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Posted: 8/21/2009 10:43:50 AM | Sorry.....I don't know the "code." Or........am I just reading it all wrong?
I'm a guy.
So, consider......most of us reading are over 45 and we are probably aware of the hazards of having babies at this age for the women (aasuming we are trying to date a woman over 45).
The questions>>>>>>
1) Do you Want Children?
Prefer not to say
Want children
Does not want children
Undecided open
2) Do you have children?
Yes
No
All over 18
So? If I take the questions together and reading for "intent"........I wonder?
1) Say that the females says that she has chlidren "All over 18" and she "Does not want children."
Does that mean that she doesn't want any guy with children? If that is the case..........hey, I can understand..........she has been there done that and doesn't want to bother with another guy's kids.
2) Say that the female says that she has children of her own and then says "Does not want children."
Does that mean that her date should have no children of his own or is she saying that she doesn't any new babies?
3) Say that the female says that she want's children or "prefer not to say" or "undecided open"?
Does that mean that she want's (or will consider) babies of her own at her age (assuming she's over 45, after marriage of course)? Or does it mean that she will consider the a guy with children?
I'm confused...........comments anyone?
Perhaps the "Questions" need some clarification?
Then, again...........wanna call me "stupid".............go ahead.
Aloha, Mark | |
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| What's the RIGHT answer?
Posted: 8/21/2009 10:48:00 AM | Here's how it works:
1. See a profile that looks interesting.
2. Wonder what she means by saying "X."
3. Ask her. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 10:48:16 AM | Wow.....I just realized.
There is NO EDIT FUNCTION to correct "errors."
Aloha, Mark | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 10:53:30 AM | | I take "Does not want children" to mean that the woman does not want to have (give birth to) new babies. If she does not want to date a man with children, she should state that clearly in her own words in her profile. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:00:25 AM | | "Does not want children" means a person (whether a guy or a woman) doesn't want to have new babies in a new relationship he or she seeks. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:08:37 AM |
I take "Does not want children" to mean that the woman does not want to have (give birth to) new babies. If she does not want to date a man with children, she should state that clearly in her own words in her profile.
"Does not want children" means a person (whether a guy or a woman) doesn't want to have new babies in a new relationship he or she seeks.
Those would be possible interpretations. Another possible intrepretation is a person does not want a prospective mate that already has children. The answer to the question is not clearly defined and can mean many things to many people. There is no right answer.
OP, this topic has been discussed in numerous threads. The search function works wonderfully well to bring up threads about certain topics that have already been discussed numerous times as opposed to starting yet another redundant thread. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:15:17 AM | Mark,
Wow.....I just realized.
There is NO EDIT FUNCTION to correct "errors."
This is the easy answer. There is an "Edit Post" option - accessible from your post for 15 minutes only. Next time you post anything, look to the left of your post (underneath History). | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:30:55 AM | Tinkerbell,
Thanks for pointing out the "search" function.
TryAgain,
Thanks for pointing out the 15 min......edit.
Aloha, Mark | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:35:18 AM | TryAgain,
OK.....there is the post. (See my post above.)
Looking to the left under "History." NOTHING there for editing.
Or does it only apply to post #1?
Forgive me.......I'm new.
Aloha, Mark | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 11:36:09 AM | TryAgain,
OK....now it shows.
I guess.......sometimes, things are SLOW.
Aloha, Mark
PS........well, look at that..........I just corrected this post. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 12:33:52 PM | There is NO EDIT FUNCTION to correct "errors.
Sure is: to your left, under your picture, right at the bottom of that cluster. Works for fifteen minutes after you post. . . .
OOPs. Edit: should have read the whole thread. . . . | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 12:41:44 PM |
aware of the hazards of having babies at this age for the women No, what are the hazards? I do know that men over 45 that create children have children with more birth defects and there is a study showing these children have lower intelligence. The older the sperm donor the more problems with the fetus and baby if it is born.
As far as my having children goes. No f'ing way would I want to put my body through another pregnancy let alone the baby years. I so wish I would have had the opportunity to have my tubes tied with my last child. I don't want to do any volunteered operations. I can only hope that my bf will consider a vas. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 12:43:02 PM | WHAT?
We are actually suppose to read their profiles?
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OP while I totally stopped profile surfing about three years ago ......
Many of us don't really know what those click box options mean to us .. or how others would read it.
We also don't know what to write in there.
I got online looking for a cute girlfriend (looked nice to me) ........... it was THAT SIMPLE.
I was married most of my life (until these last few years) ...... it was ALWAYS that simple. You like each other or don't like each other.
Some insist on making this ...... rocket science. Some stare at every word on a profile THEN apply their own meaning to that word ........... why? | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 12:51:11 PM | OP
I agree with the posters who suggest that "Does not want children" means that they don't want to bear any more children, but that leaves the question of adopting new ones, or taking care of children under, say, 16, that the male might have from a previous marriage. Good question, now I'm worried. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 1:33:33 PM | | If the women selects "doesn't want children" and "doesn't have children" there is a good chance that she is planning/planned not to be involved with children. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 1:42:05 PM | All of the above. All of those are possibilities. You just have to ask. 
vvvv FFS, at first I thought you meant msg #42, but there's is none, so I guess you want 42 kids? I meant all of the above to what the OP asked lol. Anything's possible but well... not anything.
Blue? Now I'm really confused. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 1:45:54 PM | ^^^including 42?
Sorry me leona, I'm being idiotic. It's from Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 1:54:53 PM | Since these questions that are asked, like do you want more children are for all age groups, not just us older folks, they definately mean, Do I want to give birth to any more children and do I have children, which then gives you the option of 18 or older, which usually would give the clue that they are grown (which some are not and still at home, so you will need to find that out yourself).
In other words, No I don't want anymore children and that could mean if you still have some at home under 18, No I don't want them either.
So if you profile said yes you had children, but didnt state they were 18 or older, then I would pass you right on by...............
my take
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Posted: 8/21/2009 1:58:22 PM |
My son is 19 but I put "yes" as my answer to "Do you have children" because he still lives with me, and I think by saying "18 and over" it implies they have flown the coop. I state in my profile that he's 19 and lives with me, however.
I've also noticed others who say "yes" even though it seems obvious they're grown and on their own.
I put I don't want any more children because I really don't want more, the one I have is enough. If I met someone with young children I wouldn't want to deal with that (also another topic brought up in the past). | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 2:32:06 PM |
1. See a profile that looks interesting.
2. Wonder what she means by saying "X."
3. Ask her.
Yep, THAT's the right answer, in my opinion.
The way I see it,
if you're sittin' there wishin' you had a 'special someone',
open up the line of communication with ANYone you find somewhat interesting...
because ya never know what you may find.. maybe a treasure. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 2:41:14 PM | ""2. Wonder what she means by saying "X."""
...Huh?...I thought X marked the spot Me Hearties...on Captain'Hook's treasure map. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2009 2:46:52 PM | OP, what does 'Prefer Not To Say', regarding the question "Do you want children?", mean to you? You've answered it in a very ambiguous manner, yourself.
What I mean when I say "I don't want children" is that I have had all the biological children I am going to have in this lifetime. I was not excluding the idea that a man might have children still at home. I just was not going to have more.
I really didn't want to have to raise someone else's children either, but it would have depended on the man. Fortunately, with my guy and me, it isn't a issue. Neither of us have young children.
The various answers could mean different things to different people. Ask the individual woman. There is no way we can tell you what each woman means by her answers. You don't know and neither do we.
Communication is your friend.
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