| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:51:16 PM | | The guy I was with is out of town working. He broke up with me by text this morning. Said the classic "it's not you, it's me". Said he loved me but just didn't want to be with me anymore. What kind of ass dumps his pregnant girlfriend by text? We aren't in high school anymore, we're 30 and expecting a child together for Christ's sake! | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:55:16 PM | What kind of ass??? A coward. A man who thumbs his
nose at responsibility. A stupid assclown. A fucktard-
Hey I could go on all night. You get it, right?
So you are having a child and he now feels he does not love you anymore.
Hmmm.....Well one thing is for sure - it is HIM.
Oh by the way - that whole "its not you, its me" well, not only
is it HIM but he is probably already moved on if you understand
my cryptic message here. They always say this when they have
one hanging on the curb for them - lying in wait. God man, what
a fucking asswipe.
Well - get a lawyer honey. Looks like you get to spend the next
18 years with a man who does not love you.
And dont ever ever ever doubt yourself - it IS HIM.
Good luck sweety. Looks like he made up his mind for the both
of you. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:01:04 PM | | Time to pull your big girl panties up and act like a adult, gloves are off now, you hire a attorney, sue his ass for support and that's the end of it,you cant let him get away with breaking up with you by text, your relationship is over but his responsibility to his unborn child isnt. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:23:43 PM | Wait a minute...
It takes two to tango... Your due in March? That means you only just found out that you are pregnant and you have an 8 year old and a 12 year old, going through Divorce so I guess that Daddy is going to have to pay child support for two of them...
What were you thinking? Where were the Condoms, the Birth Control, you are right, your not children your 30...
There are two sides to every story and i am guessing this guy is new, he hasn't been going out with you for that long and you dropped this bombsell on him whilst he was away, over the phone, I'm pregnant.
Hun, yes it's his responsibility as well... But it was yours just as much to protect yourself and not get pregnant for the 3rd time, with a different guy and whilst going through a Divorce....
Wish you well. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:41:59 PM | OP, I am going have to agree with Chandler's Wish on this one.
You already have an 8 year old and a 12 year old, going through a divorce and are now pregnant with yet another man's child?????
Yes, you are 30. Not an 18 year old kid anymore..........Where were the condoms and other means of birth control??? And if you had those means of birth control, why didn't you use them? Don't tell me........it was all sitting on the night stand........The irresponsibility of people who SHOULD KNOW BETTER totally baffles me. WHAT were you thinking???? Scratch that.....you WEREN'T thinking!
You better grow up, get your head screwed on straight, contact an attorney and get the legal wheels in motion for a support agreement. Next time, keep your legs closed or use a better means of birth control - that is, if you know what that is.
As far as him breaking it off via a text message was in the essence of Totally Wrong. - What a f*cking coward.
I just sit here and scratch my head.................
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:51:24 PM | | I'm on the pill, we trusted it, shit happens. He was with me when I took the test in July, waited til he was out of town for work to dump me. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 6:54:30 PM | | Was on the pill at the time anyway, and no accidently missed pills. They were taken right, never fail me in that last nine year, and then they did. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:21:21 PM | So, he dumped you and he is a coward by dumping you by text.
Now you have to figure out how you are going to support a third child with yourself and whatever financial support you can get from him.
BTW, your username is ironic for a woman barely dumped and pregnant with another guys child while still married. At least you have that going for you. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:13:04 PM | I looked at your profile. You sound like a complete train wreck. That's one reason why he may have left you.
That, or he left you because he saw you've been on plentyoffish since April. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:24:27 PM | As I said, you probably were only going out with him for a few weeks before you fell pregnant, Apri - September, adds up...
It is definately not a grown thing to do, break up over the phone, cowardly but we don't really know the circumstances.
He could have felt that you were trying to trap him, did you discuss the pregnancy with him in July and make decisions together about keeping the baby or as you love children you chose the it's my body card.
He travels. Does he travel alot, in-other-words, did you really only see him "here and there", when he was available...
I hope you finish your schooling.. You obviously had a dream there.
I hope that you understand it takes two people for a relationship to cease and maybe you shouldn't have started one, seeing as your not Divorced yet, rather "only" seeked friendships for a bit to work out what you want.
The fact you call him an "Azz' to me, having only known him a short period of time I imagine and got pregnant, means you also need to review the way you think of people, treat people perhaps.
How about you text him nicely and say, we'll talk when you return, you are going to be a Father and the child needs to know his/her Father so we have to be rational and Adults about all of this. I'm sorry that you don't have the love for me that I would have liked from you but so be it. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:25:39 PM | He just wanted sex.
I'm sorry, but he just wanted sex.
When you got pregnant, he became disinterested and vamped.
He didn't know how too tell you, so he sent you a text. I betcha he was like 'dam this chick is married, getting a divorce, got kids, and now she's pregnant?!! I gotta go!'
This dude is an ass. He's f*cking around with you, and isn't showing any signs of sexual responsibility cause he didn't use a condom, and he's not showing any parental responsibility because he left you pregnant.
Yall both got some issues.
We know how many kids you got because somebody read your profile. How many kids does he have? Is he seeing them or taking care of them? Has he ever been married? Does he live on his own and have a decent job? If you would have ask yourself these questions you probably wouldn't have winded up with him in the first place. Sounds like you were just f*cking around with him too and taking the same sexual irresponsibility.
On the hand - maybe he looks good on paper and you were just suckered in thinking he could be someone you get with and lean on while you were divorcing. So which one was it?
