| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 5:50:41 AM | | Why do some guys lurk when looking at profiles? Why don't they want her to see that they have looked at her profile? I just don't get it. I say just grow a pair & let them see that you have looked. | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 5:57:04 AM | Because so many seem to put significance in simply LOOKING at a profile. So we hide it so people like you don't get the wrong idea.
I may of LOOKED at your profile for only 1.5 seconds and seen your full size pics and screamed out loud and hit back page to leave as fast as I can.
Or been put off by the fact you do or don't smoke, drink do drugs have kids etc...
I might LOOK at a hundred profiles just browsing in an evening. Actually READ a dozen.
Be interested in one maybe .
See what I mean? Just clicking on your profile means nothing really.
Good Luck
Cowboy | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 6:30:18 AM | oh yeah... then accused of being a stalker... by little brained women... who can't even figure out how "viewed me" section works....
" Oh but he's constantly checking out my profile.... " <--- 
Not worth the trouble... too many stupid people out there...... best way is to swim ... in stealth mode....  | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:01:50 AM | Hey, it's not limited to guys. Sometimes something or someone will catch my eye, and not always in a good way, but I will look. I don't hide my view 'cuz I really don't care. I read cereal boxes, obits, and anything else that crosses my path. It doesn't mean anything whether they view as showing or not. If they really want to contact you, they will.
Edit: VVV no, sometimes something strikes you later and you go back to check... I do that with really funny profiles or sometimes I see a real good one (or bad) and copy, paste the link to my POF buddies. I have a friend who everytime he logs on sees me as having viewed... but that's the top row (have viewed at some point) not the sequential bottom (last to view). Viewing is harmless. | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:18:16 AM | It's not that I want them all to contact me, it's just I have noticed most of the guys that have messaged me have been lurkers. I am not in lurker mode because I don't care who sees that I looked either. Sometimes I'm looking because their picture had something weird or had a dog in it or whatever & caught my attention. Sometimes I read their profile & sometimes I was just looking at their picture.
Just was wondering why the lurking...
Do some think you are stalking because you have looked at their profile more then once? | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:29:37 AM |
Do some think you are stalking because you have looked at their profile more then once?
Yeah... I don't think that you understand how the "viewed me" thing works. So, before you start labeling guy as "lurkers", perhaps you should read up on it.
Further, who cares!? It's not like they're following you to work and hanging around outside of your house. If something like this bothers you enough to start a thread about it and insult their manhood (just grow a pair & let them see that you have looked) it doesn't bode well for you in the dating world.
BTW, if the guy has his settings so that you can't see that he looked at your profile... how would you know that he's a "lurker"?? | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:45:35 AM | | In the real world would you be considerd a lurker if you were noticing people at the grocery store, the beach or your favorite watering hole? I'm sure that people have looked at you when your not looking at them... | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:55:15 AM | Even though I think it's pretty self explanatory about the viewed me, let's say I don't understand ...explain it.
I was just wondering why, for the most part, guys who message me never show up on viewed me. Are they too shy to let me know they looked?
Sorry about the man up part... | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 8:42:07 AM |
I was just wondering why, for the most part, guys who message me never show up on viewed me. Are they too shy to let me know they looked?
Again, why does it matter?? You should just be happy that guys ARE messaging you! Instead, you're immediately thinking that something is wrong with them.
IDK, some people can't be happy about anything... | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 8:48:19 AM |
I say just grow a pair & let them see that you have looked.
wow, questioning our manhood if we dont set our settings to make sure that you know someone looked at your profile?
I have heard it all on this site now.... | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 9:02:19 AM |
Why do some guys lurk when looking at profiles?
To get you in ambush.
To keep from getting emails saying "Hi...how are you...saw you saw my profile...wanna chat?"
To keep from having to send emails saying "Just browsing, not here to chat. Good luck though."
To then keep from getting emails saying "I see. You aren't serious. You're just trolling for sex. All you internet guys are the same! I don't need luck a hole! I can get dates in real life, you have to use the internet for women you fag loser!"
(actual conversation)
Because they have lurker DNA.
Because they hate the viewed me feature and don't want to feel an onus to contact everyone that looked at them, so transfers what they think of as a courtesy to others.
To avoid donating to the much more prevalent "what does it mean when he viewed my profile, and keeps viewing without contacting me!" forum posts.
Why don't they want her to see that they have looked at her profile?
To keep misunderstandings and perceived intentions to a minimum.
I say just grow a pair & let them see that you have looked.
You understand that isn't biologically possible...Right? | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 9:04:23 AM | | OK, I read your profile. Good one. You can see that I read it. Yest, history is nice. Been to Europe and the castles. It's not growing a pair or not. I have looked at quite a few only to have someone that I am not interested in send me an e-mail. However, being me, I respond to everyone. All people are cool! It is what it is. Accept it or stop the on-line thingie. | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 9:16:19 AM | i sit in 'lurker' mode all the time.. and sometimes i even hide my profile from searches..
should i attempt to grow a pair too....? | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 9:26:30 AM |
should i attempt to grow a pair too....?
Dang it that was going to be my line...
OP I think there is more of us that are in stealth mode than not. I turn it on when I want someone to know I looked at their profile otherwise...I dont' bother.
Out here in forums I must click on at least 30 profiles a day. Am I lurker. | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 9:32:19 AM | There's a stealth mode on here ? Why dont people tell me these things ?!?! I could be, being more stealthy and Im not ? Dammit !!! 
OMG !!!! They're multiplying ......  | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 9:36:39 AM | | Growing a pair is risky because it's hard to control exactly where they might grow. You could end up with an unwanted forehead ornament, making dating that much more difficult, and for what? No, that's bad advice. If the guy doesn't already have a pair he is best off working within the limitations of his condition. He should resist such advice. | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 10:02:44 AM | I look and don't lurk but most of the time I look at people after they post on forums. I don't care if they see me or not I just want to see where there coming from.
As far a some guys though I think it might be either shyness or they don't want to be seen as a stalker. | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 11:49:28 AM |
I may of LOOKED at your profile for only 1.5 seconds and seen your full size pics and screamed out loud and hit back page to leave as fast as I can.
Or been put off by the fact you do or don't smoke, drink do drugs have kids etc...
I might LOOK at a hundred profiles just browsing in an evening. Actually READ a dozen.
Be interested in one maybe .
See what I mean? Just clicking on your profile means nothing really.
This.
I do this. I am a serious profile pager. I flip all day. Look at a lot. Never message anyone! OR, I find one I'm really interested in and send her a nice note. I've started paying attention to those that look at me. Maybe those ladies would be agreeable to starting a conversation.
I may look at a profile more than once because I think a girl is cute, or I try to jog my memory about why I didn't message someone (oh yeah... smoker... mmm... doesn't want kids... .. mm, next). | |
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| Why are some guys profile lurkers?
Posted: 8/25/2009 11:55:04 AM | | you check a profile, decide you are not interested and then they write you because they noticed you checked their profile.... Hey, bozo, I didn't write because I wasn't interested... | |
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