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 mellie31
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hey to all the single parents out there,

i have a question:

when yr child has ADHD, what did u do to help yr child and how did u handle it?

my daughter has ADHD, and the dr told me that she need to see a physiologist for her ADHD did anyone eles have to do that, its it nessasarry for it, i took her to see a neurologist to have some testing done, is that enough? i have kept her busy and active and everything but i dont think its really working well for her. i am asking the parents on there advice and see what they have done with there childs ADHD.

and cause i caught it early enough will she grow out of it or have it for the rest of her life, i know that there is a possiblity that she will grow out of it but i know people who have adult ADHD.

so i was just wondering and looking for some imput on it, and if anyone can recommend and other info to look at.

thank you
 singlesuperdad
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Posted: 9/22/2009 4:16:29 PM
Mellie, there are support groups to help deal with it. DEFFINATLY have her tested cause if she doesn't need the meds, don't put her on them. there are many side affects from aderall (or how ever you spell it) It is a dangerous drug. Please research it first you may deside just to work with the issues you have, rather than the far worse side affects. Many kids have also died from this drug!!! When I researched it, I pulled my daughter off it EMEDIATELY!!! There are other ways to deal with it, than doping up the kids. It is an addictive narcotic. Make sure she has a heart test if you do deside to let her take the meds, to be sure her heart can handle the meds, thats how bad these drugs are!!!! If you want more info I will google it for you, please be careful with this. My daughter stopped sleeping and eating and the meds would wear off around 5:00 pm and she was ten times worse, agressive, violent, and out of control. she would throw fits, and I would have to hold her down and stroke her head till she would calm down. Your best beat is to keep her accupy with something stimulate her mind. I do this with my daughter and she is great now and at six, she is a computer wiz. Shes now in advanced classes and still at the top of her class. She still has her momments but you learn how to deal with it.
 packagedealx3
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Posted: 9/22/2009 5:08:37 PM
ADHD is a chemical imbalance in the brain and the best way for you to look at this is that it is no different than a condition like diabetes, the medication is designed to restore a proper balance to her brain so that she will be able to function properly.

She will not grow out of it period, although she can learn strategies to deal with the situation, something that she will need to do because the medication does not solve everything and some people believe the condition can be handled by changing diet and implementing behavior modification. Each child is different and the reason that your doctor wants you to go to a physiologist is to gauge the extent of your child's chemical imbalance.

Some people are very opposed to medication because they don't really seem to understand that as antithetical as it seems, the medication for this disorder is actually a stimulant, i.e. it would make a normal child totally hyper because they don't need it, with the child with ADD/ADHD it smoothes them out. If you do not medicate, you do need to educate yourself and help your daughter cope with the condition because adults with untreated ADD have problems holding down a job and functioning in their relationships.

My daughter was very intelligent, with very highly developed reasoning skills and an extensive vocabulary but at the end of 2nd grade, still could not recognize the word "the" from sentence to sentence. She was finally old enough for us to rule out other things as we had suspected from kindergarten that she was ADD, which is harder to diagnose because people tend to just believe they are difficult kids who don't pay attention because they don't exhibit the hyperactivity.

Nearly ten years ago when she was originally diagnosed, they were just developing the other medications so she was put on ritalin. She visited my mother for a week and was reading beautifully by the time she came home. The problem with the ritalin was spikes when she was due a dose of medication (3 x a day). She was put on concerta which is a 12-hour timed release medication and has really done well. She is currently attending the best public high school in town and is in all AP and Honors classes. She can function without the meds but it is harder.

Try to imagine taking a test in a busy bus terminal or sitting on the sidewalk where there is a lot of pedestrian and automobile traffic. Your ability to concentrate and do well on that test would be compromised by your environment. People with ADD/ADHD have problems blocking out the normal noise/activity that "normal" people can do without much trouble. My best example of this since I work at home is trying to think, read, or write with three kids all clamoring for my attention and usually a dog or two thrown in there. Now, I can tell everybody to get the hell out of my room but for someone with ADD, not so much.

