| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:29:38 PM | I have been asked this question a hundred times by anyone who writes me on this site, or even in real life.
What is it? Why am I always asked this question? What does it matter to a guy if I live alone or not? Any idea?
I am guessing maybe they wanna know if they will be welcome to my place for some nookie nookie but again... it can't be that.. that is too stupid. Women who share their accommodation still have boyfriends or men come over. What am I missing? | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:35:19 PM | You're not missing anything. Guy wanna sleep over, and women typically use the "roommate waking up" as a reason they can't.
Or the parents.
Or the kids.
Or the dogs, snakes, neighbor downstairs, or the Flying Nun next door.
It's about privacy.
I'll bet the moment you say "NO", the guy suggests hanging out in his CAR. 
Don't come - knockin' - when this van's a - rockin' !!!  | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:38:35 PM | | also kind of another way to ask if he will need to run away from your place with his pants down to his knees because your boyfriend just came home while you where in the middle of it... isn't it? | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:40:46 PM | | They're just scouting for potential partners for a ménage à trois. Don't worry about it. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:41:10 PM | I hope you don't answer those questions, sounds like the beginning of the "I'm going to rape you checklist". Not to be crass but that's a creepy question, also what in the hell makes you think you'll ever see my house; rather your house. I hope you just instantly block on that situation, could be potentially dangerous. I say that for just a week ago I came across my first POF rape thread(OP just mentioned it, entire thread wasn't about the incident) and found though the playful banter and cute smile avatars are but one portion of this site, their will always be the human sinister and depraved individual that has breached the walls & walks among us. BE AWARE friend .
P.S sorry for the run on sentence their, Ramadan is kicking my ass  | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:41:39 PM | | They want to know if they'll have to bring their can of chloroform with them or not. They want to know if you have a hawt romomate. They want to know if...you are schtoopable in short order. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:42:36 PM | | Because room mates can be annoying. You're sitting there, just trying to watch a movie together, the room mate comes home and wants to chat. Or you just get "done" but you have to find some pants so you can go to the bathroom to clean up. They just want to know what to expect | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 7:51:38 PM | Thanks for the replies, guys. The first message really craked me up.
Well, if it means thaaat much to them, why won't they get their own places and spare people the stupid questions, or do they have to save on rents on the expense of my sanity lol
Cheers | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 8:35:05 PM | | ^^^Exactly - if they live alone then it's not an issue what happens somewhere else. I get the question a lot too - I don't get it either, at least not so soon in a conversation where I may not even date the guy anyway. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 8:53:50 PM |
Do you live alone?
Yes. I do. Have for a little over a decade now.
What is it? Why am I always asked this question? What does it matter to a guy if I live alone or not? Any idea?
Tons of reasons.
Such as it's a piece of information for conversation.
Do you live alone?
No, I live with my parents.
Buy you are in your 40's
Well, the basement is furnished.
or
Do you live alone?
No, I still live with my husband. But we're trying a separation so he's in a room down the hall.
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Do you live alone?
No I have roommates.
Really? Cool. Me too. Did you room with friends or go with a paper ad? I went to a placement agency when I first moved here...
Wow. We're having a conversation. And here I thought you only had ulterior motives to try and have that icky sex with me.
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Do you live alone?
Yes. I just bought my first house last year. I'm still making it my own.
Cool. I still rent (or) Cool. Me too, the market is great right now. (tons of information right there)
What am I missing?
Some have ulterior motives that you may not appreciate.
Others may have ulterior motives like wanting to get to know you so ask questions to see how you respond and what information they can glean about you that isn't for purposes that you have negative associations with. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 9:26:40 PM | | It's to see if you have any c0ckblocking roommates. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 9:28:35 PM | Sometimes people don't wanna deal with roommates/family/whatever interrupting, even if it's an old fashioned, clean date.
For example, I pretty much NEVER invite anyone over to the house unless both my roommate are away. I'd just feel extremely awkward if either of them were in the house. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 9:39:59 PM | | that question is generally conversation filler,but can be a good way to get know someone. it leads to more questions that can tell you alot about the person in general and where abouts they're in their life. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/24/2009 9:51:30 PM | It is either they want to come over to play around or they really just don't have any good conversation starters.  | |
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Posted: 8/24/2009 9:54:30 PM | | I only think to ask that question if the woman is dressed funny. I'm trying to figure out how she managed to leave the house looking like that. Nobody there to stop her is one reason. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 8/25/2009 12:42:01 AM | | they wanna know if they're able to have a joint with you in privacy. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:38:49 AM | I would ask the same question while dating someone eventually. but not right off the bat. lol
nobody wants to date someone who still lives with their parents. sometimes meeting the parents a little too soon can sometimes feel.... a little too awkward.
and if you're looking for a serious relationship with this person.... good luck.
lack of privacy doesn't really give the couple one on one time for sleep overs, movie nights, dinner, and even lazy days where couple snuggle up and watch movies all day being lazy together.... can't do that with the parents around.... that's too damn awkward.
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:47:46 AM | I guess I'm asked that question some times too, but I don't read it as an attempt to get in my pants (silly me?). I take it as an asessment of my overall life situation and preferences. I ask that question too.
For me, it's more like this: Do you live alone or with roomates? If you live with roomates, why is that? Is it because you're lonely and bored if you lived by yourslef, or is it because you don't want to spend the money on rent (aka can't afford it)? | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 11/3/2009 2:01:36 AM | Mine is simple.. just me and my 13 year old daughter.. so therefore no date is coming to my house. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:25:05 AM | | Sometimes you are sharing you accommodations with your boyfriend, it is kind of a quick way of asking if you have a SO in your life. | |
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| Do you live alone?
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:26:56 AM | I wish I did. Two kids and a cat under my roof. You do the math.
Don't include the man in that equation, though. He doesn't get through my front door, kids or not, until I have known him for a long time and I am in a committed relationship with him. | |
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