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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:23:37 PM | My girlfriend and I went out for lunch today and we started to have this conversation about can two people go back to a relationship after they break up.There are many reasons why relationships break. Sometimes, the two people involved in a relationship do not understand each other's feelings and expectations, leading to differences of opinion and frequent fights or is it due to some misunderstandings or creative differences.
Getting back together after a long break up is possible only if both the members are mentally prepared for a reunion,well this is one of the things we came up with .Would directly talking of reuniting help and asking your ex partner to start the relationship afresh . Can discuss in detail, what exactly went wrong the last time and how we can avoid repeating the same mistakes again.It may be possible that your ex- partner rejects your proposal at that very moment, because of leftover anger.Do we try and win back the confidence of your partner. By doing so are the chances of the relationship possible.. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:27:20 PM |
about can two people go back to a relationship after they break up.
because they are desperate birdbrain incapable to commit to memory the why it break up even after they tried everything and are to afraid to be faced alone to themselves? | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:35:30 PM | | This was just a question that we talked about,I have to agree with you that there are other people out there,just curious what other people thought on this topic,thanks for your input | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 3:53:47 PM | | No.. Should they get back together, it would most likely break off again for the same reason(s). | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:20:20 PM | spoiled milk doesn't get unspoiled.it needs to be flushed down the drain.of course you can try to make something out of it ....but it sure won't be milk.
that's a moral.....or somesuch | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:30:36 PM | | hi... if both parties want it and have grown from the breakup and are emotionally healthy, I believe it can work...it did not in my situation but I think it could have with a little more support from friends and family.... my ex and I left each other after 10 yrs married, had other people in our lives then got back for another 6 yrs .. even though it ended they were decent yrs full of love and growth... in the end I wanted what I gave, no less, he could not give it at that time so we divorced ... 8 yrs later neither of us is remarried, close but just like in our marriage, life gets in the way.... my motto now is that sometimes it is easier to fix something established than it is to start something new.. many blessings for happiness | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:33:16 PM |
never say never .................
Agreed...but I've given it a try a time or two...if you do, I would recommend proceeding with extreme caution. You and that ex created your very own system of interaction, and unless you are both diligent the same old issues will creep up. In my case, I also found that I was much quicker than normal to see red flags due to similarities with past behavior on the part of the ex. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:34:18 PM | | remember the reasons why you broke up - then run for the hills!!! it will never work!! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:39:22 PM | Yes, they can. No, they should not. Life is not a romantic movie or a book, the guy does not come back the girl does not wait around forever and vice versa.  | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:51:50 PM | | There is no relationship except in your imagination. If you asked a guy what he thought about analyzing a failed relationship with the idea of resurrecting it, he would be reminded of what about being with you drove him nuts. The thing to do if you want to be with him is ask him what you used to do that he hates, and then promise not to do that. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:53:37 PM | It`s been almost 2 years come this Nov of my breakup. I was the dumpee but I was still hoping for a long time to try and get back. I keep thinking of the things she said in one her e-mails and she is right you can`t change who you are. Therefore I don`t think that I could get back together with her.
It still hurts to be dumped but her reasons were basically right on. Our breakup was not of a bad nature, she asked if I thought of moving in, I said no. I just couldn`t committ to that yet. I was hestitant and reluctant to do things. I am a cautious person. I wish we could get back together.
It seems like the majority are against getting back together. What is the failure rate after trying to get back together? | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 4:55:27 PM | I actually like all my ex's. For the most part.
Would I consider reuniting?
With a couple - yes definitely. If, the men themselves had altered the "situations" or issues which were the issue that caused the break-up. I say that the men would have to alter because one - had addiction issues, one had.... a wife, one had addiction issues, and one insisted on getting married BEFORE sex.... That adds up to: 2 with addictions, 1 with a wife, and 1 who wanted a wife.
If any of THOSE guys changed? Then perhaps I'd discuss it.
The only one I was engaged to? No. There are 5 restraining orders preventing him from entering any country NEAR me, and those are in place for a reason.
Sometimes ex's are ex's for very good reasons.
Sometimes ex's are ex's for so-so reasons.
Sometimes ex's are ex's for dumb azz immature reasons.
Rethink any of those reasons? Any of those ex's? Hmmmmmm a couple are really hot too......and great in bed.......maybe?
