| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 12:31:13 AM | Just wanted to get an idea of what personality type guys prefer. Theres always the interesting question of what do you prefer for a relationship, an extroverted, outgoing, wild and outspoken girl? OR a more introverted, shy, introspective nice girl? I personally am attracted to extroverted girls who speak their mind and know what they want and know how to express themselves. I can see the appeal of the introverted girls and I understand why some guys don’t want a chatter box or want more control in a relationship.
They also say, as a guy, its better to be an extrovert as it gets you more dates and women find you more exciting. I personally am kinda in the middle, so maybe for me the right type of girl for me is a middle ground girl.
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 12:36:34 AM | Hmmm.............I generally prefer quieter guys.
I met up with an extroverted type on the weekend and he nearly drove me mental.................
Sorry I must be tired because I just realised this was about women...............LOL. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 12:44:34 AM | | I am an introvert and prefer the same in a woman for a relationship. For sex either one has advantages. The introvert makes you feel it when you satisfy her, the extrovert has a way of verbalizing the same to let you - and all the neighbors regardless of the time - know. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:43:34 AM | | I'm an extrovert and I prefer men who are the same. I have dated introverted men and find them to be a huge bore. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 3:54:33 AM | If you are an extroverted guy, I have fun with you, but then get bored with party attitude. If you are an overly introverted guy, I ease you into my world, but I usually hate that most introverted guys are afraid to dance. I choose a guy that balances in between, or I lose interest in both types. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:04:25 AM | | I don't think introvert = shy. I think many introverted people have a higher intelligence then most and can't be bothered with the mundane and feel drained being around less intelligent people (even if it is in their own mind). These people usually have a great sense of humor (albeit a little dry) and are actually fun to hang out with one on one if you can match wits! Just don't ask them to go to any parties with you. They WILL be bored. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women as by definition
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:10:06 AM | The Definition of both:
Most people believe that an extrovert is a person who is friendly and outgoing. While that may be true, that is not the true meaning of extroversion. Basically, an extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. This is the opposite of an introvert who is energized by being alone.
Extroverts tend to "fade" when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think best when they are talking. Concepts just don't seem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn't enough.
Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people. Their ability to make small talk makes them appear to be more socially adept than introverts (although introverts may have little difficulty talking to people they don't know if they can talk about concepts or issues).
Extrovert behavior seems to be the standard in American society, which means that other behavior is judged against the ways an extrovert would behave. However, extroverted behavior is simply a manifestation of the way an extrovert interacts with the world. Extroverts are interested in and concerned with the external world.
Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.
Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."
When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.
Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.
Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:30:59 AM |
I'm an introvert and am flexible about being with an intro or extro if they are self-aware and understand the dynamics of both intro/extro personalites. For instance, if I'm emotionally and physically drained after presentations or having to be "on" for a long period of time I need to recharge -- often times this means being alone or with someone who does not drain me or is not too demanding. If the person is self aware of the dynmics between in intro/extro it just lends itself well to an overall better understanding of each other and what the particular needs are for each type.
Sometimes I think intro's get a bad rap as being shy, passive, etc. I don't find this to be true - it's being more introspective vs. shy/passive. Being an introvert myself I do have extroverted tendancies if I'm in the right social setting (comfortable with friends, have liquid courage, enjoying myself, etc.). IMO we have the ability to be both but on a day-to-day basis we are heavier in one area vs. the other. JMO.
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Posted: 8/26/2009 5:57:32 AM | | I'm an introvert with an occasional extrovert streak. Yin/yang or the other way around, I get confused. Sometimes I crawl into my shell to get into some deep thinking, I need a man who understands that I'm not running away, just hiding out for awhile. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:55:54 AM | | I far prefer introverts for long term relationships. I do like dating extroverts occasionally, but I find it harder to connect with them and I burn out if I spend too much time with them. Extroverted friends are great, too - they've usually got something going on, but I really enjoy my downtime to think and read and plan, so I don't want to be out doing things constantly. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:23:12 AM |
Theres always the interesting question of what do you prefer for a relationship, an extroverted, outgoing, wild and outspoken girl? OR a more introverted, shy, introspective nice girl?
