| the art of flirting
Posted: 8/22/2009 9:59:14 PM | | In todays society there are courses for everything, should we set up a school for the art of flirting? and if we did what should be the curriculum? 2 steps forward one step back?, Saying no when you mean yes? How to say yes and be understood. ? sealing the moment? >>>>???? Steaoing the kiss? what do you think? | |
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| the art of flirting
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:31:50 PM | Read 'Gone with the Wind' - Margaret Mitchell or see the movie - set during the Civil War in America - it's all about 'the art of flirting&flattering' the Man you're heart desires---------------- Good Luck!! | |
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| the art of flirting
Posted: 8/22/2009 10:39:43 PM | Extra credits for untreatable VD and groupie stalkers?
Skinny blondes are 30pts, skinny Goths without bloodletting involved, 50pts. Indie chicks do not count towards your final marks unless musically talented.
Whoa, scored a fattie. Fail. Laid the teacher, honours?
Teacher's a fattie. Okay now I've mixed feelings about this whole thing. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 10:49:37 PM | How hard can we possibly manage to make everything for ourselves? Maybe there are so many emotionally fcuked up people, due to the fact that many people play so many games and make such a drama out of attraction.
Seriously, if you like someone....tell them. How easy is that? If they like you.....they should tell you back......bingo! Get to know each other slowly.
These days everyone seems to want instant relationships and to be shagging asap......bring back courting I say and lets take our time and enjoy the whole ride, rather then worrying and planning what comes next.
I know about this stuff....apparently.  | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 11:36:06 PM | | I dunno Hilly, it sounds a bit weird to me. Can we court while shagging? You know, I like your perfume, can you move a little to the side yes that's it good right there. | |
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| the art of flirting
Posted: 8/23/2009 2:28:00 AM | i don't think you can learn how to flirt.....
it's an "art" that comes naturally.
there's a big difference in knowing how to flirt in comparison to being an out and out tease. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 2:53:05 AM | | Nope – that school would be a waste of time for me as I can’t flirt with anyone I am interested in. Most probably afraid of rejection or something. In fact, the more interested I am in someone, the more remote I am. The less interested I am, the more flirty I become. I think it must be because I feel safe flirting with those I’m not interested in and/or are unavailable so therefore I can’t get hurt. Either that or I need counselling. Or the red pills. Mmmmm….the red pills! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 3:58:11 AM | the fart of lirting...
yeh, fhard for dyslexics.... lirting.... (look it up)..... | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 4:52:31 AM | Methinks "flirting" smacks of "game playing", or perhaps I'm a little behind the times .... either way, I agree with hilly ... say what you mean and mean what you say ... that way no-one gets fcuked around ... At my age not much time left to be thinking about " should I or should'nt I ???" ....  | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 5:06:42 AM | most of the social situations you end up in there are usually more women than men...
not organised events pre se.. just going out at random ....
who do you flirt with?.. the only girl "tarting it up" with 10 or 20 blokes in the room?...
choice bro.... not for me...
while in a more mixed even numbered crowd you get the chance to do the social butterfly around with those you know, their friends or people in general....
it may not be considered real flirting, flirting until you get some reflirting back by an interested flirter ready to have a bit of a flirt on the night.... with you.... then it becomes serious flirting as opposed to merely butterflying around the room....
mmmmkkkkk??.. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2009 7:00:52 PM | Flirting is avery natural response to picking up a man's 'male' emanations . Standing near some men is like receiving a sort of goose bump thing feeling . It's just their .. er , ... maleness , their just being men and I suspect it comes from them feeling a feeling being near you . Funny , I was just thinking this standing next to a male friend of mine .. totally platonic [cough] and it was just sooo different from standing next to a woman . VIVE LA DIFFERENCE !!!!  | |
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| the art of flirting
Posted: 8/23/2009 7:08:41 PM |
Seriously, if you like someone....tell them. How easy is that? If they like you.....they should tell you back......bingo! Get to know each other slowly
quite agree with you , but hey might as well flirt with them while you are telling them | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 2:48:37 AM | | I think flirting is a good thing because if you are on the same page as someone it is lots of fun and you will know that you get along and have a similar sense of humour. Flirting is a sign of a healthy relationship as well so i say yes flirting should be taught. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 4:13:40 AM | Have to admit that flirting is a favourite practice, insinuation, the prospect of a positive response, its as much about what is not said and the smile in the eyes not so much the content of the reply. Subtlety and nuance, the first time you touch, perhaps on the back or the shoulder, just to see and feel the reaction..........its magic
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Posted: 8/24/2009 6:39:08 AM | Sometimes we flirt without even being aware of it... its in the way we wear our hair, the way we walk, our attitude when we talk to someone.. sometimes its even how we wave goodbye, or hello....
