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Posted: 8/27/2009 9:51:31 PM | Ok, in today's economy there are a lot of people without work... Its a cold hard fact.
After being out of work for a while I finally found a job working at a gas station.
Its not that I have no ambition in life. I have an Associate Degree in Culinary Arts that has helped me travel the country and see some really cool stuff.
The problem I am having is that so many people see these service jobs as bonehead work. I am grateful to have a steady paycheck again.
Many of the customers I wait on are very attractive women who I would love to get to know and spend some time with.
After speaking with them on a regular basis and harmlessly flirting with them I take it to the next step and ask them out, but get blown off just about every time... ok EVERY time.
It hasn't gotten awkward or anything with any of them(they still come in on a regular basis and flirt).
I dont get it, why act interested then dash my hopes?
When I was a working chef I had no problem finding a date for the weekends. Even when I was unemployed I had options, but since I started riding the cash register at a gas station its like I have the plague.
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Posted: 8/27/2009 9:59:35 PM | | Well ladies like a man in uniform. But it appears that they judge you by yours. My advice is to stop asking out customers and meet someone out side of work. They could be assuming that you ask out a lot of girls at your work, and that can be off putting. Ladies like to feel special and unique. So in all honestly its likely more to do wit the location of where you are asking them out, not what your job is. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 11:23:55 PM | Good point, mermaidpants (love the screen name).
And no it would not be a deal-breaker for me. In fact I have found that men who choose what many might deem "bonehead work" tend overwhelmingly to be passionate, faithful, reliable, good in a crisis, and a whole lot of other great things. I was raised in more of an intellectual atmosphere, wherein everyone's expected to have a profession requiring advanced education, and: while many men in this sociological arena are good men and maintain good relationships; and, many who are close I love dearly; with few exceptions, passionate they are not.
Give me a blue-collar man any day.
One thing that strikes me about this job for you is, you being a big guy (which personally I would find very appealing if you were maybe 20 years older or I that much younger), women may find you intimidating if they meet you in a situation wherein you are standing the entire time. And that's probably pretty much the case at this workplace, right? So, another reason to seek meeting potential away from the job. Flirting in a known location feels safe. Taking it to a meeting elsewhere might not. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2009 11:28:14 PM | | although it wouldt nessacarily be a deal breaker for me it might be for some girls- whether they want to admit it or not most girls are looking for security in a relationship- they might not see that type of job as able to support a family one day. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 1:12:29 AM | what a guy does for a living , is neither a positive or negative for me..
i would not be put off with dating a janitor anymore than i would be impressed by a business owner...
as long as they guy works, or at least is actively looking for work it would not pose a problem for me,
i would be more inclined to admire a guy for taking a lower paid job or work with lesser status than he is used to doing or is qualified to do, rather than just sitting on hand outs... | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 1:21:00 AM | i flirt with the guy at the gas station......... but i dont want to date him!
congrats on taking the job, it must of been hard but i know myself after a period of unemployment i would of taken it.
i think the whole thing about dating somone depends on how motivated they are to work, and not what they do. the job role isnt that important to me, neither is the fact that they may be unemployed, as long as they have the motivation, and ability to find and KEEP employment.
i think has someone suggested, look for dating away from your employment, i wouldnt date someone i work with, or indeed someone who i come into contact with via work.
braoden your horizons!
and good luck finding what you are looking for! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 2:58:07 AM | Because they aren't really interested in you personally. They are just flirting with the guy behind the counter and not you personally. Sit back in the corner out of site and you will see the exact same women flirting with your co-worker.
A smile, hello, harmless flirting is how many women navigate their day and those they encounter. It's meaningless.
While most women won't have an issue with your job, most all women will with being asked out while you are at work and they are a customer. It's tactless and unprofessional. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 3:05:03 AM | Touchy subject-some women will flirt with a serviceman to try and get a deal...some will do it out of pure habit...but most dont actually plan to follow thru. All for chits and giggles...me personally, I dont flirt with people I am doing a money transaction with. Dont want to mis lead anyone or piss them off and then leave them alone to 'fix' my car...lolol
Your job would not affect me one way or another, if we met elsewhere..but on the job I wouldnt want you hitting on me. jmo | |
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