| | what is your greatest dating fears?Page 1 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | Men and women tend to perceive their own safety differently.
I have been particulary curious lately about a mans worst nighmare pertaining to dating or relationships. I have a fairly good idea what a woman's worst nightmare may be. Most often its fear of physical violence, rape or murder. Women also tend to fear for the safety of their children. Mine is the typical female fears. In no way do I want to underplay mens fears. I would like to find out Gentlemen, what are your greatest fears when it comes to dating and relationships? Women, please by all means share your fears if other then previously mentioned.
*Romance and commitment itself.
* Men/women fear of stalkers or the mentally unstable.
*The Gal that might very well be a guy ( trans-testicals).
*As a man, I'm afraid of very Little.
*Getting trapped into marriage.
*Merely approching a woman for fear of rejection.
* Being falsy accused of rape or beating a woman.
*Fear of being attacked, raped or murdered. ( yes this can happen to men too).
*Being manipulated, controlled, loss of identity.
*He/she will laugh at me.
In all seriousness. what are your greatest dating/relationship fears? What precaution/s do you take to prevent these from occurring if any?
I thank you in advance for this indulgence of my curiosity.
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 12:50:20 AM | you said greatest fears .. so means one only ???
- Stalker/ mentally unstable, plus murdering (alot of people think i have plenty of money.. "Without reasoning")..
- STD's.
- Drama, (ex's., or married woman who lied about her status, you know it happen).
- I know alot of my friends/ acquaintances who on their first date, just happened that the woman/ girl was just using them to get some other guy/girl jealous.. LOL......... some of them drive like 3 or 4 hours... | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:09:02 AM | I don't have any specific fears, but I have a couple of cautions:
* I want to keep my kids completely insulated from my social life until such time as I meet someone whom I think is good for them and will be around for a while. I do not introduce someone to my kids casually.
* I try to keep myself out of private situations w/relative strangers where I could end up in a potentially dangerous he said/she said scenario. There's a lot to be said for the safety of dating publicly. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 2:14:23 AM | That I'll end up dating someone out of sheer boredom and marry them out of desperation because I'll panic and think I'll never find someone to love me for me.
The things you mentioned above, pretty much with the exception of the dating things, can apply to any situation OP.
Those are healthy fears and real ones, but I'm trying to not work in the far reaching negatives cause I'm sure there'll be a lot of those responses.
But what I said, for me, is what I meant. | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:27:48 AM | afashionlady
True the above mentioned can be applied to many situations. I have to admit that I allowed some of those fears to influence how I date. Up until recently (no dating).
I can understand your fear. Some times I too fear that I will spend the rest of my days single. I guess it's a good thing I enjoy my own company lol thank you for your response. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 2:39:23 AM | write time,
This caution makes perfect sense to me. Even now that my children are grown I still hold off on introductions.
I do understand the consept of dating publicly. I had wondered if this was just a female concern or if men too felt it safer/smarter. I am sure for different reasons.
GreenCarrot,
Ever consider requestion Webcam chat? at least you get and idea of what she looks like. I for one suggest it before meeting some one myself. For me it's to be able to see his body language. Just to add more dimension. lol of course I always establish its only to Chat, before hand.
Thank you
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 4:03:13 AM | I have to say one of my fears is meeting someone that's not as stable as they adverstise themselves to be.
I'm talking being in massive debt or having some type of major problem they need someone to bail them out of.
You meet some attractive woman and you get on with her very well. Then after a few dates you decide you really like her and then she hits you with the bombshell like she losing her job and can't find work or she can't keep her home and she need you to give her "a little help" | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 6:56:34 AM | | Hmm "fear" is a strong word. Honestly not much comes to mind. I am cautious, and sometimes skeptical, of certain types of people. I watch for red flags of alcoholism, anger, dishonesty or irresponsibility. I try to avoid those types of people, and certainly don't want to enter into relationships with them. But being afraid of those things? Not really. I've survived bad dates and bad relationships before. Sure I'd prefer not to go through that again, and pray I don't, but nothing ventured, nothing gained. | |
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PiggyT
| | Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 11 | |
| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 7:19:20 AM | Isn't this the site where we come to face our fears? Almost everything in here is relevant and just part of the experience that is online dating.
