| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 8:44:20 AM | Hey all,
this especially goes out to the ladies:
if you are already acquainted with someone, attracted, etc. How do you feel about a conversation, email, phone, text messages, online messaging, whatever getting heated up to something sexual? Im not talking about being crude and brash, nor am I really talking about getting on cam and showing your junk (although that can eventually happen). Im talking about a guy no holes-barred, sharing his fantasies involving you. Think of your significant /potentially significant other right now and think about how you would feel about that?
To my astonishing surprise, some women seem to respond extremely positive to such passionate, sensual, lustful and sometimes down right hard core exchanges. I am not talking about me persee... but I have heard... | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:04:30 AM | If the relationship is new, then no. Once you've met and established an IRL relationship AND have been together long enough to progress to sex, then it depends on the relationship. Some men and women enjoy such things while others find it crude and disgusting to discuss anything sexual outside of the bedroom.
One thing that I have learned over the years is that women are FAR more sexual than men. We just go about it different ways. Want some examples, go to a bookstore and browse through the books in the romance section.
Doyle | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:18:29 AM | I think it's almost necessary. Some people are not able to discuss such intimate things in person but are able to more fully open themselves up thru other means. Knowing someone's most intimate desires is very important to a growing relationship. Sharing, learning, and putting yourself out there grow a bond of trust and intimacy that can really make a relationship something more meaningful.
And when it's said in such a straightforward and tasteful manner, it's really touching to know he's willing to expose his innermost thoughts to me and risk being shot down.
But that's just me. And honesty is a biggy for me in any relationship. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 9:41:50 AM | If it's someone I'm involved with and exclusively, it can be fun. Especially if we aren't going to see each other for a while. However erotic chatting can never take place of the real thing. I think the erotic chatting/texting/etc can be useful with couples who have a hard time communicating, verbally, their desires/fetishes/fantasies to each other. It's another form of communication and any communication that is open is good communication.
Would I do something like this with someone I barely know? Nah.... but with my SO? You betcha! | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:03:44 AM | If you're talking about somebody that you've already met and gone out on dates with, where there's a mutual attraction?
Definitely..I think it always adds a bit of excitement.
If its somebody you only know online and have yet to meet? I'd stay away from talking about anything erotic or sexual until you see each other.
Its very uncomfortable to meet somebody that you've had some pretty heated conversations with, only to find there's no offline chemistry whatsoever | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:38:58 AM |
Im not talking about being crude and brash, nor am I really talking about getting on cam and showing your junk (although that can eventually happen). Im talking about a guy no holes-barred, sharing his fantasies involving you. Think of your significant /potentially significant other right now and think about how you would feel about that?
No holes barred, on a guy?!!! Isn't that illegal in most places (except for, you know, the confessional booth, and, Yikes!, a priest? Lol. J/k, OP. 
Like alot of men, quickness is part of my game- open a whole for me in that line, and I'm in there! Lol Women seem to appreciate something paced more slowly, a crescendo of lust and desire, a start from both feet solidly on earth to soaring the stratorsphere, but sloooowly ascending, pulling no g's. Lol
Even with a woman with whom you are "acquainted", a leap to your holes might well lead to her blowing the****it and ejecting-each new step needs somehow to connect to the last.
Now, that said, I agree with the guy who thinks women are more sexual than men. They seem to blend the sex and lust with the other things going on at the time. Men approach this holistic consciousness as they age, I think. Soooo, yeah, it is possible to mesmerize a woman with your flames, but not abruptly, crudely even, but not brusquely or bullishly.
<div class="quote">I think it's almost necessary. Some people are not able to discuss such intimate things in person but are able to more fully open themselves up thru other means. Knowing someone's most intimate desires is very important to a growing relationship. Sharing, learning, and putting yourself out there grow a bond of trust and intimacy that can really make a relationship something more meaningful.
And when it's said in such a straightforward and tasteful manner, it's really touching to know he's willing to expose his innermost thoughts to me and risk being shot down.
But that's just me. And honesty is a biggy for me in any relationship.
Food/water=necessities; clothing is, well, sometimes necessary. Erotic chat, ermmm, spicy, but not necessary for continued survival, for most. Lol But, . . . . ya gotta love the attitude of this lady! Sharing, learning your other's erotic thoughts, and putting yourself out there as well, is a must do. imho
"Tasteful" is the trick, as now we're talking individual-specific likes/dislikes/stimulants. To know whether your acquaintance is lured, or lost, by this form of sharing, you really have to just give it a whirl. Not everyone is a risk-taker, and some who used to be, are no longer, and have become risk-avoiders. I say go with your gut, but always for the gold.  | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:49:00 AM | Once a relationship has been established then yes. It can be great fun, you could even say it's a bit like foreplay. Builds up the excitement before the real fun begins.
If it's from someone who I barely know & am still in the very early stages of dating him, then it would be 'no thanks, bye'. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 10:58:39 AM | | love it, love it , love it..but ...I'm not into the whole 'teasing without pleasing' ...either way..so I'm not into the whole exchange if that's all it's ever going to be (I get plenty frustrated with no help at all when I'm not in a relationship ;-) ..more with someone as you're developing a relationship or already in one..found it to be very sexy when in a relationship and having to be away on business ;-) | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 11:53:06 AM | It honestly depends on the guy I'm communicating with. Some guys can pull it off, even if I've never actually clapped eyes on them, and some guys just give me the creeps if they try it. I think, for me, it's the spirit in which it's done. If it's done openly, with tongue firmly in cheek, it can be a lot of fun. But with some guys it can feel furtive and sleazy, like the guy isn't comfortable with it himself, and then it's just nasty and gross.