Depends on my mood?
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Posted: 8/29/2009 5:02:48 PM |
My girlfriend and I went out for lunch today and we started to have this conversation about can two people go back to a relationship after they break up.There are many reasons why relationships break. Sometimes, the two people involved in a relationship do not understand each other's feelings and expectations, leading to differences of opinion and frequent fights or is it due to some misunderstandings or creative differences.
Getting back together after a long break up is possible only if both the members are mentally prepared for a reunion,well this is one of the things we came up with .Would directly talking of reuniting help and asking your ex partner to start the relationship afresh . Can discuss in detail, what exactly went wrong the last time and how we can avoid repeating the same mistakes again.It may be possible that your ex- partner rejects your proposal at that very moment, because of leftover anger.Do we try and win back the confidence of your partner. By doing so are the chances of the relationship possible..
I think it would depend on how much time has passed and what people have come and gone from each persons life to make both parties grow and rethink ideologies.
If nothing has changed but time then they would end up with the same result as before. If they've grown as people and those things that were a problem before are no longer relevant, then there is a chance. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 5:08:58 PM | First thought is HELL NO they broke up for a reason.
After some consideration I think that if BOTH people are HONESTLY willing to WORK at what their differenced were or are and learn to compromise then it's POSSIBLE but not probable. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 5:16:36 PM | | I would never go back to an ex, it takes me awhile to end it and i always have good reasons for doing so, and don't take it lightly, so for sure it would not change my mind no matter what they did, once im done, that's it for me. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 5:32:02 PM | | I will stay in a relationship until I am certain there is NO way to maintain it. At that point, I am DONE! Once I've reached that point, there is no going back. I will try to do whatever necessary to improve and make a relationship successful, but when it's of no avail, I know it's time for it to end. When that happens, there is no way I would reenter a romantic relationship with that person again. We might be able to be friends, or be cordial, but we will never again be in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:29:20 PM | | Sometimes it works -- it depends whether the reason for the break-up has been resolved or gone away. Absolutely it is important to directly talk about it and consider what went wrong the last time and why you both believe you're beyond that now. If you are struggling to win back someone's confidence, that's different: and to be avoided, I think. You might end up breaking up for completely different reasons, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try or that you won't be happy together at least for a while, or that there is zero chance of it working out. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:34:19 PM | | In my opinion, it really depends on why you broke up in the first place. If it was due to a true clash in character/values, then no, it wouldn't work. However, people do grow and change, and if it has been long enough, sometimes the added maturity/life experience can make it possible depending on what reasons you broke up for. If you truly love the person, I don't really see a problem with trying it again if the past issues have been resolved. There's a good chance it won't work, but it's up to you to decide if you want to take that risk or not. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:35:47 PM | | OP my answer is gonna be just like the rest of the for the most part and thats once an ex they should stay an ex as the became one for a reason. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:43:53 PM | I could answer your post if you had put a time limit on the relationship that broke up and got back together.
Getting back together after a long break up is possible only if both the members are mentally prepared for a reunion,well this is one of the things we came up with .Would directly talking of reuniting help and asking your ex partner to start the relationship afresh . Can discuss in detail, what exactly went wrong the last time and how we can avoid repeating the same mistakes again.It may be possible that your ex- partner rejects your proposal at that very moment, because of leftover anger.Do we try and win back the confidence of your partner. By doing so are the chances of the relationship possible
Long, as in how long? If it has been an incredibly long period of time, I would say that the couple didn't meet new people and were trying it again for that reason. I can see where it might be worth a chance, but distinguishing old behavior and developing new behavior would be the key. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:45:05 PM | | Anything is possible, I suppose. However, unless the issues that drove the couple apart in the first place have been resolved, history is bound to repeat itself. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:50:44 PM | | I've never found going back to an X worked at all...same shit different tune. Unless there are major major changes with one or the other...there simply is no point. It ended for a reason, and unless those reasons are removed...it will happen again and again and again...never make the same mistake twice...or in my case...3 times...gah...wasted wasted time that was. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:51:33 PM | | Sure they can. I had a friend who was married seven times to the samme three ladies. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:53:43 PM | | Sure they can. I had a friend who was married seven times to the same three ladies. | |
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