| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:23:26 PM | | I find most guys at my age just look at a date as a meet up kind of thing with not a lot of expectations. But women tend to make these meet ups more important than a casual hello. I have had women show up after googling the location and tell me "we can do a lot of things together in this neighborhood" even though we don't even know whether or not we like each other. Do women have more expectations than men when we meet for the first time? | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:26:58 PM | | of course, women have more expectations than men! isn't that a given? women are trying to find things to do so that things don't just drift off to nothingness after hello & coffee, or whatever! women are always expecting to make conversation, keep things lively and to make the contact special. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:31:05 PM | ...Speaking for myself of course I never go into these things with any type of expectations. The last guy I went out with ( he knows who he is) I said that very thing to..."Let's just make this a fun experience and try to get to know one another without expecting something in return." Works....even though we're not romantically involved, we're still friends.
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:49:06 PM | I don't expect anything except a chance to meet someone, if it can be made to be a fun outing at the same time - that is a perk.
There are a lot of fella's who get on these sites just to get a piece...not all mind you but there ya are.
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:04:46 PM | | The only expectation I ever had on first meets, was that we would enjoy talking and getting to know one another . I never went into it expecting something more. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:28:07 PM | | I do not go into it with any expectations other than to have a pleasant time. I do think that some go into it looking for a hook-up, at least, that has been my experience a time or two. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/22/2009 11:04:40 PM | I personally think it is individual. My belief is younger people look for chemistry – older people know what their intent is and build on it. Remember this is my opinion…lol. My preference would be to find something or someplace both will enjoy as an experience that will enhance conversation and allow for each other to relax with out the focus being so intense.
Deserthottie’s said:
women are always expecting to make conversation, keep things lively and to make the contact special.
Seems women have played the role of nurturer in the past and I agree we have also been viewed as the entertainers of a relationship; this also goes to prove that we are also in control of desire.
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:24:58 AM | i didn' t vote to delete this thread because of my own emphasis upon your use of the word "expectations". in general, amongst my crowd of chosen people, there is no major difference between men and women, in that both sexes brush up on the differences between them and either act accordingly or explain themselves.
it's been explained in different ways and in different topics, that this depends upon culture, age, past experiences, income, employment versus retirement and degree of time on one's hands, etc. --also the fact that women have more bonding hormones surging through their neurons.
there is also a great a variance amongst men and women "your age". those who say let's do stuff, may just be looking for companions and possibly new to the area. some "ass u me" that everyone has the same paradigm or perspective.
so, if i were you, if this happens a lot to you and you seek to understand it, why don't you ask each individual woman who contacts you in this manner. frankly, i find it odd that you would get "so many" inquiries of this nature. but, i give you the benefit of the doubt, looking back to how i was when i first encountered the "mature" (!?*) singles world dating scene. eg: totally clueless and often still am! | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?YES
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:07:58 AM | | I guess we do! First off? I wouldn't agree to a meet if there was no chemistry at all! I would think that at this point? There was a conversation of two. Some spark of intrigue. The expectation would be minimal of course! But to have take the proactive approach and actually acted interested and googled what things can be done? Is not such a bad thing! Shows interest! Or do you prefer those that just sit there look pretty say nothing , do nothing? | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 4:18:28 AM | I do not think expectations differ between the sexes that much. Both parties are going into with a little bit of hope for something more than just a hello. If you don't in my opinion why even go? What is the driving force the cup of coffee?
Planning things to do after the coffee "such as a lot of things in the neighborhood" denotes this ray of hope and nothing more.. Most women know after all this meeting can well end at
hello or shortly there after..
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 4:35:03 AM | Both genders have expectations. Sometimes they may be different, but certain expectations are there otherwise they wouldn't be dating.
It could be argued that men have higher expectations as, from what I gather, some expect immediate intimacy... | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 4:41:57 AM | | I have done in the past, but I’m becoming more open minded about my expectations lately. I think men have just as many expectations as women do, though they’re often not the same… | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 5:04:20 AM | Definitely cannot generalize excessive expectations to gender.
Expectations is a really, REALLY good topic. Bottom line: it's best not to have any, in my humble opinion.
OP, it sounds like this bothers you because they bring this up before you've had a chance to decide if you like them enough? You are feeling pressured? I can relate to that. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 5:18:41 AM | I think it's better to do something, rather than sit around sipping on a coffee.
The setting and activity will stimulate the conversation.
You will learn more about a person by their behaviour and actions,
than you will by talking.
I think a relationship needs more than the right answers to be successful,
actions speaks louder than words.
Most people expectations are probably the same,
just want to meet someone they enjoy being with,
by their definition of enjoy. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 6:08:52 AM |
Most people expectations are probably the same,
just want to meet someone they enjoy being with,
by their definition of enjoy.
I agree, Avalon96. It seems like the problems creep in when people start stating their expectations too early and treating the first date like an interview, instead of being open enough to try and simply enjoy one another's company. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:40:09 AM | ""I expect the gentleman I am dating to have a penis between his legs and smaller moobs than me.""
...Never gonna enter in a Cowtipping contest again...my moobs got mistaken for an udder...and I was wearing my fedora!
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:52:47 AM | I'm in agreement with Messengers #3, 4, 5, and 6.
It seems like women want to get out and have a nice evening, and maybe make a friend, if they find out there isn't any chemistry.
But as soon as MANY men find out they won't be getting a hook-up (or decide they don't want one), they just want to leave immediately. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 8:47:48 AM | I think most men your age are just looking to check out the goods. So, what's wrong with doing something instead of just sitting there with a cup of coffee? Are you unable to walk and talk at the same time? 
What you're saying is that within 5-10 minutes you can tell if you like the person. Why not give the person up to 60 minutes during that time you could be at an art show, park, whatever?
I think you should change your screen name. | |
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| Do women have more expectations than men?
Posted: 8/23/2009 9:21:14 AM | | Individuals have different individual expectations, doesn't depend on gender. Maybe get to know someone a bit before setting up a meet; then you will be able to meet women who have the same type of expectations as you do. For the umpteenth time: all women are not alike; all men are not alike. | |
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A woman whose expectations I meet. 
And then again she probably has all those other unspoken expectations and standards that I don't fit. 