Someone had told me years ago to not have her take her medication on the weekends but a psychologist put it to me this way, if the medicine were for diabetes would you withhold it on the weekends? Not medicating a child (and not doing anything else to help them) causes them to struggle just to maintain normal acceptable behaviors for their age. Kids with ADD/ADHD among other things are argumentative, have poor impulse control, get easily frustrated, have problems socializing with peers, throw up a lot (my stepson barfed nearly every day when he wasn't on ritalin), etc. Medicating is not about making the child easy to manage as many people believe, it is about giving them the ability to block out all of the external stimuli that makes it virtually impossible for them to concentrate and learn. One of the things I read about when we were dealing with this with my stepson who was ADHD out the rear was that this type of person would excel in a hunter gatherer society because the ability to scan and pick up anything was a good thing in terms of hunting, not so much with our sedentary society.

When they are older, if they are not treated, they are inclined to self-medicate with alcohol and other drugs, and there are many teen pregnancies among this population because of the impulse control issues. There is a significant link between ADD and addiction. There are other odd manifestations, like completing homework and never turning it in. I have scrolled through dozens of pages on Barnes & Noble, it pulled up around 5000 titles using ADD and Attention Deficit Disorder as search terms. I loaned a book to someone years ago and never got it back but it really made so much of my stepson's behavior as well as my daughter easier to understand.

There are numerous books on this disorder, also a lot of information on the Internet. If you can't afford to buy a bunch of books, go to your local library, there will be a ton of books available for you to read. You should also speak with your child's teacher and other school officials because they are required by federal law to provide your daughter with special services to ensure that she succeeds in school. I would suggest you read everything you can both from the perspective of treating with concerta or one of the other better drugs that have developed over the last decade as well as those books that suggest that this disorder can be treated by altering diet and other methods. The most important thing is finding what works for your daughter so that she is not frustrated in school to the point that she starts to dread or hate it.
 1kindMan4U
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when you found out that your child has ADHD how did u handle it and what steps did u take
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:12:31 PM
ADD and ADHD is the MOST OVER-diagnosed and MIS-diagnosed childhood malady around today.

ADHD is the excuse for a bad school system

ADHD is the excuse for bad teaching that makes for bored kids.

ADHD is the excuse for bad parents who arent or wont spend the TIME with their kids

ADHD CAN be a diagnosis for what is actually food allergies.

Get 6 opinions before you accept the diagnosis..

Do NOT go straight to drugs to treat it.. make that the LAST resort.. check all other possibilities first including behavior modification therapy.

And finally I just have to say this.. You spend a LOT of time here online posting and interacting on this site and these forums. You CANT be giving your child the ATTENTION that apparently he/she LONGS for, and type on a computer at the same time.

Do an experiment.. Shut OFF your computer for a MONTH.. Spend ALL that time you save WITH your kid doing activities, teaching, listening, etc etc.. and see if that alleged "disorder" just seems to quiet down. You have over 50 posts on here in less than 2 weeks. Reading the original posts then forming and typing a comment just HAS to be taking up a LOT of time.. probably over 100 hours in just under TWO WEEKS.

I wonder what the SUPPOSED Adhd kid would be acting like if he/she HAD those 100 hours DEVOTED to their attention-DEPRIVED needs. Hmmmmm

Just a thought
 singlesuperdad
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Posted: 9/22/2009 5:18:21 PM
Packagedeal ... I agree with what your saying but the problem is that tooooooo many kids are being medicated that aren't adhd but just acting there age. some people don't understand that 5 and 6 year olds aren't always going to be calm and mellow. They are going to bouce off the walls but that doesn't mean they are adhd. That is why I said she needs to be evaluated and tested. The drugs for adhd CAN damage the heart. So the disorder needs to be properly diagnosed and the kid tested before meds are perscribed.


edit: you got it 1kindman adhd is always the excuse and most of the time not the prob.
 packagedealx3
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Posted: 9/22/2009 5:33:59 PM
I also wouldn't put my child on adderall, SSD, thanks for bringing it up, I'm a bit under the weather today and just spaced it. There are some children OP that have problems with eating and sleeping, because of the meds, mine never has. What SSD described with his daughter coming off the meds was similar to mine although I think her behavior was less pronounced than what he describes with his daughter. With the concerta, she takes it in the morning and it is out of her system a couple of hours before she goes to sleep. She also forgets to take it some of the time but she is extra-attentive when she has a test or in another month when she takes the SAT.

