| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:35:25 AM | | I have been dating this guy for almost a year now and at the start of our relationship he said he felt like he hadnt slept with enough women. Its been months after but i still feel like he thinks about this a lot and that the more serious we get the higher the chances are that he will cheat. What do you guys think? and i would like a mans advice and comment on this as well! Thanks | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:39:16 AM | I haven't met many men that thought they had to be honest....
Realistically you gotta feel him out on that one. If he's saying that he definately isn't ready for long term.
Ask him if he still feels that way, and if he can see himself being with just you. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:41:15 AM | Hi, well i asked him again that question recently and he said he still does but he will "ignore" them because he wants to be in the relationship with me. Dont get me wrong he is a good guy and i know he loves me.. but he just has these desires to experiance more women.
Should i get out? | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:43:51 AM | | Hate to say it OP, but i think you are right. My opinion is most men will cheat, given the chance. Add him thinking he hasnt test driven enough women and i can see a trainwreck approaching. See the flashing lights at the railway crossing before you venture out on them tracks. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasn't slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:47:02 AM | Do you feel like you've slept with enough people? Do you want this one to be the last one?
This is relevant!
If so, then you may truly have a problem.
If not, or you are not sure, then the only difference is that he is tactless enough to say it out loud.
And I quite understand how a thing like that might seem like no big deal at the time, but really stick with you and get increasingly nettlesome later, regardless of your answer to the above questions, and especially since it hasn't changed. Sucks when that happens; my sympathies. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:47:24 AM | You accepted this at the beginning. What did you think he meant by it?
It seems as though you were blinding yourself with wishful thinking and that its power is beginning to fade. I do think you should get out. Don't be hard on yourself over this -- wishful thinking blinds everyone at some point or other. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:51:33 AM | You know, I can't think of one good way to spin a 26 year old dude's comment to his 1-year girlfriend that he hasn't slept with enough women. That's the comment of a guy who isn't committed. It's entirely possible for a 26 year old man to be dating a 21 year old woman and NOT want to ever have sex again with another woman. All I know is if I were 26 again and dating a 21 year old woman who I loved very very much, I would NEVER have this thought. And if I had the thought, I would never be stupid enough to admit to it with my loving girlfriend.
Dont get me wrong he is a good guy and i know he loves me.. but he just has these desires to experiance more women. Should i get out? It's a tough call. Only thing I can suggest to him is that you make it clear as punch that he can't have his cake and eat it too. If he feels like dabbling, you must know before he dabbles; that he respects your health and doesn't put it at risk with STDs.
Add him thinking he hasnt test driven enough women and i can see a trainwreck approaching. A guy doesn't feel like this if he feels that his current relationship is great and that it evolves and changes in a positive dynamic way. The thought never enters his mind. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 10:59:27 AM | | I hate to tell you this my dear, but it's time you learned the truth. You're old enough. In fact, I'm kinda surprised you haven't figured this out on yor own. It's not POSSIBLE for a man to have slept with enough women. I know I'll never reach my quota. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:02:49 AM | | I disagree with the statement that most Men will cheat..seeing that it can be a two way street..and I've known just as many if not more women who will step out.Bottom line is this..anyone can think they have not been with as many people as they'd like in a sexual way..but then you have to ask..what is the right amount,what number must be achieved to think that you've been with "enough"?And my reply to that is..it is not the quantity as much as it is the quality of time with someone.Being the type of person who is nothing more than a numbers person..who can see how many notches one can put on their headboard is really a huge form of insecure feelings that the person has with themselves.It takes more of a person..Man or Woman to satisfy the same Man or Woman for many years then it does for one to satisfy one's own sexual conquests.The key is to keep it fresh..exciting..and learn what makes each other tick..over an over..rather than what makes you tick and wonder or could care less if you have made many feel that way. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:04:05 AM | It's enough for him to have chosen between what he wants. You can require that he stops wanting what he has agreed to not have, but that might be a requirement he can't meet and that gets him to realize that since he can't succeed this way, the other way is the one to try. People choose to be loyal and exclusive, and so they are. People can't choose how they respond, such as being attracted to someone else. Is it enough that he ignores that other attraction, or do you need him to not be attracted to anyone else in the first place?
