| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 5:50:35 PM | This caught me totally by suprise.... I am divorcing, literally less than 2 weeks before our court date and have been dating on and off for a while now. I went to pick up my son at my wifes friends house and we started talking about the divorce , and dating future , differences in needs between men and women, and talking about going without sex for periods of time. pretty run of the mill stuff.
I am always leary as its my wifes friend, and god only knows with the divorce, if there is some kind of information gathering happening. people act funny at times like this.
She then admitted to being bisexual, then talked about the sexual freedom she and her hubby have . they both allow the other lovers, and sometimes share men and women. If it feels good and nobody is hurt, why not?
why not indeed?
what followed was a very discreet but unmistakeable offer to hook up with me. Short of coming up and fondling me, it was that clear a suggestion.
My ex might be hurt, but I am pretty sure this person would never tell, and besides she s not interested in me anymore. I am not currently intimate with anyone else, and if they both share and its okay, do I jump right in?
help me o wise ones.... | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 5:54:14 PM | I think your ex put her up to it to see just exactly what kind of dirt bag you are.
Why don't you call the house and ask her husband if you can bend his wife like a willow tree.
That would clear it all right up. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:01:15 PM | lol @ abbicci.
"why not indeed". yeah right! hey, ever heard of a lil' something called risk/reward analysis?? try it sometime. particularly on your current horny-assed, penocentric issue. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:50:21 PM | | meh...nothing technically wrong with it..but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do...don't tangle things up further, you and your ex have a son to raise together even if you're divorced. Don't screw up a team just to get laid. There are plenty of fish in the sea. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:52:02 PM | | Thank her profusely for inviting you to go where far too many men have gone before, but you must beg off for fear of making all the men who cum after you seem like pure beginners. Then tip your hat and saunter away. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:54:06 PM | Okay, so there's a slight possibility that she's telling you the truth, even so, I don't get laid at places I take my kids to play, nor do I have sex with my kid's friend's parents. I've never been that desperate to get laid. But that's me. You may think it's a really hot thing to do, and so what if it all makes a horrid mess that can't ever be cleaned up and between you, your soon-to-be ex and her friends, who cares if your kid loses out, you had some hot sex.
Or she could be setting you up for your ex to blow you out of the water, she may be psycho, her hubby may not know of this agreement and may have a gun. Who knows. The question is, do you care, as long as you get the fantasy sex, do you really care about the consequences? | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:11:49 PM | Hellooooooo - it's your EX's FRIEND!
Stop thinking with your lil' head and snap out of it. I hope your son did not hear this conversation taking place! | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:12:51 PM | Do you think shes that flexible as a willow tree?
That works for me strangely enough...lol
Why not indeed was my shock. it was unexpected, and in my judgement, as serious as a heartattack. People swing, its a lifestyle, just not mine. If I was not divorcing, soon to be re-singled again, I don't know that the offer would have been made.
Not 'diving right in' to coin a phrase on the offer, shows restraint for you dolts that would make this about cheating, or have me thinking with my slightly larger than small head.
IF its not a set up AND it is about swinging with her / them, full on consent, should I do it? 2 weeks from now, i legally am single, so I am not cheating on anyone.
when my soon to be ex told me to "go F anything I want" I don't think she expected me to get an offer from her friend, and i did not either. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:26:15 PM | You know OP... you DO have your son to think about and it REALLY doesn't hurt to TRY to have an amiable co-parenting relationship with your ex-wife. Like most couples, you will likely find that there are enough things to keep you challenged to keep the peace without deliberately going and creating something that you very well know is probably going to generate some hostility.
Your ex is not divorcing her friend (although she probably should)...
If you want to find something to fight with her about, be prepared to spend a few bucks on lawyers when you pi$$ her off and she decides to make life a little painful for you... It's just good form to try to keep the peace when you are on the other side of a parenting couple... yanno??? | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 7:27:32 PM |
talking about going without sex for periods of time. pretty run of the mill stuff.
RUN OF THE MILL STUFF?
To whom?