Phrased like that, the introvert, definitely. I'm a quiet, introverted guy, and an outspoken extrovert would be too overwhelming for me. A shy, introspective, nice girl? That sounds really appealing. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women as by definition
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:39:11 AM | "Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population."
Does that surprise anyone, if they are the ones thinking before speaking? :-) | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 9:31:49 AM | I prefer introverted women, who after a drink or two become extroverts.
What can I say? I like predictability. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 10:07:37 AM | I'm an introvert and usually extroverted guys do drain me a bit. Even if they don't, they usually seem intimidated by our conversations -- I can do small talk every now and then but I'm more likely to discuss something like the pros and cons of democracy or some insight that absolutely fascinated me. Extroverted guys that I've dated have had pretty low attention spans for topics that carried weight or significance (at least from my POV).
It is generally true about the relationship between thoughts, speech, and extroversion/introversion. I've found that when talking to extroverted men, not a lot of their sentences start with any variant of "I was thinking"  On the plus side, extroverted people can be much more spontaneous. But I prefer thinkers 
With how many dates you get, that really depends. If you are stuck in a herd of extroverted people (like I was in high school), the going can get rough for an introvert. But after high school I moved to a larger city and met plenty of introverts who thought I was gold. There probably is room for mix 'n' match, but not yet in my experience.
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I personally am attracted to extroverted girls who speak their mind and know what they want and know how to express themselves. <--- I am/have all these traits, but usually I speak, know, and express thoughts that stretch and snap the minds of extroverted men  | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 10:15:58 AM | | It doesnt matter introverted or extroverted, the only thing that matters is the personality overall! Some extroverts are great people to hang around, as well as some introverts. I guess what I am saying it depends on the person and what they have to say when they are actually saying it! | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 12:07:24 PM |
Just wanted to get an idea of what personality type guys prefer. My only preference with this sort of personality type is not to get involved with a drama-queen type who prefers to be the center of attention. Sort of an extreme extrovert.
They also say, as a guy, its better to be an extrovert as it gets you more dates and women find you more exciting. Maybe if you are looking to develop pickup-artist skills. Otherwise it's best just to be yourself and be confident about yourself whether you enjoy being extroverted or like to keep your feelings and emotions more to yourself. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 12:22:48 PM | | I am more introverted, shy, introspective, but I'm frank if it's neccessary. I don't like a guy who becomes extroverted, outgoing, and wild in order to get more dates. Absolutely, I won't give him the chance...LOL! | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:35:07 PM | Wow - I learn more about myself on POF everyday!
After reading about introverts and extroverts it seems I am both.
I have always been a deep thinker and found myself wanting to leave parties after a short while and have time to myself. I do enjoy my own company and wondered if that was strange.
On the other hand I am not afraid to say what I think or feel about something.
So really I don't know what I am.................... | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 2:49:09 PM | | Actually, I like a balance of both. A woman who can be reserved when she needs to be, and also assertive when she needs to be. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 3:06:59 PM | | I go by the old saying " There is a time for EVERYTHING" so basically a girl with many dimensions is better than just an extroverted or just an introverted girl, I don't want a "labeled" girl, I want an "layered" woman. I want an outspoken girl who knows when to put a fight and when to let things slide, a girl fighting all the time would be annoying or being too loud, and a quiet girl with no opinion would get stale too, give me layer. | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 3:18:09 PM | I like men who are "innies" and "outties"! A nice balance....nothing over the top or overly quiet. Thats basically what I am. I have my moments that I am very outgoing and talkative.....and others when I am more shy and quiet. Makes it more interesitng, I think......a nice mixture!  | |
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Posted: 8/26/2009 3:58:55 PM | | Not all of us introverts are afraid to dance. I like dancing, it's fun and I am an introvert. On the topic of introverted vs. extroverted, I like introverted women because i like having what seem to be more meaningful conversations than idle chatter. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:23:05 PM | I am an introverted guy and I am only attracted to introverted girls.
I am a firm believer that opposites do not attract, at least not for LTRs. | |
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| Introverted vs Extroverted women
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:15:41 PM | | HazelRose in msg 7 has provided the correct answer. To discover if you are an introvert or an extrovert google Meyers Briggs personality test. It is a simple test that will tell you a great deal about your basic personality type. | |
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