| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 4:48:18 AM | I want to be perfectly honest and ask a question here, assuming of course that I'm going to get crapped on but truly if you can answer this, I'd appreciate it.
I'm in a deadly serious relationship and I'm not leaving it but I date a lot and in the end, girls get hurt because of this. Any suggestions how to avoid it?
First, my situation is that I got married in college and after my first daughter was born my wife accepted her sexuality. It was tough but in the end, she's found an amazing woman who after several years moved in with us. They're passionately happy and I get to have a perfect family with two stunning gals who are both wonderful mom's to both my daughters. I'm not ever leaving this, but I am a guy and I do date.
Almost every woman I go out with has questions and I try to be upfront about it all but basically I'm not looking for a third mom to live with us, and I'm not looking to move out (ever) so ... how can I condition girls that I'm dating to appreciate I'm happy to be a lifetime BF but I'll never be more? | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:03:01 AM | You want to 'condition' women?
I guess find one who is happy to be in an open relationship right from the start?
I take it you are open and honest about this from the very beginning?
Some will go for it but most won't. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:03:33 AM |
I get to have a perfect family with two stunning gals who are both wonderful mom's to both my daughters. I'm not ever leaving this, but I am a guy and I do date.
This is really simple..if you were REALLY happy, then you wouldn't be out dating other women. You've accepted this as your life and are looking for validation from someone else that it's ok too.
Unless you are strictly out looking for booty calls, then you need to make sure you are up front about that.
how can I condition girls that I'm dating to appreciate I'm happy to be a lifetime BF but I'll never be more?
That's manipulative. You can't condition a woman to accept that you will always be tied to not one, but two other women and be ok with it. Talk about being second..how about third or fourth in a man's life. That means that you will always be putting a new woman in line behind your wife, her lover, your child.
Only unless you find another married woman who is not planning on leaving her relationship that may work for you. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:20:55 AM | | Find a married woman with a gay husband and his lover and their child, then you can all live together in peace and love forever. Just one big happy family. As far as "conditioning" women, I take offense to that word, sounds manipulative as the previous poster mentioned. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:38:58 AM | | Your profile says your here for an intimate encounter, which really means your here to get laid. Someone is out trying to get laid, seldom worries about other peoples feelings, so lets cut the crap. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:15:15 AM |
I'm in a deadly serious relationship and I'm not leaving it but I date a lot and in the end, girls get hurt because of this.
How serious could it be if you date a lot?
How can you "condition" women?
This thread totally creeps me out on so many levels. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:24:41 AM |
Your profile says your here for an intimate encounter, which really means your here to get laid. Someone is out trying to get laid, seldom worries about other peoples feelings, so lets cut the crap.
Steele, I love this. ^^^^^ | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:27:23 AM | Be honest.
Its simple, yet many folks don't do it.
If you are honest, most of the time if a girl does get hurt, she does realize you laid it all out on the line. Everybody is going to get a little hurt feelings when someone they like, does not return that love, but that's how we gain life experience, you can neither take that away nor should you want to, but if you are honest about your intentions and your feelings, you show integrity, and everybody respects integrity even the ladies. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:38:07 AM | Well OP...first of all any woman worth "dating" as you put it, truly a nice , respectable woman who would want to "date" (dating means movies, dinners out, weekend get-aways, picmics on the beach...RIGHT???) she is NOT going to accept a man who resides with two women and their children. PERIOD! OMG! Now is you do not truly mean the word "DATE" then yep...you'll find someone eventually ...IF YOU PAY THEM FOR THE DATE!!! This is not a sex wanted site...at least I didn't think so. Good Luck with your MISSION to CONDITION | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:39:34 AM | Date women who are in a similar situation, or who aren't looking for serious. Of course they should be able to date as well, so you really can't expect someone to be exclusive with you since you're not in a position to give it.
Just keep it casual. Date a married woman - that's not ever planning to leave her husband.
In the end, as long as you are upfront about your situation and what type of relationship you are looking for, women who don't want that will eliminate themselves from the dating pool. The rest can't say they didn't know what they were getting into. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 6:57:12 AM | You really can't 'condition' someone to be happy with a situation that they aren't going to be happy with. All you can do is be honest about it.
Not to be mean - but I really don't see what you have to offer a girl besides your c0ck. And c0cks are a dime a dozen. You won't marry her, you won't live with her, you won't have kids with her... your time with her is even likely to be limited because you have children.
If you are happy with your situation, cool. I think you are in denial, though... | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:51:10 AM | Oh man....you are so screwed ! Sorry to be so blunt, but really you are. No women in their right mind will become part of this familly. It is great you have such a good relationship with the kids mum, and her lover. But mate.....a women who walks in to see two birds kissing on the couch and your kids running round will be in the next country by the time you have got to 'H' in 'Hello'.
