| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:46:45 PM | I know guys are not supposed to be emotional or show their feelings but...
Do you guys ever get excited about a woman, thinking about her all the time but hold back from letting it show? Do you think it is a sign of weakness to let a woman know how you feel (if you feel strongly towards her)? Do you ever resist from calling her or asking her out because of this? Can you just compartmentalize your feelings and put her out of your mind at will?
I know I can't do any of that stuff - I was just wondering if most guys do. Do people even get excited about anyone anymore??? It seems like every body puts on a front like it doesn't matter even if they meet a great person who they think is really special. I guess they do it so that they don't put themselves in the weaker position (liking the person more than the person likes them) or some such non-sense. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:55:41 PM | (I'm a girl)
From what my dad has told me, most men will show interest when they are interested. They won't just let a girl get away.
This means your guy probably hasn't shown himself yet.
Keep in mind that girls in this day and age are more aggressive and independent than they used to be. The game is changing.
PS: It's weird hearing some of this stuff from my dad. LOL. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:02:31 PM |
Do people even get excited about anyone anymore??? It seems like every body puts on a front like it doesn't matter even if they meet a great person who they think is really special. I guess they do it so that they don't put themselves in the weaker position (liking the person more than the person likes them) or some such non-sense.
I'm not sure if a lot of people get 'excited' or giddy and show it or whatever you'd like to label it. I would think that some or a lot do though and not show it right off the bat.
Sometimes people are afraid to put themselves out there but that's human.
A lot of people have walls, some people have higher walls than others from past experiences. And to expose themselves and let loose even a little bit, some feel they haven't as much control. This is a difficult thing for some of those people to overcome and (like a good friend of mine) have missed out because of being all walled up and wake up one day and years have passed. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:09:17 PM |
Do you guys ever get excited about a woman, thinking about her all the time but hold back from letting it show?
Yes. It's not good to appear "needy"
Do you think it is a sign of weakness to let a woman know how you feel
No. It's ok to let her know how you feel.
Do you ever resist from calling her
Yes, but not because of weakness (see no 1 above)
or asking her out because of this?
No. I would not ever refrain from asking a woman out.
Can you ... put her out of your mind at will?
Yes, if you mean can I keep her from becoming a distraction. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:25:06 PM | I used to think showing my feelings for a woman, or getting excited about maybe seeing her or talking to her was typically very human and an accepted behavior where the issue of the pursuit and keeping of 'love' was concerned.... And was fairly liberal in my display of it. Hell, I even loved to write an occasional song or two for her if it would win her favor.............
Then I ran into the girls on the POF forums....... I've recanted every silly notion and thought of doing what came naturally to me ever since.....  | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:33:44 PM | I'm feeling for you, caramel sweetness and Piano4te.
I too have been stupidly open about how i feel in the past, and thought it quite acceptable to show feelings and affection, but the looks of horror I've gotten for my ill thought out displays of affection, or words of fondness have been quite the shock to me.
Rather like being doused with a huge pail of water,.. it sort of stops you in your emotional tracks.
Thing is,.. I'm rubbish at playing cool, its just not my nature, and although I've tried being more aloof and patient, its never felt natural for me. Now, I let myself be who I am without any sort of self repression, and if a man doesnt like that, well, bugger him then!
If I liked a man, and he liked me, and I realised he was holding back through fear of appearing needy, I could only sigh and feel sorry for the obvious 'scarring' he's had from one too many women who made him feel like a creep or stalker for actually displaying his feelings. They cause so much damage for the rest of us, those sorts. I'd try to make him understand that displays of emotion will not be met by the screaming habdabs from me,.. in other words, I wont be turned off by feelings.
I can only hope to find a man who can display his feelings or at least, give it a damned good try.
G. x | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:53:19 PM |
I've recanted every silly notion and thought of doing what came naturally to me ever since
A leopard can never trade in his spots for stripes!
