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Posted: 9/20/2009 1:13:01 AM | I had a date last week, 9/16/09, she was beautiful, smart, funny, silly, sexy, well you get the idea. We had a great dinner, the conversation flowed well and we seemed to "click" on all cylinders. We went back to her place and talked some more. When there was a "lull" in the conversation I asked her "why don't you kiss me?" She did, it was almost magical. When the kiss was over she looked me straight in the eyes and said "you're everything you said you were and more". She even asked me to call and let her know I made it home OK... Been a long time since someone cared enough for that...
The next day I tried to call to tell her what a wonderful time I had, no answer. Text msg. No answer. Then she's online and deletes her profile, no explanation. I finally got through to her on Saturday and she said she had too much else going on to get involved with someone.
Why come on here and agree to a date, have one that was wonderful, then back off like that? She's not married or involved with anyone. Not sure what happened... | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 1:25:28 AM | | For me, it was because I was afraid of the intense feelings on my first meeting...and running is easier than hangin' in there... | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 1:40:59 AM | | What ever magic happened during the date wasn't enough to override the other stuff going on in her life. Maybe if you knew what the other stuff was you'd be happy she's letting you go early. Dunno. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 1:41:39 AM | We don't know, "you were everything you said and more" IS NOT equal to" I think I need look no further" or that" everything you said and more" was what she was looking for.
Did you spend most of the night "sharing what a world traveler and interesting person" you were with her. Maybe you were a bit to much. "AND MORE" may have been "TO MUCH".
Everyone says call and let me know you made it home , if they have manners and you live more than a few miles away. It doesn't mean we really care if you do or not.
Move on.... | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 2:44:31 AM | Word!
I had the same situation dude
uh my advice to let it go. She probably didnt like you or you were too nice.
And dont try to be friends with her so she might like you again... I shoul have not done that either lol well you live you learn lifes good | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 4:35:57 AM | | Probably some insecure little girl needing an ego boost. Got it from you then lost interest. Move on and date women not girls. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 4:53:17 AM | It's not you, it's her. If she is unavailable move on. At least you got a kiss.  | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 4:59:10 AM | Did her profile say 'dating' or 'long term?'
If things went that great that means there may have been the potential for relationship - and you said she told you she wasn't ready for a relationship. Apparently she just wants to date. And date more than just you. Like the one lady said - she may have been overwhelmed by the intensive feelings on that date and didn't want to get that deep with you - either sexually or relationship wise.
If things went that well and she left up her profile saying she wanting to still date - how would you take that? You would probably ask her why she still had a profile up since things were going well with you. So maybe that's why she decided to take her profile down.
Did you two discuss friendship? If you would have made her comfortable by saying you two could just date and kick it (and perhaps allow her to date other people) it may have been right up her alley. But if that was not what you wanted nor was that mentioned - what choice did she have if she wasn't trying to get close to you like that? So she let you go.
Guess I learned something from this too. You can have a great time on a date - but what does that mean for someone that only wants to date and doesn't want any deeper connection? So do you talk about where the potential relationship is going or the expectations of the potential relationship on a first date? | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 5:26:01 AM | Why come on here and agree to a date, have one that was wonderful, then back off like that? She's not married or involved with anyone.
Exactly!!
Everyone has something going on in their life!
These things continue, as we mature.. we may fix one problem another may come along...
why didn't she explain all the issues she had going on on your date, in turn - It then makes you look like a stalker (or feel like you are turning into one, cos’ they don't answer)....
NOTHING QUERE AS FOLK | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 5:26:34 AM | | What happened? I have no idea, I don't know the woman. Personally, I would not be bringing a guy back to my place on the first date, perhaps she scared herself, who knows. Too much, too soon? Or not enough, not soon enough? Flip a coin. The fact that she took down her profile does not bode well, forget about her and move on to someone a bit more stable. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 6:01:24 AM | | Apparently there was a deal breaker in there somewhere and the intense feelings only made the deal breaker come to mind sooner than it would have if things had gone more casual. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 6:53:18 AM | Just as some of the others here have said- It's not you, it's her. Its happened to me a few times. And it sucks!
A lot of people fear success! Whether it pertains to their career or their love life. It is simply easier to fail, it's familiar, there's no pressure and that makes it comfortable.
I also think each generation is progressing with more confidence and less dysfunction. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 8:03:41 AM | Every story has 2 sides to it. Apparently, she didn't feel the magic the way you did. It happens to even the best magicians.
Where did you go on your date? Was it Micky D's or the Waffle House like you mention in your profile?
you're everything you said you were and more
Did she really say that? Sounds a little rehearsed from a movie script or something. It's not quite Heathcliff and Kathy though. Perhaps quote The Notebook next time. Chicks seem to dig that movie.
Why come on here and agree to a date, have one that was wonderful, then back off like that? She's not married or involved with anyone. Not sure what happened..
To meet people and maybe have a good time and see if you are compatible with someone and decide if you want to see them again? She perhaps reread your profile and decided that rose tat was a deal breaker. I know that would freak me out. She's just not into you. Move on. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 9:49:14 AM | The possible reasons are too numerous to mention.
The bottom line is, she has made her intentions clear. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 10:40:40 AM |
Why come on here and agree to a date, have one that was wonderful, then back off like that? A date does not obligate anyone to continue seeing you.
You saw her on Wed and on Sat she told you she wasn't interested.
That's all that happened. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 10:49:37 AM |
When there was a "lull" in the conversation I asked her "why don't you kiss me?"
That statement right there would have turned me off completely, dude. If you have to ask, then either you can't afford it or you don't have enough confidence in yourself to let things flow at a natural pace. When I want to kiss someone, I just do it.... without them having to ask.
Next time just let things progess naturally. Why didn't you just lean over and kiss her first?
Sans | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 11:13:56 AM | I'm with Sans:
When there was a "lull" in the conversation I asked her "why don't you kiss me?" That would turn me off as much as a guy who asks me first if he can kiss me. It sounds awkward, like things weren't flowing as naturally as you imagined. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 11:53:57 AM | Your reply echoes what happened to me with a woman I would have had as a keeper as we were enjoying the company and that hurts. I would have preferred she never agreed to meet, kiss, spend time together.
If a woman is not ready she should not bother trying. Same for a man. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 1:49:54 PM | This sucks, but I agree its not you. Since she deleted her profile I would guess she decided she's not ready to date after all. Sometimes we think we are ready, go out there, meet a nice man, and then realize no matter how good the guy is, the time is not right or we are just not ready to get involved with someone.
And to answer your question, boredom + loneliness = women putting up profiles, whether or not they are ready for a relationship is another story | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 3:14:21 PM | Don't assume it is a judgment of YOU per se, it is just what she feels is right for her.
I don't understand why people usually think it's something THEY did wrong. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 3:17:53 PM |
For me, it was because I was afraid of the intense feelings on my first meeting...and running is easier than hangin' in there...
proudsioux: were you the date?
^^BG^^ | |
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