| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:11:15 PM | I am not much of a typist. Truth be told I just don't like using Instant Messenger. I understand why some women might have an aversion to a phone conversation right off the bat.
Is it unreasonable to hope you [women] might allow for the exchange of a few regular messages before possibly coming to an understanding and moving on to the phone? If I admit my aversion in my profile would that write me off?
Thanks for your time ladies, gentlemen,
John | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:14:21 PM | I do not use any instant message services.
After a few messages and deciding I want to meet someone I give them my phone number to talk once or twice before meeting.
I don't care if you exchange a million emails and thousands of hours in IM it does not equal one 15 minute meeting. | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/26/2009 8:22:10 PM | What I love about INSTANT messenger is just that, its really annoying to see someone that you have interest in, send email to, check your sent to see that they read it, didn't respond, then you comeback the next or 2 days later for an answer. IMHO, you get a better feel for the personality of the person, if you ask them a question, (I like off the wall questions, that you have to answer more than yes or no), and you can judge response time. If I ask someone something insane, like who would win in a fight, the flying monkeys from Wizard of OZ, or Toto on steroids, and they get all nervous, and take 5 minutes to answer, then that tells me something. If they send back a quick answer, and a reason, that tells me we would be more compatible, and they can hold their own in a conversation with me, and gets my quirky sense of humor. If a girl likes you and wants to IM, its a test to see as well if she even wants to give her number out, I wouldn't give it to the one that took 5 minutes to answer a dumb question, that I really could care less what the answer was, its about personality.
btw ;D Toto would totally kick some monkey butt! | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 12:50:19 PM | Well if MSN, AOL, etc., would just get rid of it I'd be a lot happier A Bit More.
Eowyn: "... and you can judge response time." With all due respect how in hades do you know what else the otehr person on the box has to do at the same time they are "talking" to you?
This must be an age thing mroe than anything I guess. Thanks for your help ladies,
John | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 12:57:54 PM | With me it varies... it could go few messages on here, then to well in my case MSN, then phone exchange, then make arrangements to meet if interested... or few messages, then phone exchange, then msn and then meet.
Nothing wrong with IMing. That and the phone is faster ways to talk and if so like find out more about the person alittle faster. | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 1:22:47 PM |
If I ask someone something insane, like who would win in a fight, the flying monkeys from Wizard of OZ, or Toto on steroids... btw ;D Toto would totally kick some monkey butt!
Pssht! Eowyn please! How do you account for the numbers? Flying monkeys also would not fight fair. Their boss wouldn't let them! | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 1:28:20 PM |
Well if MSN, AOL, etc., would just get rid of it I'd be a lot happier A Bit More.
If it makes you that unhappy, don't use it. Some people enjoy it. Just put in your profile "I'm a techno phone. I have no interest in communicating for more than an email or two. If I'm ready to meet, you are either ready to meet too or you aren't worth my time." | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 5:22:37 PM | Hi John,
Actually here is my style, and it has seemed to work for me.
I do a few emails, then suggest to go off site, when I am off site I will ask if they have voice chat if they do I would much prefer to go to it. I like the voice so much better than the written word.
I have had to many times my written word misunderstood, when I have been on voice they could here the inflections and understand when I am teasing or not.
I am not sure if it would put ladies off if you posted it on your profile. I think the bottom line is to be honest and comfortable with who you are..
If I saw this blurb on your profile, I would understand that you are going to want to go to phone or voice chat very quickly. If you are open to giving up your number first then I don't see a problem. Some will some won't
Good luck | |
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| Technomoronmen: Is there a dispensation for Instant Messenger?
Posted: 8/27/2009 5:33:07 PM | | I'm with OP - I'm not into endless online chatting. I prefer to just to move to the phone after a couple+ quality e-mails. I can get to know someone a lot faster and know if I'm interested in meeting or not. Chatting can sometimes lead to some miscommunication because you don't know the other person's tone. | |
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