If you go the medication route, it is a bit like birth control, finding the right one for her and some kids the benefits of the meds do not outweigh the side-effects, which is why your doctor has suggested going to the specialist because that doctor is trained specifically in evaluating the degree of chemical imbalance and finding the right medication or choosing not to medicate.

Happy that SSD gives you another example of a child that has managed to excel despite the disorder. My mother was crying the other night, remembering how frustrating the first couple of years of school were for my daughter and now she has several colleges that want her there badly enough they are paying airfare for her to visit the campus.

SDD's suggestion of support groups is also a good one. Homework for us the first couple of years of school was absolutely horrible, exhausting, upsetting, frustrating for us both, me because I couldn't help her (and my parents were school teachers, sigh) and her because she just couldn't "get" it. Sometimes knowing that you are not the only one dealing with something can be critical to keeping your attitude upbeat.

YOU are absolutely the best resource for you child so arm yourself with information and don't get discouraged if you don't get a handle on things immediately.

Edit: I totally agree with you SSD which is why it is a good thing she has been recommended to another doctor for further testing. Realistically, if the child is not ADD/ADHD the meds will have them bouncing off the walls. My daughter also doesn't have the hyperactivity so it was never a matter of calming her down but providing her the ability to concentrate and perform well in school. Children with ADD tend to fall through the cracks because they don't have the way out there behavior that is pretty much impossible to ignore in terms of correction. It was heartbreaking for me the first couple of years because she was too young to diagnose which is why we waited until the end of 2nd grade to rule out immaturity and other issues. We kind of limped along the best we could until we could really rule out other things.

I have also seen children that really need the medication and their parents refuse to even consider it. There needs to be some happy medium there. When my daughter was five we had read The Sorcerer's Apprentice and the next day my middle son started dance class. She asked me if her brother was going to be her apprentice, at five able to understand the word without my having explained it and transfer it to another context and two years later she was still totally unable to read. If she had not been put on medication she would not currently be in honors and AP classes, the AP classes are college courses they are taking in high school.
 singlesuperdad
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Posted: 9/22/2009 5:41:59 PM
Package deal, yes it can be very frustrating and scary too. And you are right if ADHD is the prob. there are different meds that affect them different, it's just a matter of finding the right one. And the support groups are awesome for any parenting problems. She has a teacher this year that know to keep her stimulated or there may be prob.
 carterscutie85
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Posted: 9/22/2009 5:44:03 PM
I agree that ADHD and ADD is extremely over-diagnosed. Doctors tried to say my nephew had it because he couldn't sit still in class or while doing other things (which is normal for the 5 year old boy he was at the time, boys tend to be way more hyperactive then girls) But at the same time if u gave him a video game to play he'd sit for hours on it if u let him. My sister instead of getting a second opinion immediately put him on meds. After he started taking the meds he'd complain he couldn't see the t.v well (my other nephew who took the same meds with the same diagnosis said the exact same thing, and they were not just mimicking each other) Once my sister took him off the meds he was fine, and guess what? He's a perfectly normal happy 10 year old boy now. If someone ever tried to tell me my boy had ADD or ADHD I'd tell them they were full of cr*p until I had way more than just 1 doctor tell me he had it.

