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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:08:39 PM | | lets say i check out someone i would like to get to know. how do i send a good message. do i talk about myself or them or both. stupid i know but i'm not as good on the keyboard as i am in person. so far i've mostly told them a little about myself and maybe a question about them. so far i have zero responses. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:12:47 PM | Like I said in the previous post. Online dating is an entirely different thing.
If you expect a woman to actually respond to you, forget all about the concept of sharing about yourself, women do not respond to this stuff, don't ask me to explain why, I have no clue.
Instead, tease the shit out of them in initial emails. Women whether they love this behavior or not, tend to respond FAR more often.
Find something in their headline or their profile to bust them on, and do it, playfully, of course.
this can ignite conversations.
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:19:06 PM |
so far i have zero responses
Par for the course even for attractive interesting people. Don't sweat it. Just be yourself and people who are interested in you will respond. They're going to find out all the intimate details about you anyway, if you get involved with them. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:23:26 PM | I could have SWORN there was an official first message guide on here someplace, but I can't seem to find it.
Bottom line though, is you have to put your best foot forward, and expect rejection. A lot of it. Once you get the hang of things around here, it will get easier.
Being yourself is really the best idea. I don't mind being rejected for who I am. I mean.. I don't mind it very much... | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:25:10 PM | I usually give an ultimatum, a list of demands, my manifesto, they either block me or become my willing sex slave.
I am feeling some weird Deja vu. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 7:37:00 PM | | Interested in a woman's opinion? We women want to know that you read our profile and find us attractive and interesting. Following what NameTaken said, reference something you read in the profile in your note. Make a light joke if you are funny. Ask an open ended question that will spark a response and an exchange of future notes. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 8:43:43 PM |
lets say i check out someone i would like to get to know. how do i send a good message. do i talk about myself or them or both. stupid i know but i'm not as good on the keyboard as i am in person. so far i've mostly told them a little about myself and maybe a question about them. so far i have zero responses.
You could have started by posting this thread in the Dating Advice forum. Posting this twice in the same forum to get more than the maximum responses (21, to be exact) is probably why you get zero responses to your emails----you don't pay too much attention to detail. Try really reading the profiles of the women you email and pick out something that interests you and build from there. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 10:23:30 AM | You can use google and find something about playing "20 questions to ask a woman" and seriously you will get some fantastic and funny results. Hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 3:53:13 PM | This is my second time 'round, for this site. I've never emailed anyone as a first form of contact, the first time. I just saw them online and instant messaged them. I had a blast and I met a lot of nice people.
Since I've come back, I've been sending emails. And Ohhhhhh......that is soooo boring!!! I just can't feel the communication!! And I really don't think it's about how good the message is. I think it's about the time frame between them. It's just too easy to lose interest. Emails are NOT a "here and now" conversation and if someone doesn't reply, don't sweat it. It was only a shot in the dark, to begin with. And nothing changed. You're still there.....in the dark. lol | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 9:46:09 PM | I think the more funny and different you can be, the more you'll stand out. What the heck? Why not try it?
After all, we've all gotten so many along the lines of, "I read your profile and you seem like a nice person. I'd like to chat. Hit me up." Snooze!!  | |
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