singles group that you can join. Doesn't have to be YOUR church persay. Many larger churches have such groups that meet weekly for dinner and events.
Online dating is just for that... DATING. Not finding you next wife / husband. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:07:34 PM | What are the chances do you think of me finding someone with good christian values on an online dating site such as this one or any other?
i'm agnostic but i can guarantee you that you will find nobody with more admirable values than mine. and if you do find that christian you're looking for there's a damn good chance she will not measure up to my moral and ethical standard. i've no preference as far as religion goes when it comes to meeting people here. i value every friend i've met here and they are muslim, jewish, buddhist, agnostic, atheist and yes i even include christians among people i've had contact here and consider friends. but as you're search seems to exclude so many fine folks, why don't you head on out to a christian dating site. i do think they exist. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 7:50:02 PM | Good Christian girls stand in church every Sunday morning singing praises to the Lord but when the music stops, their asking forgiveness for cheating on their husband the night before.
So being “Christian” means nothing. Prayerful is a different matter. Because if you can pray together than you can build a solid bond between you… based on faith. My ex never allowed us to do that.
So dont base your attraction on someone being Christion. Id prefer a faithful bad girl any day. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 8:36:49 PM | cincav, real relationships happen, its not just the serial daters.
And.. okay,. a little story. My main squeeze asked me to carpet bomb my profile so no one would contact me.. I went in with a broad pen to make it impossible. The strange thing is when you add, "looking for a juggler, has to speak Finn, please love three legged animals and the republican party - if you're returning from china with a bunch of grey market watches I want one"... well that girl finds it really odd to see herself picked out so exactly in a profile. She's turning around wondering where the cam is..
.. so be specific if you like, but be positive. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 8:40:27 PM | "Christian-other"
or
"other religion"
can often mean denominations which aren't covered by the big two of Catholic and Anglican, or practising but not fundamentalist-literalists (ie. practising Christian theological studies without all the praise the Lord and Holy ecstacy).
It may help to state on your profile (I haven't looked) the manner in which you practise your religion.
Aside from that God has a much better shot at directing natural course relative to your efforts when you are actually out among life and interacting with the world at large. He is in the strangers who approach you asking for directions, in the shopkeeper you begin an inoccuous conversation with, in the employment opportunity which comes your way, these things may lead to a course of events designed to set your life about a welcomed path.
Indeed you are supposed to help this along where you can reasonably. So Church based recreational programs are an excellent place to meet people within your denomination.
I should mention I am not classically religious, so use the God terminology and my appreciation for it subjectively, though with respect. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/21/2009 10:53:47 AM |
I believe that I've really got to rely on God to lead me to the one I'm meant to be with but so far I'm not getting anywhere.
Then why are you posting in here? I think God made you HUMAN, and not a chiwawa. You should learn to think for yourself! Not be a child and use the "I'll let God tell me; no responsibility on my part" excuse!
What are the chances do you think of me finding someone with good christian values on an online dating site such as this one or any other?
There are specifically Christian dating sites. You can google them and try them out. They're pay, but, it may be worth it for you. Otherwise, you just have to narrow your searches on here! "Christian" is so general that it won't mean they're your brand of theology... so I'd advise a Christian dating site. But hey, it's free here, so have at it -- nothing to lose!
Do you think I am putting too much emphasis on religion even though it's important to me or am I just in the wrong place altogether (online dating)?
It depends -- if you couldn't date someone who wasn't Christian or Christian "enough" to put "Christian" on their profile and just leave it at the default non-religious, then I would say no, you're not being too picky.
It depends on how you get along with people. If you need another follower in order to date, then that's what you have to do! | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/21/2009 11:18:51 AM | Even Jesus can't make two people like each other. But the fact that you're both into Jesus is a good conversation piece.
There IS a "Christian Singles" tab right here on this site. But, if you're like me, you'll have better luck hitting it off in person. Join a Bible study group, then get together with some people from the group afterwards for juice and crumpets. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/21/2009 7:33:06 PM | Actually Luvcast, my X and his family were big time Christians and I can honestly say they were some of the most evil people I've ever had the displeasure of getting to know.
Hopefully "God" picks a better one for you than he did for me LOL! | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/21/2009 7:43:45 PM | Well instead of putting on your profile that you are relying on God to choose or bring you your perfect women which can be intimitdating even for a christian why not put Seeking a woman of faith.
Why are you here? What about church are there no young single women in your church you are still young enough to find a single woman in church? What about missions work?
What about Christian singles? Better still there are a lot of venues these days with contemporary christian music why not check it out? | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:16:10 AM |  Just about any guy in church has all the women there wanting him, not to mention older people trying to set him up and get him married. Some guys will just juggle as many as they can for as long as they can, but most are just looking for the perfect one that looks just like the banner ad they see on their screen, usually under 25, and she'll be all these other things and be searching only for him. I'm not entirely sure this guy is like that, but it's highly unusual for a christian guy to complain he can't find somebody if he's not acting like that. The few who don't are not single very long. I basically quit dealing with guys who call themselves christians but have no differences from the rest of the world. I just decided I'd rather have somebody who treats me nicely instead of treating me like I'm dirty dirt on a dirt road just because the demographics favor him. Why deal with that when there are so many more outside of churches??? Sorry I had to laugh when I saw a guy complain he can't find somebody at church. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/22/2009 1:24:49 PM |
I've really got to rely on God to lead me to the one I'm meant to be with
Oh yes... the wonderful paradox that's Christianity. You're supposed to just let go and let his will be done. Yet, if you want something, you have to go out and get it don't you? Seek and ye shall find, ask and it shall be given... but, if you're asking for it, and seeking it... is it his will? Have fun with that one...
