| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:23:19 AM | Just wondering!
I heard somewhere that a great deal of women are dissatisfied with their sex lives because of a lack of the proper romance. Now, my question is concerning romance and an open wallet. Are the two complementary or not? | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:28:09 AM | No! Romance is a feeling, not an item. They are completely different... in fact, unless an item has sentimental value or special meaning, I personally don't find "stuff" to be romantic at all.
Run a bath for her. Give her a massage. Offer to cook dinner. Open a door. Carry her bags. Go for a walk. Watch a sunset. All of these things are romantic and don't cost a thing. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:50:28 AM | That's where you're wrong...there's a lot of us that just want someone who can afford THEIR lifestyles my friend...not mine.
Apparently you don't see the "I'm independent and don't need your money" posts that are out here.
Sure, there's a lot of women who want to be taken care of. Then there's some of us who get that times are tough and we don't expect Rockefeller. Hell...if I could pull him, sure why not? But I'd be on a different dating level wouldn't I?
And I DID date a man with money recently...and when he did spend it, it was mostly because he took me to dinner and his ass had drinks. I didn't expect him to pay my bills nor did I ever ask. I did expect him to act like a gentleman always--and that's where we ended up parting ways.
Money doesn't always mean a woman will stay around and put up with your crap. TRUST ME. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 9:57:44 AM | Most women will find a ride in a Porsche much more romantic than one in a beat up Volkswagen.
Oh, the generalizations about women, do they never end?!!
I would find it much more romantic to ride in a volkswagen with someone I connect with on all levels, versus driving around in a Porsche with a dud.
It is not the place, the stuff, the extras, it is the person. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:00:45 AM | | I drive a '93 Toyota Camry, what do I need a ride in your Porsche for. The Bible says the LOVE of money is the root of all evil. Money is a good thing, can do a lot of good in the world and I appreciate it when a man treats me, but money won't buy my love. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:04:58 AM | | Afashionlady, you made some very good points. I salute your independence. However, isn't it possible that you aren't a part of the main stream? You are a very confident and independent person but not most women I know. If you take them on a cheap date, they’ll **** about it to all their friends. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:23:27 AM | Romance, love and intimacy have NOTHING to do with money.
The most romantic things that have ever been done for me have either been spoken, written or in the way he touched me.
Sure I have had men who have spent a great deal of money on me in hopes of impressing me and while I appreciated the gesture, his spending regardless of how much could never buy my heart. It's not for sale.
I know there are plenty of women who equate how much money a man spends on her with how much he cares for her, but that is just stupid. Love...real love cannot be bought. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:32:53 AM | His GF is 20 years younger ..... It does work. Big time!
What worked? That he snagged a young, shallow thing that does not care about his personality or character but just using him for his materialistic posessions?
Wow, that is the kind of relationship we all should aspire to be in.
I find it kind of pathetic for your friend.
But, hey, if that is what he was ultimately seeking, then more power to him. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:36:47 AM | Thanks...and no I am NOT mainstream at all--never have and never will be. I, along with some other women here, understand how men AND women think. And I also understand why sometimes you all get pissed at women...I do too. I'm not a traitor to females but I think that there's a balance. And it's easy to find.
How? You have to be willing to talk to the woman you're interested in. Without a doubt, that's the #1 thing that kills relationships. The guy I was seeing that had money? He didn't have a problem opening his wallet...but he did have one with opening his mind and heart. If it's not a pay week, SAY THAT. Tell her you're short. Figure out something else to do that's not overly expensive. A great date is a free concert, or walking around a fun area of town and having a soda or something.
Women like creativity in a man...trust me. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 10:37:35 AM | Most women will find a ride in a Porsche much more romantic than one in a beat up Volkswagen.
I consider a long walk in the park more romantic than either.... and it takes no money. Not all women are after money.... just like not all men are after sex. Funny how that works, eh? | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:06:52 AM | | The first romantic thing I did for a woman was many years ago. I did not have much experience then. My first date with her was a walk down the Long Beach Boardwalk. It was a late afternoon and we stayed there until sunset. From there, I escorted her back to her quarters. She nevertheless insisted to go to mine. The intimacy we had that night is still vivid in my mind today (I can still see the steams in my mind). I haven’t however been able to duplicate such a simple, enjoyable, and cheap date since then. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 11:42:43 AM | Yes it is possible. Cook her a meal and serve it by candlelight with soft music playing, write her a poem, draw her a bath with candles and bubbles and join her. Have a picnic in a park together. All romantic ideas to me.  | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:18:15 PM | "Yes it is possible. Cook her a meal and serve it by candlelight with soft music playing, write her a poem, draw her a bath with candles and bubbles and join her. Have a picnic in a park together. All romantic ideas to me."
Yep...I agree...and all thoses things would be wonderful, right up to the moment she jumps in the next guy's Vette and speeds of to his 40 foot yacht moored in the harbor...after she was bored with all the other guys wimpy crap saying something like..."I'm sorry, you're a really nice guy and I care about you but I'm looking for something more...etc. etc!"
What a load of rubbish!  | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:19:58 PM | Bring about $2 (in nickels and dimes if you wish) and we'll walk over to the corner store. On the way we'll stop and admire some of the prettier gardens and cute cats or dogs in people's yards.
We'll line up behind a bunch of 10-year-olds at the store and dig in the freezer for the best flavour of popcycle or freezie.
Then we'll head off to the park where you can push me on the swings.
Second childhood can be as romantic as you want to make it. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:21:02 PM | "draw her a bath with candles and bubbles and join her"
Are we talking about a 1st, 2nd or 3rd date here?
If some guy lured me to his apartment and drew me a bubble bath I would be out of there faster than a dog with it's tail on fire. | |
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| Is it possible to be romantic without opening one's wallet?
Posted: 9/13/2009 12:27:38 PM | Romance has little to do with money, it is a feeling you invoke. A piece of jewelry or a nice night out can be wonderful but you don't need either in order to feel that special closeness.
Think of it as being the same as when you were growing up. Do your best feelings come from a certain object someone gave you? Or is it a fond memory of time spent together or family gathered for a loving celebration?
The best moments of my life just have involved a special time or a great laugh I shared with a person I loved. | |
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