Too many people with boys tend to think their hyperactivity must mean they have add or adhd and are too quick to take them to the doctor, but in reality being hyper is just the way boys are.
 mellie31
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when you found out that your child has ADHD how did u handle it and what steps did u take
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:10:26 PM
1kindman4u:

iam only one here when my daughter is at school and when she goes to bed, so how can i spend 24 hrs a day with her when she is at school and learning or in bed sleeping
 mellie31
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Posted: 9/22/2009 6:24:48 PM
packagedealx3:

oh i am going to get a second opinon, she was tested when she was 5 at school and her counciler told me that she showed signs of ADHD, and gave me a number to a neurologist, and all he did was talk to her and make her draw some pics for him. but i wasnt comfy with that so when i took her to get her yearly checkup i had asked her dr about it and that is when she told me to see a physiologist and see what they say, and then go for blood work( for there records) just if she has to be put on meds, i dont agree putting kids on meds if they dont have to be on it, i have kept her busy with many things like the park, reading, and she loves her drawing time, iam looking to see what is out there so i can get the right info for myself so iam prepared and know what needs to be done, i want her to do her best and learn how she can handle it when she gets older, i know its going to be a long rd but whatever info i can get my hands on i will really appreciate it.

thanks
 alllllllrightythen
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Posted: 9/22/2009 6:29:53 PM
The impression I'm getting from your post is that you don't have a very clear understanding of what ADHD is and what treatments are available. I think it would be good for you to do a little research on the net or at your local libraray. Then go back and talk with your doctor some more. He/She should be willing to answer any questions you might have from there. Another good source of information is your school nurse. He/She isn't able to diagnose ADHD or offer medical advise, but he/she can answer any questions you may have about medications, for example, and how they work, and what sorts of side effects to expect, what sorts of outcomes to expect.

I was extremely hesitant to put my son on ADD medicine. Extremely. I didn't want to do it, I wanted to speak with the psychologist first and see if we could implement any other therapies besides medicine. But my sons behaviors were getting out of hand before I could get in to see the psychologist. I feared him getting kicked out of daycare, and I couldn't risk losing my job. I called the doc and got a prescription for ADD medicine and filled it the next day. I cried when I gave it to him. Just cried. And you know what? That child had the best day he had ever had that day. And the next. And the next. I asked him for his own input -- "how do you feel on the medicine? Can you concentrate better?" He answered me honestly that most of the time it helps him, that he's so happy because he didn't get "in trouble" today (translation: he didn't have to get scolded to listen or reminded repeatedly to do something), and things along those lines. All that worrying for nothing!

A few weeks after he'd been on medicine, my son finally did get in to see the psychologist. He did some testing and confirmed our primary physician's diagnosis: ADHD. It's good to have a second opinion, for peace of mind if nothing else. I strongly recommend.
 carolann0308
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Posted: 9/22/2009 6:41:33 PM
I find it amazing that in the days of two parent households diagnosis of ADHD or ADD were not very common. I used to babysit when I was a teen for a kid with ADHD/ADD that was in my Mothers Special Ed class and he was literally off the wall 99 % of the time. Unless your daughter has serious attention span issues that set her apart from every kid you know or literally cannot sit still for a minute I'd be questioning the diagnosis. That kid's behavior was unique to all of the kids I knew in my neighborhood. Now amongst my son's friends 4-5 are on Ritalin and adderall. It's out of control.
 yabbdabbadoo
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Posted: 9/22/2009 7:54:35 PM
My son just got diagnosed from a pediatrician this past year. He only has the ADD part, and is on both concerta and a low dose (quick release) ritalin. He asks for his meds now when I forget, his teacher noticed a great change when we started the meds just on a trial basis.


