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Posted: 8/22/2009 9:50:48 PM | I've been on POF for a while and I'm not getting any nibbles, lol. Can some ladies please give me some honest comments or constructive criticism on how to improve my profile inorder to get more responses. Thank you in advance.  | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 10:01:29 PM | | I love your profile. I wish I lived in Canada now. I can find nothing wrong with it. You sold me...if you were closer, I'd have messaged you right off. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 10:24:34 PM | Well done. I would prefer to see a snapshot of you as a main pic, not the stuffly suit portrait, but that's just me.
Well written, nicely done. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 9:05:55 AM | Thanks for your comments ladies. The business pic was the best I have as I have very few pics of myself. I didn't think my profile was too terrible but I can't figuire out why I've had so few responses, I didn't think I was that unattractive?? Most woman don't even message me back when I send them a short message asking them if they would like to talk and get to know each other. I'm educated, fun to be with and a gentleman who loves nature, animals, adventure and I have strong morals and ethics and was raised with 2 sisters so I know how to treat a lady. I'm starting to feel like the old joke about the guy who couldn't get lucky in a Whore house with a $1000 bill hanging out of his mouth.  | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 9:10:04 AM | | Just a clarification, my last sentence is a joke, I'm here to meet someone for a long term relationship, not to just get laid. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 9:16:57 PM | | So, why am I not gettig any responses if my profile is "good"? | |
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:09:20 PM | Your messages may be a bit 'off''. NEVER ask for contact right off the bat. Make a comment on their profile that you found amusing, interesting or whatever, then ask an impersonal question that you feel she would be interested in answering.
A real turn off for a lot of these gals is - wanna talk? wanna chat? I'd like to get to know you - (duh). Don't ask. Your answer will be in the next reply - if you get one. No reply = no interest. Do not take it personal. They do not know you nor you them.
See if they have posted on a forum or answered one and comment on that.
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Posted: 11/5/2009 8:36:26 PM | OP - Here's the deal.
Women, depending on their age and hotness factor get anywhere between 10 and 50 emails a DAY. The would be a full time job answering that many emails. And I know for a fact the the women just read/delete the emails unless they are complete standouts. I know this to be 100% true as a very close friend was on POF for one month and got almost 1,000 emails (She is super hot and 29) and another girl I know is on POF (22 years old) and gets 20-30 emails a day.
If your emails are anything like your profile, I can tell why you aren't getting response.
Your pictures are horrible. The only "person" I would date based on the 4 you have is your dog, except he's a he. And I just don't swing that way. He is cute though.
Your main picture is 80% of your profile. It has to be a GREAT picture of your face only. Close up, good lighting, no hats or sunglasses... Just your mug. The one you have is probably awesome for business, but horrible for online dating. Women aren't going to want to date your dog. Kill it - the picture, not Jake. Cars/Boats/Bikes/Toy pictures = horrible. I have a sick Ferrari in my garage, but there ain't no WAY I would post it on POF as I don't want the gold diggers after me. Seriously, kill all but pictures of you that the ladies can see what you look like.
Add 10-15 interests. These are searchable and how you are potentially matched with the women.
Profile text - UGH!!! Everyone of your sentences start with the letter "I". All six sentences. SIX? Is that all that is cool about you? Come on dude.
You need to write a catchy (I.e. not boring as hell) first paragraph or you lost the reader already. Preferably one that has humor in it. I am struggling if you can pull this one off though. A paragraph about you and what makes you different from the other 33 single men in Grande Prairie. Pick a favorite hobby/pastime you are into and share something about that with the reader.
THEN!!! Talk about what kind of qualities you are searching for in a woman. ONLY positive ones.... Never talk about the negative stuff anywhere in your profile.
Kill the last line in your profile as most women will not contact you first. That is the man's job and the women like to be pursued, just like in the cave man days. Some things never change. Well I think today it would be considered socially unacceptable to grab a woman by the hair and drag her out of the bar, Ah the good old days.
First date: You aren't dating until you have gone out with someone for more than 0 times. Most of the time that First date needs to be in public, somewhere quasi quiet, with heavy police coverage for their comfort. Keep that to one possible idea and go from there. You gave 36 and a half ideas there.
Cheers!
PS The more I look at Jake's picture I am starting to change my mind about dating him. He's CUTE! | |
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