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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:06:28 PM | It's pretty annoying. I'd call her out on it.
That was my reaction as well. Not just mentioning it in passing, but a few convos where I pointed it out at the time, yet he kept on. I did finally email him, I'm really firm about looking for friends and make that clear. He was making me uncomfortable by saying things a little TOO friendly, so I also pointed that out.
He got all pissy (I wasn't at all surprised) one example of someone who allegedly wants honesty, except when it's about them.
I've encountered it before on occasion, and it just makes me wonder why those that do it don't consider apparently how someone else would react.
And hey I'm VERY well aware I'm far from perfect, apparently the most annoying thing I do is tell the truth. (really now, I need to cut that shyt out........haha)
It's no biggie, I hadn't seen a thread on it and wondered if men experience this with women they converse with and/or meet. It didn't destroy my faith in humanity, society or even men (imagine that..haha) it does make me lose interest pretty quick though. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:10:33 PM | I find someone that wants to elevate their status on the coat-tails of others to be tedious and quite boring.
If you can't hold my attention on your own merits, then you can't hold my attention - period. I'm sure some people can ignore it... I don't see the point in that. I'd rather not expose myself to that person if at all possible. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:12:51 PM | It kind of depends.
If s/he is just telling anecdotes that fit in with the conversation, it's not really a deal.
If, on the other hand, it's a matter of being shoe horned into the conversation, then that's annoying. I've rarely encountered it. But we do get stars coming here to film or make cd's and the person telling the story isn't trying to puff themselves up - just sort of sharing star struck encounters. I live in a small community and for a year there were plenty of people who met Schwarzenegger when he was here talking about their encounters. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:13:25 PM |
Why bother noticing it?
I understand that, a couple of times...fine. I don't pay attention to it, but I did use the word consistently in my OP, so it's harder to ignore. It's not the behavior so much as it is what the underlying cause of the behavior. As the other poster said, it's someone trying to make themselves more important or appear more important because of who they know. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:30:39 PM | I'm not quite sure what you're asking here, but I'm assuming that you mean someone who PRETENDS to know famous people, or pretends to be more important to those people than they really are?
If so, then I find that to be extremely uncomfortable. The person I once knew who was like that was so involved in their fantasy version of the world, I found I could not trust them to be sufficiently in touch with reality to maintain a real relationship. My life is only comfortable to me (as much as it is) when I feel grounded, and that what I perceive as reality actually IS reality.
As for people who pump up their ego by name dropping, or try to impress others by it, I find it just plain embarrassing. Every one is valuable as themselves (this is more than just a 'nice thing to say' for me, as I have a severely handicapped child), and I have found that people who pretend to be what or who they are not actually REDUCE their true value to the rest of us. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 5:30:41 PM | The flip side of this is, how much does a person "dumb down"?
I've been a lot of places, done a lot of things, and been involved in things that others may interpret as name dropping or showing off. I don't talk about these things much for that reason. Where do you draw that line? | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 5:44:07 PM | | I had made conversation with someone on this site who had pics of himself and two famous bodybuilders on his profile. He thought that this made him important to those who spoke with him and that it was a hands down way to get lots of girls. He had an attitude of superiority because of it. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 6:10:08 PM | Good posts, all of them, thanks for everyone's contributions, much appreciated!!
What I was referring to is a few phone calls, emails, maybe a first meet. (I DO actually go meet people...haha) And it's in the context of the entirety of the communication. When it's predominant, anecdotal...that's most of my convos, the machine gun interview 50 questions...take a PASS! My interactions are mostly conversational, so there are stories and experiences told and shared.
That's how I get to know someone, male or female, always have, the pin up against the wall and shoot questions at....I just don't respond well to.
Where to draw the line...really, honestly, noone else can say what's right for someone else.
If it's in the context of the total communication...I don't dumb down or expect anyone else to for my benefit. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 6:10:18 PM |
Namedroppers, met any women like this?
I don't know. I'm not all that schooled on who I should know.
How does it affect how you react to them or does it, is it something that you can ignore?
Hopefully it doesn't. I am hoping I react how I want to rather than how they want me to.
So it depends on if they get miffed if I don't react the way they want me to. I would react poorly to that. | |
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| Namedroppers, met any women like this? How do you handle it....
Posted: 9/4/2009 6:31:01 PM | Personally I'd find it pretty annoying and probably lose interest quickly. If all a person can think of to say, or thinks it impresses me, is to talk about celebs they've met, hung out with, I'd find them pretty boring.
Personally I don't find what's so fascinating about celebs anyway. Sure they make millions from what they do, and most are quite good, but I'm not about to worship the ground they walk on, simply because they're famous. And I can't stand other people that do. If the most interesting thing in your life is the fact that you've met other people that you find more fascinating than yourself, and feel the need to talk about them instead of yourself, then you're obviously a pretty boring individual. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 7:21:36 PM | Any time they find the need to constantly tell the same lame stories over and over it's a big red flag... whether they drop names or not is just another annoyance.
I'm more concerned about them keeping the conversation fresh then anything | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 9:04:07 PM | Actually, I'd like to hear most of the stories...at least ONCE. I like stories if they're about people I like. If all the stories are about people I don't know or don't like, then what's the difference? As long as it's TRUE, I got no problems.
If I sense the stories are LIES, then I got a real problem with it. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 9:42:29 PM | | Yes, my last date- very nice woman. She was kind, thoughtful, etc. I just ignore it as people look to you for a reaction when they mention said name. We are all guilty of identifying with the things to some extent (fashion labels, the kind of car we drive, etc.) so this is just identifying with a person. I wouldn't sweat it. | |
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Posted: 9/4/2009 10:14:06 PM |
"How do you handle it?"
The same way I handle the girl who flirts when she isn't really interested, but just wants some attention. Or the girl who flirts when we both know she has a boyfriend. Or the girl with the huge boobs at work who wears really tight t-shirts, but starts a very first conversation with me like this (points out guy across the room): "I hate it when they look at you like you're a piece of meat."
Some girls, and I would imagine many guys too, have never had to put forth any substance before because so many have been interested in them without bringing anything other than their looks to the table. So you ignore them, and giggle to yourself (with a poker face of course) as this drives them crazy. You then continue to do this when they keep making their comments, pointing out their own assets, getting loud, or further name dropping. Sometimes it's actually quite entertaining, and it's good exercise for keeping your own self control when airheads are pretending to throw it at you. | |
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