What are the chances do you think of me finding someone with good christian values on an online dating site such as this one or any other?
Much lower here than church singles groups, Christian camps, or Christian focused dating sites.
Do you think I am putting too much emphasis on religion even though it's important to me
Sounds like it's not only important, but critical. If you're a Christian, the bible forbids you to marry a non-Christian anyway. So, for you, it sounds like you've got the right idea.
or am I just in the wrong place altogether (online dating)?
That brings us back to the whole your will vs his vs searching vs not thing:
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33)
Good luck sorting out the conflicting ideas in the bible - there's a lot of 'em... but I digress. The popular answer seems to be, "go to dating gigs / sites that focus on Christianity." | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/22/2009 2:36:56 PM | even when a womans profile says shes Christian that doesn't always mean she is firmly.
Ive encountered women who arent christians who have more values and morals than those that claim to be Christians, so I dont think you should Emphasize on Those aspects of a womans profile.. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/22/2009 2:45:32 PM | | If dating a Christian is so important to you, you might do well to join a specifically Christian dating site. You might also find some luck on more marriage-minded sites like eharmony. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/22/2009 8:15:41 PM | | Use your own church and church activities to meet someone. There is such a huge difference in "Christian". Are you Catholic, Jehova Witness, Pentacostal, Unitarian, Seventh Day Adventist? None mentioned would get along with the other. Religious folks are pretty cliquish and stay in their own club. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:27:43 AM | Really? I've seen a lot of male "Christian" profiles. Lol! If finding a mate who is a Christian means a lot to you then you shouldn't put that to the wayside.
I believe that I've really got to rely on God to lead me to the one I'm meant to be with but so far I'm not getting anywhere.
Perhaps I'm looking at this statement the wrong way, but this kinda reminds me of people who reject doctors because they feel that God will be their personal doctor, healing all their ailments as they go along, but what they don't realize is that God put those people there to be a blessing to them! This also reminds me of people saying, "I believe God will supply me with a job" but not applying for anything. Just because you go to the doctor or apply for the job doesn't mean you don't believe that God is going to do/is doing anything in your life in that area. Same goes with using dating sites. Just because you're looking on a dating site doesn't mean you're giving up on God to help you find the right one. What you have to discern is whether you're where God wants you to be so you can find the right one.
Also you can't rush God. My parents didn't get married until they were 32/33 years old, not because they were trying to wait that long, but because that was the time God set for them to be married. To this day they are happily married and very happy that they did things God's way. Granted doing it God's way doesn't guarantee that you're going to get married in your 30s. As you have seen God has allowed people to get married earlier than that. In this past year I've been to 3 weddings for couples at my church. Everyone was either in the mid-late 30s or early-mid 40s. I'm not saying this to depress you. I'm saying this to show you that there's still hope. When God saw Adam was lonely He saw that it wasn't good for him to be alone so He gave Adam a help meet, Eve. He worked on her and made her his perfect match. (Genesis 2:18-24) He sees you're alone. He see's that it's not good that you're alone just like he did with Adam. Perhaps he's working on her before he has you two meet. Maybe he needs to work on you. o_O (lol)
While you're waiting for God to introduce you to your virtuous woman get in the Word and further your relationship with Him!
Anyway I'm off to go to sleep. Good night. Keep the faith! | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/23/2009 11:55:55 AM |
Good Christian girls stand in church every Sunday morning singing praises to the Lord but when the music stops, their asking forgiveness for cheating on their husband the night before.
Interesting Christian culture! Everyone thinks he/she has faith in god, but small group may reach to have the faith. However, they can always ask god for forgiveness to comfort themselves. Therefore, the god is so kind and always gives his followers chances of making mistakes, even crimes... | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:28:05 PM |
Interesting Christian culture! Everyone thinks he/she has faith in god, but small group may reach to have the faith. However, they can always ask god for forgiveness to comfort themselves. Therefore, the god is so kind and always gives his followers chances of making mistakes, even crimes...
God gave us the feeling of guilt so we'd know the magnitude of our mistakes. Moreover, it takes humility and courage to ask for forgiveness in the first place. If we don't ask for forgiveness, it isn't given to us. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/23/2009 5:48:40 PM | | If you never want to make you a better person, asking god for forgiveness means nothing good but gives you chances of doing guilty things over and over. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/23/2009 6:32:42 PM |
I believe that I've really got to rely on God to lead me to the one I'm meant to be with
Whenever I hear a statement like this, I laugh: You are not truly relying on your god! If you were, you wouldn't be on a dating site: you would be sitting at home waiting for a woman to knock on your door.
If you REALLY believe this, then perhaps your god is telling you to forget about finding a woman and that you should live alone for the rest of your life.
If you are 31 years old and haven't found her, you are pushing your agenda, not god's agenda. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/23/2009 11:47:45 PM | The OP believes, as far I can discern in being equally yoked as an important criteria
for considering a woman as a partner.
Nothing wrong with that.
I am, myself, simply a christian.
Heck, they can't even agree amongst themselves.
Open a phone book and just look under Baptist church to understand my point, then add to that dilemma, methodist, fundamentalist, etc.
OP--
Keep the faith, stand your ground and pray for the gift of discernment. | |
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| Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/24/2009 11:38:36 AM | I hope you are not waiting around for Jesus to send you phone numbers and email addresses. He's nobody's wingman.
You need to be proactively searching for a mate. If being the same religion or going to the same church is a priority then THAT is where you should be trying. Join a church social group or pass the word around to the ladies that you're on the prowl. | |
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