| Female Paranoia Around Men
Posted: 9/21/2009 12:28:07 PM | Late last night I was at a taco place where I ordered something to go. My order was ready, I grabbed it, and headed for the door. There was a hipster girl in front of me taking forever to open the door, thereby blocking foot traffic. Then she accused me of stalking her. I never saw her before in my life. I said "No, I am not". She then grilled me, like a cop, on what my business was in the area, where I was headed to (I said home), and then where I lived.
I was quite offended by this turn of events, and I believe this kind of behavior is commonplace. A month ago, a woman drunkenly stumbled into a straw that was sticking out of my Slurpee, and then implied that I was trying to grope her. My friends have similar stories. It seems that men have to constantly be walking on eggshells, and are seen as dangerous before they even say or do anything.
I also believe that this kind of stuff is only happening to certain guys. I believe that being dressed like a preppy worked against my favor in this situation. If I had the whole hipster thing going, perhaps she would have perceived me as being in the "in-group" and would have felt safer. I have found through observation that this type of female paranoia occurs mainly around guys who would be considered "lame" by the woman. In others words, to them, attractiveness = morality.
Has anyone here experienced such paranoia before? Why do you think this occurs? Is it a sign that gender relations have really soured? | |
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| Female Paranoia Around Men
Posted: 9/21/2009 12:38:45 PM | | I had some idiot try to accuse me of following him in Sears once. No kidding, I worked there and he was in my section and I was trying to assist him the first time I approached him, the second time I just walked near him and he got in my face about it. Some people are just idiots, ignore them or neutralize them if necessary, and move on. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 12:47:42 PM | | weird. she assused u of stalking her ad then question you after following behind her out a door? is she have mental health issues maybe? | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 1:16:48 PM | I'd flip the script on somebody like that. Accuse them of stalking you. Afterall, they're the ones interrogating you. This girl was asking where you live. Call her a psycho and tell her you'll report her to the police if she keeps harassing you.
Technically, your image would probably work in your favor in this situation anyway being that you look clean and presentable and she's evidentally somewhat of a social misfit. So generally, you'd likely be perceived as being more credible. Whether or not you actually were. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 1:40:37 PM |
I have found through observation that this type of female paranoia occurs mainly around guys who would be considered "lame" by the woman. In others words, to them, attractiveness = morality.
Not sure about this one. Obviously you haven't spent that much time in the forums. That type of paranoia (and worse) seems to be the rule of thumb here. IRL, I rarely encounter anyone, male or female, who exibits any kind of personality disorder.
I'm wondering how you came to the conclusion that females exhibit paranoia around preppy males, or that attractiveness = morality. You would think that women would be more paranoid around sleazy do-rag wearing guys with multiple facial piercings and tats who followed them into the restroom. I know I would. Why would I be afraid of guys exhibiting good "morality?"
Sorry, your conclusion doesn't follow. This is a sample of two (2) women who seem a little off, which wouldn't allow you to draw any kind of conclusion about female paranoia or preppy dudes with superior morals, and the chicks who stumble into them. But perhaps you are getting your fast food near the local mental hospital? | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 1:46:33 PM | | Certain kinds of drugs make people paranoid. Lots of people use drugs. I saw a bunch of that behavior when I drove a taxi. They walk among us. Hey, it's sad but it breaks the monotony. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 2:07:50 PM | Bashing, Insulting, Slamming other Posters is against the rules here
kuvopolis: @Landra:You are being the troll for your uneducated response and attempt to censor me. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 2:22:16 PM | @Landra: I am merely stating the facts. You are the one bleating "shame on you" for going out to grab a burrito or slurpee.
By flipping the tables on her, there would have been an argument. It has been my experience that if someone catches a male and female in the middle of an argument, they will almost always side with the female. If this someone is a cop, I could get in trouble. If it is a guy friend, I could get into a fight. She could easily make some stuff up and get me in trouble. I was almost a foot taller than her. At first glance, who looks like the threat?
One of my friends actually thought it was her way of hitting on me. I actually thought that was wrong, because that is kind of a dangerous and backwards way of coming on to someone.
The taco place was next to a couple of hipster bars, so I was the outsider. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 2:29:52 PM | I think you have had several incidents with weirdos who did not respond as you wanted them to respond. That happens to everyone. I don't believe it is a reflection on gender relations at all.
<div class="quote">Nice try. Did you even read the OP (not skim it)? I am offended by being accused of being a stalker and a groper by basically going about my everyday business (getting stuff at a restaurant and convenience store). A valid complaint. You are being the troll for your uneducated response and attempt to censor me.Here is an example of someone who did not respond as you wanted them to respond. So you chose to call her a troll and make accusations of attempted censorship. Perhaps you are in the practice of overreacting? Just a thought.
@Landra: I am merely stating the facts. You are the one bleating "shame on you" for going out to grab a burrito or slurpee.
Calling someone a "troll" is not a fact; it's a misguided opinion. "Bleating?" Wow... perhaps you should reassess how you choose to treat people and how you come across... it might give you some insight to the responses you are getting.
Easy there, killer. You're not a victim here.
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| Female Paranoia Around Men
Posted: 9/21/2009 3:05:36 PM | Hipsters are members of a nefarious underground cult in Chicago who come out of their caves twice monthly for take-out tacos and to cause 30-something men to make sweeping generalizations about half of the population simply by behaving in unexpected ways.