When we greet people with a hug, women especially, which was not done in my flirting years. The art of smiling should now be discussed as that the next best thing to flirting.. that look a woman gives a man, as she walks past him in the shops, does it mean, are you here again? I`m sure I saw you at the newsagency,? are you folowing me?? someti4ems its just a leer. or asmirk. do people still use these expressions??
forgive me... I`m old fashioned I think...
and of course it can be the way we wear our clothes.... or not wear them..    | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 4:37:27 PM | ^^^^ I agree
Flirting can be sexual or non-sexual and is a natural human tendency. I am a natural flirt – I love communicating and I find myself initiating conversation with strangers wherever I go. If I encounter someone who looks good, I don't think about complimenting them I just do it. Making other people feel good bounces right back at me. Guess the best flirts I know are confident people who know they have something to offer the world and love making others feel great.
As far as human behaviours are concerned evolutionary psychologists believe that "sexual" flirting is man’s way of engaging pleasurably with a member of the opposite sex, with the ultimate goal of reproduction. Now call me stupid, but most men "today" looking to pick up are not thinking about having children with the woman! On the other hand, Freud's flirting theory is that it is a communication tool saying that we "leak truth from every pore"”... Although a lot of Freud's theories I don't believe..... this I believe.
Many women view flirting as nothing more than some harmless fun with no determined end-game "maybe" … (unless the flirt is happening between her man and another female – that’s a call to arms). Thing is we all do it and do it differently ….... But, to do it effectively … hmmm now this is where we tend to get a bit confused. You’d think that common sense might help you to flirt more successfully, but you’d be wrong. And here’s why.
Dr Antonio Darmasio, MD and head of neurology at the University of Iowa, claims that the reason it all goes wrong is because the process of flirting actually mimics brain damage. “The limbic system, responding to a cue that says ‘this person is attractive’, overrides the neo-cortex. Therefore, for a brief moment, we are completely out of control (Descartes' Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain 1994).
Now this quote won’t hold up in a court of law should you ever get too out of control with a girl/guy but, it does explain why some of us struggle in the flirting moment. I find understanding the brain’s response to behaviours ie. flirting helps me to engage with the opposite sex on their level, (albeit brainless!!!) but, tends to prevent the inevitable.
Somebody once said that flirting is God's fool tool for actually getting 2 people together..... | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 5:04:30 PM | We all need to find that person we trust to be ourselves with.
I am not creating a character that is not me, I won't do that for anyone.
If you do, your whole life is based on a farce ... Could you live that everyday ???
I couldn't. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 5:58:28 AM | | Whilst I'm not a big flirt I do enjoy the occasional smile or shared moment at the supermarket. ;-) | |
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Posted: 8/25/2009 8:03:47 PM | | Flirting at the supermarket is the best fun................I agree. The only trouble is I still go home alone................. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 12:46:25 AM | we can move the flirting to.......the receptionists at a lot of offices... how do they cope with the blatant flirting people do, in the hope they will put your name to the top of the list, as applicants for jobs, interviews with celebrities....trying to get that last room booked.... the cupboard in the staff room etc.
whats your best answer?? | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 6:32:30 AM | | Update: I was at the supermarket tonight, and as often happens kept crossing paths with one particular woman. We went through adjacent checkouts and exchanged another smile. As she and her daughter walked off the daughter said "That man was smiling at you Mum. " Definitely brightened my evening. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 2:13:32 PM |
Flirting can be sexual or non-sexual and is a natural human tendency. I am a natural flirt – I love communicating and I find myself initiating conversation with strangers wherever I go. If I encounter someone who looks good, I don't think about complimenting them I just do it. Making other people feel good bounces right back at me. Guess the best flirts I know are confident people who know they have something to offer the world and love making others feel great.
beautifully put!! thats it | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 4:00:00 PM | ....."that man was smiling at you mum".....
omg.....the supermarket stalker.....
don't you just love being chased around the aisles.....not | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 7:17:09 PM | ^^^^^^^
Oh chill out...............I actually think it's kind of funny!
Besides how do you know they are following you? They may well be needing to go to every aisle that you do! | |
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