| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:10:47 AM | For so many years I have seen so many politicians drag their wives into messes (usually due to their philandering ways).
They literally have their wives standing by them under the glare of the media making an apology or resigning or "making a fool of themselves"! There are so many examples that come into mind.
1. John Edwards, 2. Senator Larry Craig, 3. Bill Clinton, 4. Mayor Kwame Kirkpatrick, 5. Elliot Spitzer, 6. Senator Divid Vittor, 7. Joe Wilson, ...and many more.
Can anyone explain to me the need or benefits or reasoning behind why the wives are dragged (or voluntarily appear) before the cameras? He created the mess on his own ....so why get (wife) involved. As far as I know, the wives don't make any impact on the outcome...these guys usually gets kicked out of office regardless. I duff my hat for Mrs Sanford (South Carolina first lady) for not putting up with this kind of behavior.
My question is: Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks? Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions? | |
|
| Is it necessary to drag your wife into ......
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:14:12 AM | In those situations, I believe they are political maneuvers designed to soothe the concerns of the general public. After all, if the person that is supposed to be wronged can forgive them for their trangressions, who are we to sit in judgment?
Standing at the podium is not a personal choice... it's political, so it stands to reason that the accoutrements are political too... | |
|
| Is it necessary to drag your wife into ......
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:23:48 AM |
these guys get kicked out of office regardless. I duff my hat for Mrs Sanford (South Carolina first lady) for not putting up with this kind of behavior.
My question is: Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks?
Clinton wasn't kicked out of office though he should have been for lying to everyone about the scandal....His famous words : I didn't have sex with that woman betrayed him.
Usually the purpose the wife appears before cameras is to show support, but for the most part it's political motivated by the politician's advisers....
I give lot of respect to women that stand by the rotten turd.
Tammy Wynette stood by her man! | |
|
| |
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:34:06 AM | why do the wives stand by their side? For the same reason they married a guy who has power, and spends a lot of time not at home, but in D.C. or on the road when he's on vacation....it might be love, it may be the status. Newt Gingrich's wives, all 3, were the women he cheated on the last one with. Did none of them know his track record--or did they not care?
Not all of them want to be window dressing, but the handlers let them know, showing up by the side shows the candidate is a family man, which helps the vote. When he's under fire, its back to the family man role, to show he's just like you and I (well, maybe not us, we're at a singles' site  ).
It could be a sign of love...if you knew your partner was in D.C., with all that power and money...would you trust them to be faithful as well? | |
|
| Is it necessary to drag your wife into ......
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:40:21 AM | Tammy Wynette stood by her man! Don’t you mean men? 
Tammy Wynette – Euple Byrd '59 – '66 - divorce
Tammy Wynette – Don Chapel '67 – '68 – annulled
Tammy Wynette – George Jones '69 – '75 - divorce
Tammy Wynette – Michael Tomlin '76 – '76 annulled
Tammy Wynette – George Richey '78 – '98 ended in her death | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:56:54 AM |
Can anyone explain to me the need or benefits or reasoning behind why the wives are dragged (or voluntarily appear) before the cameras?
Like Michael Irvin said when the scandal came out about the Minnesota Vikings' sex cruise about the wives of the players; something along the lines of, "They could have left and taken half, but they stay and keep the whole thing."
There are lots of men whose wives cheat on them and they stick around too. It depends on how seriously a person takes their vows. Unless the person breaking the vows won't accept anything other than a break-up, perhaps the betrayed are of the opinion that breaking their vows doesn't set right the vows their partner has broken. | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 5:58:40 AM | I think they like the lifestyle they have and don't want to give it up. There's a certain amount of prestige involved, and maybe even power, when you are Mrs. Senator so-and-so, or the First Lady, for crying out loud.
I think the "stand by your man" routine is just a publicity thing, and that there's no marriage left to speak of, behind closed doors. | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:11:01 AM | Its easy to say we wouldn't but when there is power involved, you might think different
you dont want to be the wife to say " fu*ck him and im not standing by the prick for cheating" imagine the voters and media after that outburst?
Believe me the majority of these women will cash in financially after the husband it out of the public eye. | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:24:19 AM | Perhaps they believe their husbands at first? I imagine there is a whole lot of denial and blame laying going on in the initial period after the scandal breaks. Claims of set ups and political shenanigans. And it is usually only after the free for all that the truth starts to come out.
Perhaps they are also thinking about their children as well. Can you imagine what these kids go through? The name calling, taunts and insults being thrown at them? Maybe they just wait it out thinking that the faster it leaves the public eye the sooner it will be eclipsed by some other news story. | |
|
| |
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:33:03 AM |
My question is: Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks? Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions?
