| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 3:54:43 PM | | I'm just curious to see if anyone ever wanted revenge ona x husband or boyfriend. My best friends husband of many years found our her husband was having a affair at a company office party. She was 7 months pregnant with their first child . She is devestated and wants to get back at both of them . He eneded up actually leaving her a few weeks later and is living with the girl. She's a professional very successfull. He doesn't have a job or car. But she loves him and wants to keep the family together especially for the baby. What does everyone think of revenge in general not just in her situation? Has anyone ever done anything to get revenge on a x? How did it work out? Did u regret it? Just thought this could be a interesting topic. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:21:33 PM | Soooo .................
Not only is he cheating but he shits where he eats - wow good guy.
Your friend- she should get a divorce attorney and look into setting
up for child support -
Revenge- fcck revenge. Have her sweet precious baby and concentrate
on having a very happy two months more of pregnancy surrounded by
people who really love her.
Does she want this guy back -why so he can emotionally abuse her again-
No. She has a great life ahead of her and a precious little human she
is carrying. Dont put that in danger. Just get him out of her life.
Did I ever have to go the revenge route - No. I would never ever
stoop to some shit eaters level.
Actually, karma, God and what goes around comes around can do a WAY
better job at revenge than you could ever do.
Tell her to just sit back and enjoy the show. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:25:07 PM | ^^^^^ What he said.
Yeah, I've *wanted* revenge but I've never done anything to take it. I let my fantasies fun wild, though. You don't want to hear about them.
One ex - shortly after we broke up, his car window got broken but nothing was stolen. Like maybe someone broke it and then got interrupted and took off. He asked me if I'd done it (knowing I wouldn't do such a thing) and my response was, shoot! here I could have broken his window and blamed it on someone else! A missed opportunity!
I've wished bad things on people but it's not my nature to actually do anything. People who have done bad things to me - usually something bad happens to them eventually anyway. I just hope I get to hear about it in the end. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:34:47 PM | Well......I MUST admit, at first I wanted the revenge against my ex, but Karma and the plan of the Almighty took care of that for me.
Yes, it hurt me badly when he informed me after 14 years he didn't love me anymore, and he wanted out. Truth is, he took up with a welfare whore. - He thought she was the BEST thing since sliced bread. - A real winner - She doesn't even possess a high school diploma, much less a GED, will NOT improve of herself in any way, shape, form, or fashion. Can't hold a job, has several kids and has no idea who the fathers of these kids are, and is on every single welfare program known to man that you and I pay for our of our hard earned paychecks each week. She also has a looonnngggg and arduous relationship with Child Protective Services because she is too busy to take care of these kids. - Too busy throwing herself at anything male that moves and/or hanging out belly up to the local watering hole drinking the night away every night.
Well........to make a long story short, a little over a year after my ex left me for her, she left him sitting in the dust! - BIG surprise?!!??? - NOT! I wasn't surprised at all when he tried to come crawling back looking to pick up where we left off. Needless to say, I had a field day with that! - I probably should NOT have laughed in the face of his misery, loneliness, and sadness, but I just couldn't help myself. After all, he was SO defensive of her, and totally denied being involved with her even though I knew the truth. - I waived the proof of it in his face and he STILL continued to deny it.
I don't regret it for a minute......but I guess you really couldn't say it was revenge, now was it?? I am not sure, but I thank God each and every day for the amazing friends - old AND new I made getting involved in new interests. Because of that and the unwavering support of my friends, I was able to be strong enough to stand up to him and show him the door.
Now he is struggling financially because he can't manage money and I am doing okay. -My bills do get paid and yes, there is enough at the end of the month to put into savings for a rainy day. Unlike him, my phone doesn't ring with bill collectors on the other end........So I guess I could say that yes, I am living well, have found peace of mind for myself, and I dare say that IS the best revenge.
It just goes to show that what comes around goes around.......it may take a long time for it to happen, and you may not bear witness to it like I did, but it does happen. You just have to leave in the hands of God and he'll take care of the rest.
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:03:21 PM | Its human nature to exact revenge, especially on a cheating partner, you want to grind his balls in a meat grinder, and hope that they are miserable for the rest of their lives, the problem with revenge that its a temporary high, and once you exact revenge , what next?
They've moved on and you're bitter, the best revenge your friend can do is have the baby, work on her physical, mental and emotional state, become ONE HOT MOMMA, and find another man who is successful and wants to be with her, nothing pisses off a cheating partner more than seeing their ex move on and with someone better looking then them or more successful, thats a good revenge.
Ive seen it personally , woman is devastated by her lying, cheating, cold, dead beating,
Two-timing, double dealing prick ( wasnt that a country song?) she went for a make over, change her attitude and bingo , 5 years later her cheating ex, wanted her back and she just said to him a big F U C K you, middle finger , the whole 9 yards. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:37:06 PM | Yes, what goes around comes around and I'm a firm believer in karma, but sometimes it doesn't move fast enough... Sure I'll burn in hell for my pettiness, but hey, according to men, women are evil anyway... or at least I am.