I think another fear is that you will actually meet someone and have to leave.... | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 7:32:41 AM | | I don't have any fears about dating. It's about like going to see a movie. The worst that could happen is I didn't like the movie. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 7:36:27 AM | | Not a fear, really, but I feel bad if I meet someone really nice and fairly compatible, but feel no chemistry with them but they do with me. Having to tell them I'm not interested in pursuing anything is always difficult. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 8:03:52 AM | Rejection isn't so bad when it is a form of "thanks, but no thanks".
What I'm afraid of is more along the lines of, "how dare you!" or "Of course not!" and then she tells all her friends.
Being laughed at.
Contempt. angry contempt or amused contempt. I can't handle that.
Precautions? I don't flirt or ask women out. I don't let them know if I find them attractive.
But I do have women friends and I get along well with women, I just don't go "there".
Dan Savage put it bluntly once in his sex advice column. It was along the lines of "showing interest is the willingness to be an ***hole". If a person is interested in you, and you communicate your interest in them, it's OK. If they are not interested in you, and you show interest in them, you're an ***hole.
I believe this, sort of, but I'm not motivated enough to go ahead and be an ***hole. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 9:16:06 AM | My greatest fear is she might want me to pay for her coffee. 
Seriously, this is a good question. For me, I try not to focus on all the negative possibilities. Sure there is the normal nervous date stuff but no fears. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 9:55:49 AM | I have to say, my greatest "fear" is one that recurs yearly!
It's that I fall for some guy and he doesn't return the feelings.
It seems men that I date are all about having fun in the relationships without ever dealing with the responsibilities of a relationship. I don't do hollow. | |
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bub84
| | Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 17 | |
| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 9:56:55 AM |
Hmm "fear" is a strong word. Honestly not much comes to mind. I am cautious, and sometimes skeptical, of certain types of people. I watch for red flags of alcoholism, anger, dishonesty or irresponsibility. I try to avoid those types of people, and certainly don't want to enter into relationships with them. But being afraid of those things? Not really. I've survived bad dates and bad relationships before. Sure I'd prefer not to go through that again, and pray I don't, but nothing ventured, nothing gained.
I can try to explain it in my own words but justme1201 says it best. lol. I would add, however, not everyone who drinks or does drugs, or who has an STD or anything of this nature has a sketchy character. You just got to watch out for yourself. But I guess that rule don't only apply to dating. | |
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Jd_25
| | Joined: 7/1/2009
Msg: 18 | |
| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 9:58:43 AM | | my biggest dating fear is jealousy. I could not take dating an insecure girl, however when you've been with them for awhile already and it doesn't come out till later.. it's not an easy decision to make. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2009 10:33:31 AM | My biggest seems to be rejection itself
One I met earlier this week was too clingy. I work 2nd shift, told him my schedule, he cancels breakfast,wants to hang out here. As I'm getting ready for work, there he is. He called it off after 2 days
Man will come and want my kids out .
Man who wants to sponge off of me.
Like the above mentioned, everything I tell him he echoes to his family. A little privacy please.
Being controlled. Nice the guys on this site want to decide for me if we are "moving to the next level" Did he ask/discuss first? No. I believe I should also have say in who I wish to date also | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 10:35:40 AM |
I have been particulary curious lately about a mans worst nighmare pertaining to dating or relationships.
That my dentures would fall out when I bite into a steak over dinner.
Not really, I don't have dentures. But if I did, that would be my greatest fear. | |
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2run
| | Joined: 7/31/2009
Msg: 22 | |
| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 10:36:38 AM |
Gentlemen, what are your greatest fears when it comes to dating and relationships?
Finding out SHE used to be a HE!...
Happy Hunting!  | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 10:43:43 AM |
2run: Finding out SHE used to be a HE!...
Or that he still is, and that ain't no pistol in his pocket.
(A little vomit just came up in my throat.) | |
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| what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 10:44:42 AM | ForRumOnly
I too have this concern. I truly hate to cause discomfort or hurt any ones feelings. Thus having to suggest "we may not be a match" after meeting a person makes it truly very personal. I don't think there is no easy way to handle that.
thank you for your comment.
2run and Central scrutinizer, I kind of fugured with the ways things are these days that might be one. LOL I can only imagine. I have seen some very beautiful men. Good luck with that one guys. | |
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