| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 1:16:00 PM | I would like to know why men comment on other hot women in the presence of a woman?
I figure it would be for these 2 reasons but want to know which stands out as more true:
He wants to find out if the woman he's around will have a jealous face.
He sees the woman he's talking to as more of a friend and is not interested romantically with the woman he is talking to.
I am wondering because if a woman is interested in the guy, she'll believe she has to measure up to whoever he said is hot. So I thought too, its like letting a woman down gently if there seem to be no matching features. Or letting her know he is a little interested if she does have resemblance to the person he mentions.
Is any of this right? haha! | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 1:40:22 PM | Hey, MASCOT!!! It has nothing to do with YOU or with any women standing in the area.
It has EVERYTHING to do with the fact that the guy thinks the woman he's looking at is HOT, and wants to say so. He doesn't give a shit what you think, what your friends think, what his wife thinks. It's practically an autonomic response (look it up).
Stop trying to assign plots/schemes/motives/drama to something so simple. If it rains and a guy says "it's raining hard" do you think he's trying to make you mad that it's raining?
If you agree, you can tell him, if you don't agree you can tell him, if you don't care, ignore his loose tongue. If you are JEALOUS, get up and SAY SO! It's NOT obvious, and men are not trying to rut you out and create drama.
She's just a hot chick, and he's just sayin'. "These chicken wings are hot!" You gonna create drama now? Sheesh....
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:18:18 PM | Your own analysis could be right, or there are other possibilities. The only way to actually KNOW why, is to ask the guy, since all the possibilities are there.
Additional maybe's:
* he feels so comfortable with you, he doesn't think to censor himself. (stop laughing, guys!)
* he has heard somewhere that women will respond well to such conversation, and is trying it out as a communication/dating technique. I know I've heard crazier suggestions put forth on advice shows and dating sites.
* he's nervous around you, and is reverting to teenage buddy speech patterns.
* he's just had a stroke, and is need of immediate medical attention.
* he's a sadist, and enjoys annoying you.
* he's a masochist, and is hoping you'll hit him.
* he thinks he's being funny, yanking your chain a little, to make himself appear more confident in your eyes.
I could go on, but you get the idea. Ask him. Or dump him and move on, I don't care. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:25:44 PM | Is any of this right? haha!
I can see Im going to have to scre,,, umm school you girl.
Or at least I would, if I were able to cover all the myriad of things that could mean. Lets just say ..... and this is a state secret. That many, many, many ( well most ) guys are dumbazzes. Dont tell anybody, okay ?
Think U would need more to go off, than just that one limitedly defined scenario. I mean how does this person treat U, or the other affected femme in general ? It could ( and probally iz ) just a thoughtless and impulsive act on da part of the guy involved.
That he thinks, makez him seem cool, even if he, like U, haz no idea what the opposite sex thinks about it. And is probally wayyyyyy mistaken, in how it's percieved.
Ok then, I hope that I have been able to help, or at the very least. Further confuse the hell out of U. gd luck and call me. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 2:45:41 PM | | First off don't listen to any of these guys they don't know anything I guess. If a guy your with starts discussing someone he thinks are hot he's trying to make you jealous and act like he had no interested in you. Not time he does that ask him what he thinks about you and make sure you smile while saying it. If he starts to smile or takes him awhile to think of something then he's definitely interested in you. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 3:33:38 PM | I have to agree with WackMC on this one. It usually doesn't mean anything. (we arent trying to make you jealous, we aren't trying to be rude or judgmental/comparing. We just see an attractive female and say so...) We're not trying to elicit a reaction from you... BUT, we will notice your reaction (good/bad) and it will tell us something about you (insecure, etc)
Having said that.. If I see a hot chick.. I (subtly) point her out. If I see a hot guy, I do the same thing. I can hang out with some of my very close female friends who do the exact same thing (right in front of me). Hell, I've been out drinking with a friend (female) who started flirting (openly) with an attractive girl directly across the bar. Whats the big deal?
Just because another girl/guy is hot, doesn't mean you aren't. Just because we notice it doesn't mean we immediately like that unknown stranger more than you. The beauty of many things is ruined when you start hanging expectation, jealousy, drama and competitiveness on it. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 3:41:35 PM | | ok so.........he's at the mall and brings his items to the register you're working and mentions how hot some other stranger is?i can see how that would confuse you......since if you were 'hanging out' together there would be other telltale signs if he was interested....which you would obviously pickup on.good question though......very deep | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:04:18 PM | You are reading way to much into it. Guys are wired differently than girls are we are constantly noticing attractive women wherever we are and for some reason we are compelled to tell our friends so they can see the attractive women. Its like paplovian conditioning we see an attractive woman and we have to tell someone if no men are around to tell then the woman we are with is told.
None of your hypothesis is right...lol | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:30:04 PM | Its to see if you are jealous. Its part of the psychological dating process built in to human nature.
Naturally women test men.
Naturally men test women.
In 90% of all people, its psychological, sub conscious. When you get that vibe that hes not for you, even though you may not know it, he failed the test. Likewise. You and him.
If he is pointing out attractiveness, look at what hes pointing out. He might be hinting at something he wants you to change.
But in most settings, he wants you to show him attention. He feels you are no longer attracted, or are losing interest. So he does it to see if you are still interested.
In most situations, if you let it stand, and say nothing, do nothing. It won't matter too much.
But he sub-consciously remembers it and eventually you two will fall apart. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:36:39 PM | Crap, I should've said this in the question: I'm not seeing this guy, he was someone I worked with. We'll actually never see each other again, because it was his last day and I was only filling in for someone. Neither of us gave each other our numbers because neither of us could tell (as it appears) if we were interested in one another, though it was a fun shift!
It just got me wondering is all. I do suppose women do this to you guys too, and its just as hard to figure out why we drool over Georges St.Pierre!
Plus, there was no other woman around, we were talking about music videos.
I only care because I have had this happen before and wonder about it.
For those who are asking why I care to know: Surely any of you may wonder why women do it, could even be for different reasons all together, who knows if we don't ask?!
Thanks for all the replies! | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:42:08 PM | | Sense you aren’t seeing him than you are most likely in the friend zone and he feel comfortable talking of those things around you. But if you were dating, he should always make sure you felt like the most beautiful woman in the room even if you knew you weren’t. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 4:52:04 PM | My ex used to do this. It did not bother me at first because I used to look at it objectively. But then it started annoying the shit out of me because he wouldn't stop. So I started doing the same. I pointed out the other men and commented on their hotness. He got the point and stopped!!
Start doing the same OP. | |
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 5:03:42 PM | I date smart, cute confident women and it does not seem to bother them. They KNOW who am I am coming home with. But if some killer gal walked into the bar in a slinky dress and I went OMG they would look and smile not get P.O.
Again its a matter of having confidence. I don't stray and they KNOW they can trust me.
I think about it like being on a diet and going to a restaurant. You are free to look at the menu and even moan when you see the dessert but you better not order it. (wink)
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| Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women?
Posted: 8/29/2009 5:09:01 PM |
I think about it like being on a diet and going to a restaurant. You are free to look at the menu and even moan when you see the dessert but you better not order it.
So you think of women in terms of food. And here I thought I'd heard it all.
And I think it has more to do with giving respect than confidence and security. You say it does not seem to bother them. But do you know for sure? Even if they tell you it does not bother them.....it still might deep down. | |
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