The main thing here is that if he is always thinking of what else he could have and that keeps him from being happy with what he does have, then he is not content so much as resigned. Resignation and wistfulness are not going to be working for the relationship. He may have made up his mind to get happy about it, but has he succeeded yet? Is he happy with the choice he made or does he still long to run wild and free?
Pretty much everyone who settles in together has this kind of adjustment to make. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:04:48 AM | | The thing is, he isnt looking for another relationship or to have a new girlfriend. He just wants to have sex with different women. Like a one night stand. He feels he hasnt experianced enough women. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:06:50 AM | Your f'ing beautiful, think the guy should wake up every morning and thank god that your lying next to him.
Other than that I dont know all the details. And like most of the pof posts. Without actually knowing whats going on in detail. I cant really offer much of an opinion.
Doesnt think he's slept with enough women ? Is this something that comes up in discussions often with your bf ? If yes, then it would indicate a problem. And bring his commitment to U, into question.
If its just something he mentioned in passing. And now Uve filed it away in that special file all women seem to keep in your heads. So that U can bring it up months/years down the line. Usually when your dissatisfied with something/someone. Leaving the male dumbfounded and confused. Then I wouldnt worry to much about it. Address whatever he's done that your unhappy about. And proceed as if things are normal, until U have some valid reason(s) to question his faithfulness.
If your asking this cause U have solid reasons to question whether he's cheating on U or is interested in doing so. Then weigh the evidence and come to a determination.
If your asking this, cause your disatisfied with how your relationship ( or U both are ) is going. And U are having doubts, as to whether U want to be with this guy. Pretty much same as above, weigh the facts and your feelings and decide on a course of action.
Ive left out several other if's, women are extremely complicated and mainly beyond my abilities to understand.
btw: OMFG your fine !!!! gd luck with this. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:07:02 AM |
The thing is, he isnt looking for another relationship or to have a new girlfriend. He just wants to have sex with different women. Like a one night stand. He feels he hasnt experianced enough women.
We ALL feel that way. Don't listen to the guys that say otherwise my dead. Lying snakes! | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:07:56 AM | | Its a classic problem OP, do both of you spend time in a solid relationship while your bodies, mind and eyes tempt you to sample other flavours.....or split up try the menu and wonder about the one who got away, the two of you have choices, commit or split. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:14:45 AM |
He just wants to have sex with different women. Like a one night stand. He feels he hasnt experianced enough women. I'll reiterate that a guy won't feel like this if he is real content with his current relationship. Why? Because a great relationship is dynamic; as you learn more about your partner, whenever you have sex with her it seems like you are having sex with a different woman, because you learn more about her as you go along in the relationship. Every relationship where I didn't initiate the breakup, I've felt this way. When I felt things got stagnant, I'd end the relationship; I wouldn't say things like "honey I love you but I need sex with other women". The thought would NEVER enter my mind, let alone me actually saying something like this to my Someone Special.
We ALL feel that way. Don't listen to the guys that say otherwise I disagree. Some guys will rationalize seed-spreading behavior as being some sort of primal urge. I disagree; any guy who values monogamy, respects his partner, and feels like his relationship is dynamic will NOT have this sort of seed-spreading sentiment. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:15:10 AM |
He feels he hasnt experianced enough women.
How many women is enough women? What's the magic number? 3? 13? 50? 1000?
I'm in my 30's and I haven't experinced enough women either, but once I'm in a relationship there is only ONE woman I want to experience.
Maybe he has said this out loud to you in hopes you'll invite a few friends into the bedroom. Just a thought. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:19:39 AM |
The thing is, he isnt looking for another relationship or to have a new girlfriend. He just wants to have sex with different women. Like a one night stand. He feels he hasnt experianced enough women.
So does he want you to do the same with men?
Editing to add, big :up: to bikeman on this! | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:21:21 AM | | i didnt state all men cheat i said this could lead to cheating. Is there a way to fix this problem? Or will he always feel this way until he sleeps with another women? I know you guys arent him, but as your own feeling. | |
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| My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women.
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:23:41 AM | So does he want you to do the same with men? Interesting question. The OP's profile indicates she is looking for dates. That sort of indicates that she and her dude are not really in a commited relationship. So I redact much of what I've commented on here. Since the OP being isn't committed to her dude, he's pretty much free to explore sex with other women. He might be feeling this way because the two of them haven't had "the talk". | |
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