Do your self a favour, re-evaluate what you want in life. If its to live with two women that will never let you into their bedroom, but have you as their surrogate male...then enjoy what you have....if not, you need to think about moving out ! | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:00:48 AM |
You have an odd living situation OP but it seems to work nicely for you.
There is no way to "condition" a woman to want what you want. However, you can be completely honest and upfront by letting them know you're looking for a LT relationship but have no desire to get married, live together or change your current living situation. Being upfont at the beginning with these details would serve you well and allows the potential GF to make an educated decision to move forward or run the other way.
Best of luck OP. 
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 8:43:22 AM | Oh good grief.
You won't leave the 2 lesbians because of..........? You get to watch. Got it.
Not ever leaving your own personal lesbian movie...? Good for you.
Condition girls? You obviously have no clue.
Look, you want sex right? Then be honest and say that all you want is to get your d**k wet. If all she wants to do is f**k you, she won't care what the hell you've got going on at home.
You want to have it all don't you? Well chief...you can't. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:25:12 AM | OP: Just be open and honest with women you date.
Because of your situation any woman that dates you seriously would have to make serious sacrifices like marriage, living with her man, not being the only and number one woman in her mans life.
No sane, normal woman would want to get into this.
So your chances of getting a girl to appreciate your happy and to be a lifetime BF is very low, unless she is mentally unstable or in an unhealthy situation such as: married to someone she doesn't want to leave. | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:27:21 AM | What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Bubblewrap.
Well as long as you don't call the farm "the compound" it might pass the whiff test... Your profile speaks for itself. As long as you are upfront that you are content with your living arrangements and not looking to move or add to it, I think you may be able to sell it to the right woman. As the kids get older, you may wish to venture out more, but I know I wouldn't have a problem with what you seek. I think it almost sounds reasonable.
I don't think you need to look at married women. Just women who don't want a live in BF or mate. At least you'd have no problem finding a babysitter if you want to pull an overnighter. What may be a hard sell is the title "baby maker" and that you say you want children... you may wish to fiddle with that if you don't wish to change your lifestyle or create expectations from those you do "date". | |
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| What's the best way to make sure girls don't get hurt?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:45:26 AM | interesting situation. and very good question. I'm really not sure what kind of 'Conditioning' you meant so I'll give you both of my answers so you can choose the best one.
1) when attempting to condition in this method remember to have have lots of product on hand and be ready to get wild and wet.
After shampooing rinse her hair thoroughly n then apply the conditioner.
Take care not 2 rub the conditioner into the scalp as it may feel greasy.
The quantity n kind of conditioner will depend on the state of her hair - whether it is dry, oily or normal.
If her hair is very tangled u need more conditioner. If it is less tangled, u need less conditioner.
How To Apply
To begin with, pour out an adequate amount of conditioner onto your palms n rub them together.
Then gently work the conditioner into her hair, always in the same direction i.e. from front to back.
If u have basically dry hair with an oily scalp apply the conditioner to the ends only.
A quick and easy way to apply conditioner: Squeeze the conditioner into the palm of ur hand n rub your palms together. Using the whole flat of your hand, massage the conditioner into her hair, working from the scalp downwards.
How Much To Use
Be liberal. The hair should feel heavy. However, u don’t want to see white blobs of product sitting on her hair. Don’t over apply it at the roots because u are very unlikely to need much of it here.
so i hope that helps with the conditioning. mind you i don't know what hair care has to do with getting a women to continue to go out with you and becoming your booty call but who am i to judge.
the second type of conditioning (one i thing you MIGHT be referring to but wasn't sure) is also very simple
2) mow this kind of conditioning is fairly difficult but if you research some books written by doctor zarkovhahh you might have some luck... his method is simple
a) sit the pretty lady down at a very nice elegant table
b) use incense..lots of it...light 20-30 sticks... the aroma (and lack of oxygen) will send her mind into a dizzying state where she will not be able to think clearly
c) get close to her and approach from the front and say "LOOK INTO MY EYEEEESSSS" this is a very important step you need to work on to make it sound as casual as you can.
d) tell her she is feeling sleepy and wait for her to fall asleep
e) give her all the programming commands you want (ex sex on demand, skimpy outfits, washing your car on weekends, mowing lawn on Wednesday..) but try to not take advantage of her as she is a human being after all
f) giver her the wakeup command and viola! instant perfect woman
i know this technique takes time and effort to learn and shouldn't be tried in the middle of a dance floor but keep trying and someday it might work
main thing is that if you really do get some techniques to work on conditioning women then you really do need to share it with the community as it would improve the lives of men in general. women may decide to kill you and do horrible other things to your body afterwords but you'd be taking one for the team.
seriously thought, stick to talking to married women that don't want a husband but just a booty call and you will be happier since you both can live in your lives without worrying about the other. | |
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