I had a friend who's husband cheated on her for the entire duration of her 10 year marriage... when she found out, she wanted to throw his stuff out onto the lawn in the "men's matching luggage" (garbage bags)... I told her to be nice and wash his laundry for him first... with a pair of fibreglass curtains.
When my X used to take off drinking, I'd re-arrange the furniture. Sue me.
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:59:44 PM | | revenge? hmmm I have thought long and hard about it. In my head I wanted it but in my heart i knew it was wrong. This after I was cheated on. I had all the stuff, email , cell phone login to track calls. credit card info, nakid pics and movies.paswords to myspace and etc. I really could of got even. Then reality set in. revenge will make u look stupid. They say revenge is best served cold, give it time and by the time you want to serve it cold u have already forgot about it and moved on. Its hard at first but it will get better. Tell her to stay strong and raise a good child. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:57:39 PM |
Live well. The best revenge is to live well, and get everything you ever wanted in life. Live well in spite of the people that crap in your Post Toasties. Live well, and be generous with the people that took from you. Let them understand their mistake, and be reminded of it as you live well while totally moving beyond them.
Don't know who wrote it, but i live by it. Hasn't failed me yet.
Paul ;) | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:15:09 PM | I am a firm believer of "he who seeks vengeance must dig two graves".
Sure I have rage, and I may react spontaneously when someone has wronged me. But to spend time to plot a revenge? That's a waste of time. It's a lot more rewarding to go out there and get myself someone better - in every sense of the word. Leave the dirty work to karma, as it has an uncanny way of evening up the score. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/21/2009 12:01:21 AM | Revenge? In a court of law, certainly. Outside of legal means and it's probably not socially or morally acceptable. I don't think any good will come of such a thing, that's for sure.
Dude made some bad choices in his life. Eventually this professional and "very successful" gal will get tired of being with a guy who doesn't have a job, has no car, just left his pregnant wife and brought about infidelity within a very closed relationship. He's not exactly A-material, if you ask me...and it sounds like he's well on the way to self-destructing his life quite completely.
It sounds like he will exact enough revenge to make everyone happy...and maybe he'll take successful home-wrecker chick down with him. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/21/2009 5:42:58 AM | My best friends husband of many years found our her husband was having a affair at a company office party.
He eneded up actually leaving her a few weeks later and is living with the girl.
She's a professional very successfull.
He doesn't have a job or car.
She is devestated and wants to get back at both of them .
But she loves him and wants to keep the family together especially for the baby.
now this is why i find women so confusing... this unemployed guy was banging some random coworker at an office party.
he left his successful pregnant wife to be with this women from the office where he did not work.
now she wants to cut his balls of because she loves him... and the baby needs a father.
honestly! i do not think she should look for revenge before she finds reality!!!! | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/22/2009 3:28:42 AM | I agree with most of the posters here. When someone cheats, lies, steals, dont waste your precious life or time getting even. MOVE ON . They are dead to you and never existed. Why give them the time of day. Say what you need to say about the loser to his face or tell his friends what a loser he is, then be done with it. Losers dont have a conscience anyway and dont care what pain or financial problems they have caused someone else. Let vengence belong to God, and it will be done. Idiots and lying shallow people dont think about what they do. They are driven by their pants down, and the women who will service them. That is what they do. There isnt any thought in that, just getting sick needs met then put the true one down when they are caught and make up lies as to why they cheated anyway. Do yourself a favor and put no time into a loser. Make plans for your new life and follow through accordingly. LOSERS WILL CHEAT ALWAYS AND KEEP LYING AGAING AND AGAIN. Wasting productive time is a waste. I know my ex didnt lose a wink of sleep after cheating again and again, and neither am I now. He can cheat on someone else. NOT ON MY TIME OR MY DIME. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:14:50 PM | | I think everyone has wanted to get revenge on someone at one time or another. But I believe in karma big time, and believe that we ultimately get what we deserve, sooner or later. When you do right...it always come back to you tenfold...when you do wrong...that also comes back to you tenfold. That belief is always what keeps me grounded. Everything that we go thru in life are lessons to be learned, I try not to dwell on the past, and keep moving ahead to the future. Revenge is never an option. | |
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| was anyone so angry at a x that they wanted revenge? if yes what happened? was it worth it?
Posted: 9/22/2009 11:23:08 PM | While I have no respect for my exes because of what they did (were controlling, abusive, and cheaters), I've never had the urge to get revenge on them. I believe what goes around comes around and frankly I have better things to do than look for them just to get revenge. That would be destructive behaviour and bring satisfaction to them. I don't care what they do anymore as they are out of my life for good.
Revenge is not worth it. | |
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