I don't personally know any woman in that situation - it could be either or a combination. But I know that I certainly would NOT stand by any man who utterly disgraced himself and, by association, me. I've too much self respect - and I have walked away from seriously wealthy men for far smaller sins than some of those you allude to. But that's me ... I set very high standards for myself and consequently for those I'm with. Nevertheless, I do feel some sympathy ? / compassion ? for men in high profile roles. Having worked for a short term in politics at a State Government level, I have seen how hard they work, the long hours they put in and how some women literally throw themselves at these men. They are generally strong, motivated, confident and ego-centric individuals - and these qualities are very appealing to many women. And if, as you suggest, they have already developed "philandering ways", then it's inevitable the wives will find it very difficult to compete with their love interest - until it all blows up in their face and then they're SO sorry because they've been caught and embarrassed and need 'wifie' to prop up their rusty halo!  As for the "gravy train" - yes of course there are women who will sell out their self respect in exchange for a certain standard of living, particularly if their circle of friends are in the same boat. Shallow people.  | |
|
| |
| |
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:42:19 AM | Who, what , when , did GW have a 75 million dollar affair ? just curious, when did GW stand in front of the country and lie repeatadly for months, to the american people ?
Hell , I knew about BJ bill , when he was govn. of Arkansas , He had state troopers "usher" ladies of the night , at tax payer expense !
Then, when he "came " to the white house" (much to everyones surprise) he behaved the same way ! | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:59:13 AM |
My question is: Is this a sign of the strength of their love/relationship or an attempt by the woman to help keep the "gravy train" on tracks? Would YOU stand by your man/woman under such conditions
You don't get it, do you? Those are political marriages. They do what's in the protocol/ scenario, not what they WISH to do. I agree that one part is a genuine marriage, but from the moment the man is inaugurated, it turns into a political marriage and everything is carefully drafted, from their sleep and food to their behaviour and clothing trademark. It includes the appearing in front of cameras and what they will say and how they will look. A good parallel is direction of a film. That's how it works. | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 6:59:33 AM |
Like Michael Irvin said when the scandal came out about the Minnesota Vikings' sex cruise about the wives of the players; something along the lines of, "They could have left and taken half, but they stay and keep the whole thing."
Quoting Michael Irvin? "HA"! Irvin is the embodiment of disgraced..... | |
|
| |
| |
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:27:11 AM |
Because they have no backbone, brains, and self respect. That's narrow-minded thinking and I disagree on all counts.
It takes a hell of a lot more backbone to stand up beside your husband in support of him in front of a nation than it does to plop yourself down on the sofa with a pint of Häagen-Dazs and drown your sorrows in vanilla bean ice cream.
Many of these women have ivy league educations and show intelligence in many facets of their lives.
As for self-respect... that's open to interpretation. If I were in that situation, my standing in support of my husband wouldn't affect my self-respect in the least. It wouldn't have been me that did the dirty... so I could easily hold my head high.
They live in a different world... one where money and power talks and many of these women are driven to succeed - and they believe their husbands' success is a direct reflection on them. I don't think I could live in that world, at least I wouldn't want to... and I often do wonder at what the women are thinking, not outwardly, but inwardly... how this is affecting them personally. Ultimately, it's their choice... | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:34:57 AM |
Believe me the majority of these women will cash in financially after the husband it out of the public eye.
^^^^^ Put in few words, that is exactly it.
No human like to be cheated and the cheating be of public knowledge....I guess they are in it for the big slice they will get. | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 7:52:17 AM | Your question was is it a sign of strength to stand by and keep the train rollin, and would I stand by a cheating man, the answer to both is easy NO...it is not a sign of strength that keep most women in the public eye standing, its more a sign of resolve, I totally respect a woman that can be strong enough to go through infidelity, and still opt to see the relationship as savable, I myself would not. I have my own issues with monogmy, so if I choose to be in a relationship, and be faithful, he better be to, or I will walk without ever looking back. | |
|
| |
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 8:07:14 AM |
Can anyone explain to me the need or benefits or reasoning behind why the wives are dragged (or voluntarily appear) before the cameras? He created the mess on his own ....so why get (wife) involved.
Money. Power. And the benefits that come with them. Finally got the parking spot close to the front doors at the Country Club. The new yacht is one hell of a ride and she doesn't want to do without. She doesn't have to work. The cook they just hired is really really awesome... and the gardener is really really good in bed.
Why ruin a good thing? | |
|
| Why Do Disgraced Politicians' Wives Stand by their Side?
Posted: 9/16/2009 8:10:05 AM | | In all the examples you've mentioned, I think those wives knew their husbands were fooling around for a long time. So it didn't come as the big shock we regular Americans think it did. I think women in those kind of marriages become as jaded as their husbands over the years. And like their husbands, they've put their ethics on the back-burner. They probably bargained with themselves and thought, well, even though he's a cheater, I'm still the wife of a Senator or President and get all the benefits of his position. #1- They don't have to hold a job. #2-They live in lovely homes and have their own personal assistants and housekeepers. They probably can shop until they drop. Essentially, they traded their self-respect for money, just like their husbands. They knew the deal and I think they think it's just part of the 'package' to stand in front of TV cameras with them when they get caught and are disgraced out of existence. They really don't deserve anyone's sympathy. In the end they get book deals and movie deals to disclose the secrets of their marriages and they end up in better shape than before their husbands careers went downhill. | |
|
Home
login 
She evens out the playing field.
