| Friends and family say on your love life?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:43:47 PM | How much of an influence does your family and friends have on your love life? Let just say they don't like your current boyfriend/girlfriend because they list the whole fault that they might not approve of or see the red flags that you might not be able to see because you've been too blinded by love... Despite you still love your boyfriend/girlfriend with their faults but somehow down the road, you begin to see your family and friends point of view and you want to save yourself from regrets later on.
One scenario
An acquaintance this girl that I know is quite the introvert, serious minded individual raised with good Christian morals and values, family oriented and down-to-earth person. She hasn’t had too much relationship experience but she isn’t the type of girl to be serial dating. She prefers quality vs quantity. She’s currently involve with someone who has a decent personality and extroverted except of his wild side.. He’s been in the alternative lifestyle (BDSM) and had too many women… Family and friends think she’s better off with someone with the same personality and ideals in life… Somehow, he makes her happy but in the long run, despite their differences will it be enough to sustain a real lasting relationship? | |
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| Friends and family say on your love life?
Posted: 9/23/2009 1:41:57 PM | I think family and friends do have a tendency to interfere, or voice their opinions on your choice of mate far too often. Marriages have fallen apart because of this, you know the nagging relative who has nothing positive to say about your relationship.
While they may mean well, they often do more harm than good and often push the people they care about away with thier interference. If the mate is wrong for you, it will eventually come out and you will make the right decisions. Family and friends should respect your choices/decisions and not go heavy on why your mate is right, or wrong for you. In short they should respect you by limiting how much they voice opinions regarding your mate. They should also respect the fact that you will do what's right for you, not for them !!! | |
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| Friends and family say on your love life?
Posted: 9/23/2009 7:02:01 PM |
He’s been in the alternative lifestyle (BDSM) and had too many women… Family and friends think she’s better off with someone with the same personality and ideals in life… Somehow, he makes her happy but in the long run, despite their differences will it be enough to sustain a real lasting relationship?
Regardless of moral background, there are fantasies that enliven one's spirit, so to speak. If your friend is living her fantasies vicariously through him, I wouldn't give it a lot of time before the relationship may hit a point where her excitement may change to resentment, jealousy and mistrust.... provided she decides not to join in that kind of lifestyle.
I can see where family may have a concern and a legitimate purpose for voicing an opinion. I'd question his desire to return or continue in such a lifestyle with or without her knowledge. | |
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| Friends and family say on your love life?
Posted: 9/24/2009 6:35:20 AM | No matter what our personality is sometimes we are attracted to a person that is completely opposite of us. If your friend has always been conservative and now wants to 'live a little' so to speak, then let her. if they are horrible wrong for each other then the relationship won't last very long.
main thin is family and friends always have influence in our lives and the above poster is right that they can break up a lot of marriages. we should try to see from their point of view the red flags they mention but in the end the decision of who we see is upto us.
"Somehow, he makes her happy but in the long run, despite their differences will it be enough to sustain a real lasting relationship?"
fun is great for the short term but in the long run there has to be at least some compatibility. It might not last but might be good for her to try something new as well.
main thing, it's her decision, let her make it ;-) | |
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| Friends and family say on your love life?
Posted: 9/25/2009 4:12:49 AM | I love my family and close friends dearly, and it's out of this love and respect, that I will not interfer in their lives and their choices.
I maintain that I was there before the other, and I will be there after to help pick up the pieces, but it is absolutely their life to live.
They show me the same respect. | |
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| Friends and family say on your love life?
Posted: 9/25/2009 2:32:10 PM | | I no longer 'let' them have any effect on my personal life. No reason why any of us should as long as we do the same, ie., stay out of their personal lives. | |
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