It's definitely hot with someone I'm already in a relationship with.  | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 12:06:28 PM | | Erotic chat between lovers is awesome, how else can you learn each others desires? Doesnt mean you will do everything you talked about, but knowing what drives them is pretty important, in my opinion. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 8/31/2009 12:11:47 PM | "teasing without pleasing"... I agree... with all of you...
while one can learn about the other, you can definitely rev each other's engines up... sometimes frustrating each other, talk about sexual tension..but there is also something extremely hot about it... almost satisfying in ways and most definitely intimate. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/2/2009 8:31:52 PM | Wow a couple of months ago I would have said no way but .... I met a man on POF who rather quickly sent erotic e-mails and texts. For some unknown reason I didn't send him packing! lol I soon began to look forward to his messages and rather enjoyed how they made me feel. Unfortunately it ended. The first man I had contact with on POF after that started it right at the initial message. I had fun with it but didn't keep up the messages. He lived a bit far away. So I say it all depends on how it feels at the moment.
But definately don't tease if you don't intend to leave me smiling. lol | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:28:47 PM |
Im talking about a guy no holes-barred, sharing his fantasies involving you.
Um...I believe the expression is 'no holds barred' but I suppose if you are talking about erotic chat then maybe you were right in the first place!
I'd kinda like to know up front what type of stuff the guy is into after browsing these forums.
I have one hole that's definitely barred and I prefer my men that way as well!
If you are already acquainted and attracted then some playful, erotic chat can be fun and informative.
You can learn a lot more about a person when they are relaxed and their guard is down. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:24:18 PM | | With the right guy, it can be pretty amazing. Very sensual. I'm an imaginative person, and easily envision what I read, whether it be a book, or a conversation with someone I am into. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:05:56 AM | Erotic chatting? Hmmm, what's not to like, if a lover is away,or untouchable for the moment? Active adult imaginations can be stimulating.
Erotic chat with someone I don't know? Kinda brings me back to the Playboy Magazines of boyhood. There was a barber shop ever prepubescent, and younger teenaged boy in the neighborhood went to. The haircuts weren't all that good, but there was always a stack of Playboy's there for browsing. Kinda like being a kid and getting visuals only, as an adult voice only, although it can be great, I'm looking for the package deal. Up close and personal. I'm a hands on guy, and I prefer them to be on her, not me. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:24:00 AM | I don't have to be "in" a relationship to engage in erotic talk......
If it is a man I am interested in dating.....this kind of talk can either seal the deal or send me packing!!
You can learn alot about a man while talking sex! | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 4:35:22 AM |
I'm not into the whole 'teasing without pleasing' ...either way..
Teasing w/o pleasing=bluffing, for which the punishment should be banishment to a sensory deprivation tank. Besides, there's a reason why I don't play poker for money- I suck at the bluff.
I get plenty frustrated with no help at all when I'm not in a relationship ;-)
Ditto, but almost everybody in here is probably "plenty frustrated", by that definition. Lol
it can be pretty amazing. Very sensual. I'm an imaginative person, and easily envision what I read, whether it be a book, or a conversation with someone I am into.
Awwww, me, too. And I have a long memory for what people express, on the personal level. Sooo, stuff kinda piles up. Lol
I'm looking for the package deal. Up close and personal. I'm a hands on guy, and I prefer them to be on her, not me.
There definitely is magic in "the laying on of the hands", but they hafta be on another person for it to kick in.
btw- "bundling" is the new "packaging", HG. That platinum look is no excuse for sliding down the back side of the wave. Keep up!!! | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:21:12 AM | | Writing erotica is good for publication but bad for a romance because it caters to the woman's mind and that can only encourage her to seek sexual enjoyment imaginatively instead of by earning it honestly performing selfless sex acts. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:46:33 AM | | OP: Yes, yes, yes..............very sensual, erotic and gets those brain cells/imagination flowing quite nicely..............IMO; it's healthy among two adults! | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:52:49 AM | Hey Cooldude!
Well if I am chatting to a guy on here and he tries to turn the subject to the erotic he gets blocked. I hate it when guys do that! I am not here to give anyone a cyber kick, I am here to hopefully meet someone I can build a decent relationship with.......Guys who turn the subject towards sex before I have even met them only seem to be after cyber sex or NSA sex...........and well, I prefer a man to have a bit more integrity than that!
However, once in a relationship and things turn more intimate then I am eager to share erotic texts/messages/phone calls/pictures.........its all part of a good healthy relationship.
So, no, not any Tom,****or Harry will get to share my innermost erotic fantasies but once I am in a relationship BOY will they be suprised!
x | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:38:11 AM | | When I've done it, it's been a natural flow of the conversation that took us both there mutually but it's not something either seek out. Just one thing led to another. But I do think it's something that should follow that flow and I can't imagine just an immediate first contact simply for that purpose. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 10:31:02 AM | I have found in my own life that foreplay is the biggest part of sex. It's really difficult to have bad sex if the foreplay was any good. Verbal foreplay (including text) can be as good as physical foreplay, since it allows each person to imagine things in their own way.
Teasing is a lot of fun, and can lead to some great sex, but teasing and leaving a woman (or man) hanging is cruel. And sometimes painful. Mostly cruel. | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:05:03 AM | ***Tee*** msg. 6, exactly ! If you're playing goofy cyber sex, oh well, but if you indeed want to meet the person that you're talking to, hold off on the sex talk, Cause when you meet them in real life, and don't even want a hug or anything else, It could be pretty embarrassing.  | |
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| Erotic chatting between the two of you
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:52:37 PM |
I'm looking for the package deal. Up close and personal. I'm a hands on guy, and I prefer them to be on her, not me.
I'm a hands on kinda gal, and I prefer them to be on him, not me.
But, a little voice never hurt anyone. | |
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