I've always been a tad on the sensitive side. I also used to be ashamed of showing or expressing that side of myself, but that was awhile ago. Many have made the mistake that by me expressing or showing my emotions, that it is some sort of weakness.
Always be true to your feelings and emotions Mr. Piano.
Just hone those picker skills to nice fine edge!! | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/11/2009 9:02:59 PM | | Guys who fall too hard from the beginning and let it show are usually dismissed by the woman who is the object of the attraction. I have seen it more than once and it is not good game. I know that many women talk about not wanting games but the truth of it is that men with no game don't get lucky. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/12/2009 2:32:46 AM | When I was younger, yes, absolutely. Used to play it cool. Close to the vest.
These days? Nah. If you have a genuine feeling, show it. Life is way too short to not be honest and upfront with the people to whom you're attracted. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/12/2009 7:31:40 AM |
Do you guys ever get excited about a woman, thinking about her all the time but hold back from letting it show? Do you think it is a sign of weakness to let a woman know how you feel (if you feel strongly towards her)? Do you ever resist from calling her or asking her out because of this?
Strong YES to all before the first "sexy time" together  After that, it's still a yes by default but it's ok to open up once in a while. Spilling your guts out, especially for a man, is something to be done very cautiously and sparingly; hinting at it and sending mixed signals works much better. Use it as salt to make food taste better, not as the main dish. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/12/2009 9:59:31 AM |
Do you guys ever get excited about a woman, thinking about her all the time but hold back from letting it show?
Not really. But it seems most of the ways I show interest are interpreted differently by some women.
For example I don't call very often. To me that is considerate, I am taking into account her schedule and life and wanting to call when I know it is the most convenient for her. My "excitement" makes me think more about her. So I leave her to her life and think about her and her life a lot, then call when I know it won't add stress or inconvenience. I treat them as I like to be treated. But a lot of women I date seem to take it as not interested if I am not calling as though it were twitter or we were conjoined at the bluetooth. As so many men have done exactly that and it's become the norm. Even though those guys have always led to failed relationships.
So I show interest my way, but sometimes they don't see or understand it. And vice versa.
Do you think it is a sign of weakness to let a woman know how you feel (if you feel strongly towards her)?
I don't think it's a sign of weakness to let a woman know how you feel. I do think it's a sign of weakness to let a woman know how you feel if you are manipulating yourself (as a guy) to let her know how you feel in a stereotypical way, to force her to acknowledge it.
Do you ever resist from calling her or asking her out because of this?
No. The less I like her (or the less I care if I like her but want to have sex with her) the more I rely on simply giving her what she wants, even if it isn't natural to me. Like calling all the time, constant texts, acting like a puppy running around her feet yipping and wagging my tail trying to get her to pet me.
When I resist calling it's usually because I like her, and want to be considerate, and respect myself so try and transfer that to her.
But it doesn't keep me from asking her out.
Can you just compartmentalize your feelings and put her out of your mind at will?
I can control myself. I usually don't when I simply want to use them though. Then it's all simply reacting to what they communicate directly or indirectly what they expect in order to give me what I want.
Do people even get excited about anyone anymore?
Yes. Just different people view it in different ways depending on other different people IMO.
I guess they do it so that they don't put themselves in the weaker position (liking the person more than the person likes them) or some such non-sense.
IMO people are worried about a weak position or strong position when they want something from another.
It's something they use in bargaining. When they are simply trying to gain what they perceive the other person has.
Like in a job interview. Or to use people for something like sex. Or any transaction based relationship. They want to put forth the idea that what they have to offer is worth more than what the other person has to give. Therefore the other person is more likely to "give it up" in exchange. Because who wouldn't give something up to obtain something more valuable than what is being given up? | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/12/2009 2:23:56 PM | I have found that a man who really wants to be with you, will show it to you by calling you and inviting you out rather than just having sex but the fact that he wants to spend more time with you. He makes plans ahead of time so that he knows for sure that you are available to see him.
He will humour you and let his guard down, flirts with you and wants to hold hands in public and to be seen with you. He is very fond of you that he buys you a gift.