You know the advice before anyone else gives it - abort it, keep it, or adoption. If you keep it get child support definitely. When he has to start shelving money out to you maybe that will make him more sexually responsible.
Good luck on Maury. Please post back and tell us when the show will air. I love PATERNITY TEST RESULT shows. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:41:45 PM |
The guy I was with is out of town working. He broke up with me by text this morning. Said the classic "it's not you, it's me". Said he loved me but just didn't want to be with me anymore. What kind of ass dumps his pregnant girlfriend by text? We aren't in high school anymore, we're 30 and expecting a child together for Christ's sake
No sympathy for you at all.
When I look at women like you and your circumstances I ask myself ONE question.
What on earth are you doing on a dating site???
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:36:05 PM | well,I am sorry for your prediciment.Its tough,your right he is an azz.Let him know he will support it.I wish you all the best. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:50:27 PM |
Was on the pill at the time anyway, and no accidently missed pills. They were taken right, never fail me in that last nine year, and then they did.
I believe you. Both of my children were conceived when my (ex) wife was on the pill. After my second kid, my ex and I used condoms AND the pill until I got fixed.
Your boy just wanted some nookie and was hoping the pill was enough. Get a lawyer and get paternity established as soon as the child is born.
Paul ;) | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:17:03 PM | to be honest, it should of been a joint decision whether you keep the baby or not. He is an ass for running.. but you are a neurotic mess.
My ex didn't sue me for child support or anything.. no, she just asked me =) | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:32:26 AM | This is why women need to protect themselves.....men can go and spread their semen and not feel responsible for the one that works.
Women should smarten up to this and use contraceptives because he can be as sweet and loving one minute and go sniffing other women the next.
Your NOT in high school anymore and should have been educated enough to use birth control until your READY to have babies. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:37:47 AM | my2cntsin....
No offence to your BOLD statement however, she has stated that she was on birth control and had been since her 8 year old was concieved.....
Your NOT in high school anymore and should have been educated enough to use birth control until your READY to have babies.\
I'm more worried about if this relationship was only a few months old and he didn't use a Condom, STI/STD.... that's something a woman has to be wary of... | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/21/2009 3:57:18 AM |
This is why women need to protect themselves.....men can go and spread their semen and not feel responsible for the one that works
Women should smarten up to this and use contraceptives because he can be as sweet and loving one minute and go sniffing other women the next.
Your NOT in high school anymore and should have been educated enough to use birth control until your READY to have babies.
2 cents - I couldn't agree more.
This is sounding more and more like the fodder you find on the Jerry Springer or Maury Povich talk shows.
OP, I along with another poster on here would like to ask: - You are legally married, going through a divorce with 2 kids already, you were screwing this other man, and are now pregnant.........what in the WORLD are you doing on a dating site? Looking for another poor sucker to play with? | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:01:56 AM | | I met him when I was 14, we've known eachother for 15 years. We were dating when I signed up here, but not exlusively until late May. I have a couple of email friends here so I kept the account. He knew about them. We made the decision to keep the baby together. I'm pro choice, but he is very much pro life, so no, I didn't use the "its my body card", he used the "its my baby too card". I was very upfront with him about understanding the kind of strain it would put on our relationship and that if he wanted to take some space and make sure I was what he really wanted, then I would understand that. He refused. He said he had loved me for 15 years and did not want to take a chance at losing me now. The day before he broke up with me he was telling me how much he missed and loved me and how he was going to be calling the union Monday (today) to see if they had anything at all closer to home. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/21/2009 8:16:12 AM | Well As usual people here for like the millionth time have jumped to conclusions and I see are making you feel bad about this, yourself and your choices.
Yeah we all fcck up. I do on a daily basis.
Anyway. I'm sorry not only do you have to go through this but when you reach out to people they throw your life right back at you.
I know you are well aware of what you did and how it turned out.
So I suggest you wipe your face off from that pile of shit some seem to get off on rubbing your face in, contact him and make plans for this baby.
I wish you luck. Stop defending your actions here. You own them now and you just need to do what's right for your baby and take care of you.
Don't worry about the why's. Worry about the future and your pregnancy. | |
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| pregnant and dumped by text
Posted: 9/21/2009 10:37:15 AM |
He said he had loved me for 15 years and did not want to take a chance at losing me now. The day before he broke up with me he was telling me how much he missed and loved me and how he was going to be calling the union Monday (today) to see if they had anything at all closer to home
Sure, he will tell you anything you want to hear. - Just because he said those things, doesn't mean a damn thing. - Does it really and truly mean he will actually stick with you and take responsbility for this baby? Remember, HE left you still married to your current husband as well high and dry with a baby on the way via text which is a real CHICKEN SH*T way to end things with someone.
Basically, he got what he wanted and left. - But then again, you are still legally married to someone else, which doesn't make you smell like a bed of roses, either. - And, I'll bet odds that your soon to be ex husband could and would use that against you in the divorce proceedings and quite frankly, I wouldn't blame him if he did.
Do you really think that being with this "new man" in your life will solve all your problems? Do you really and honestly think he is the one for the long haul??? Is he REALLY going to be there when things get difficult, or is he going to run like he already has? Or is he just blowing smoke up your a$$.....because it sounds to me like he is.
When my ex tried to come crawling back to me, sure he tried to fill my head up full of sh*t about how he loves me, and made SUCH a huge mistake, and that if I took him back, he would always, always be there for me. I knew better. I knew if I took him back, he would stay until he found something else he perceived as better and I certainly deserved better than that.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but you have to deal with the reality of your situation, and ask yourself........ he already walked out the door via text once.......what makes you think he won't do it again? | |
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