For the love of all that is good and holy........
Sir, you appear to be seeking permission, or at the very least, the forum fishies to condone your behaviour.
Go get laid somewhere else or dance in the dark, but leave that one alone.
^^BG^^ | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:01:07 PM | | See this is what happens, you are only thinking that wow some chick wants to do me, and the fact that she's married and your wife's friend makes it all the more exciting, you aren't thinking about any of the consequences or why this person is fishing so low, nor do you seem to give a rat's ass as to how this could effect your child and his friend, it's all about someone who wants to fluck you. When it blows up in your face, you will be all about how your ex screwed you, or her friend is a **** or whatever, but you will be laying blame everywhere but at yourself. Do it or don't do it but take the consequences of your actions after the fantasy sex is over. I think we are all mostly sick of hearing how guys like you got shafted after you did something you knew better than to do. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:29:13 PM | Look, this isn't some random hook-up. we small talk all the time when i pick up and drop off. Shes asked before about what or who I might be involved with and hows it going, and to my knowledge, never passed it along.
She asked me if im still seeing someone who she knows I've been intimate wih.
she offers that shes happy she's involved as she doesnt think she could go without being initmate with someone for all that long. its everyday conversation, not some specifically intentional sexual induendo.
I started joking that the last date, had me meet her friends, one of which swore she knew me, and who turned out to be one part of a threesome that happened publicly in the middle of a frat house, with myself and a whole lot of other half drunk / asleep guys watching. we laugh at it.. how random is that connection.
Its then she said that she had been with a girl once, and the converastion changed to a sales pitch. I wasnt looking for this, but its at my doorstep to deal with. The offer was extended.
I'm flattered to be offered. its an ego stroke. sure part of me thinks that it would be a great FU to the ex, serves her right for kicking me to the curb. but I am not that guy, and for me, if you read my profile, its all about my son for me. I know more harm than good would come of it, and that I don't need that orgasm that badly.
It blows my mind that what I thought I knew, is completly diferent. I realized that what i thought might be her flirting with me, but can't possible be, really was, and that blows my mind. I am huge flirt, but you can switch it on and off, and my switch was clearly off.
I don't really think i'm seeking permission, so much as Im asking Now what? tonight I said my goodbys and see you laters, and gathered up my son and went home. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 10:16:35 PM | OP your asking now what ?
Well you have to decide what you wish to do.
If you are asking for thoughts on the matter, I would make sure the papers are signed before I start throwing matches at the gas can.
As for me, I do not play well with others in such matters,I do not share.  | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/26/2009 10:39:32 PM |
She then admitted to being bisexual, then talked about the sexual freedom she and her hubby have . they both allow the other lovers, and sometimes share men and women. If it feels good and nobody is hurt, why not?
Hehehehe. I'm surprised NO ONE picked up on that line.
Now, when you read it again, you might understand why thats so funny.
Well, might as well just point it out.
When she's done with you, does she allow her husband to pick up where she left off?
I'd wait till the divorce is final. If you are willing, and its an open lifestyle, do what you want. You only live once. Beware though, karma is a b!tch. Believe me, I know. You should see some of my threads. Whew. Live your life according to how you want to live it. Life is too short not to be happy. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/27/2009 2:37:04 AM | | You don't sleep with your (soon to be ex) wife's friend, OP. You have a child together and need to have an amicable relationship for his sake. Don't even go there, OP. | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/27/2009 3:02:55 AM | | The idea of swinging seems fine, but probably not the most socially strategic person with whom I'd take that, um, position. Try swinglifestyle dot com instead. It's just like a regular dating site, but you go out with couples instead! | |
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| Propositioned by secret swinging ex's friend
Posted: 8/27/2009 3:11:26 AM |
women, and talking about going without sex for periods of time. pretty run of the mill stuff.
You call talking about going without sex run of the mill stuff? Come on man, be honest with yourself. Go ahead and jump right in. But don't forget your Trojans.. Or you just might wake up with a bad case of HERPES. Get real dude, and stay away from this ho | |
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