http://www.bcchildrens.ca

http://www.caddra.ca/joomla/

http://www.bcmhas.ca/supportcentre/kelty/

www.myadhd.com

www.chaddcanada.org
 Sarahbecca814
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Posted: 9/22/2009 7:54:37 PM
Posting that you are only on the computer when your daughter is in school or in bed at 6:10 pm does not support your claim as to when you are online. I agree with 1kindman4u that it seems you need to turn off your computer and spend more time with her, especially since she's school age and you only get a few hours a day with kids at that age by the time they get out of school and need to be in bed for school the next day. Whether or not she has ADHD, spending time focusing on her (esp when you have a new baby on the way) is only going to do her good. It may not fix the problem but it will not hurt it, guaranteed. Your daughter is 8 now and generally children that grow out of ADHD do so at around that age. It is also very commonly misdiagnosed, as the symptoms are very similar with other childhood disorders such as anxiety, depression, post traumatic stress disorder (you have mentioned that she was emotionally abused and that you were physically and emotionally abused by your ex) so there are alot of things you have to take into perspective and have tested. The first and easiest is to simply spend more time with her and see what happens then.
 mellie31
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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:07:35 PM
sarahbecca814:

i do spend alot of time with my 8yr old, iam there to help with homework( try to make it fun for her) and we play some games together or go to a movie together, an she goes to bed at 8 pm, so there is alot of time i spend with her, i spend more time with her then her own father does,

now for her ADHD was diagnosed when she was in kindergarden by the school, so i took her to get more testing done by a neuroloist and i wasnt really happy with him cause i feel that he really didnt do anything, he talked to her and made draw a pic for him, now i know it has to be some sort of ADHD/ADD. cause ther is no depression or post traumatice stress disorder cause the emotional abuse was not present till about dec of 2008, she cant sit still or focuse well at school, but i do think she was misdiagnosed, but idk till i take her to get tested more. my daughter is always with me even when she was born, we do just about everything together, like going to the park, just going window shopping or even go the the pet shop and look and hold the aniamls there, she is a very happy go lucky little girl,
 Sarahbecca814
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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:50:44 PM
well it sounds like you do spend alot of time with her and that is great. i only made that speculation cuz you do seem to spend alot of time on this site and prob others too. there are times i go days without even turning on my computer cuz i know how easily a few minutes can turn into a few hours and how involved you can get in it. as far as i know a school can't diagnose a child, only a psychiatrist or possibly a family dr can do so. unless the school had an on-sight psychiatrist, which i do not know. neurologists are usually only helpful when a child has autism or a form of it. my son was misdiagnosed with ADHD and we found out by trying different meds for the disorder (which can take weeks to kick in). if the meds don't work that generally means the child does not have the disorder. a previous poster implied that there is only aderall for ADHD and that is not true, there are several and most do not have serious side effects. (most commonly loss of appetite or can upset the stomach and drowsiness). we also started keeping a daily log and communication notebook everywhere he went. my son was (luckily) placed in a special school that had therapists and a psychiatrist that were in the school and spent sufficient time with him, as opposed to a private psychiatrist that only sees the child for maybe an hour a few times and then tags a diagnosis. i say that he was lucky to be placed there cuz it really helped us diagnose him correctly. if there is anything like that in your area i would strongly suggest looking into it. a key factor to ADHD is that it will present itself everywhere, in school, at home, out in public, at friend's and family's house, etc. that was not the case with my son and he is now on meds for anxiety which seem to be helping him more than anything else has. if you've exhausted all other forms of behavior modification (the school should be able to help you with that) i would suggest trying medication. true ADHD is a chemical imbalance in the brain that cannot be fixed any other way. it doesn't mean your child will be on meds for life. just make sure you discuss common side effects and what to watch for with your child's dr. and keep in mind that it can take awhile to kick in and see results (usually 4 - 6 weeks cuz it has to build up in the system).
 yabbdabbadoo
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Posted: 9/23/2009 1:32:32 AM
I do not think that it takes weeks for ADD/ADHD meds to kick in. In fact, I am pretty sure it is an instant thing.
 Sarahbecca814
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Posted: 9/23/2009 4:46:25 AM
with a child that has been on 2 different common treatments for adhd i can tell you that it does take weeks to work cuz the chemicals have to build up in the brain and because most children are gonna be started at a relatively low dose. i do not know if this is a case for ALL adhd meds, just with the 2 that i have tried. this is actually common in many medications including anti depressants and anti anxiety. as far as i know there are no "magic pills" that work immediately for i am sure if there was my child's psychiatrist would've brought them to my attention.
 SlingDad
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Posted: 9/23/2009 6:32:48 AM
In my experience it is "instant on." That was with adderall, maybe others function differently, but I don't think it's like an MAO.

