| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:07:06 PM | | Is it true that Men can sustain an on going fb arrangement, not an fwb, for a long time without getting ANY type of an attachment? Such as 2yrs or so. I can understand on a short term basis but after so long doesn't it just become a relationship of some sort? | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:11:12 PM |
I can understand on a short term basis but after so long doesn't it just become a habit?
Basically a FB just replaces masturbating... except he's using her body instead of his hand.... as you say, basically a habit...
In the meanwhile, for variety he'll fcuk other women... | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:34:57 PM | hmmmm....I'm not sure where one would even gather any statistics on that question....and even less sure how reliable they would be.
But, it is interesting that we are now splitting hairs....we have a sub genre ' of FWB....that is simply FB. I thought the benefit was the same.
I guess it's possible...since, well...anything is possible.
But usually it's a human that somehow confuses sex with Love and Intimacy
or
someone who is just dammed tired of using their hand and the same old toy all the time.
who knows
Kimbo~~ | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:36:50 PM | You're making some kind of distinction between FB and FWB that I don't understand. If you're asking if people can just have a sexual relationship without growing attached, then yes, it happens.
after so long doesn't it just become a relationship of some sort?
A friendship is a relationship, so is a FWB etc and so on. You have a relationship with your family to. They're all relationships. It's what KIND of relationship that matters. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:45:51 PM | | It depends on what it is you want after a long time. If an attachment was eventually reached then, that is what you have, no? | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 7:02:58 PM |
Is it true that Men can sustain an on going fb arrangement, not an fwb, for a long time without getting ANY type of an attachment? Such as 2yrs or so. I can understand on a short term basis but after so long doesn't it just become a relationship of some sort?
No.
Some women are capable of actually understanding the boundaries of a f*ck buddy relationship too. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 7:24:45 PM | | I'm not a man but I've had guys (way in the past) who were nothing but a FB to me and I never had any kind of attachment to them. My only interest was sexual...otherwise I would have dated them instead of just using them for sex. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:09:35 PM | Ok I am probably going to date myself here.
What the heck is the difference between a FB and FWB...
sorry just not getting it. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:16:49 PM | Sass, you know....FWB....a Friend with Benefits....a kinder softer way of saying...someone you know...who you fcuk.
FB...Fcuk Buddy....someone you don't even know, or care to know...just a receptacle for the goo......ya know?
hope that helps....
~Kimbo~ | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:30:48 PM | no, it doesnt. Men need to ejaculate like breathing. If they CAN find a willing partner to give them a place to do it, sort of like an unpaid call girl, they'll take it. Now, that's the basic rule. There can be exceptions.. but generally, they will if they can.
Think about it.. Men dont form "relationships" with their hand. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:37:24 PM |
Is it true that Men can sustain an on going fb arrangement, not an fwb, for a long time without getting ANY type of an attachment?
Depends on what you mean by attachment.
If you mean deep emotional attachment where they come down with the "love" flu, then yes. They can have a long term FB situation without catching it.
If you mean by attachment they compartmentalize their needs and only put just so much effort into maintaining the status quo and are more hurt when there is the threat of change to the status quo, then no, men can't have a long term FB situation without getting attached.
If you believe that men only have sex strictly and absolutely as a means for a physical stimulation, then yes, men can have a FB situation for an extended period of time without getting attached.
If you believe in reality, that men have associations and emotional validation responses tied in with sex, then no, they can't have a FB situation of any significant length of time without an attachment. But it doesn't necessarily mean it is a very deep attachment.
I can understand on a short term basis but after so long doesn't it just become a relationship of some sort?
I don't know if you understand the terms.
As soon as you say hi to someone, you are in a relationship.
Any time someone either extracts themselves, or you extract them, from the group known as "strangers" into your consciousness it means you have a relationship with them.
FB is a type of relationship. It generally isn't the type of relationship one of the two in that situation want though.
It would help if you clarified what you mean by relationship. | |
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| Now I get it
Posted: 8/28/2009 8:45:37 PM | | FWB friends with benefits vs FB f k buddies. Either one sounds crude although I used to be there before being born again in Christ Jesus. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/28/2009 10:30:18 PM | Lets be painfully honest here...and FB situation neither party is concern about the feelings or emotional well being of the other. IMO It is showing that neither party has a lot of self respect.
A FWB situation is only a slight step above that. Hopefully there is at least a bit of regard for the feelings of the other person...some moniker of caring and respect.
May sound old fashion to some. Yet if one has self respect and integrity they will not settle for either. IMO | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:27:42 AM | What's the difference between FB & FWB ??? - You go to breakfast together after sex when you two are FWB ? Is that it ?
I don't quite understand the need to LABEL everything.
I think they both mean the same thing.... someone I like having sex with, but at the same time see no future together.
If I wanted something more serious, I'd be spending heck a lot more time with her. I'd tell her my secrets, and eventually get on my knees.....
So yeah, if it's convenient and problem free... men could go on (as long as needed) ....  | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/29/2009 3:35:19 AM |
Is it true that Men can sustain an on going fb arrangement, not an fwb, for a long time without getting ANY type of an attachment?
The duration of ANY of these type relationships on the man's part.....is only equivalent to what the woman will permit.... End of Story. | |
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| Men and FB not FWB arrangements
Posted: 8/29/2009 3:49:41 AM | Staying the night is optional....
No kiss goodbye....
No call the next day.....
Such relationships are doomed to fail. Only ones I have ever seen work is where both parties have something to loose i.e, they both have other partners ( married ) . | |
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| FB or not FB
Posted: 8/29/2009 6:12:06 AM | sort of like an unpaid call girl I think the preferred term is 'Activity Partner'.
It became a relationship the first time the two of you Rocked the Casbah - and it seems to me that when a person of either gender has been enjoying an ongoing multi-year fvckbuddyship it is possible, perhaps even likely, that at some point they became attached to the no-strings-attached sex. | |
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