Seriously, it's true. I saw it on the Discovery channel just last week. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 4:05:15 PM | Ha ha one time I was walking on the Hill (college area) in Boulder drinking a milk shake. A crazy guy in a skirt was crossing the street, in front of a car, so I was watching-- just sort of, you know, looking at what was going on. He came running up to me and accused me of stalking him, "I SAW you looking at me!!!" I had been, so I said something like, "I wasn't staring, I was just looking" and he continued screaming at me ("Try the truth, sister!") while all the other college kids were watching, laughing. I am not a timid person, so I screamed back at him, telling him he needs to go back on meds, etc. ("Try the psychiatric institute, buddy!")
So, yeah, women are paranoid. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 4:06:55 PM | | You have me stumped dude. I never even heard of someone drunk or otherwise stumbling into a slurpee straw. Then again, I don't run into hipster girls either. | |
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| Female Paranoia Around Men
Posted: 9/21/2009 4:36:45 PM |
Has anyone here experienced such paranoia before?
Yes, I see many paranoid people like yourself on the forums all the time.
Why do you think this occurs?
Probably a combination of genetics and environment.
Is it a sign that gender relations have really soured?
No, but it is a sign that you are paranoid of the Hipsters.
Best Regards,
JBIII
hipster doofus | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 4:57:25 PM | 
Has it come to this? You need to use complete and utter ridiculously off their rocker women, to try and paint women as a group as some big problem in your life? Get real. I run into really stupid men too, but I don't blame other men for it. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 5:03:38 PM | | A drunk woman accused you, and that's one of the examples you're using to make a whole social commentary? Get a grip. Not every clumsy or weird incident qualifies as sociological research. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 8:16:29 PM | OP you made a mistake by answering her questions so why'd ya do it! You knew she was messed up soon as she labelled you a stalker/groper.
End the confrontation immediately, tell 'em politely to move out the way, slightly shove them aside on your way out if they're not budging, get them the f*ck outta yer face.
Once, some fool walking ahead of me turned and grabbed my arm for no reason at all, proceeding to mouth off that I was following him. Crazy-assed turd deserved a punch  | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 9:03:40 PM | | Absolutely! Why even talk to people like that? There's a customer who comes into my workplace often and thinks he's cute ~ he's in his 50s and not too bright ~ I'll joke around with him but I don't let him bully me, because he's one of those who doesn't respect women, and I have no tolerence for people who have no manners | |
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| Female Paranoia Around Men
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:45:09 PM | By flipping the tables on her, there would have been an argument. It has been my experience that if someone catches a male and female in the middle of an argument, they will almost always side with the female. If this someone is a cop, I could get in trouble. If it is a guy friend, I could get into a fight. She could easily make some stuff up and get me in trouble. I was almost a foot taller than her. At first glance, who looks like the threat?
You seriously worry too much. If this girl was as crazy as you've made her out to be, her credibility would be shot with most people. If outside parties that weren't involved started siding with her over you at a lopsided rate, there's probably a good chance you might have actually been doing something to justify what she was complaining about even if you weren't aware of it. Sometimes people who behave in creepy ways are not aware they are being perceived as creepy. Not saying you're creepy, I'm just throwing that out there as another possibility.
Either way, you probably could have avoided the whole situation by simply rolling your eyes, saying "whatever," and walking away ignoring anything she said after that. Now that I think about it, that's probably a better way to handle it than what I previously suggested in my last post. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 7:01:32 PM | | I know what you're going through. It's happened to me on some occasions and I was perplexed. Simply put women lie lie lie lie lie lie lie. You're right it's a gender problem created from the feminist culture that's infected the minds of men and women in this culture. Just look at all of the talk shows or news. What do you see a man accused of raping a woman or woman accused of being raped. It feeds into that whole image of men being the aggressor and evil and women being passive and innocent when research has already been done by the military stating that most rape allegations are false. Like the Duke Lacrosse case or the Kobe Bryant case. Alot of women know if they cry wolf they can get public sympathy and a man locked up. Yeah you did the right thing. From the women I"ve encountered it seems like most have had atleast one stalker experience / molestation experience so they're afraid of men in general. The only type of men they like are they types they can control which are basically ones affiliated in their circle. If you're out their circle they can't control you so they're afraid. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2009 8:52:08 AM | | ^^^There are really no words to describe this wildly paranoid and misguided misogynist rant. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2009 10:09:14 AM |
when research has already been done by the military stating that most rape allegations are false.
I'm interested in this. ^^^^ Sources please. I would be interested to know why the military is conducting research into this matter for society as a whole. Would the data have some sort of weapons application(?) | |
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Posted: 11/12/2009 11:01:47 AM | ^^ LOL!
I suspect our paranoid poster would like to see the Pentagon use this "research" he speaks of towards a new multi-million dollar "feminist-detection system." The military applications of the system would be limitless, not just against feminist enemies, but within the military itself.
Feminist enlistees would be weeded out using the new technology, and lieutenants could use it to know which women they may molest and which will get "all dykey" on them.
No offense intended towards anyone actually in the military (I'm being sarcastic of course)......
Please honour the sacrifices of the fallen......
Namaste........ | |
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