We (I) resisted the diagnosis from 3-4 sources for *years* before taking my now 12 year old to the University of Florida research center and one other source (independent counselor) before allowing her to take Adderall. The difference was night and day.

As mentioned by other posters above, it is an amphetamine / methampehamine and not something to be taken lightly, no pun intended.

The difference between my twins and my 12 year old (the one on adderall) is night and day. From the time my twins were 5 and she was 8, the twins could feed, dress, brush their teeth and wait at the door to go to school every morning. The 8 year old? Sitting in her closet in her underwear playing with a paper airplane *every* *stinking* *day*.

If they don't need it, they'll be a spaz when taking it. Period.

Our pediatrician makes us do an evaluation *every month* while on this therapy. Forms must be filled out by me, her teacher, school counselor and an independent counselor before they'll refill it. If all the reports don't jive, they may refuse to refill it.
 MePlusTwo
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Posted: 9/23/2009 7:01:26 AM
with a child that has been on 2 different common treatments for adhd i can tell you that it does take weeks to work cuz the chemicals have to build up in the brain and because most children are gonna be started at a relatively low dose. i do not know if this is a case for ALL adhd meds, just with the 2 that i have tried.
I am sorry but this is simply incorrect unless your psychiatrist was not prescribing stimulant medication; and if we're talking about a child, then that is what he should have been prescribing. Do you happen to know the names? If this was his first trial of meds and there were no extenuating circumstances he should have been trying Ritalin, Adderall, Dexedrine or the like.

Stimulant medications (the usual ones prescribed for children are Ritalin, Adderall, or Dexedrine) only 'work' (or don't work if they in fact mis-prescribed or prescribed at too lower dose) when they are in the blood stream. There is no such thing as a chemical build up in the brain like you have with SSRIs (ie. anti depressants or anti anxiety meds). You take it, it enters the bloodstream quickly, depending on whether it's short or long release lasts anything from 3 (short) to 12 hours, clears the body as fast as it enters and is gone. Unlike anti-depressants and the like you do not become dependent on them as there is no residual amount left behind.


this is actually common in many medications including anti depressants and anti anxiety.
This is correct for anti-depressants or anxiety meds. It is not the case for stimulant medication however.


as far as i know there are no "magic pills" that work immediately for i am sure if there was my child's psychiatrist would've brought them to my attention.
Actually stimulant meds do 'work' immediately. But with children in particular they often start them off on such a small amount it simply isn't enough to make a perceptible difference. What takes some time to get right is which sort of stimulant (eg. short or long release) works best and at what dose.

Maybe this is what you are confused about. It probably did take some time and trial and error to find what worked. But that is not because the meds needed to build up.
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:14:30 AM
I do not think that it takes weeks for ADD/ADHD meds to kick in. In fact, I am pretty sure it is an instant thing.


Everyone who has said it is an instant thing is 100% correct. The reason the stimulant medication can be dangerous is that it is basically "speed". It increases the heart rate, increases blood pressure, and it can have negative long term effects on the cardiovascular system (heart, etc., ) and vision, i.e. early cataracts in young adults, to name a couple. Also, it can have a detrimental effect on the teeth. The medication causes a person to have less saliva, so their mouth is drier. They have faster tooth decay because of this.

I have acquired this knowledge first hand from my own family members, as well as from doctors and specialists in this area.