If you are dating other people, you will notice (if you que into it) that he has become sensitive but will not tell you that he does not approve of it because he does not want to lose your interest or lose you. He will show that he is hurting but provides you with the freedom to make your decision. He doesn't pressure you to doing something you don't want to do.
He shows that he cares about you and goes to you when you are sick, and goes out of his way to make you comfortable.
(Lucky for anyone to find a man like this but he does exist). | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:48:50 PM | caramelsweetness2,
Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Of course they do, it may be shown in different ways. However, from my experience, usually if a man has interest, he will show it by calling and wanting to spend as much time as he can with you. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/12/2009 5:58:35 PM | | I have found that being too open and too vocal about your feelings too soon leads to a closed door. Because of this, yes I tend to hold back from showing things in the beginning. Yes I resist from contacting her. It has nothing to do with pride and everything to do with being afraid of scaring them off. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:00:30 AM |
Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it? of course they do. do you really thing that guy humping your leg like a dog and with his tongue hanging out of his mouth and drooling is trying to say something else?
lol j/k but seriously it depends on the person. guys are no different then girls in the sense that you have many different personalities. some will be open about what they feel and some will be closed and reserved. Over time though learned experience and depending on what kind of girls that guy has met before, it will definitely change how he behaves with future ones. also it really comes down to self confidence as well. some people are very confident and will say what they want and others are not confident enough and might worry about what the other person things of them.
I guess they do it so that they don't put themselves in the weaker position (liking the person more than the person likes them) or some such non-senseand show it?
that is actually reserved for people that like to thing of a relationship as a game and other nonsense. Anyone that is worried about posturing and playing is not worth having a relationship with. if they are doing that now, how long are they going to keep posturing? if you have to TRY to look cool to someone then your relationship is starting of badly already. You are pretending to be someone you are not and if they are too it's really sad.
A guy that is secure in himself will say what he feels and won't worry about what others think.. on the other hand if a guy has to grab his balls every 5 minutes to remind himself he's still a man , then that's probably not the guy you want to spend your life with as he'll always be insecure.
People DO get excited about others, it's normal and a very good feeling. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/13/2009 4:09:00 PM | When a guy's excited about a woman, yeah, a lot of guys show it. But many guys don't want to show all their cards of excitement because it scares gals off (desperation)... but they will show interest if they're interested.
After dating experience, you don't get excited about someone you just met nearly as much as you did before in the past, right after you've just gone out. Sane people kick the fantasy-land RomCom BS, and come down to reality. There are some people who purposely show no interest when they are interested, thinking it's a good trick, but after they find out that doesn't work, they'll come to normal terms. In the end, you show interest if interested, not infatuation if infatuated. | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/13/2009 4:39:21 PM |
When a guy's excited about a woman, yeah, a lot of guys show it. But many guys don't want to show all their cards of excitement because it scares gals off (desperation)... but they will show interest if they're interested.
Note taken Yes I get a little too excited. I do pretty well but when I too excited it never works out | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:06:37 PM | ha...strange questions, I must say.
"Guys aren't supposed to show their feelings? OH...now see, I didn't know that.
Well, how would someone know you were interested in getting to know them if you didn't show your feelings? I'm not sure how that would be possible.
I suppose almost any human can compartmentalize and put someone out of your mind....I guess that is possible. I know that I can get real busy, and not be in touch every hour on the hour....or even every day.....but if someone is on my mind, they are in there, they just are....drifting in and out throughout the day
Kimbo ~~ | |
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| Do You Guys Ever Get Excited about a woman and show it?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:12:01 PM | Yup I sure do, too much in fact, no i don't profess my love for her in the first five minutes.
but i do make sure that she knows i am very interested,but this backfires on me time after time,(make that damn near all the time) makes me look too needy i guess.
but i do get a real connection and all the butterflies and all that once in a while and i fall damned hard
yeah also damn tough to forget them even if they have expressed no connection
but thats me and my problem, that i have to live with | |
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