For more info:

http://psychdrugs.wordpress.com/2008/08/19/concerta-adhd-medication-side-effects-including-death/
 mellie31
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:23:34 AM
i am going to be taking my daughter for the proper testing and blood work, and see if she has been diagnosed right, when the school did there test, they told me that she showed signs and wanted me to go and get the right tests done, and of cause i went to a neurologist as they suggested,
now we had moved to a different county here in nj, and there is a big change that i have seen. but she still shows some of the same issuse that she had in the old school was in, i want to do what is best for her, and i am very leary about putting her on meds, but i want to get as much info on this as possible, even before and after the drs appointment,

thank you all for yr suggestions and thoughts, i still would love to see if anyone can give me more places or books or anything that i can read up on this, but to tell u the truth iam a little bit scared if i dont do this it will get worst in time. thanks
 packagedealx3
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when you found out that your child has ADHD how did u handle it and what steps did u take
Posted: 9/23/2009 10:37:13 AM
I concur with those that indicated that the pill really is a miracle drug when prescribed in the proper dosage and in the wake of a correct diagnosis. There is no build-up as there are with other drugs, even one of my asthma meds doesn't really work unless you have taken it for a certain period of time, not so with ADD/ADHD meds.

Slingdad was also right in terms of the night and day effect. It was less noticeable with my daughter because she did not exhibit hyperactivity but one of my friend's sons who I was living with at the time (5) was threatened with kicking him out of kindergarten, he was argumentative at home, things like telling me I was lying about drinking the last of the milk, lol. He was a totally different kid on the meds, much happier.

Carolann, I agree that there are misdiagnoses but children with this disorder aren't always bouncing off the walls and it is the ones that don't that are at greatest risk for never seeking treatment. My daughter falls into the category of ADD without the hyperactivity and they do well enough in school that if the parent or teacher doesn't pick up on it, they will just pigeon hole her with the kids that are academically challenged when most kid with ADD/ADHD are very bright.

Adults that have never addressed their ADD/ADHD have significant problems so this is way more important than just making sure the child does well in school, there are social aspects to this disorder as well. Determining whether the diagnosis is correct and whether the treatment will include meds or focus on diet and behavior modification is exactly what you need to do. You can easily start researching on the Internet, look for good resources that are hospital based, AMA, university or something other than someone's personal blog and read material that is both pro medication and supports not medicating so that you can make informed choices if the diagnosis is confirmed.
 Sarahbecca814
Joined: 4/14/2009
Msg: 24
when you found out that your child has ADHD how did u handle it and what steps did u take
Posted: 9/23/2009 12:18:16 PM
The only adhd medication we've tried is strattera which the psychiatrist did say would take weeks to show effects and we started to see adverse reactions at about 5 weeks and took him off immediately. my child must not be compatible with the ones that work instantly for some reason or another if his dr has not suggested or prescribed one. i guess i kinda assumed they all took awhile since his dr knew that he was beginning to be a threat to himself and others (running into the street, unbuckling seat belt, starting fires) and that if it was possible to give him something that would help immediately she would. he also has anxiety and post traumatic stress disorder (due to a severe beating his father gave him at the age of 4 to try to correct his behavior - i will stress to everyone that it only made matters worse). my son has also gained 18 pounds in the last year since his abuse so we have to stay away from any meds that can possibly cause weight gain - which could possibly be the ones that work instantly. I have only given info on my personal experiences and what i've tried. we are now trying zoloft for the anxiety and ptsd which is said to take some time to kick in cuz his dr feels that is playing more of an issue with his behaviors than any adhd he may have. i guess the bottom line is that every child is different and the best you can do for them is really find a psychiatrist that will take the time to really get to know the child (and having communication notebooks with any teachers or care givers really helps with this) and the situation before giving a diagnosis or prescribing meds.
 Crane38
Joined: 8/8/2009
Msg: 25
when you found out that your child has ADHD how did u handle it and what steps did u take
Posted: 9/23/2009 6:19:31 PM
There are some good articles on the Net for diet changes to help kids with ADHD. Check that out, it will help a lot. My son has not been diagnosed with ADHD but changes in diet have had a positive effect for sure. Eating well for kids is so crucial.
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